Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 11)

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A safe place for everyone on the TTC after MC rollercoaster. Welcome and come in - virtual wine and chocolate for all, and lots of support and hand-holding until you get your BFP!

The thread moves fast but don't let that put you off - feel free to come along and stay to chat; or dip in and out with any questions.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread!

mamap I had cramps with DS, but not with the mmc

Can I just say WOO HOO!!! for dachs
crying is defo a symptom, especially after all you've been through
this is such a lucky thread - here's to us all getting BFP's by March!!

ps like mummya I had cramps with both DS's but not with either MC

(composes oneself) dachs!!!!! Arghhhhhh!!!! Brilliant. Super freaking brilliant.

YRMOTB soz the old cow face bit you. I am a bit sad myself from the last time. I know I've only 'officially' been back here a month but tWas August when we lost ours so I get how you're feeling.

So I 'think' I might be fertile (new to this FF temp lark this month) so on top of general 'LIFE' I must: potty train an overdue 3rd old. Deal with my daughter getting her periods for the first time. Convince dh to swi after a 70 hr week at work (self employed, of course)

Much love to all tonight (and for Jaffa xx)

Hello. Posted in another thread and was told to ask you lovely ladies!

Had erpc today. Blighted ovum diagnosed at 8 weeks, almost 2 weeks ago.
Took a little while to get pregnant which was a shock
as naively I thought it would be quick as ds happened after one careless night!

The loss wasn't a huge shock as I knew in my heart all wasn't well, but
still so sad to have it confirmed.

My main worry is when to try again. Midwife said wait one cycle but
doc today said to wait 3 months.

There is already a bigger gap than I hoped for between ds
and any new baby and I really don't want to wait so long,
especially as it could take ages to get pregnant.

What have others been told to do after erpc?

Hello. Posted in another thread and was told to ask you lovely ladies!

Had erpc today. Blighted ovum diagnosed at 8 weeks, almost 2 weeks ago.
Took a little while to get pregnant which was a shock
as naively I thought it would be quick as ds happened after one careless night!

The loss wasn't a huge shock as I knew in my heart all wasn't well, but
still so sad to have it confirmed.

My main worry is when to try again. Midwife said wait one cycle but
doc today said to wait 3 months.

There is already a bigger gap than I hoped for between ds
and any new baby and I really don't want to wait so long,
especially as it could take ages to get pregnant.

What have others been told to do after erpc?

Congrats *Dachs"

Waves frantically to Izzy I'm still here!! Maybe it's the minority who need to find a new home

Hello eggy I'm sorry you've had to find your way here and I hope you're coping ok.

I had an erpc after a mmc at 16 weeks in July and afterwards the surgeon told me to wait until after I'd had one af before ttc again. When she'd gone I asked the nurse if there was any medical reason for this or was it just for dating purposes, and she said no medical reason (provided no complications with erpc - mine went "smoothly") but it's purely for certainty in dating if you get pg straight away. Obviously wait for any bleeding to stop first, but then I think you're ok to ttc as soon as you feel ready.

Like you, I already had a larger than ideal age gap (ds is 7 and dd is 4) so ttc again straight away. Plus, you never know how long it's going to take. I'm still ttc over 6 months later. If I'd "wasted" the first three of those months I think I'd be kicking myself now. Hope that helps x

Dachs so happy for you. I'm also with you on the not believing it until I see the bean (mutters 1 more week to scan). I really really hope this is the one.

Egggy sorry that you have to join the list but it's very welcoming and at the moment going through a tidal wave of graduations which is hopefully encouraging. I was told nothing by the hospital after the ERPC but my GP told me just to start again as soon as I felt ready and the sooner the better.

Saying which I only finally became pg last week which was 22 cycles later and following conceiving ds in 2 cycles and the mc in 1. It seems to vary with everyone and I have had the dubious record of being the longest no pg person on this list. Most seemed to manage it within 3-6months or sooner.

Dachs second one is definately a clearer response. You gotta love those clearblue digi. Congratulations so very pleased for you.

eggy welcome, am sory you come to be here. I'm afraid i had mine naturally, but again was advised differently depending on who said it, the mc dr said 1 month, gp said 3, another gp said it was just for dating and as long as i didn't mind not really knowing when i'd be counting from i could start as soon as i wanted to.

thanks mummya alas i think i'm not in luck for tonight dh is not in the mood, and i daren't tell him i could be oving not after last week.

This thread has been such a lucky one for so many, but girls, and especially anyone feeling but slightly , please remember that we will all get there one day - all of us. Repeat after me: there is not a finite number of bfps in the world and ours will come!!!

Dachs I'm so pleased and still sending sticky thoughts your way x

eggy so you've found yourself here, these are an amazing bunch of ladies who have been there for me over the last couple of months. And just to show it does happen I got pg very recently straight after a mc, no period in between. I believe the only reason docs say that is cause it helps them the date you properly. I like to think of it like the ladies who get pg after having a baby!

Oh and hello everyone else as well

OMFG DACHS !!!!!

Massive massive hurrah, am grinning like a loon here.

Let me pass you the official tube of superglue. Stick it where you will

dachs WOWWWWWWWW :) :) :) That is amazing and has made my boring and annoying day much brighter. You must be absolutely over the moon (not to mention all the other emotions of course)
Easier said than done, try to think positive.

DACS whoopppppppppppppppppp!! I knew it! Fantastic mate x

Now what was it you were saying about me deserting you?!?!?!?!?!

Congrats, Dachs, over the moon for you

dachs wonderful news! And yes lots of freaky stretchy periody type pains are normal and highly scary in early pg- think I felt like my af was about to start for about 2 weeks- totally stress making!!! So pleased for you x

welcome eggy so very sorry for your loss and all you've been through. Speaking as someone who did have complications after mc (retained placenta, infection, ERPC then Ashermans) I would say that waiting till first AF gives you the best added security, in that you know your body has got back to normal and is ready. Having said that, its very hard to wait, I know! (I didnt!) If you must start earlier be sure you wait for a negative home pregnancy test first, and do your best to spot when ovulation happens. "Just dating purposes" shouldnt really be dismissed, look at the stress the ladies on this thread go through in those early weeks with a BFP and think how you would feel if your first scan showed you "wrong for dates" or showed no heartbeat and you didnt know if it was because you were too early or if there was really a problem!

Great reading here about why doctors all have different opinions: www.pregnancyloss.info/trying_again.htm

and interesting stuff here about how doctors have changed their minds recently about when its best to TTC: www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/aug/06/bmj-advice-for-women-who-miscarry

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Woop woop dach hurrah for the bean! Totally made up for you, that's so exciting! I just go to pilates and
Miss all the excitement!

owl it was obviously your tongue in ear. [bgrin]

[bgrin] hehehe i obviously have better femanine wiles than i thought.

Bloody hell Dachs - that's amazing!! I didn't expect to hear your news until the 31st either, what a lovely surprise.

I second what clare said about the cramps. I've had that with all 4 pregnancies, it really feels like RTD is on its way. I'm grinning away here for you! Our best mates embark on round 4 of IVF next month, I just hope this is their lucky cycle too.

Quick hug for YRMOTB before going back to lurking. I got my hopes up for you, sorry it hasn't worked out but glad there's nothing wrong either x

Ladies, I have found wifi at the hotel so I can talk to you on my phone without running the risk of a sacking when my blackberry bill arrives!!!!

D A C H S that is a very loud a clear BFP as I think digital is less sensitive and it's not with morning wee!!!! AWESOMENESS!!

I have no notepad so I'm desperately trying to remember the last 100 or so pages since Friday!

Jaffa sorry you're here, it sounds like you've had a very tough time. Also welcome to eggy, sorry for your loss. I had a natural MC at 8 weeks and they advised to wait for a period which although was frustrating, was Probably pychologically good for me as the AF was very clotted and so it felt like i was fully 'flushed' and good to go again.

BOA things sound v hectic in your house!

YRMOTB so sorry AF came :( hope you're ok hun.

Waves to izz how's the diet going? I am so impressed with your progress so far mrs! Same to chocs.

mummya I have everything crossed for american consultant results coming back with good news v v soon. He sounds like a lovely man, helping people out for the love of helping them rather than for money.

Big shout out going to Kat and velvet, hope youre ok lovelies.

Natalie how's the biscuit munching going?

Also waves to zam, CEP, Chloe, love owly mamap nix lady pretty wombie tigger Urgh I really hope didnt miss anyone, please don't take it personally, has been a long day and turns out I'm even less fit than I thought, mainly have been skiing from hut to hut in search of hot chocolate and a sit down!! I have a hugenormos bar of chocolate for anyone that I've inadvertently missed!!

Love to all xx