Not ungrateful but sh*t gifts from family

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i shouldn’t be complaining as I didn’t expect anything so should be grateful for what I got… however, I’d rather not get anything than get tat that I don’t like and won’t use.

pyjamas 2 sizes too small
a towel with tag and price still attached
a ‘designer’ purse from my sibling - not my taste at all, she even told me she wanted to keep it for herself and was probably hoping I’d say she could keep it (she has form for this)
a bottle of cheap hand soap
a novelty bath bomb (I don’t have a bath, and I’m fussy with skincare…)

I try to shop local and handmade where I can, and I’d rather get people something small but thoughtful and/or useful. I don’t go around buying mass produced tat for the sake of gifts, and my family know me well enough to know that. I just feel so disappointed that for years I’ve put so much effort into their gifts, and every year I’m left thinking wtf? I’d honestly have been happier with one small thing that actually had some thought put into it.

Would it seem really mean to enforce no gifts next year? Apart from for the kids?

A few years ago, l asked my friends (and one who is my only family) that we please stop buying Christmas presents for each other, and donate to a good cause of the giver's choice instead. We're all getting older, we have tons of stuff and l'm trying to declutter for when l retire later this year.
And l don't really 'do' Christmas. It's not a time of year l like, l've lost people l love very close to the day, and l don't feel like celebrating it.
It worked fine, for a couple of years. Then the presents started creeping back in.
Which is very kind, but I feel obliged to reciprocate, which l can't really afford to do, l'm saving for a house move when l retire.
Christmas just gone, my family member sent me a large box, containing stuff for a 'pamper day'. Scented candle (which l can't use, l have asthma), face masks and eye patches (sensitive skin), nail varnish (which l don't use), emery boards (ditto, l use a glass nail file) roll on essential oils (sensitive skin again), hot drinks sachets (which l don't use) - you get the idea, and even more stuff along those lines.

There was chocolate (fine), a little bracelet, and a book. All good, I'd have been very happy with just any one of those.
But there must have been £30-£40 worth of stuff in total, plus almost £10 to post it.
I'm honestly not ungrateful, it was a very kind thought in principle, I know the giver was thinking it's nice for me to have presents to open on the day, but it was mostly a complete waste of money - 'stuff' I would never use, and ended up giving away to the local food bank because they were making up little gift parcels for people.
I feel awful for feeling that way, but I think l'm going to have to be very politely firm well before next Christmas and say, please, can we not do this, I'd much rather they gave even a fraction of that money to the foodbank or a local good cause they support. This person is single, still working (like me), and l just feel bad that they've spent their hard earned money this way. I can't afford to reciprocate.
I'm prepared to be flamed for being ungrateful, but l'm really not. I'd much rather they'd spent that money on themselves, put it towards their gas bill, or bought a bag of stuff for the foodbank.

Even if it was just the (almost) £10 they spent on posting the parcel.

I suggested a secret Santa and you would have thought I'd have suggested barbecueing santa's reindeer, on the other hand we aren't 'a huge family if we didn't give to adults we'd have 6 presents to buy and that's plain boring.