Have given DS Calpol & DH is angry - advice please

[MoreSunshinePlease]

DS hurt his foot a couple of days ago (nasty bruise, no bones broken thank goodness), I gave him 2 teaspoons of 6+ Calpol. DH is now really angry & says I've behaved in a detrimental way regarding DSs health because of the links to asthma.

I believe that if a child is in pain, they should have pain relief. Does anyone know about the effects of Calpol, any medical experts out there?

I feel DH had gone over the top regarding this, he has accused me of undermining him. I asked a nurse at the local hospital, she said it was fine, DH (dentist) says she doesn't know what she is talking about as he reads 'highly regarded medical publications' & is therefore more in the know.

He has left for a few days? WTF?

Does he usually behave like this?

I think I can see who needs to sort out their attitude.

There was something in the papers ages ago about regular, ie frequent, paracetamol in babies possibly having some tenuous link with asthma. I am a nurse, and it doesn't put me off at all. I would/do always give painkillers when the DCs need it.

Found the link - it was about use in abies under 1

this is the one

So irrelevant to your situation I think.

And am at your DHs attitude, to think he can bollock you for treating your child's pain? WTF? I would be very cross, and insulted.

I'm with belle, how many bin bags will we need?

Thanks for the links, I've spent loads of time on the internet trying to find out more info. DH sent me an email with 50 attachments regarding the evils of Calpol. They are all a bit out of date though.

He says nurses are 'not sages(sp?) of medical research'.

MSP...send the rest of his belongings along to him permanently

Are all dentists this arrogant ?

I had a friend who is/was married to a dentist. He was the biggest cheating, entitled, self-important twat you ever met.

I have a relative who is married to a dentist from another culture. He moved his "second wife" into the family home.

ooops x posted and twice

What job does he do exactly Sunshine?

He sounds like a spoilt child if I'm being honest.

Yes, I think ALL dentists are this arrogant.

do you envison a future with this man?? there will be many more bumps,bruises and broken bones along the way for your ds (believe me!!)

you may need to consider how you will deal with your childs pain.......with no pain relief

My dentist's fab so not all of them.

Did you want some help packing?

TBH if he's actually left you on the basis of Calpol use then he was looking for any old excuse.

I fear you may have bigger fish to fry than Calpol. Strongly suggest you tune your antennae in...

It's anything aspirin-based (ie ibuprofen) that causes problems for athsmatics. Calpol should be OK.

And what did he suggest you did for the poor little chap if he was in pain

I think he needs a good (metaphorical) kick up the harris.

Do you think I'm justified in thinking his behaviour is slightly odd?

Good heavens, how is your relationship normally? This sounds like a complete over-reaction. Also not sure why this has suddenly become an issue with him as you have 3 children, the youngest of whom is 6.5. Have you managed to get through their lives so far without every giving them Calpol? Or are they only allowed it under his say-so?

" in fact he has left for a few days in order for me to do so"

Slightly odd? He's obviously incredibly controlling and bonkers!

I have one word for you

DIVORCE and take the fucker to the cleaners.

If he's left for a few days you have time to get in a locksmith, then.

Tell him you have taken advantage of the break to give your attitude some serious thought and have realised the error of your ways. You now realise that you have been paying altogether too much attention to his random opinions and bullying behaviour and you don't intend to do so any more.

ComeOVeneer is a dentist (or ex-dentist) and is utterly lovely, so I must defend some members of the profession.

DS 1 & 2 are from a previous marriage, I was a single parent for a few years & the DSs seem OK

Prof...I know, I wasn't being entirely serious

interesting first post moresunshineplease...

have you just joined mn or a namechanger?

Apologies to the lovely dentists.

I am a name changer (sad) - too scared if it gets linked.

I spotted that too, LK but was going along with the benefit of the doubt

mainly because, I have actually known men like this

And met the women who stay with them

but don't set me off along that road....

oh , are you asking about this specific incident only then or is this more about your dh's attitude all together?