Have given DS Calpol & DH is angry - advice please

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DS hurt his foot a couple of days ago (nasty bruise, no bones broken thank goodness), I gave him 2 teaspoons of 6+ Calpol. DH is now really angry & says I've behaved in a detrimental way regarding DSs health because of the links to asthma.

I believe that if a child is in pain, they should have pain relief. Does anyone know about the effects of Calpol, any medical experts out there?

I feel DH had gone over the top regarding this, he has accused me of undermining him. I asked a nurse at the local hospital, she said it was fine, DH (dentist) says she doesn't know what she is talking about as he reads 'highly regarded medical publications' & is therefore more in the know.

There is no association between paracetamol (Calpol) and asthma.

About a third of people with asthma shouldn't have NSAIDs such as ibuprofen, but most people can.

(I am a practice nurse studying for my asthma diploma if you need to give your DH my credentials!)

Is your H normally this much of a dick? Or is he just hung up on health issues and inclined to believe every bit of wallop he reads in the Daily Mail?
Tell him to get over himself. You did nothing wrong.

is he always this controlling?

your child too,you're in charge.....your call

Your DH sounds thoroughly charming. He's a dentist, not a doctor. Of course your DS should have pain relief if he's in pain.

Erm is this paracetamol based calpol or nurofen one? If former isn't that ok as I thought it was nurofe
that creates asthmad issues ( although dimly remember a report on excessive calpol use and asthma but hardly think this is a case of excessive use).

Am more that dh would leave his child
in pain.. suggest you deny him drugs next time he has man flu or a hangover

It's ibuprofen that shouldn't ge given to asthmatics (unless they have had it before) as it can aggrivate the asthma.

He's wrong. Paracetamol is safe, there are very few side effects and it's incredibly rare to have any sort of reaction to it.

Is your DH always such an arrogant prick ?

Yes, the nurse said it was ibuprofen that has links to asthma! the Calpol I gave DS was paracetamol, not the ibuprofen one.

I don't know how to explain this to DH, as he thinks I have no knowledge of medicine. I have 2 older DSs who are healthy, not Calpol junkies. DH thinks I've belittled him in some way?

Stick him on here, we'll educate him for you

He really does sound a controlling, patronising tosser about this.

Agree with the other posters - would he rather your son remained in pain?

He is a dick

Don't bother explaining anything..if he is such a paranoid twat, he ain't going to listen anyway

Or, show him this link that puts it into perspective

DS had a bad bruise under his toe nail & was screaming because of the pain. DH said he could sort it out. I decided to take DS to hospital, as I was worried it may be broken.

They drilled a hole in his nail to ease the pressure, DS needed gas & air. He's OK now. But DH is FUMING & saying my attitude is unbelievable, he could have carried out the same procedure, he did it a medical school (30 yrs ago). BUT - without pain relief????

Give him some calpol too, calm him down a bit

What a knob. You're right, he's wrong, so I suppose you have (unwittingly) belittled him and his imagined superior knowledge.

There was a study in 2008 that suggested a link between higher doses and more frequent administration of Calpol in babies under 12 months and development of childhood asthma later on (Summary here), but if you were giving 6+ Calpol I'm assuming that your DS isn't a baby under a year old?

The authors also said that "causality cannot be established from the ISAAC study, owing to several potential biases that might confound the association, including, but not limited to recall bias, misclassification bias, and confounding by indication [...] In particular, respiratory-tract illnesses in infancy such as respiratory syncytial virus and rhinovirus infections are associated with an increased risk of wheezing in later childhood, and paracetamol use for such episodes could lead to confounding in our study"

Your DH does sound extremely controlling.

Mind you, if I had the option I'd hve given ibuprofen rather than Calpol for an injury like that because it's an anti-inflammatory.

Please tell me this twunt hasn't ever been anywhere near my teeth!!! I'd ring the dental council and get him some urgent refresher training.
Talk about thick as pigs.....

thanks for that link, AnyFucker, I'll print it out for DH.

DH is making me feel really bad about this.

Goodness

Is he a doctor? He should know better then to try to do a procedure on a child with no pain relief then, he's not very good at pharmacology if he can't tell the difference between paracetamol and ibuprofen is he!

But then by the sound of things he'd have been even more annoyed because of the ibuprofen-asthma link.

Err...either you are married to a pathological, grandiose, child-abuser....

or this is a wind-up

DS is 6.5.

Thanks Professor, I read a similar report last year (Lancet, I think??)

There was something in the papers ages ago about regular, ie frequent, paracetamol in babies possibly having some tenuous link with asthma. I am a nurse, and it doesn't put me off at all. I would/do always give painkillers when the DCs need it.

Found the link - it was about use in abies under 1

this is the one

So irrelevant to your situation I think.

And am at your DHs attitude, to think he can bollock you for treating your child's pain? WTF? I would be very cross, and insulted.

No, it's not a wind up. DH seriously thinks I have to sort out my attitude, in fact he has left for a few days in order for me to do so. I really don't think I've done anything wrong.

He has left you for a few days because you gave your child paracetamol?

Do you want some help packing the rest of his things? I'll willingly come over and give you a hand.

I'd have done the same.

Your DH is being a twit.