So relieved I didn’t have children

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Do any other child free by choice women experience this sweeping relief from time to time? I’ve just got back from a holiday with several family children who are beautifully behaved and great company but whose parents were trapped in never ending arguments about who’d do what and who could have time to relax whilst the other minded the kids. It led to several tense atmospheres.

I know not all parents argue but I’ve got home with such an overriding sense of relief that I made the decision not to have kids.

Because anyone can access it and it’s interesting?

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So people who have children go to heaven regardless, but people who don’t have to earn extra brownie points to get there? Even if they didn’t choose not to have children?

I understand being interested, I don’t understand the need to tell us we’re wrong. Read and learn if you want but our feelings aren’t up for debate.

Asked DH and heaven lies beneath the feet of the morther doesn't mean mother goes to heaven, it means children go to heaven if they respect her.

I have no idea by what you mean by 'who's bought the premium', but I can see you seem to struggle a bit with literacy so I don't want to press the matter.

I'm sure Mother Teresa is rotting in hell because she didn't have children. 🙄

She will like it better in hell, she won't have to worry about bumping into Rose West when she dies because she'll be in heaven.

Again I did not say that. Learn to understand rather than assuming

You quite literally did even if you didn't mean to, unfortunately

Some of the comments on this thread are wild.

I’m sorry for all the women who wanted children and it didn’t happen.

Fairplay to the child free women who decided motherhood wasn’t for them. It’s a 100% valid choice, and sensible in many ways.

I have one teen conceived after years of fertility struggles. They are amazing and I love being a mum. But so much of my brain space is taken up with worry that gets worse as they get older imo.

I have friends who are parents and those that are childfree. My childfree friends lives are fab and they tell me they don’t regret not having children (we’re all early- mid 40’s). Perhaps some of that is down to our demographics as we are all professionals with good careers, so my friends have money which provides choices.

My dd will not be responsible for looking after me when I’m old. I feel very strongly about that particularly as she is an only child. No child owes their parents that.

I am not a better person because I had a child and my bf didn’t. She’s the opposite of selfish- a generous, lovely, funny, interesting and intelligent person that I love being around.

we should support all women in the choices they make and be mindful of those whose choice was taken away.

Such a good post @sundayvibeswig22
I could have written it as well. Older parent due to infertitlity and so many worries when DD was a teenager.

I was ambivalent about having children anyway and am not at all broody or maternal, so I completely understand why many women don't want to have children. DD is adamant that she doesn't want any and I'm absolutely fine with that.