Anyone else sometimes get a wave of relief that they don’t have children?

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I’m in my late 30s and have known I think for a long time that I didn’t want kids. I’ve never really actively thought about it although now and then wonder if I’ll regret it.

And then I have moments like today. I’ve been at my sister’s house and my nieces are lovely, gorgeous kids but then she started talking to them about how they had to get their uniforms sorted for school, get the homework done and have baths and I felt such a feeling of relief that I had decided not to have them and could return to my peaceful home.

You’d like the board to be cancelled when it’s actually nothing to do with you, and you don’t have to read or post on it?

Weird

Why don’t you post your opinion on this thread? We’d appreciate your support in getting the board taken out of active.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/5352049-mumsnetters-without-children-board

Some childless people have choosen, the vast majority of parents world wide don't necessarily have an active choice. FWIW I think most people end up happy with the choices they have made/ the way things turn out in the end. Pros and Cons to both sides.

Of course they would. What do you all think is the goal here?

How about we just completely ignore her posts and dont engage. She's clearly hell bent on disrupting this board

Times like this i wish MN had a block button

I'm hoping she will get bored soon. She's running out of arguments so has now got bogged down in site technicalities so once she gets her head around that...

This post was meant to reply to @SunflowersandSangria.

I would yes

Will do thanks 👍

Zero chance of that happening.

Unfortunately

Aw, it's sad when someone's life choices make them so brittle and chippy that they feel compelled to spend their time boringly and repetitively trolling a thread like this.

On the other hand, it's yet another good reason to be glad I didn't have kids.😂

Why, for God’s sake? I have a child, though I often read, though seldom comment on, this board, because I was happily childfree for far more of my adult life than I’ve been a parent, and I don’t feel that the part of me that spent 20 adult years planning not to have a child has been cancelled/invalidated by having my son later on, plus, obviously, I spent years eliciting the weird reactions the childfree seem to excite in a particular kind of parent.

And I feel that Mners without children should have a space in which there aren’t regular derailings of hostility such as are caused by threads appearing in ‘Active’, any more than the people who use the Adoption or SEN children’s boards.

And obviously, that would also solve the problem of what seems to be one of your objections to the existence of the board — that someone who’s just lost a pregnancy or is struggling with infertility might come across a thread about glorying in being childfree thst might upset them.

I think if a childless person has chosen, we call them childfree don't we. It differentiates between those for whom there are feelings of either sadness or joy attached to the fact you're not a parent.

The vast majority of women in the developed world, and certainly the vast majority of mumsnet users, have made an active choice to be a parent. I choose not to worry about what people are doing in sub-saharan Africa, as crazy as that might sound.

Some of us started out childless not by choice but have found peace, contentment and yes, joy in our lives without children. Don’t assume that everyone who wanted children and couldn’t have them feels sad about it.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3674128-To-wonder-why-people-enjoy-camping?flipped=1&page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4099318-does-anyone-else-hate-walking

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/3515246-Are-you-glad-you-have-siblings

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4974713-i-cant-believe-im-looking-forward-to-leaving-australia

Why does this thread bother you so much @sunflowersandsangria ? To the point where you want the board cancelled? Strange.

As I said, weird

🤣🤣🤣

Oh don’t, it’s just too funny now 😄

@GiveMeWordGames after seeing her response to your post I'm starting to think she is a sandwich short of a picnic. Just hasnt grasped the point you were making and how it doesnt work trying to reverse it.

No one here is sandwich short of picnic.
They know exactly what they are doing

Yes they know what they are trying to do but at the same time not understanding anything.

Ok 🙄 love when someone starts name calling when someone doesn’t agree with their opinion - lovely!