Best part of being childfree

[Mintgum]

Whats the best part of being childfree.
I chose not to have children knew from an early age i never wanted them.
But i have been ask why not whats so good not having them my reply was whats good with having them.
I like my life i like doing what i like i love my freedom.
I have no intrerest in schools finger painting teen dramas i also like sleep.
I dont have the stomach to be around them when they are eating either.
My sister didnt like my reply.
And told me im missing out on what love really feels like.
I replied with.
I'm really not missing out on anything.
You're the one that had kids in your late 40s and all you want is help.
And now im in the doghouse because i was rude.
My family all know dont ask me to baby sit because it won't happen.

"Out of interest" have you been diagnosed as having SEN or autism?

The failure to even try to consider that people might have a different viewpoint, the inability to demonstrate even a basic level of empathy towards some posters who clearly are childless by circumstance rather than choice and a total failure to read the room....

I genuinely don't understand why you keep coming back to this thread and goading people.

I'm assuming your 10 year old is in bed which is why you've reappeared. Couldn't you go iron her school uniforms or something if you are stuck for something to do?

I think the issue is there is confusion between someone choosing not to have a child and someone actually hating all kids.

I'm going to answer this because despite now having 3DC I grew up never wanting children. Meanwhile, both my DSis and SIL, who wanted children, for different reasons have not had children. I think it's really important to state that whether you do or don't have children you can have a worthwhile and fufilling life. Both DSis and SIL have had other people suggest their life is not worthwhile because they don't have DC. That is an incredibly thoughtless and unkind thing to say to anyone and not true. Some of my favourite people in the world do not have children.

So, for me, the biggest advantage and benefit to being a mother is that my 3DC are my favourite people in the world who I'd rather spend time with than anyone else. They are almost adults though so I've served my time and all the reasons for choosing to not have DC are perfectly valid.

I can't recall ever having to actually state a reason for declining an invitation.

Having given it a bit of thought, I realise I'm not actually curious about why you think it's "extreme", more that you term it a "reaction" when it's no such thing. It's a choice I make, because I have the right to make that choice, not a reaction to anything.

"Extreme" isn't the correct term anyway. It's probably "atypical" in that most people have no issues being around children so will happily attend these sorts of events, but it's a binary choice to either go, or not go, and choosing not to go is not "extreme".

It's also not the sole reason why I opt out. As I said, I'm not close to extended family and don't miss them any, so I have no real desire to actually attend in any case and would rather spend a night in the pub with my friends, people I have chosen to spend time with because I like their company, and not just people who happen to be some sort of relative.

I suppose it's a case of not being interested, and inevitably having to put up with children if I chose to go to the bother of faking interest by attending. Again, just no. There are far more enjoyable things I could be doing with my life.

I love kids, I think they’re great. I know lots of people who don’t like/hate kids though, parents and non-parents alike. I don’t think it matters really if people hate kids by just removing themselves from being around them. I think it’s sad when parents don’t like kids so don’t let their kids have play dates and stuff like that and I am disgusted by terrible things people do to abuse their children but I don’t really give any thought to people just not being around kids, I think that’s fine/their choice and while I absolutely love hanging out with the kids for a while at family events I would never tell someone they were missing out etc by not doing the same because we are all different and if they don’t like kids they’re not missing out.

Another thread derailed by parents intruding and wanting to put posters who don't have children under the microscope. Couldn't we just have been allowed to discuss the benefits of not having children in peace?

Not until MN agrees to remove the board from active. Or so it appears.

I was just about to say the same thing and ask MNHQ to take my thread down.
It was meant to be honest and none hurtful.
But its turned into something i dont want to be a part of.
Afew posters on here keep coming back for a dig i think they have regrets not us.

It's not extreme just because you and much of society disagree with it. It's a choice we are fortunately able to make when we wish to.

You have been on and off here all day picking at people.

We're not though, that's all you.

You can't see a difference between choosing not to have your own child and choosing to avoid social events because you dislike children?

Freud ... well known for his extremely balanced and sensible views on women's psyche. 😂

I don't blame you. I left the board for a while because parents insist on intruding - either to goad and pick even when they've been asked to go away, or to gawp at us and analyse as though we're a bloody freak show.

To caveat - it's choosing to avoid social events where it's inevitable there will be children present, and likely running amok, not just choosing to avoid all social events.

As I said, there's nothing I enjoy more than a night in the pub with a circle of friends that I've chosen. I am emphatically not anti-social.

Ive just asked to have it removed.

There's a difference for the childfree who enjoy being around children in general. That's not all of us. I don't know how that is so difficult to comprehend.

And she's been politely asked to go away but she persists in finding herself here

My Freud comment was a little ‘goady’ agreed But apart from that I’ve been perfectly polite and chatty. There’s just an unusual amount of people seemingly ready to find offence here.

I don't know... would it be socially acceptable to refuse to attend an event because there are going to be elderly people present?

Go away and take @Comedycook with you.
FFS this is why we dont want kids because they grow up like you lot.

You don't have to explain or justify yourself.

I hope several posters got what they wanted having caused the OP to ask for the thread to be removed.

Listen, give it up. You've pushed OP to ask to have the thread pulled. I assume your mission is complete.

Who gives two hoots whether attending or otherwise is "socially acceptable"?

And yes, if someone can't abide old people, and that's enough reason for them to decline an invite, then that's entirely their prerogative.