Fuck fuck fuck nanny has resigned

[PalindromicUser]

I know she absolutely has the right to resign but I’m so cross! It’s been such a difficult year. DD only has another 9 months until she starts school then nanny could look after as many babies as she wants to (she’s taken a job looking after a 5 month old).

I’m also really disappointed she resigned via WhatsApp rather than calling me. I can understand that she wanted to avoid having a potentially difficult conversation but that’s what being a grown up is like, surely?

It will be fine, we will go back to more nursery and wrap around but I just wanted to let of steam with people who know how much I feel left in the lurch! Plus the additional organisational burden will almost certainly fall to me - the nanny was most helpful to me rather than DH and relieved so much of that burden.

It’s been a very difficult year / well almost 10mths for many

Nannies now have parents about

I’ve always said as a nanny (20yrs +) that we don’t do anything diff when parents at home

But

Children behave differently /play up when parents about

Many had to be teachers as well

Occupy children at home for 3ths minus play dates - school - activity’s

And parents at home - many saying be quiet - have important call etc

Very stressful for nannies - their job is not what they signed up for

As I said before - you will find a nanny easily

This is a joke, right? If not, you’ve definitely got a First World Problem.

Oh dear @PalindromicUser you made the mistake of not only telling mn that you hire help but that you are unhappy with it. Won’t someone think of the children!

Looking on the bright side, you won't have to buy her a Christmas present 🤔

I know of nannies that have been dismissed on whatsapp after years of service, so I suppose it works two ways.

You bred. You nurture. You bring up your children. Its that simple. I did it all alone. Wow yip i surely did. And you no what it was my job not a weekend job.

"Wow yip"

What is with this place at the moment?!

Her job is ending in Sept 2021
So as a nanny myself I can see why she wants to go for a new role with more longevity ..
I agrée she should’ve had a sit down chat tho .
No one knows what will
Happen jn the next few months but the nanny market is a bit dire at the moment so good luck to her But
It also means you can find a replacement pretty easily

@Audreyseyebrows Oh dear @PalindromicUser you made the mistake of not only telling mn that you hire help but that you are unhappy with it. Won’t someone think of the children!
⬆️ Absolutely agree, mn has a funny wobble when women reveal they employ other women for childcare and or domestic cleaning. It’s immediately implied the employer is a heartless harridan who ruthlessly exploits her cowed nanny. Of course it’s inverted snobbery served with a side order of why have children if you let someone else raise them?

PalindromicUser this happened to us with our nursery. Gave us about a weeks notice right at the start of summer. Thankfully one of my children was starting school so was leaving anyway but we had to find a new nursery petty quick at the same time that everyone else was also looking.

You are right to be upset at the situation rather than the nanny, as you say she has a right to leave. It will all work itself out once you start to look at your options.

@Jeeperscreepers69

You bred. You nurture. You bring up your children. Its that simple. I did it all alone. Wow yip i surely did. And you no what it was my job not a weekend job.

Are you serious @Jeeperscreepers69?

Well I happily outsource all my kids whilst working,threw money at it
Wow yip it was remarkably easy,nursery after school and summer clubs
I bred, I paid for childcare, therefore I am

Sure am

@Jeeperscreepers69

You bred. You nurture. You bring up your children. Its that simple. I did it all alone. Wow yip i surely did. And you no what it was my job not a weekend job.

Yip you surely didn't, literally noone 'does it all alone' without relying on childcare or other sources of funds.

Unless you had a pre-child life as a successful rock star or investment banker where you were able to fall back on hundreds of thousands of points of savings, or had an unbelievably rare talent that you could employ during the evenings at home that made you enough to live on, you either had childcare, or someone else providing the money, via inheritance or another parent earning or benefits.

Seriously, if someone came on to say 'fuck fuck fuck my nursery is closing down and they warned me 4 weeks in advance via WhatsApp', the answers would have had a hundred times less vitriol.

Collected benefits (other people’s money) to bring up your child(ren). Yes yippee for you

@Olu123 do you know her? What a nasty vicious thing to say.

As a working mum I have friends who have decided to be sahm, I don’t attack them for making that choice and whatever they’re not earning in money or keeping a career their children no doubt gain from it.

Dear Pot,
YOU’RE ranting ONLINE to strangers about how somebody ELSE needs to be a grown up, because she doesn’t want to look after YOUR children anymore.

Ok.
Hilarious.

nannynick - most sensible post.

'relieved so much of that burden'

You have children and you expected something else?

This post makes me “so cross” ☹️ Yes it’s rubbish and yes you’re in a tricky situation, but that’s life unfortunately. People leave jobs, people move on, and there are always reasons for doing so. Your post comes across very entitled

Mumsnet at its finest 🙄

Any mother who juggles work and childcare and whose arrangements come crashing down will sympathise with your post.

Sour grapes leave such a bad taste... ignore them.
I hope you work things out soon x

I do feel very sorry for you - I have had three kids and various nannies. You have to rely on the nanny and life is very much on a knife edge with work commitments and home too. My DH was pretty useless - even sacked one nanny while I was at a funeral once!!! Apparently she swore at him - dont blame her :-) can you ask around for done help - with everyone being at home right now you might get someone happy to assist. Cut out all unnecessary activities until you get back on track and call in extra help if you can.

Oh dearie me how sad never mind!

Ridiculous.

@justgeton

Mumsnet at its finest 🙄

Any mother who juggles work and childcare and whose arrangements come crashing down will sympathise with your post.

Sour grapes leave such a bad taste... ignore them.
I hope you work things out soon x

I agree. I think jealousy rears its head here sometimes. It's quite understandable that the op felt somewhat left in the lurch, suddenly; however, it sounds as though she has it sorted now.