Fuck fuck fuck nanny has resigned

[PalindromicUser]

I know she absolutely has the right to resign but I’m so cross! It’s been such a difficult year. DD only has another 9 months until she starts school then nanny could look after as many babies as she wants to (she’s taken a job looking after a 5 month old).

I’m also really disappointed she resigned via WhatsApp rather than calling me. I can understand that she wanted to avoid having a potentially difficult conversation but that’s what being a grown up is like, surely?

It will be fine, we will go back to more nursery and wrap around but I just wanted to let of steam with people who know how much I feel left in the lurch! Plus the additional organisational burden will almost certainly fall to me - the nanny was most helpful to me rather than DH and relieved so much of that burden.

Well I certainly feel sorry for you and totally understand how frustrating it is! Hopefully you would find someone even more wonderful at short notice to fill in these next 9 months.

@SaltyAF

TBH if you feel entitled to berate her online, I'm suspect you're a pain to work for. I have no interest in the Nannies section but this appeared for all to see on active conversations.

What?!? Come off it . The OP has been left in the lurch . She wasn't berating her at all; she was simply expressing her frustration. What a strange comment

I don’t know why you’re getting a hard time op. This is the last thing you need. Was she with you long?

Now all the martyrs are coming out of the woodwork. Christ

I am so sorry to hear this. I know how much working mums rely on nannies. the process of finding a good one, the extortionate costs involved etc.
I hope that you can muddle through this next month and have new childcare arrangements in place. Good luck

I know you say in 9 months she’ll be free to look after babies if she wants, but what if she struggles to find a post then? She must be very aware that her time in this job is coming to an end then a longer term opportunity came up. It’s a shame that it doesn’t suit you but I imagine it’s very stressful for her to finish her job with you then be facing unemployment.

Did you ever think about her life ? How things were from her point of view ? What did you do to make your job better than anyone else’s. What did you do to make her feel valued ? Rewarded ? Thought so.

And there we have if @DC3Dakota why have kids if you let someone else watch them
The tired trope of the avaricious working mum who can’t even be bothered to raise her own kids

Ok, I’ll answer @DC3. I put all my kids into baby room & nursery from 6mth because I wanted to
Because it allowed me to return FT to work. My career really matters to me
Because I simply didn’t want to be at home long term with kids

Fact that yiu unfortunately have a debilitating illness has no relation to The op returning to work and employing a nanny. Op makes her autonomous decisions and work demands have absolutely to be considered

I'm sorry you have this dilemma but nothing you can do about it. Get on to nanny agencies immediately.

Some of the replies on this thread are batshit

@Devlesko

Cross, because your nanny resigned. You need to check your priorities and entitlement This can't be for real.

Yes, why can't she be cross? She acknowledges that it's the nanny's right BUT is coming here to say how frustrating it is.

What on Earth is wrong with that? 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LockdownFrocksAndGowns

Some of the replies on this thread are batshit

Aren't they though?

@Wearywithteens What are you on about?ive not said a nanny isn’t entitled to employment rights
Quite simply on mn a parent who employ a nanny and happens to express a temporary exasperation is immediately typecast as the Dickensian mill owner exploiting the workers

@Devlesko

Cross, because your nanny resigned. You need to check your priorities and entitlement This can't be for real.

This. LOL.

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It sucks, but if she gave written notice, and will work as contracted for the next month, there's nothing you can do.

Your DH and the kids dad needs to step up too, though. This isn't just your problem.

It'll be difficult to get anything into place for December so look ahead and make plans for January to September when your daughter moves up.

I manned for years. Your tone tells me everything I need to know about why she resigned.
I suspect she won't be your last nanny.

I hope she's happy in her new job.

I tell you what the op has a brass neck,posting about the nanny,on nannies board
Christ, how very dare she. The nanny radiates sunshine and love to the abandoned children
Op obviously entitled. Just think, if that’s his she treats the nanny..how she treats the kids