Overwhelmed - Husband is against getting induced!

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Hi all! I'm currently 38w+0d today. We went to see a hospital consultant recently as my baby was plotting as big in the growth scans - 96th percentile. Note, I have no health risk or underlying medical issues, it's just baby is** measuring too large. The hospital consultant strongly urged I opt for either an induction or an elective c section, I went for the induction. It's all booked in for 39w (next Monday). DH couldn't make it to this appointment and so when I filled him in he was furious as he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

Anyways, was just looking for some positive induction stories from you guys as I've been around a lot of negativity and criticism recently and started to regret my choice. Or is there a way I can naturally induce myself before 39w?

Thanks x

I think you have a DH problem. Furious that YOU made a decision about YOUR body and YOUR baby? I’m a nurse and I’ve also had three babies and they don’t recommend induction or sections for no reason. I’m sorry you’re in this position when you are so vulnerable.

You have the final say over this OP.
Stand up for yourself!

When your DH is experiencing something he can be as anti interventions as he likes. When it comes to your body he can feck off and keep his opinions to himself.

I have no induction story to tell though, sorry.

Wow, anti medical interventions?! They can’t be serious. So they’d rather put you and the baby at risk. It’s entirely your body and your decision.

Totally this. What do they mean exactly?

When he’s the one pushing a big ass baby out of his body, he can make a decision. But seeing as it’s not, tell him and his mother just where they can shove their opinions.

Start as you mean to go on.

He wants control over the birth, he needs to go get himself a womb of house own. No archive just a hug because he's being a dick. Is there anyone else you can have in the delivery room who'll actually advocate for your benefit not their beliefs?

This. All of it. Not his body; not his choice and until he trains as a medic, he can keep his opinions to himself. Stick to your guns.

Your body OP. Your body. He has zero say in this.

Tell him to stfu

This bunch of Luddites can make their own daft decisions about their own bodies. Don’t waste your breath discussing it with them.

What’s his reasoning for being so unreasonable?

Read this back: he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

What the fuck? Does he or MIL have a baby inside their body??? NO

Your body your choice. I think this bodes VERY badly for when baby comes and you should seriously consider leaving this toxic environment before baby comes. Quick divorce and then don’t put him on the birth cert. They sound very very controlling.

Sorry but it's your body so your choice.

It's your choice; but also keep in mind that scans are not the most accurate, so the baby might not be that big.
I am 38+5 so I get the 'want baby out' part, however I wouldn't opt for an induction unless for a serious medical issue; I believe the most natural the better!
All the best and easy delivery whatever you choose 🥰

Wow! What knobhead. His mother can fuck off as well.

How dare he be unsupportive at this time! What if something does go wrong as it can with our without induction? Is he going to blame you for opting for induction if that’s what you choose?

I’m incensed for you.

Are they going to oppose vaccinating the baby too?

my induction was fine had my daughter a few hours later .Why would anyone want their partner to risk their health and not listen to the medical professional.My other half always wants whats best for my health

Don’t take him with you as a birth partner. You need someone who will advocate for you and your needs - not put his batshit beliefs before your well-being.

Can you get your mum to be with you instead? Or a friend?

I cannot state enough that you need someone who will look after you when you are vulnerable. If I hadn’t had medical intervention then both my baby and I would be dead. My dh was right there supporting me through it all, and so should yours.

It's your body and unreasonable of dh or mil to even have any opinion other than "that's great for you" !!!!!
however I do have to say the growth scans are incredibly inaccurate
One of my pregnancies was measuring very big, they were worrying me about shoulder dysplasia, asking me to do the big baby study etc

Decided against it as didn't see the need for anything yet but decided to stay very active, bouncing on ball, walking etc
Literally very normal 7lb baby born 38w lol

Tbh, the only opinion I’d be interested in would be my consultant’s. The only thing that matters for birth is having a delivery that is safest for the mother and baby.

I was induced btw. Was it fun? Not really. But it resulted in the safe arrival of my child.

Your post makes me really cross on your behalf OP. How dare he be furious for you taking medical advice to protect you and your baby. How far does his anti interventions go? I’d be far more concerned about that.

what do you mean most natural the better?

do you think the doctor has suggested an induction or section for the fun of it?!

Well I'd find it concerning that my partner was willing to jeopardise the safety of myself and our child because of his batshit crazy beliefs

Is he medically qualified?

Your body, your choice. Tell him to back the fuck off. Honestly, I'm incensed on your behalf

This - how dare he risk your life and that of his baby due to this these things don’t get done at 39 weeks on a whim

i hope you are on a good page with the baby and vaccinations etc

IT IS YOUR BODY!!!!

Is this your first child?
edit - Bugger, wrong poster sorry!