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Rosscameasdoody · 02/09/2024 20:38

Your consultant is strongly recommending this course of action. Neither your husband or his mother get to second guess that - they have no medical training, they’re just opinionated. It’s your body, you’re the one giving birth and it’s entirely your decision how you do it. Tell them to butt out.

NiggleNoggle · 02/09/2024 20:39

I was privately told by a friend who was an obstetrician to definitely choose either an induction of C section rather than go over 40 weeks as they had seen too many sad situations where the placenta failed after that and the baby was stillborn.

I had two inductions. They are mostly rather boring! Do be mentally prepared that you may end up with a C section in any case (and if things aren't progressing I would be inclined to ask for one sooner rather than later).

Oh and consider whether there is someone who would be a better birth partner than your ridiculous husband. You really need someone to support you in your decisions rather than push their own agenda. Your body your birth.

AD1509 · 02/09/2024 20:39

Tell your husband he gets a say when he has to tear his own penis open to birth a large child. Is this your first OP? I was induced with my second and it was very smooth sailing.

Zanatdy · 02/09/2024 20:39

Well it’s not his choice, and he’s completely out of order to try and tell you what to do over medical advise.

That aside the questions I’d be asking myself is how big are they saying baby is? They aren’t always right. Are you a small lady? Everyone I know how was induced ended up with a 2-3 day labour, not progressing and eventual C-section. You are increasing your chances of an assisted delivery by inducing if baby isn’t ready, and a long drawn out labour. I’m not saying don’t get induced, but I’d be thinking carefully if baby isn’t huge, but of course you’ve had medical advice and they gave you those options so you should follow their advice, and not that of your DH / MIL or anyone else unqualified to say what’s best for you and baby. As your DH isn’t the one delivering this large baby he doesn’t get a say, and neither does his mother.

Lem0nie · 02/09/2024 20:40

I had an induction when I was 40+8, such a positive experience. I actually enjoyed the birth. 6 hours from being induced to baby arriving with a lovely water birth.

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StormingNorman · 02/09/2024 20:36

MIL obviously has had a baby inside her body at least once 😂

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Yes but not this baby. So she has no say.

Just to say OP, the drip they use to induce can be pretty intense as the contractions aren't gradual like in normal labour. Don't let anyone tell you that you shouldn't have an epidural if that will help you cope with the pain.

I was on the drip for nearly 4 days - an epidural 12 hours in was the best decision of my life.

Greybeardy · 02/09/2024 20:40

in case no one's suggested it already, if you do have him as your birth partner and he's still behaving like a neanderthal, it would be worth mentioning it to your MW so they and the obstetricians know to be more alert to his potential fury at their suggestions and they can support you better with advice and decision making in labour.

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kakashixxkillua · 02/09/2024 19:52

Hi all! I'm currently 38w+0d today. We went to see a hospital consultant recently as my baby was plotting as big in the growth scans - 96th percentile. Note, I have no health risk or underlying medical issues, it's just baby is** measuring too large. The hospital consultant strongly urged I opt for either an induction or an elective c section, I went for the induction. It's all booked in for 39w (next Monday). DH couldn't make it to this appointment and so when I filled him in he was furious as he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

Anyways, was just looking for some positive induction stories from you guys as I've been around a lot of negativity and criticism recently and started to regret my choice. Or is there a way I can naturally induce myself before 39w?

Thanks x

If you want to follow medical advice, then do it. It is your body, and you make the decisions regarding what happens to it. He can sod right off.
Your MIL can take a running jump - it is absolutely none of her business.

Magien · 02/09/2024 20:41

Where did your husband and MIL do their medical training? Do they have many years more experience than the consultant? I was induced for medical reasons with my first and it was a much better labour than my spontaneous second.

Stomachbiggerthantits · 02/09/2024 20:41

I had a lovely experience with an induction with my second.

Nothing happened for ages then started getting uncomfortable, next thing you know midwife is “you’re 4cm”.. I’m surprised but then 45 mins later I’m saying I need a poo - nope, needed to deliver the baby!

My two pennies? Do what the incredibly well trained medical professionals tell you to do. Ask the hospital to only listen to you. Focus on you and the baby.

you can deal with “D”H and his family once you and baby are ok xxx

Ruelzdontapply · 02/09/2024 20:41

It's your body he can't stop you.
I had the balloon induction with my last son it worked fast I had the balloon inserted at 10pm and by 11pm my waters had broken and the balloon was removed and I was transfered to the labour ward 00.21 dd arrived.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 02/09/2024 20:42

@kakashixxkillua if he was that concerned about the baby and you, he would have made sure he was at the appointment!! as for his mother, well she can fuck right off! it is nothing to do with her and she has no right to interfere! Incidentally, is this down to their religion???? I would be going for induction as planned rather than wait for caeserian section after which you would need a longish period of recovery, no doubt assisted by meddling mil!! your body, your rules!!

Fundays12 · 02/09/2024 20:42

My positive stories are DC2 would not be alive had we not allowed an induction at 37.2 weeks. He was born very ill as he was already struggling in utero. DC3 was an elective C-section at 38 weeks. Again born unwell but fine now. They don't induce babies early for no reason. Your Dh doesn't get to decide on this one. It's your second your body.

Stomachbiggerthantits · 02/09/2024 20:42

Oh and when I say ages, I mean two days.

Don’t get frustrated, just take ear defenders and ear buds, a good book, treats and enjoy the rest xxx

simpledeer · 02/09/2024 20:44

Is he part of some kind of cult?

He and MIL can fuck right off with their shit opinions.

Is there someone else you can take with you who will actually advocate for you during the birth? This idiot is obviously no use whatsoever.

Voiceofreason92 · 02/09/2024 20:44

i have had 3 babies- with two of them I had an induction.
I loved been induced both times - far better than a natural birth.
i felt far more in control, i was monitored heavily, I had midwives with me every step of the way.
I had so much attention thrown on me because of an induction. I got an epidural and had two very straight forward labours. I had a team of specialists ready at the door to swoop in incase she got stuck

With my third, she was predicted to be big. It can be very dangerous for mother and baby to birth a big baby. i believe there was a case a few years ago when the baby's shoulder got stuck, it led to all sorts of complications and the baby died. As a result, in my trust anyway, they don't let you get too big.

DoYouReally · 02/09/2024 20:45

The medical professionals will want to deliver the baby on the best, safest, possible way for you and your baby.

They have the training, the expertise and frankly, your husband hasn't a rashers.

I'm so sorry that he is this ignorant.

outdamnedspots · 02/09/2024 20:46

He's a CF. Is he a doctor? A consultant gynaecologist? No? Then he can pipe down. Your body, your baby, your decision.

I hope he's not an anti-vaxxer too??

Your MIL sounds like she might be a PITA. Good luck!

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 02/09/2024 20:48

So if he or your MIL have cancer they’ll refuse chemotherapy? Having a heart attack refuse treatment? Have a tooth removed with anaesthetic?

It’s only childbirth that this medical intervention shit gets touted!

Underdogfun · 02/09/2024 20:48

Get the c section
good friends giant baby got stuck
wished she had been given c section option
says and it was obviously not going to come out without complications

outdamnedspots · 02/09/2024 20:48

I'd also look for someone else to be your birth partner. You can't trust your h to advocate for you.

(Did you think about how his views would pan out when you were discussing ttc?)

RedRobyn2021 · 02/09/2024 20:49

I hate the way the NHS hands out inductions like bloody sweets and personally I would not allow them to induce me for this reason

HOWEVER

This is your body. Your husband has no right to be angry. I'm angry with him on your behalf, he sounds like a tit

LlamaTwirl · 02/09/2024 20:49

Good job it's not your DH or his family getting induced then!
Both of mine were induced and both were positive experiences.
Do whatever feels right for you.

Rachie1973 · 02/09/2024 20:51

3 out of my 4 were induced. I won’t lie, the first was hardest, but I think that would have been the regardless, first labours are generally longer.

The other 2 were just easy.

Hottogo1 · 02/09/2024 20:52

Lucky it’s not him getting induced then! Silly arse.