Overwhelmed - Husband is against getting induced!

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Hi all! I'm currently 38w+0d today. We went to see a hospital consultant recently as my baby was plotting as big in the growth scans - 96th percentile. Note, I have no health risk or underlying medical issues, it's just baby is** measuring too large. The hospital consultant strongly urged I opt for either an induction or an elective c section, I went for the induction. It's all booked in for 39w (next Monday). DH couldn't make it to this appointment and so when I filled him in he was furious as he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

Anyways, was just looking for some positive induction stories from you guys as I've been around a lot of negativity and criticism recently and started to regret my choice. Or is there a way I can naturally induce myself before 39w?

Thanks x

Why does he even get a say??

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He won’t over step eh he already has with being against the induction.

so he got some vaccines when going on honeymoon then so he’ll have medical treatment to benefit him when it suits.

major red flags here and I think you need counselling to sort it all out and have strong boundaries in place or you leave him no inbetween.

good luck

Hope it's all going OK, I was relieved to read your update. Well done 💐💐

All the very best to you and for the birth OP and that’s fantastic that you have your sister there with you. Everything else can wait as PP just said. Well done and best wishes.

Such a reassuring update. That sounds lovely. Don't rush back ‐stay with your parents until you are healed, until you feel you know what you're doing-ish with caring for your baby, and can get about a day without pain. Give yourself a few weeks (at least).

Pay attention to how it feels in your home environment. What will it be like to be surrounded by easy-going, supportive adults who just want what's best for you, where you don't need to uphold any boundaries or 'make a case' for your decisions? Really notice this feeling: it's how things should feel in a supportive relationship. Consider carefully how the two compare.

We think we know our spouses. Any differences of opinion or preferences which grate slightly, we can sort of work around before we have children. Once our babies arrive, things really can -and do‐ change over night. A partner you believed to be reasonable and 'on the same page' as you may suddenly go surprisingly 'off piste' as their parenting journey begins, sometimes with unexpected or even distressing consequences. They will not have undergone the phenomenal physical and hormonal transformation that you have been through delivering your baby. Will he intuitively understand this and give your recovery and growing into your new 'state of being' the time and support it will take?

You've definitely made a good decision, for a really valid reason. Keep talking to family and medical professionals.

Well done OP. I hope all goes well. X

Well done. Unfortunately he'll have parental responsibility and therefore a say in vaccination whatever happens, but that sounds like a sensible move for your own peace of mind. Good luck with everything.

Won’t he only have parental responsibility if he’s on the birth certificate?

No, automatic if married to the mother.

Hopefully over ruled by the GP then.

Sadly, as GPs, whilst we can vaccinate a child brought by just one parent, if we know that the other person with parental responsibility doesn't agree, we can't vaccinate except with a court order. It's bonkers, you'd think the law would side with the person who has the best interests of the child at heart, but clearly not.

Seriously holy shit that’s another thing I’ve learned today

How are things going op?

Yes I'm guessing op has had the baby by now- hope you are both ok. Lots of us would love an update if you are upto it!