Overwhelmed - Husband is against getting induced!

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Hi all! I'm currently 38w+0d today. We went to see a hospital consultant recently as my baby was plotting as big in the growth scans - 96th percentile. Note, I have no health risk or underlying medical issues, it's just baby is** measuring too large. The hospital consultant strongly urged I opt for either an induction or an elective c section, I went for the induction. It's all booked in for 39w (next Monday). DH couldn't make it to this appointment and so when I filled him in he was furious as he's anti medical interventions, alongside his entire family. My MIL is also very opinionated on my decision

Anyways, was just looking for some positive induction stories from you guys as I've been around a lot of negativity and criticism recently and started to regret my choice. Or is there a way I can naturally induce myself before 39w?

Thanks x

You've had plenty of advice about yh3 DH situation.

As for positive induction stories, I personally prefer induction to natural labour. I've had two and loved them. Each one was less than 24 hours from start to finish. The last one I got an epidural right away at 4cm and it was lush. I slept and chatted and snacked my labour away. I recovered so much better than from my all natural labour. I'm all for medical interventions. They're wonderful.

Having been induced and ending up with a c section because of failure to progress, I would make sure you're prepared for that being a possibility. As far as I am aware, suspected big baby isn't a reason alone to be induced according to NICE guidleines. Particularly as ultrasounds aren't as accurate the closer to your due date you go. I would maybe have a read of this article about the evidence: https://www.sarawickham.com/articles-2/induction-for-big-baby/

The other thing is trying to get baby in the best position for birth so maybe check out spinning babies and do some of the positions to make sure they're not back to back etc as its that kind of thing that will lower your chance of a vaginal delivery. In terms of inducing yourself before that date, my consultant always said the only things that work are sex and nipple stimulation. Eating dates is also supposed to soften your cervix.

It may be that your husband is aware of the risks if induction in terms of c section rates. It may also be that he's really scared about the process or about becoming a dad. Or it might be he is an idiot like everyone else in this thread thinks.

Bloody hell op. This is only the beginning of a lifetime of control. I hope you have a good support network! Is he this controlling in other areas of your life or just when you've been gestating and birthing his offspring?

Will he be taking that approach with baby, no medical interventions? What about vaccines?

He sounds awful. I'd be reciting a list of medical interventions he and his family have happily had - from fillings and pain relief to cancer treatment and bypass surgery. Whatever you know they've had, every last bit of it.

Assholes.

Be very very alert to any controlling behaviour once the baby is here, and good luck.

(I was induced at term on my first as they didn't want her growing any more, I never dilated and had a very relaxed section. She was 9lb 7oz with a head circumference on the 99.6th centile, she was too big to descend and they had to use forceps in the section to get her out.

Her sister was born by section at 39 weeks and weighed 9lb 10oz. She was transverse due to her size and again they struggled to get her out and had to do an additional vertical incision in my uterus.

Two very positive experiences and we're all here and well but I'm very very sceptical of the "you can't grow a baby too big for your body" natural birth bollocks, having grown two babies too big for my body.)

More concerning is will he be anti vaccination? Why are you with someone who rejects modern medicine?

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@Wrongsideofpennines it doesn't matter what his reasoning is, he doesn't get a vote.

Not his choice, not his body.

Anti medical interventions? He sounds fucking dangerously bonkers and selfish.

I bet your DH wouldn’t be so anti medical intervention if it was a consultant telling him that he needed it! As many other PPs have said… your body, your choice. It’s not ok that he is putting you under this pressure!

It is your body, how dare any one impose their preference on you, let alone give you a hard time on what you choose to do.

Do what works for you. Best for mum is best for baby. Sod your other half and best of luck your your bundle of joy x

Definitely in the your body, your say camp.

Have had 2 inductions, 2 different methods, both absolutely fine overall. Yes it’s a bit medicalised having a drip and monitoring but I could still get up move about, get on the birthing ball etc. I forgot about all the medical stuff in the moment and the team in the room seemed no different.

Your body your choice!

Forget the positive stories! You don’t need them, you need your DH and his family to butt out when it comes to choices about YOUR body!

I’d be worrying about any procedure your child might need in future too!

The day that men can birth babies is the day he is allowed an opinion.

I’m facing an induction imminently myself (gestational diabetes in my case) and while I’m worried about it, I know that it is very possibly mine and my baby’s safest option for the birth- the consultant and midwife wouldn’t recommend otherwise.

I am pissed off on your behalf that your husband is “furious” with you, how dare he attempt to make this birth which is a medical procedure you are undergoing about his own misguided beliefs surrounding medical intervention? What does he mean by that anyway? Would he discourage you from a c section if necessary? Forceps? How far does this go? Are vaccines a medical intervention? They do prevent life threatening diseases after all. Are inhalers allowed if your child was unfortunate enough to be asthmatic?

I would honestly be lining up a new birthing partner personally or going it alone. Im having my 3rd baby and have learnt the hard way a good, supportive birthing partner is important.

And tell him and his mother to go fuck themselves btw.

YOUR choice - you're the one who has to go through this!

I'm feeling very catty towards your MIL for this I'm afraid - she might need to watch her mouth if she wants to see plenty of this baby.

I think the same. Op, make sure you have another scan before being induced, your baby may not be as big as anticipated. What sort of size/weight are the medical team suggesting? People often have quite big babies easily.

When I was pregnant I was told it seemed my baby would be large. He was just over six and half pounds when born.

It is up to you, husband should keep his opinions to himself unless he knows a lot about the subject.

Are they religious or something? Your body, your choice. Tell them to go and do one.

Had an induction
Had a sweep
Neither worked and ended up with an emergency c-section.
If there hadn't been medical intervention both DC and I would have died.

It's your body and its up to you what your birth plan involves. Tell your 'D'H and MIL to piss off.

Your body, your decision.

How dare they??
😳😡

I bet he’s one of those men that grandly announces

‘we are pregnant’

’we aren’t having pain relief’

’we are breastfeeding’.

Makes me want to slap them with a chewed placenta.

As an obs anaesthetist they don't recommend inductions lightly. Recommend he Google shoulder dystocia complications if he wants to know why. Generally just ignore him. I'd strongly consider taking a female birthing partner as in not sure I would be able to tolerate him in labour if he's going to have opinions on your pain relief options etc too

no uterus no opinion!!!

he is a dick!

I have had one induction, was absolutely fine, much needed. Only person I listened too both time is my consultant! Not the husband who opinion is not important!