Any tips about having a baby please. I am young and scared.

[Fluffy00]

Hi. I'm new here. Has anyone ever given birth alone? I mean completely alone like with no midwife or anything? I'm young and expecting a baby which I think will be here very soon. I don't really want anyone else involved but I know it will be safer so if anyone has any tips that they can give me about anything to do with giving birth to a baby really it would be helpful because I don't know what to expect and I'm quite scared. Thank you to anyone who replies.

Eight years ago, my fifteen year old god daughter came to me to tell me she was pregnant. She was 38 weeks amd had told nobody, almost believing that if she did not acknowledge it, it was not happening.
I will be honest Fluffy, i did keep,thinking 'if only we had known, there may have been options'. But we did not, and in the 4 weeks between her telling me and both of us telling her mum (who was like me, shocked but supportive), there were tears, happiness, fear, sadness and anticipation.
My GD knew she was supported, she was just frightened, in denial.
She gave birth to a beautiful little girl at 41+4.

Everyone close to her gave their unstinting support and she decided to give the baby up fo adoption. for her this was the right decision.

She went on to go to uni, has a good career that she loves and is planning to get married next year.

There are lots of reactions, lots of emotions, lots of options for the future.
When you are woblling about telling your mum, just keep thinking 'this time next year' 😁

Hi Fluffy. I was thinking about you today and thought you might find this link useful www.babyboxco.com/baby-box-university/

It's a company that will send you a free box with baby bits in and the box has a mattress so baby can sleep in there too. You do a course online to qualify for it.

You've done really well today, you're an amaxing young lady and very brave.

Good luck telling your mum x

Hope all is well at the medical centre Fluffy. Tell your mum. She will be shocked but will ultimately support you I'm sure.

Fluffy, this must be so frightening for you, I hope you find an adult you trust to tell, having someone to hold your hand in labour might bring you comfort.
Well done for going to the medical centre, you're very brave. I hope all goes well with the birth.

Hope you're doing okay lovely xxx

Thank you every body. I've been at the hospital with my friend and been examined. I've had a scan and seen the baby. I am 40 weeks + 2. I've had a long talk with a midwife who has explained a lot to me and helped me put together a sort of birth plan. I've had a sweep and I've had an appointment made for the 8th March to be induced if the baby hasn't come by then. I told them that my mum knew and would be coming with me for the birth/induction. I'm at my friend's house now and we're waiting for her mum to come home. Thank you every one who has sent information and links I have been looking at them. I'm sorry if I've been writing the wrong things I can stop posting if I'm upsetting anyone. I know I sound stupid. I've had sex education at school but they don't tell you anything about giving birth to a baby that's why I have had so many questions. Also I'm so scared that a lot of my logic and things I do know have just gone out of my head so again I'm sorry for sounding so stupid. Trust me I would really give anything to not be genuine.

How did it go at the medical centre @Fluffy00 ? Are you still waiting to see your friends mum?

Oh sweetheart you're being very brave and doing all the right things, maybe if you can tell your friends mum she can tell your mum for you. I bet she will be more supportive than you think, she will just need to let the shock wear off!

Remember we’re all rooting for you. Hope it goes well with your mum.

Fluffy, huge well done for going to the hospital and getting checked over.
I hope it goes well telling your friends mum, Please do tell your mum tonight aswell if you can - if the sweep works you could have the baby as soon as tomorrow and you really need some family support.
You've been so brave, we're all here rooting for you.

X posts well done you. Maybe you can ask your friends mum to go and tell your mum on your behalf? Give her time to digest it all.
I’ll be thinking of you, I’m 32 weeks pregnant myself x

Fluffy, you are doing so well !
Please if you can let us know how it goes with your friends mum. I think a lot of us have you in our thoughts.

Don't apologise, you're not doing anything wrong. You did the right thing in reaching out to talk to someone about what's going on.

Women who are more than twice your age have exactly the same questions, and worries. Keep talking and asking questions here if it helps you.

Yes they said the sweep was the first thing they do to try and start the labour so I know this is really happening now. That's why I've agreed to talk to my friend's mum. I really still feel too scared to tell anyone but I think maybe getting her to speak to my mum might be a good idea.

Download some Apps too, there's loads of great ones with information and advice on what to expect etc and it won't show up in your search history or anything if you're worried about that.

Hey Fluffy :) well done for going to the hospital and being so brave. I had a sweep and they aren't very nice, so we'll done for coping with that too. Now you've had a sweep the labour could well start within 24 hours, that's how long they take if they work, so you really do need to tell your mum as soon as you can.

Really well done and good luck for later on x

That's great you got checked over and got your scan. You really are doing brilliantly for your age and I'm sure you are in shock yourself. You sound like a smart young woman.

Good luck with your friends mum it will give you relief ttelling her. It is a lot to go through all on your own. Hope she can chat to your mum for you if it helps 🌻😊x

Please, please, please keep posting! You've got many, MANY women on here rooting for you and sending our love, support, and advice. Almost every single thread around here gets one or two narky people; ignore them, they're not worth a second of your time and attention. Xxxx

Excellent Fluffy that's the basics of a birth plan, and hopefully things are going well with your mum.
During childbirth your body will just take over and you will have experienced staff helping you. And hopefully your mum too.
Don't worry about how you got here, no use crying over spilt milk, just look to the future and be excited!

Get yourself on YouTube and look at the positive birth company videos. Lots of great information.

Good luck tonight I’m sure you will get the support you need x

Oh, a good app to download right now is a contraction tracker. It works like a stopwatch, so you press the button at the start and end of each contraction and it logs how long they are and how far apart, that way you don't have to try to do maths or anything, and you will know what's happening a bit better. Sometimes it helps the doctors to see a log of what's happened too.

I would recommend you download it now so you don't have to fuss with it when labour starts x

Fluffy I really hope you are able to talk to your friends mum. Don't be afraid to come back on here to tell us if you start getting and pains or symptons/indications that labour is starting. Most of us have been through child birth and hopefully will be able to give you some help as well.

Well done Fluffy you're doing great. And please keep posting, and please let us know how it goes when you speak to your friends mum. We are all rooting for you x

Goodness. Thank heavens you posted and asked for advice yesterday. It must be such a shock for you to discover in one day that you are full term and to have already had a sweep.