Am I in labour?

[slithytove]

Third baby, 40+5, trying for a home vbac

Previous stillbirth and sections so this is my first 'normal' gestation and labour.

I had a sweep on Sunday and been losing bits of mucus plug ever since, no bloody show though.

I've been getting irregular contractions since midnight, sometimes 1 every 10 mins, sometimes 1 a minute. They take my breath away and I feel like I need to poo with each one. Also have a fair bit of back pain but this is pretty normal for me.

I am constipated and have terrible wind

Could this be labour? Should I take any paracetemol or Fybogel or anything? If I'm going to have a baby tm I'd really like to get some sleep and at the moment contractions are preventing that.

Congratulations! :)

Aww She is beautiful, a tiny little bundle of loveliness.

Thank you for the photo.

Congratulations. Thank you for letting us see a photo of Olivia - she is gorgeous!

DS has done well, he came over and stroked her immediately, and then went back to his new toys (baby doll and stroller). He has had lots of attention from all of us today, and kept coming over to see Livvy at his leisure rather than us forcing it. He is now in bed drifting off and I've had a well earned fish and chips.

I've had a lovely, tiring, slightly unbelievable day. Still feel shaky and weepy but ultimately so happy.

:)

Lovely lovely news! Well done that Tove!

Oh, you sound all blissed out, awww!

She's is gorgeous btw - I could not see your photos until today.
I bet your DS will be The Best Big Brother Ever

Sounds perfect. She looks perfect too :) Hope you are resting.

As for the 'toilet' issue, after DS1 i took lactulose and fibrogel but also my body decided not to go for a while, even when i needed to i would get to the loo and nothing would happen. My body just said 'ummm nooo' and that was that.

Ha, well today was rather far from perfect. Just need to look at my kids though to remember that at least they are no matter how crap all other people are

Livvy woke at 45 min intervals through the night for various things. She is still very mucusy cos she delivered so fast, so uncomfortable flat on her back, so we co slept. Fine by me but doesn't result in much sleep. That is less of a problem in itself, more of an issue was DH sighing every time Livvy woke him up (she has a very loud, quick squeal), and having the nerve to criticise me when I took too long to change one of her nappies while she cried ( lots of meconium, took 4 minutes, and I was changing it in the dark because he earlier complained about the light).

I got up with both kids at 7 to try and practice while I had mums help. Was interesting. Liv carried on feeding like this until about 11am (while DH napped, I thought I was being kind ) so not an easy start to the day. Thank god for ben and holly back to back episodes!

I managed to get a quick bath during DS's nap, as DH was willing to hold her. Shame I then came down to her screaming as he was too busy on fifa. we went through all of this with DS! why do I have to teach him how to parent again.

Anyway a few more incidents like this, add in my mum pissing me off left right and centre under the heading of being helpful, and baby blues well and truly kicked in. So mum has left for Spain, I fed and got DS to bed, while crying my guts out and then verbally kicked DH's ass. Have just woken up from a lovely 2 hour nap with Liv - she seems to sleep lots in the evenings so I thought I'd take advantage - to lots of apologies and promises of being better and making dinner. So we will see.

On the plus side, DS seems to be coping well, hopefully the same will apply tm without my mum here to give him extra attention.
Livvy passed all her paediatric checks without issue and seems less mucusy, plus feeding has started well if a tad painfully!
And I managed a wee in the toilet and a no. 2! debatable pleasures hey.

Still at least there were some positives to the day and we will try again tomorrow.

Love kids, husband and mother I could take or leave right now.

Mrsk, at least I don't need to ask if anyone else's parents make life harder under the heading of 'helping'! I can console myself ever so slightly that I know you have gone through the same issue and under much worse circumstances.

Can someone remind me not to piss my kids off in 25 years please.

You have my sympathies Slithy. My M&D are here 'helping' and i feel as tho my head is going to explode. In fact it sort of has - i have burst the blood vessels in my right eye and have broken out in cold sores :(

OMG Mrs K, how on earth has that happened?
And Slithy, I hope your husband ups his game!

Oh dear Slithy - I had the same with DS2, DH had "forgotten" how to deal with a tiny baby, apparently

And MrsK - you really really need to find a way to de-stress - those are both symptoms of a stressed out system (and please get your HV or GP to check your blood pressure)

Ah Slithy - sorry the people supposed to be helping have been making you sad.
At least one has gone now and the one left (Yes, I'm looking at you Mr slithy) can indeed pull his bloody weight. Fifa! fucking Fifa! I think you were amazingly restrained not to break his control pad over his head :)

Fab news about the loo visit, It's always such a relief after the first no2 :)

Take care X

Things are a bit better :)

Milk has arrived so Livvy is sleeping more. DH is behaving, and it seems that the other night was just an aberration. Let's hope so!

He was meant to have this week as holiday but his parents messed up the dates of their visit, so he is on holiday as of Wednesday. Meaning I have just spent my first few hours parenting 2 kids alone! And you know what, it was ok. We did breakfast together, but I managed to get DS napping AND fed on my own, without breaking either him or Liv! Haven't figured out how to feed myself or get to the loo yet, but it's early days.

So on the whole, still tired but happy. Registering Livvy on weds which will be nice :)

Though I've just realised fifa 15 is out on thurs....

Feck Fifa - 15 or any other number!!

Tell him to get his priorities in the right order.

Fifa… FFS

You will be fine looking after 2 small children, we all are because we have to. You learn, they learn and then they get a bit bigger. It does get better.
But do get your DH to pull his weight - your job currently is 24/7 with no protected rest breaks. Remind him of that when he comes home 'tired' from work. Tiredness is not a competition, but he may need to cut down on his gaming time...

DH is behaving Glad to hear it.

Get the rules in place if he's getting new Fifa - Once and ONLY once everything else is sorted - ds fed, watered, bathed and bed. You too but minus the bed part - I assume you can take yourself ;) Or whatever it is you need him to do - THEN he can have an hour or two.
Any sitting up half the night then whinging the next day or not pulling weight then the disc gets snapped - simple.
Can you tell I used to live with a gamer? Even made me wait in labour while he the dick went and played football.

Glad your milk is in and little Livvy is feeding well and sleeping better.

Of course you were ok, you had no choice so had to get on with it. I remember what it was like when I had ds2 and ds1 was 22 months - I was shitting myself wondering how I'd cope. ExH had to be back at work the day after I came home and I managed fine.
Of course, there's days when you can't put the baby down and the other child chooses that day to be a grump or demand your full attention but you find a way through. Cbeebies was a god send as was a craft box on a mat on the floor :) I'll give you a month or so and you won't remember what it was like with just one dc.

Food? Pah! it's overrated, stock up on cake - that'll keep you going and can be demolished in a minute.

Oh I don't really MN at weekends and have just seen this. Huge congratulations, I'm so pleased for you. The leap from one to two can be hardwork but also lots of fun, all the best xx

I mean to write DS is behaving! Ha, but DH is too! He got up with DS this morning so I could deal with Liv, came home early with food, and then played with DS all afternoon, did his dinner and bed, and is now doing my dinner :) long may it last!

We have agreed fifa time is limited to nights (and in fairness, DS is usually asleep by half seven) while I'm having bf snuggles.

With lunches, one of us is just going to make them in the morning while the other watches the kids. We will get there!

Plus of course, they are totally worth it. Olivia is just gorgeous, DS is so sweet with her, and she smells just brilliant!

Milk drunk!

She is blissed out! How very envious I am! checks ovaries sighs...guess I'll just have to live vicariously through all you young things..

Aww! Olivia is just gorgeous. I'm attempting to do a telepathic head sniffy thing, not really the sniff it's the suedey feel of the head that does it :)
I'm glad ds is behaving, along with dh :)

How very envious I am! Me too Cat, me too.
Remembers bastard AF got me this morning

The suedey biscuity thing is just lovely, I wish I could bottle it. Can't believe I already forgot what it was like with DS.