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What's the best advice you could give a new mum?

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VickyLouise · 31/07/2006 17:02

Hello everyone,
My best friend is having her first baby in a couple of months time and I want to make her a really nice book full of mum's tips for surviving your first child.
Does anyone have any pearls of wisdom that I could include?

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hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:03

It's not a rod for your back, it's a cuddle and a milky snooze

JessaJam · 31/07/2006 17:03

It's just a phase (well, a series of them)

and

www.mumsnet.com

hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:04

Anything you're worrying about now will be replaced with a bigger thing to worry about in a couple of weeks' time. So don't bother worrying - enjoy the stage you're at now.

sallystrawberry · 31/07/2006 17:05

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JessaJam · 31/07/2006 17:06

It's a baby, not a competition.

piglit · 31/07/2006 17:06

Everything is a phase. Especially the good bits.

It will get better.

Enjoy smelling their scrummy little heads - they'll soon lose that lovely baby smell.

hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:06

Get a proper sling, not one of those arsenosed shitey baby carrier jobbies.

JessaJam · 31/07/2006 17:07

Get a wrap sling.

Don't get an inflatable travel cot.

JessaJam · 31/07/2006 17:07

oh, hunker, great minds!

Tutter · 31/07/2006 17:07

put the books down

now

hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:07

Give her the numbers of the bfeeding support lines (NCT, ABM, LLL and BFN).

gothicmama · 31/07/2006 17:08

get a grobag
listen to yourself not others

hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:08

(JJ, my mind knows more sweary words than yours though )

hunkermunker · 31/07/2006 17:08

Nobody knows your baby better than you, but if someone who's had six says don't worry about something, probably do actually blinking well listen

piglit · 31/07/2006 17:09

If you want to cuddle your baby all day long then do it. Don't let anyone tell you that you'll spoil him/her.

dizzybint · 31/07/2006 17:25

sit down for a good couple of hours and read the info on kellymom.com

don't take your health visitor's advice as the be all and end all, some of them are not very up to date.

southeastastra · 31/07/2006 17:32

do it your way and don't let other people make you feel inadequate!

KathyMCMLXXII · 31/07/2006 17:34

Try swaddling.

rabbitrabbit · 31/07/2006 17:37

Love, cuddles and kisses do not spoil a child.
Put the books down and step away from the calpol [calpol]

rabbitrabbit · 31/07/2006 17:37

Love, cuddles and kisses do not spoil a child.
Put the books down and step away from the calpol

(I obviously need to sleep )

Christie · 31/07/2006 18:05

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SlightlyFamiliarPeachyClair · 31/07/2006 18:13

Iyt's what works for you that matters- forget the know it all's, you know what's best for your baby. And that's a relaxed Mummy and Daddy

katierocket · 31/07/2006 18:13

Sleep when you can and take it one day at a time.

Everything is just a phase and the difficult bits will pass.

You may not instantly bond with your baby so (if you don't) don't be freaked out by those dewy eyed new mums.

It is overall, fantastic.

RubyRioja · 31/07/2006 18:25

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trinityrhino · 31/07/2006 18:28

don't listen to anyone that tells you that you are spoiling you tiny baby
if you want to hold tyhem all the time then do it
enjoy that tiny sweet smeeling bundle of gorgeousness cause soon it'll get much biffer and slightly less sweet smelling and alot harder to keep up with

oh and sleep when they sleep , the housework can wait