To ask where the self rightoueus bf/ff thread has gone

[pigletmania]

It was here this morning, but not now.

MNHQ ate it all up.

ooh! did I miss something fun!!

No, it was horrible, ranting and linked to SIDS. Best composted and forgotten.

To room 101 where all the others go?

i got half way through before it imploded - awful personal attacks being made - although the op was seriously unpleasant, there's no denying.

Awwwww I was going to write another angry post at it, bah humbug

I hate those bf/ff debates they always erupt

OP was very angry within herself. She was looking for a fight. She said she had PND. Judging by her anger I would say she needs to get back to the gp and go on meds that help her manage the PND .

I agree bigbuttons and starting a thread like that is not going to help

The thing that got me about the thread is that 1) it was not based on anything factual and 2) the OP of course had a sob story to excuse her from her nastiness, not that she actually mentioned said sob story in the OP.

I read it and just rolled my eyes

People like that post for attention/effect and are best ignored imo

When you have something like pnd or infact any untreated depression you are unaware that your view is distorted. You cannot understand how you are making people mad. Depression can make people behave in very strange ways, ways that the depressed person thinks totally normal.

I know what did she want us to say, yes we fed our babies formula so therefore its poison and they will grow up to be thick and sick . We all know that bf is better for babies, but life is not that simple and everyone's situation is different. The post was doing nothing to promote bf.

I agree, the post was just an angry rant.

I'm sure I've seen the op around MNs before which makes me think that maybe there is something wrong with her at the moment.

If there is I really hope she gets help in real life.

Or maybe I've got it wrong as usual

Into nonbeing, which is to say, everything.

[hgrin]

What was the OP saying? I wish there could be a FF/BF chat without it all going crazy and people being awful to each other! I'm genuinely interested in why everyone choses to feed the way they do.

Me my brother, my DP and everyone else I know was FF. But I'm BF my DS. Don't know anyone that bf's except from baby cafe. Everytime it comes up in conversaton people get defensive and say they 'couldn't' breastfeed. My mum said she was exhausted, my brother slept better with formula and there is only 18 months between him and me so it was easier to FF me aswell which is perfectly acceptable. There is no way everyone i've come across 'can't' do it! and would like to hear actual reasons why people chose not to. I'm a young mum and don't come for a BF background.

I always wonder if MNHQ keep the deleted threads somewhere secret so they can read them and have a giggle (and I guess they'd refer back to old threads in the case of new deleted threads too?)

What does is matter Hiss? Maybe just maybe people are defensive as you put it because they are sick of having their parenting methods questioned when it doesnt actually matter to anyone but them and their family?

I hate ff/bf threads and only read them occasionally as they are generally incredibly dismissive, patronising and arrogant. This one was more overt in it's disdain for women who ff, but the general gist of her post was pretty much the same as every other woman who breastfeeds and starts a thread wanting to know why others didnt.

I do find it a little bit interesting that people are so fascinated with the parenting decisions of others, but not as much as I find it tedious.

'There is no way everyone i've come across 'can't' do it! and would like to hear actual reasons why people chose not to.'

Why, so you can be smug and superior?

Have a look at the teens threads, let yourself know what's coming whether you BF or FF. [hgrin]

Here we go again......

"There is no way everyone i've come across 'can't' do it! and would like to hear actual reasons why people chose not to"

Sadly for you, people aren't required to account for every act of parenting they undertake.

I'm sure there are some things you do with your DC that I wouldn't understand why. But I couldn't give the tiniest toss about why, too busy living my own life to want to know anything about yours.

'Here we go again......'

[hgrin] Eternal merry-go-round of doooooommm.