Hi. For those that have been giving me advice, just an update:
So, went to see friend yesterday. The plan was to meet in town but the weather was rubbish so she said to call in. Not a problem.
I will start by saying that I didn't bring up 'Busta Gonad' (thanks, blackandgreen 
). But that she started that conversation and it got heated.
From her perspective, she said that I'd 'set him up to fail', as most people who hadn't slept with someone from another race would bring it into question. She gave the example of her fiance having not slept with a white woman since before they met.
I tried explaining that it was his attitude, more than anything, that annoyed me; the prusumption, the statement out of the blue, when there was no mention of sex, etc. But according to her, if I want to make a proper go at any relationship then it's give and take 
What makes me laugh is that I've had r'ship with different races of men most of my life.. But that was her point.. I don't give people much of a chance
But I said I didn't understand her point! And the bloke was being a knob. She said, yes, he was but how could I expect guys not to say this sort of thing when things are 'new' to them.. never mind the disrespect of him hanging up after being called out!
She said, well the solution is obvious, if you won't 'allow' for people to accidently put their foot in it, or say something off the mark, then maybe you should find men within your race
She's engaged to a black man and has mixed raced kids, just for context. And when this man came on the scene, he wasn't that nice to her and it took him a while to bond with the kids. I spent hours consoling her and being there for her, as a friend should. And I told her, at the time, that she doesn't deserve to be treated that way, and she agreed and was going to call it a day. I even recall her saying that she was "done with black men", which I pulled her up about at the time!
I didn't hear from her for some weeks and then she'd mentioned that they were giving it another go as "he wouldn't let me go". I was shocked but I thought fine, whatever makes you happy.
But I said to her yesterday that I didn't think it was fine to expect me to behave in a manner you have, just because you're happy to. She took it that I meant being walked over, I didn't. I meant she's putting her standards onto me.
Anyway, I made my excuses and left. I've known her well over 40 years and we've only ever had one other argument (that I can recall) and it was about a man..but without sounding cheesy, we were like sisters.
The thing is, I know the way I deserve to be treated, so why should I have to stoop? And why should I accept any uncomfortable questions/statements thrown at me, at the expense of feeling out of my comfort zone, especially after one date?!
I feel quite sad, to be honest.