"I've never slept with a black woman before"

[Blackisblackisblack]

I'm looking for black perspective, please.

So, been single a while and had been talking to this guy, online.

Met up for coffee earlier today, and it went well. We both have a lot in common, work-wise, and we have adult children the same age (although I have a younger child as well).

We arranged to meet again tomorrow, and we've been talking/texting throughout today.

I've not long checked my phone and there's a message from him: "I've never slept with a black woman before."

So, wise black mumsnetters, do I let him know why I no longer wish to be involved or do I just cut him off?

I thought to cut him off, but my friend thinks that's harsh, since I've met him..

BlackandGreen, thanks!

Hello Just looking in again.
I'm sorry it's been such an awful week at the beginning of a new year. Friend wise, no matter how close you can be, sometimes they just don't see things the way we see them. As you say, give her some space and see how it goes. No point in going over it with her again.

I hope it's helped to post on here, and get some perspectives. Take care of yourself and head high ok? Catch up soon.

Oh wow, block and delete

@Honeyroar

You did well! He didn’t dump you, you’d properly told him off, quite rightly. He just tried to claw back some ground, but he didn’t. He knew you were going to dump him.

☝️ and youre well rid. Well done.

Block. No need for further dialogue, you barely know him.

& choose better friends because yours just doesn't get it and it seems she doesnt want to either. She's not a real friend.

Get rid of both racists.

& choose better friends because yours just doesn't get it and it seems she doesnt want to either.

Yes, I will choose better friends. I will make sure I haven't known them for 40 years before their true colours show...

He was clearly having a brain fart there. Block him.

He was clearly having a brain fart there. Block him.
Long gone!

@MoiraNotRuby 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Ah, so he's a racist and a gaslighter. Guess it's lucky he showed his true colours early on.

Onwards and upwards, OP.

He said he understood why I was angry, and asked if I still was. I obviously said yes and he then stated that he doesn't want to be with someone who was negative and angry and then he fkn hung up!!

I appreciate the thread has moved on, but this is totally a “you can’t dump me, because I dump you first! In your face!” style tantrum.

You weren’t planning on seeing him again, you aren’t the dumpee. He’s just trying to save face.

@Blackisblackisblack
Have just got recently to this website
But I hoped you cut this man off
You aren't some sort of novelty to be tried and then box ticked
You deserve better