December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

[Persnickety]

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

Welcome ilovecats and congratulations on your twin pregnancy.

DF and Persnickety sorry you are having a stressful time, and wishing you all the best too.

I am feeling a bit stressed today as I found a lump in my armpit. I've kind of been ignoring it, assuming it was pg-related or would go away, but DH pointed out this morning it's been about three weeks since I mentionned it. I've agreed I'll phone the docs tomorrow about it. I know the odds are it is nothing serious, but it's just another thing to worry about. Anyone got any experience of this? Sure I am worrying about nothing.

Have my booking visit on Weds to look forward to though - hoping m/f might listen for the heartbeat, although I don't think she did until after 16 weeks last time.

Er, that was supposed to read m/w not m/f...

hi wholelottalove, I know a lump in your armpit can be linked to infection. I've not had one but have had one in my groin which did eventually go and turned out to be nothing serious.

I think getting it looked at is a good idea but try not to worry.

lol squistle

persnickety she suggested Jennifer or Michael. Suprisingly sensible especially as she doesn't actually know anyone with either name (but personally I wouldn't pick either of them)

wholelottalove there's plenty of reasons for a lump, get it checked asap and hoepfully it'll put your mind to rest.

Welcome ilovecats, we have at least one other person on here expecting twins.

wholelottalove def phone and get it checked out, could just as easily be nothing. I found a lump about 8 years ago in my armpit, but it seemed to go up and down, hosp thought best thing to do would be to take it out (they thought it was more fluid than anything) but it vanished just before my op and it has never come back!

sorry brain bit mush to remember what I read on the other pages!

Had a lovely day yesterday, OH school had an open day, and the weather was gorgeous. He ended up refereeing an uner 5s football game - they were so cute! But he got absuive from the touchline and the kids were getting shouted at - got me raging, let them have fun grrrr... But the rest of the day was good

I am so up and down right now. My head is all over the place. Ex brought over papers today for a mediation appt at the court for contact, even though he is seeing ds1 and ds2 at the moment anyway.....Date is August but there is so much to address. I keep swinging from one to another. Dd still doesn't want to see him or speak to him but he's put her name on it too. He even got ds1's date of birth wrong on it.....

Trying to stay happy and focused as I know I'm being reasonable and doing what's best for the children by having slow build up contact but he refuses to address any concerns I have regarding the children while they're in his care. How can I try and sort anything while he won't communicate! He had the cheek to write on the form that I keep threatening to stop contact too which is a load of rubbish! I can't believe he is actually doing this, deluded, self absorbed child.

Totally denies all the abuse even though the children bloody remember is too! So we're all making it up/lying... My solicitor was really great at the appt last week and said the judge would want him to answer why dd doesn't want to see him and why he's even doing it considering I am the one making all the arrangements and trying to facilitate contact between dd and him. Today was the last straw though when he brought ds2 (3 years old) home soaked in wee. Wet pants, trousers, socks and trainers and had been a while by the looks of it. I'd upped it to 3 hours this time after 2 the time before but he's proven that he can't manage it so I'm speaking to my solicitor tomorrow about supervised contact as this just isn't working for the children and I'm concerned for their well being whilst with him.

Can't believe he's going to put the children through all this after everything he's already put them through either. Well, will have to see what my solicitor says but August is a while away yet and I'm not prepared to allow this with him anymore given his refusal to address my concerns (he ignored my text about the wetness and previous emails about the care) so we'll have to see about supervised contact or what the judge suggests in a couple of months time. He's just trying to bully me, I know this but I'm not letting him do it anymore. Last thing I need right now really, have enough stress to deal with without it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger I guess though.

Huge sigh....Sorry for the long rant but it feels better getting it down

Oh Jodie he sounds like a right ! Really hope you get things sorted soon as we all know none of us need the extra stress at the moment!

DF and Persnickety Sorry you guys are having such a tough time, hopefully it will all turn out great for both of you!

We were in Harrogate yesterday as for my mums 50th (in March) we got her and my dad a weekend in Harrogate, including the spa baths etc) it was a little windy but me, DP, DS, my sister and her DP had a lovely picnic in the Valley Gardens then met my mum, dad,, grandma and grandpa for afternoon tea at Betty's! It was sooooo tasty! Been to Trafford Centre today and got DS his first pair of sandals, so cute!!

Thanks for all your wonderful support ladies! Well, after sleeping on the sofa DP calmed down and half apologised for over-reacting! Slightly I think it is mainly due to not spending much (any) time as a couple as we have commented on it a lot! But we are so busy like you said, and DP was laid off so we haven't got the money either, and no childcare! So it's kind of hard! Going to have to try harder though!! DF If it was football disappointment then I would have flown off the handle in return, I hate football so will not stand for it affecting our relationship!!

And finally....I have completely forgotten who said what about the moron at work but I have been calmed somewhat! Am sitting down with my manager on Monday anyway so am just going to bring it up in that sort of informal setting. I'm hoping that will work to get it off my chest and also raise it initially incase it begins to escalate!

Hope everyone has had a wonderful weekend!

God I'm horrible to live with right now!! Totally blaming pg hormones of course Poor DH can't do right for doing wrong.

Anyone seen that episode of Friends when Rachel goes overdue and takes it out on Ross? That's me, bar the overdue bit of course. Note to self, must try harder - it's not all his fault after all.

Bah, just wrote a massive post and then my computer decided to configure updates and lost it grrr.

So I'll just quickly say emma2617 so glad your DP apologised. Hope you can get some couple time.

Jodie Poor you and poor DC. Sorry you are having to put up with this crap,it's unfair. You sound really strong and determined though, well done.

DH has just told me my bump looks massive! He's right, it seems to have become really pronounced overnight.
Been discussing names with him and DC all day, there isn't any we all like and only one that 3/4 like, it's going to be hard.
I bought some cheap cloth nappies yesterday, I know it's early but they really were a bargain.
DD has got really excited about them, she was looking for wraps with me online earlier, which lead to us all looking for other baby stuff, we need everything as we sold all our stuff last year when DH was adamant he didn't want a third. It was really lovely though and I'm so pleased the kids are excited even DS who is a bit about babies usually.

Rofl maxpower, overheard DH saying to his B/F yesterday, how thankfully I've been to ill to be narky this time round. Didn't realise I'd been a horror previously!

Morning all

Haven't been on for a few days and it's taken ages to read through all the posts.

Had a great day yesterday, DC's loved playing outside in the sun. Got a gorgeous ring from DH for our first anniversary.

Got a rediculasly early wake up call from DS at 5:30. He woke up DD not long after coz he was being so noisy so now i've got two tired and stroppy toddlers all day. At least DS will have a nap later on so it'll only be one stroppy toddler for a while. Think I preferred when he woke up at midnight for milk then slept til 7.

Happy Anniversary CrazyKat - Thats what I call a good start to the day!

It's looking set to be a hot day today (I suffer badly from pregnancy headaches and the heat makes it worse) but while its still coolish I've put a load of washing away, DS had tidied his room, breakfast is done, DH waved off at 7.30am, more washing in and meat out of tea. Having a quick break the back to it. DS does preschool on a Monday afternoon so it gives me a good chance on a morning to get a good start after the weekend!

What has everyone else got planned, just calls, emails, bill paying and houswork for me today.

Hi all

pers and df Im really sorry you're having such a frankly, shitty time - I really hope that everything is well for you, so you can begin to relax.

Hope everyone else is fine, DP and I argused all weekend, apparently Im a stroppy cow (well, whats new?)

Been up working since 6, DD has a horrid bug, she's got a temp and very sleepy. last night she was 39.7 and I couldnt give her any more calpol (so was sponging her down with tepid water) poor mite.

Have a good day guys, Im 16 + 5 now WOOOO

oh, re 16 week blood test - had my 16 week MW appt on Thursday, heard the baby heartbeat which was lovely, MW didnt take any bloods at 16weeks like she did when I had DD 3.5 years ago, as the nuchal test has taken its place...

so those of you, who didnt know (like me) that dont like having bloods done, if you had a nuchal, you dont have bloods done at 16 weeks.

morning all, not posted in a few days but i have (tried to ) keep up.

sorry you are going through this worry df and persnickety. fingers crossed your tests go ok.

wholelottalove i always get a lump under one arm in pg. its one of the early symptoms for me. i would get it checked out just in case though. im sure you will be fine.

13+5 today and still cant quite belive there is a baby in there! looked at loads of baby stuff on the weekend. im going to end up spending a fortune i can see it.

and we started the name debate, that is not going to be fun. we have complete oppositye taste in names.

morning

sorry for everyone going through different stressful situations. hope it is all resolved soon.

i am still feeling a little sicky in the mornings (13+4) but am gnerally really enjoying being pg now. i bought some very cute baby clothes at the weekend. i know it's early, but after the healthy scan i couldn't resist. DH was quite touched and kept smiling when he saw them - i think it is becoming real to him now.

has anyone felt the baby move yet? i think i felt a flutter the other day but it was only very light and for a second or two and hasn't happened since so i can't really tell.

got a busy day today working, but luckily as i work from home i don't have to make an effort with appearance, so can slob around in pjs while making phone calls, etc

Is anyone else struggling with depression or feeling blue? Lately I've been having bouts of feeling really really down. I just feel fat and uncomfortable and scared and miserable.

I hurt myself on Friday - pulled an abdominal muscle sitting up too quick and I think it's made me really scared about both holding onto the baby (history of miscarriages) and all the pain I can see ahead! My hips are playing up and SPD seems to be starting and I'm just feeling grotty and not sleeping at all well. Plus I'm now getting really scared about some birth possibilities (tearing, stitches, forceps, C-section, etc) whereas before I was totally fine.

Today I just feel like hiding under the duvet and I keep tearing up. DH didn't want to leave me this morning but he had to get to work.

I was in a foul mood yesterday. I think I probably spoiled DH's Father's Day. I was just plain grumpy most of the day. DD (7) has taken to violently wining about EVERYTHING and she was so getting on my nerves. And I was just depressed about this whole NT thing. Poor DH kept trying to be happy and cheery and enjoy his day and I was not happy company.

I have scheduled my CVS for Friday, which is also our wedding anniversary. So, should be a day full of mixed emotions.

Now, must remember to cancel my C&W one in case anyone else is anxiously waiting for an appointment there.

wholelottalove, definitely get that lump checked out. Better safe than sorry.

emma2617, glad you and DP got a chance to talk.

Hi all and thanks so much for your reassurances. The docs were fab this morning, receptionist booked me straight in and doctor checked lump out and said nothing to worry about - it is a harmless cyst which will probably go away on its own. She also checked my blood pressure and blood results as I've been so tired and I am anaemic. Not maddively, bloods 11.2 but dropped from 14.6 in Jan, so I will feel it. Had blood test with nurse (they found slot then and there - v impressed!) to see what they are now as my last blood test was about 6 weeks ago.

No iron pills prescribed yet, but I am going to start taking spa tone supplement and see if that perks me up.

Seems to have been a bit of a catalogue of things this pg with me...have had to stop taking antibiotics precribed for urine infection as well as they made me go funny.

I'm working at home this afternoon, but giving myself a little lunch break now with massive BLT sarnie.

japhrimel sorry you are feeling a bit down. Worry over m/c is understandable. I have felt down on and off, but a lot of it for me is hormones and tiredness. Is this your first baby, I can't remember? It is difficult when you are going into the unkown with the birth etc, and sometimes reading stories on MN and elsewhere can't help, but honestly, that bit where the baby crowns and you may tear or have episiotomy, although sounds horrendous, is only a tiny moment and a second later you will have your baby in your arms and it will be the most amazing, wonderful thing you have ever experienced. I am welling up thinking about it. Maybe you could make a list of your specific fears and talk them through with mw or on here? Pregnancy is gruelling and you need mothering from your partner/family/friends. There are lots of brill bits too, especially when you feel the baby moving regularly and hear the heartbeat. But come on here whenever when you are feeling down.

Also, if you are really feeling down/anxious a lot don't rule out antenatal depression. Hope you feel better soon.

JofieO sorry your ex is being an idiot and I hope you can get something sorted out soon.

Persnickety sorry your DD is playing up and adding to your stress. Hope the week doesn't drag too much for you and the CVS goes ok Fri.

Japhrimel Sorry to hear you're feeling so low, I was like that with DS but towards the end of the pregnancy. Like wholelottalove said, don't rule out ante-natal depression. I am convinced that had I addressed the situation earlier I either wouldn't have suffered post natal dfepression or at least suffered to a lesser extent!! I am on the look out for it this time!

I have been sleeping really badly. Mostly due to my DH's snoring but also a little bit of worry about the amnio including a frankly horrific dream about the consultant trying to stick the needle in me without scanning at the same time! Gotta laugh. I'm not actually that scared about the procedure, just the result.

Through all of this my sister has been going through a miscarriage; had she stayed pregnant she would have been due just weeks after me and it would have been so brilliant to do it together. Am hoping he is through the worst and we can both relax a bit at Glastonbury.

I am all ready to go and today and tomorrow are going to really drag. Can't wait though as it'll be a chance to chill out a bit and see some very good friends I don't get to see much.

Persnickety good luck for Friday

Thanks Wholelottalove and emma2617. Yes, it's my first so into the unknown.

With all my health issues, hypermobility, etc I knew pregnancy was going to be tough going, I guess I just hadn't thought about how long 9 months would feel! I'm really looking forward to when I can feel the baby as at the moment, I often don't feel pregnant (despite the big bump!), just really uncomfortable and tired.

I think I under-estimated how much I scared myself pulling the muscle last week. I'm also pretty stressed about a family wedding in a few weeks - there's no loo at the church (nearest one to use is 2 miles away!) and we don't know what the food is going to be - which is making me really stressed and DH isn't helping as much as I'd like as he's getting stressed that he's not going to get to enjoy his brother's wedding because of me. I just want it out of the way and done with now - I'm not looking forward to it at all which is tough when the family is really excited about it.

Japhrimel, I think all these concerns are perfectly normal and you are certainly not alone. When you read the pregnancy books and online baby sites, they paint this fluffy image of your "blooming" condition. This os pregnancy number 3 for me and I'm convinced that "blooming" is a euphamism for fat and miserable. I hate being pregnant. There is not about it that I enjoy. I miss my beer and my sushi. I fucking blood hate the headaches (which seem to have passed now thankfully, touch wood). I don't particular like being fat. My back hurts. My scar (from two previous sections) is begining to itch -- on the inside where I can't scratch it. Blooming my arse!

Shall I go on?

I do this because that cute little baby at the end is worth it.

sorry to hear so many people are having stressful times at the moment for one reason or another.

I have my scan tomorrow morning, so glad OH manages to get the morning off to come with me, I am so nervous. My mum (mum and dad are only ones who know I'm pg), was brilliant last night, she is normally very much of the, well if you have had a mmc then it is supposed to be etc, but it was all postive thoughts and if there is anything wrong with the scan, then they will be there for whatever I need.

Good luck with your scan! (not that you need it) Oh, and remember to ask for piccies. Also, I asked at mine if the could tell the sex, and he could. I only asked because someone on here mentioned they found out. So, if you want to know it's worth asking. (or looking carefully yourself if the sonographer won't tell you)

the boot literally fell off my car... fucking hell, its only 4 years old (Jodie - see my photos on face book)

does any one else want to add me on facebook?