December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

[Persnickety]

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

Morning All, Loads of chat since I last posted and a nice new thread!

Been up for ages tidying, did the living room and kitchen yesterday, working on the dining room and utility room today. The midwife told me she would prob be here for an hour and a half for booking in on Monday!

Told Dh about wanting a homebirth, had the expected reaction, he's dead against it, thinks I am mad and jeopardising mine and babies lives for the sake of a 4 minute journey to the hospital.
I can understand his reaction a bit, Ds stopped breathing a couple of hours after birth-scary, and then went jaundiced later that night due to problems with me being rhesus negative, so the hospital was a good place to be.
However there is no reason this should happen again except the rhesus thing but I am going to make sure I get the rhesus injection this time.
Probably won't be allowed to have HB anyway even if Dh comes round as am fat and clotty!

Dueling, sorry you are having such a stressful time, I hope the consultant can help to give you both some clarity. Thinking of you.

Sorry also for those with horrid exes to contend with, I can sympathise, though thankfully mine moved to another country so am finally rid of him.

LLKH congrats on scan news

Feeling like a frump, my skin and hair are awful at the moment and I am the size of a cow despite hardly eating anything. Having to get my Mum to do simple thing like cook a chicken for me are also making me feel pathetic, then I feel all guilty for moaning and apologise to the baby and get upset that it will be getting negative vibes from me.
Sorry for the moan, Dh is away again so have no-one else to whinge to.

Morning all, dp left me sleeping in today so I've just got up about 15 mins ago but I definitely needed it! Dc's playing the new mario game that we got them for the wii yesterday and loving it. Hmm, what to do today. I'm feeling really happy and a lot calmer about all the ex crap, what will be will be I guess and I just have to wait and try to sort things out. Long as the are safe and happy then all is good, and for the time being at least, they are.

Ah Forgot to say before (and can't remember if I said further up) I bought my doppler online about 7 years ago, it's like the ones the midwives use. Cost me about £140 including gel. You can get similar ones from ebay now a fair bit cheaper.

Slightly hope you enjoyed the thai food

OWO we had a friend of dd's over for dinner yesterday so the dcs all ate together and I didn't even bother with dinner, just had some crackers with cheese hehe.

mumatron I'm the same in that I wouldn't do anything further either if the nuchal results came back low, but I'm like to be in the position to know that the results are low; if you see what I mean. At least I could be prepared for anything that may or may not happen then.

wholelotta I've been craving ice lately, I think that's my iron levels low, hoping for results early next week

MrsSnap hope you manage to get some rest later. Mine have been up since 6ish too but thankfully dp got up with them!

Hope everyone's having a restful weekend! We ... are clearing out the house of clutter before the estate agents come and take photos. So far, we have half the garage done. Boxes and boxes of books from my former life, many of them warped and distorted from being stored in there for five years. I hope we move to a house with enough room for a library! (Fat chance.)

DS is doing all the heavy lifting. I've been feeling a bit crampy for the last 24 hours and have convinced myself that my nipples aren't as tender as they have been, but I think they do calm down at some point, and I know this is mostly just nerves before my scan on monday. A few of us are having them done on monday, aren't we? I'm on at 9.15!

As for nuchal scans, we're not having the measurements taken on monday and apparently, since it's now standard and free in our area, we have to tell them before they start not to take measurements! Hope I remember...

Hi all,

Nice to have a new thread- thanks Persnickety.

Well I finally have some energy back- wahey!!! Went to the gym this morning and did a workout- has been so long since I went that I was expecting a big announcement when I scanned my card in (e.g. like 'we've forgotten what you looked like'). Hopefully worked off some of the white bread and nutella that I have been scoffing (I never usually eat white bread or nutella but have had definite cravings). Am 12 weeks today and can't wait to see baby at Tuesday's scan.

Better go and tackle the cleaning and groceries- all a bit dull but has to be done!

Found out something important in mothercare today........ Blue denim dungarees and me not go! lol Did get a nice karki green pair though along with some other bits. Welcome to maternity clothes :D

lol that should be do not go! I wish these boards had an edit button! lol

notso hope you are able to discuss HB with your midwife and found out your options. I can understand your DH might be nervous given what happened last time, but maybe you can show him some stats etc about safety. The fact that you are 4 mins away from hospital is good IMO as you don't exactly have a long transfer if things go awry. I think, as long as there are no medical reasons why not, you shouldn't be browbeaten into having a hospital birth. The homebirth.org.uk site is quite good.

JodieO glad you had a nice lie in! I popped to see my friend and her toddler and newborn this morning and we had a slightly terrifying conversation about what hard work it is...

I am currently fuming with DH. He got caught speeding in what he says he thought was a 70mph duel carriageway. He was doing 86 and it was a 50. He has now had a summons for court and is looking at instant driving ban and fine of up to £1000. As he can't work if he can't drive and is self-employed we could be in deep crap with this, especially given I wanted to take as much mat leave as possible, contingent on saving and overpaying mortgage as I am main earner. I am really pissed off with him but trying to be supportive. Luckily he's just popped out so I am going to try and calm down before he gets back. Trying not to turn this into huge disaster in my head where the company he gets all his work from let him go (he's de facto emlpoyed but not, it's complicated) and I have to go abck to work after 5 minutes to keep a roof over our heads, but I am freaking out quite a bit.

Reshape are you moving far? My boobs and nipples have been on and off, mainly on lately! So sore still. I don't remember them hurting as much before so maybe this one will be different. Good luck for your scan on Monday, mine is on Wednesday.

Take things easy at the gym Emma, no idea how you have the energy, I don't at all. I'm still walking but running round after the kids is enough to make me feel tired at the moment hehe. Good luck for Tuesday.

Squistle Next sell some really nice maternity bits, I must admit that dungarees are not for me though!

Just got all the shopping done and bought cat food, discovered a really lovely cheese in Tesco. Extra mature farmhouse, Tesco one with green on the label, can't recall the name but it's lovely and I've already eaten a large slice on it's own! I love really mature cheese but it has to be vegetarian too.

just settling down with a decaff tea and the wii, having a nice quiet, relaxing weekend in with the kids.

I am miserable as I'm still feeling nauseous all the time and am very tired.

I want to bloom and feel wonderful!,

I'll be 14 weeks on Monday, can this sickness keep on going?

I'm knackered constantly too (seemingly anyway) and am 12 weeks today. I haven't felt sick much at all though. Few times since I found out but nothing much. Sympathies.

Thanks Jodie, I'm off to work now, not really in the mood though

Wholelotta oh no, thinking of you and hope the court doesn't come down too hard on the driving offence, maybe if you say you are pg and he can't work without driving it could be a mitigating circumstance?

Thanks for the info about itching Racey.

Sympathy and hugs to everyone who is stresed and feeling grotty.

Have been up since 6am cleaning flat and moving stuff out for viewings as it went on the market today and we had 3 viewings and the photographer round so it had to be dazzlingly clean and have all personal stuff hidden, fresh flowers, etc.

Almost everything I did involved bending, using abdominals or lifting. Feel ok but got very, very stressed about it, especially with DH as he basically spent the entire morning doing the garden, which he enjoys, whilst I cleaned, dusted,wiped, hoovered, mopped, polished, tidied to the nth degree and moved/removed furniture in the whole flat and did so at frantic speed to a deadline - we heard last night about viewings and the first one came over at 11.45am! SO STRESSFUL!

I have much more energy these days though which is great, although I keep getting a bit faint when I stand up after bending down. My combined blood/nuchal test came back with a 1 in 1493 risk which is great as I'll be 39 years and almost 11 months when baba is born.

I am doing too much though. I need to slow down.

JodieO - we're hoping to stay in this village, actually! Just need more space and ideally, an extra room so DH can work from home more. I'd like a craft room and a study of my own, but not sure that's happening...

Glad to hear someone else has fickle boobs! I can't really tell how much mine are growing as they were larger than normal when I got pregnant - I was still feeding DS. But they do feel tight in my regular bra now.

Does anyone else think their boobs are about to start leaking? My right boob seems to be producing a teeny bit of an oily substance . I'm only 13 weeks!

My nausea is easing, but isn't gone, but the tiredness is still an issue.

my boobs are sore one min and fine the next, but i am reliably informed by dp that they are def. much bigger. and apparently they weigh a fair bit more than they did before. no sign of leaking yet. can't remember when that usually starts tbh.

my cousin had her baby today 10 weeks early. got a bit emotional when her dp phoned. he was a really good size, 3lb 11oz. having some help breathing but it's just minimal help. expected to be unaided and out of incubator as early as tomorrow.

Hi All
Congrats on your pregnancies!
I am new to mumsnet and just trying to catch up on the December thread I am due Boxing day for my 1st so a little behind some of you.
My sickness eased off a few weeks ago but still can't handle certain smells and foods very tired still but that may be more to do with my DH watching Dexter (serial killer drama) every night in bed while I am trying to get to sleep
I have been very emotional and tend to overreact a bit so hoping the hormones will settle down soon. Anyone here from Cheshire area?

Welcome Seomum, Congratulations on your pregnancy, have you had any scans yet?

I'm feeling very emotional too and being a bit of a bitch stressed with my partner. I just feel like he's not being all that supportive to how sick and tired I feel.

I'm just hoping this will all get easier!

Who is going to find out the sex of their baby? I didn't want to, but now I think I'd like to be a bit more organised. Although I'm not sure I want to let other people know though

Japhrimel I read that you can start producing colostrum even at 13 weeks! perhaps you will be a champion breastfeeder?

Welcome SeoMum

Hi Ladies,

Persnickety thanks for the lovely new thread and the link to NICE

slightly yum, I had thai food today too, am glad that's not one thing I went off!

racey sorry you're having such a hard time, money is not really what any of us would want to be worrying about at the moment, so I hope things start looking better for you

miffster at you having to move house whilst pregnant, hope you don't push yourself too hard! x

emmaxmas I went for a swim last weekend too and doesn't it feel like you've stepped up a notch in combating the tiredness? I was scoffing nutella and bread last night too (after tea )

seomum welcome and congrats on your pregnancy too, I love Dexter as well (but sorry it makes you quesy), just also realised the existance of 6 feet under. Was watching that most of first trimester as I was too tired to do much else!

Have been swigging indigestion liquid all week like anything! But am getting more energy back which is a good thing, hope the rest of you are as well

Sorry if I missed anyone else out have a good weekend everyone!

Thanks no couldn't book me in till wed this week so have my first scan then only found out I was pregnant at 8 weeks so was late getting booked in.

My DH is bad for the tiredness he doesn't get it at all however has just bought me a spa day to enjoy with my Mum so in good books again!

I will be finding out what the sex is, many people prefer the surprise but I will be surprised at 20 weeks both me and DH are too impatient and can't wait to find out the sex

HI mumnerves
Thanks and nice to meet you all I actually love Dexter but not when I am trying to sleep my DH likes to watch DVD's to help him take his mind off work and get to sleep

Just trying to get up to speed with other December mums
@miffster good luck with moving house as @mumnerves says don't take on too much can be very tiring and stressful as you know
I hope everyone with tiredness and sickness starts to feel a bit better soon!

Hi duelling... So sorry that your results aren't giving you total re-assurance, but I think you are looking at it in a really healthy, positive way. The odds are still definately in your favour, definately! We have a 1 in 4 chance of the baby having a fatal condition due to genetic problems, but I still think that I've got a 75% chance of a healthy baby . I'm sure you'll make whatever decision is right for you about the amnio, but for what its worth I'm having an amnio next wednesday at just under 16 weeks. You dont need to wait until 20 weeks. I also had a CVS with my last pregnancy (at 12 weeks) so it depends how far on you are as to what you want to do. With both tests you get early indicative results with more complete results arriving about 2 or 3 weeks after the test. At least thats how is was for me.

We know very cleary what we are looking for and I know we would end the pregnancy if the baby had inherited the same genetic condition that affected my middle son. Its fatal and the baby would not even make it to term, so in a way its a clear decision (for us). However you can view an amnio as just another diagnostic test that can give you as much information as possible. It means you are fully armed with knowledge which can take some of the anxiety out of the next few months. But as has been said its a very personal choice and one I guess that depends on whether you are a person who needs clarity or someone who is happier letting events take their course.

Either way, your chances of a fully healthy baby are still fantastic . Good luck with your decision.

Evening all - definately did too much today -oops! Spent first half of morning tidying DD bedroom as she had friends round, friends arrived then cooked Spg Bol for 5 adults and 3 LO as well as fresh bread whilst simultaneously helping "the chaps" move the vintage caravan we are trying to restore (it currently doesn't have wheels) - they were lifting and I was moving the supports. Unfortunately had one of the supports fall on my right shoulder - not hurt just bruised and shocked - haven't seen DH move so fast in a while! Got to half 3 and body said stop so friends went home whilst I tried to dose on sofa for a bit. Absolutely wiped now and tomorrow I have to pack for new job in Portsmouth - not looking forward to being away from family in week during pregnancy but maybe will help me rest in the evenings.
Good luck to everyone who has scans next week - another 6 weeks to wait for next one unless new consultant decides they want to do another when I move. Hope you all have a good day tomorrow!
Seomum - welcome!

dueling hope your appointment went ok today, no advice as I have had no experience with it but just wanted to say thinking of you x

dueling how did today go?

mrssnap get your feet up mad woman!

welcome seomum