December 2010 - good-bye flat tummies (as if I had one... ha ha ha)

[Persnickety]

Right, I've done the honours. This is our new thread.

And don't forget the stats thread

Aaarrrgghhhhh. Jut found out that my MIL (who lives abroad) has booked to come and stay in the UK from my due date in mid December until January 1st!!!!! She is not staying with us but I feel like she will pop round and overstay her welcome

DuelingFanjo lol oh dear.. try having one who lives 1 street away and is awlays overstauing her welcome and forcing oppinions lol! poor kids got a lifetime to deal with it lol! and im having a home birth, which ive strictly said shes not aloud to but i gaurentee shes gona try lol! just think of it this way atleast shes going home again! lol keep smiling

Dueling, you could send her a list of things you've organised for her to do for you;

Go to Tesco's
Change nappies
make dinner
laundry
make lunch
ironing
make breakfast
pour your wine
vacuuming
scrub bath tub

I'm sure you can think of some more.

wishx Your "friend" is definitely not being very nice. Who gives a toss what other people think. Put those confy maternity jeans on whenever you think they will be comfortable that the ones you are wearing. I have been wearing maternity trousers for a while now. Some of them are a bit big. But I sit at a desk all day and they are so much more comfortable than tight ones. It is kind of funny being in that in between stage when you don't really look pregnant but your normal clothes are definitely uncomfortable.

Bloody Hell, I wish I was 18. Then I wouldn't have to freak out over this nuchal result, which I am really trying not to worry about but not really succeeding.

thing is, I don't want her to do all those things I really don't. I don't want anyone in my house doing housework and cooking apart from me and my husband. I can cope with short visits but not people 'making themselves useful'.

I need some time to process this info I am sure it will be ok but I just want calm.

Are you sure? Even when you are exhausted from new baby and can hardly see straight, you don't want some help round the house? Now, I don't know your MIL, but I would welcome someone to come round and do a bit of grunt work so I could hang out with gorgeous new baby and ignore the rest of the world... especially if you have a section. But, actually, even if you don't, I understand the recovery can be really painfull. Anyone told you about that ring people sit up after their fanjo has been ripped apart? That can't be fun. Ouch. It hurts just thinking about it.

not me. To be honest I live in organised chaos, I don't have a housework routine I just clean when it looks a bit messy or unhygenic. We don't have a show home so having someone come in and do stuff to the house would just be awful.

Also - in my world if work needs doing and I can't do it then I think my DH should do it, not his mother or my mother.

not me. To be honest I live in organised chaos, I don't have a housework routine I just clean when it looks a bit messy or unhygenic. We don't have a show home so having someone come in and do stuff to the house would just be awful.

Also - in my world if work needs doing and I can't do it then I think my DH should do it, not his mother or my mother.

DuelingFango yeah i know what you mean, it is difficult when your plans change n u definatly dont want them to change in that way - especially if people have just invited themselves without thinking of what you want first. I know it will be difficult but just grin and bare it and before you know it she will be gone again just find excuses to disapear with your new son or daughter and husband for the day to get out of her hair, lol or just say you are really tired on days when u just cant handle her and say you really dont want anyone pottering around the house etc.

and Persnickety thank you lol - yeah ur right its that weridness of being in between lol!! its so good to be able to speak to other people in the same place as i am! and i will do - i find myslef in loadsa maxi dresses at the min cos the flow so much and arnt restricting lol!

Honestly you will feel so much better when your baby is here, like someone said earlier see it as a 99% chance of having a completley healthy bundle of joy instead (maybe it was u who said it lol) - ill be honest i chickened out, i know i have a really really low chance because of my age but i didnt even want to know the sats cos i knew they would play on my mind and i would be saying "yeah but what if im that 1 in whatever 100s or 1000s, my luck is awful!" lol so i just refused it all :/ lol good luck tho and i hope you get the outcome your wishing for

ok, DF, I see we are not alike in this respect. Is it that you don't want a meddling MIL around or you generally don't want anyone around? Did you know she was booking this visit before she booked it? How does DH feel?

basically the plan alays as that she would be coming over as it's her birthday around my due date. Originally, before I got pregnant, we were all going to fly out to stay with her. What I didn't realise was she would be here so long .

Maybe I am over-worrying, she might not want to spend much time with us.

Hey all, im in a terrible grump today (poor DP)

hope you're all well x

well i had my scan yesterday so thought i would just post and say how wonderful it was. the baby was wriggling and moving around and i could see its arms and legs so clearly.
i actually kept laughing just becuase it was so lovely to see it! my EDD was brought forward 4 days to 23 dec.
the only slightly wierd / not nice thing was the sonographer couldn't get it in the right position to take the measuremeants and so repeatedly HIT my belly with the scanner not only was it uncomfortable, but i could see the baby on the screen being whacked around.
today my tummy is quite sore so i hope it is all ok.
had very vivid dreams about the baby last night and now can't wait for the next scan when my DH will be able to come.
some of you have mentioned bumps and maternity wear. my little bump tends to grow throughout the day so it is quite noticeable at night but not so much in the morning. i have bought some maternity jeans because my normal ones don't do up any more (i am 13+1) and am wearing leggings. i think its easier in the summer with floaty tops, etc, and it will be easy to buy relatively little until the later stages.

DuelingFanjo - have you seen the thread in Pregnancy on visitors after the birth? I think you need to be strict and to sort out with your OH what the rules will be as soon as possible so that everyone is clear. E.g. if you don't want anyone round for the first 5 days, stick to that and don't make exceptions. Or say you need notice of visits (no popping round unannounced!) and that they're to be limited to 2 hours only and you reserve the right to kick everyone out if you're tired/need to breastfeed (or whatever works for you).

I think we're going to say no visitors for the first few days, but I know that our families are really helpful and won't be offended if I kick them out! I'm used to my Mum helping in the house as I was sick/disabled for ages and although it drives me mad sometimes it is a great help. I'm actually wondering whether having my Mum and MIL around might be helpful with breastfeeding, etc (after all they've got 6 kids between them, all breastfed) but I want to make sure DH and I have the space to learn how to do everything ourselves.

What I am going to stick to is no overnight visitors until DH goes back to work and only then Mum & Dad if I need some help, and a rule of I don't do any entertaining (no making them tea, etc). My Dad and PIL are very low stress people which helps.

i meant to ask - the nuchal scan measurement was 1.5 - does anyone know what this signifies?

RaceyLacey they all helped to some extent for heartburn, I don't think I would cope with the Gaviscon but since it was so bad I was prepared to give it a go. Ice lollies seemed to be the best, esp milk maids.

DF there was a discussion yesterday in the pg section on visitors. - oh just noticed it's been mentioned.

wishx unfortunately it seems that once the world knows you are pg you are public property, and people can say whatever they want, no matter now cruel, scary etc it is.

chloesbaby glad scan went well, sometimes I think esp medical they are so focused on getting the result they want they forget their is a person there.

I've been trying not to think too much about the future as still haven't had scan, but this afternoon I was potting on some pumpkins, and I was thinking, "oh it'll be so nice, if this time next year I am potting on a pumpkin for my little pumpkin to have at Halloween :D"

They managed to get blood from me today, yay. Nuchal fold was higher today so I'm awaiting my blood test results. They said I'd hear within a week by letter if all is ok, otherwise I'd get a phonecall in a few days.

Sonographer was lovely and answered lots of questions about the position of the baby and general observations, lovely, lovely woman who was more than happy to explain everything to us.

Baby was very lively and active, took a while to get the measurements as it wouldn't keep still long enough!

Still feeling really happy today and less stressed. I actually feel like a different person! Hope everyone's having a good day.

Oh JodieO- so glad youre feeling happier, youve had a rough couple of weeks by the sound of things.

*DuelingFanjo" - sounds like a pain but if youre firm right from the off (ie sooner rather than later, and definitely sooner than the baby is born) about needing and wanting space, that should help.

Onlywantsone Hope you're feeling a bit more cheerful tonight, if not, roll with the grump and start tomorrow new.

Chloesbaby Glad your scan went well (apart from the being smacked about!). Bubs was the same at the last scan so I was on this side, then that whilst being prodded (complete with full bladder) not much fun! It'll be lovely for you DH being there next time x

Sorry if I've missed anyone out- this thread is so fast!! Sometime I think its a shame there isn't a chatroom for each antenatal group so we can really natter and have a fighting chance of keeping up without scrolling up and down and getting confused lol!

As for me, I'm having a good day. I'm 15+2 today and feel pretty good, also have a really noticeable bump! More so than when I had DS but I figure everything is prestretched ready this time lol (Hoping that means so cross-stitching of my nethers too!).

Evening ladies! Sorry I've not had chance to catch up, i am so tired, DS is ill...again! Had to pick him up from nursery, turns out he has an ear infection. DP is out watching fooball so when we were out of milk and DS woke up at 8 I had no choice but to go to ASDA...I felt horrible,I hate people who have babies out late!!

Also, can I have your opinion on something?!?! When I was on the phone to nursery my screen in work flashed (we have an internal instant messaging thing!) and it was one of the guys saying "guess who's going home again, sick kid" he obviously clicked on my name cos he was talking about me, he then tried to make it into a joke then had a forced conversation with me about nursery policy because "it seems like they send them home for anything" his bloody temperature was 39.2!! I am fuming, just want to know if yuo think I should raise it with my manager on Monday or whether I should just leave it? The fact is I have a statutory right to time off if my child is sick, and at the moment I am using my holidays so in actual fact I am not having any more time off than anyone else in work. Let me know if you think I am flying off the handle for no reason?!?!

Hope you are all okay and those little babas are growing nicely!

Hi all, hoping you don't mind me joining you here. I'm expecting no. 3 on 2nd December. Already have 2 little DD's. 3.11 and 1.10yrs. Am currently 16+1 with this little one and feeling absolutely SHATTERED still !!! (Don't suppose it helps being on here at this time, rather than being in bed!!).

Good luck everyone with the pregnancies !

gosh Emma, that's horrible.

Do you think your boss would be sympathetic and did you save the conversation? I would report it if you think your boss would be willing to have a word with him.

Emma, I wouldn't raise it in a formal way cause that makes it awkward and you never know how people are goig to react. I would just seize every opportunity I could to call him a part timer. And if he is the sort who lets who wife to all the childcare I'd call him a part-time parent too (if he has kids).

And if he ever has a day off sick, I'd crack some man flu jokes at his expense.

I personally think sarcasm keeps the mood light but gets the point across. Make him raise his game if he's going to try and intimidate you with schoolboy tactics.

Thanks ladies....although I am still angry I think I will do as you said DF and just have a quiet word with my manager, don;t want to raise it formally. persnickety unfortunately I am currently th eonly one at work with children so it is only ever me that has to leave!

Well had my previous rant completely trumped....DP just got in from the football and we had a massive row, it has been building for weeks to be honest. And he has basically said he is leaving me and moving out, I am so scared, angry and upset.

Oh emma, that is terrible. I hope you guys work things out.

And that is difficult being the only one with children at work. My work is rather the opposite. My boss spends one day a week looking after his grandchildren and lots of people work part time in the form of three days or just school hours.

But, on the other hand, if you are the only one then the company really would be wise to make sure you do not suffer any discrimination. (although I don't think one guys rude comments really qualify for discrimination).

I remember when I was pregnant with my first baby and some guy at work pretty much implied to me that I wasnb't coming back and I didn't know what I was saying when I said I was. It was like my pretty little head couldn't really make such decisions. It really made me made. And almost 8 years on I can still remember the conversation like it was yesterday.

Thanks Nicki feeling like this makes such a difference, just hope it continues.

Emma that's awful, I'd bring it up with your manager personally. What a cheek! I wouldn't bother using holiday time for it either anymore if some are going to act like that. I wouldn't be able to stop myself from having a go at the stupid bloke that said it either, bloody cheek. Just read about your row with dp, so sorry to hear that. How are you feeling? Have you had a chance to talk yet?

shocknews welcome

Lovely and sunny here this morning, trying to figure out what to do today, I hate sitting about not doing anything.

Oh Emma, I hope you and DP are ok. Maybe it was just the disappointment about the Football?

My work is full of people with children but one of my male 'friends' is so rude. Apart from calling me fatty he also goes on and on about how I just got pregnant so I could have 'time off'. Luckily when he said it last time I was sat with several women with kids who scoffed at him for thinking having kids was time off.

Morning Jodie. I am off into town for some last minute Glastonbury shopping Woke up feeling a bit sick but think it's just lack of sleep.