The Wagon Round 2: wonder how many will fall off this time?

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New Threaad Wagoners!

My new bloke is amazing!!!!!! He is just lovely and fabulous. Is it obvious im love sick?? He is welsh but lives here. He has his own house which he is doing up so its like a building site at the minute.

The boys are fine. DS1 starts school well nursery on the 14th Sept. He has a little uniform and everything. DS2 is so adorable, he loves cuddles which DS1 really doesn't do.

Things with X are ok, MIL still does my bloody head in though but I never thought it would change. Getting divorced soon which I am weirdly looking forward too.

How are you, DH and the DCs?

Hello I'm lurking! Not feeling great. I fell down the stairs yesterday (on my huge backside) but think I also jarred my back and hit my head. I've had a bad headache today - quite migraine like. At one point I was driving along a dual carriageway and just felt like I needed to close my eyes and go to sleep so I pulled over and bought some water and paracetamol.

Kay - great to have you back, even if it is likely to be in 5 week stints Do spill more about your new bloke! How did you meet?

Cant - v informative

Diege - I reckon WFH is impossible with just DS so I'm v impressed at trying with 4DC!!

Giraffe - sorry you've had a bout of illness. Hope you're soon back to 100%!

MMM - your group sounds great and lovely to meet another mum who lives so close.

Great shopping as ever! On my shoe shopping trip yesterday, I managed to get the most perfect shoes to go with his dungarees for the wedding - brown with pale blue detail. Only problem was the price - £40!! They're v v nice the next size up though and should last him a few months at least!

Oh Ses, you poor thing!!

We met in the pub lol. We both really liked each other but it took a week before we spoke to each other as we were really shy. Then he just spoke to me on facebook one night and we really hit it off.

Sounds lovely Kay! How has XH and MIL reacted? Is it all working out ok with DSs seeing XH? Can't be easy but I hope it's not difficult IYKWIM.

Not too bad but XH has no leg to stand on as he had a new DP within about a month who is due to give birth any day now. Apparently not his though.

DSs stay every other weekend, they go tomorrow which means I can have 2 lie ins!!!

Well I hope in the long run it all works out for the best for all of you :)
Yay for lie-ins!! Don't know the last time I had a proper lie-in!

morning... been up since 6am... woke up and decided i might go shopping with mum & MMM today after saying i had housework to do... so thought if i cracked on before DC's got up i'd get more done- and ring ti was- living room is sparkiling- kitchen is gleaming, washing all folded and ready to go in bedrooms once they're all up, have another load ready to go into the dryer as soon as they're up too... all i need to do is have a wizz round the bathroom and hoover... wuhoo!!

Morning all. Sorry it has been ages since I last came on and the following post is really going to be all about ME... But need some thoughts about what you would do...

Ok so you all know about my 6 year plan.. The end would see me in my Dream Job, which really is my Dream job. However I am really loving my current job. I am getting really good feedback from the office and our clients. And Yesterday the owner of the company took the time to tell me that she did the same round as me yesterday (I had done it the night before) and everyone reported how lovely I was, how I put them at ease and how well I did the job... I was so chuffed.. She also said the way I filled out the care plans was accurate precise and well written...

I look forward to going to work and meeting the people I care for. I love the way the 26 year old with MD face lights up when we walk in and how we can fall straight in to football banter while doing the most private care. The way we joke how about how many times we are going to wipe his bum once we have hoisted him to the toilet.

I love the fact I give some old people company in what would be a very lonely day. The endless chatter about the war and "in my day"..

I love helping the ladies and gentlemen with cancer to fulfill a normal life. Helping others to maintain some dignity and normality in the final days

I love the fact that my actions are having a positive effect on the people I care for but most of all I love the effect these people are having on me... I feel that I am a better person and for the first time (career wise) I feel fulfilled..

So now I am worried that while striking to archive me dream job and using this one as a stepping stone, that I have actually overlooked my Vocation...

I will never have the job prospects or the money that a trained midwife would have if I did stay in Care... Which would mean that dp would always have to work ft and i could only ever work pt. Is this enough????

Morning! I have a huge purple bruise come out in my butt crack this morning - ouch (and sorry for that image!)

Had to respond to Bumps...
Being a carer is a vocation. The people that are rubbish at being a carer generally have no inkling of this. Sounds like you have found something that fulfills you and that you give a lot to and make a difference.
If you decide that this is your vocation, it is not unfair at all and it could end up benefitting your family if you and DP find a way to make it work together and you continue to find fulfilment from it.
You could even decide to stick with it for the moment and if at any point in the future you could go back to the MW.

One of my best friends is a quadraplegic and he has carers visit on a daily basis. The quality of, not only the care but the ability to build appropriate rapport and behave with respect in someone elses home whilst helping with often v intimate tasks, is so important and can make a huge difference to his day.
It is such a vital and important role and the more people like you that do it, the better respect carers will earn for the wonderful job they do.

I'll get off my high horse now!!

Morning. Just a quick note to Bumps, to echo what Ses has said. Is great that you have a plan, but fantastic that you are enjoying what you do so much. As Ses says, there is nothing stopping you from continuing with the Care work, getting your NVQs and seeing what you feel in a few years time. It does sound like you have found your vocation, but there's no need to decide now what you will do in 6 years' time. They will always be looking for people to train as midwives, whatever age you are.

Really glad, it sounds like it is going fantastically for you.

Ses - fall sounds bad. If pains continue, I would really suggest going to see an osteopath, as IMHO knocks to the back and head can cause small niggles that continue to cause a lot of pain and what you experienced on the road yesterday does not sound good. If you get an episode like that again, I would definitely go to GP.

Morning

Sorry for big bruise Ses- sounds agonising. Hope you arent damaged elsewhere!

Bumps- your post was really moving. Its great to hear someone so enthused about their work :) How long were you going to do the Care for within the 6 year plan? if its for more than a few months or so why not stick with the plan and see how it goes? You might feel differently in a few months. You can always stick with the Care work later on. Also, the skills you are learning now are key skills in midwifery IMHO... Not sure that helps.

I wouldnt let the issue of your DP having to work full time be an influence on your decisions at this stage.

Cant- thanks for post about the insemin. really interesting.

Hi Tink and everyone else.

All better here- thank goodness. :) Just as well as DH is 40 this weekend and we are having a party!!!

Can't - forgot to say, your energy around housework continues to amaze me. That said, I wish my two would stay asleep beyond 6, so that if I did get up at 6, I could get housework done while they slept.

However, DD did sleep through last night!! Wuhoo. First time in a few weeks (although no milk during night for at least a month now). I really think I just need to leave DH to it, as he always results in success. I was away with work on Weds night (incidentally, I hate being away from them) and DH was up to her 3 times, but I think he is just very calm and doesn't pick her up, so she just decides the next night that it isn't worth waking. This morning when she woke at 6.20 and I went in, she had all her toys round her, her water cup next to her and had pulled her musical toy for music before actually calling out to us That's the kind of happy waking I used to get with DS and could really get used to with DD too

morning

ses - poor u

bump - sounds great

off to postoffice to take back a package
then friends later looks very dark here like it is going to rain

ye for boden and next bits ladies

cant - sounds very intersting

Hello! That does sound paonful SES - hope you're ok, and that it doesn't scupper this month's gof-fing
Hi TINKS, CANT ;GIRAFFE, enjoy the party!,STAR - excellent news of sleep-front!
Must dash, Dcs taking over the asylum...

hi diege

Can anyone help with this please?

Morning! Not sure I can offer much advice KAYZ other than the 'it's a passing phases' comment that no doubt you'll get on your other thread. Would a shower be an option? Is he worried about shampoo getting in his eyes etc? (my lot used to put their swimming goggles on) I think MMM had a similar problem wit her ds quite recently,so may be able to help when next on? Oh and meant to say all sounds very exciting with new man - so (being nosey) is xp staying with the woman who is pregnant even though it's 'not his baby'??? Bet that shut MIL up
Hopefully a quiet one here this weekend, though lots of work to catch up on. Sun has just disappeared and feels quite autumnal.. Hope everyone is well x

Diege, xp is living with his mum at the moment. He did say about living with his new partner but he wouldn't be able to have the boys overnight so I said that I didn't think it was fair on them.

I hope it is a phase with DS2 and the bath but its been going on since he was born so I'm not sure.

hi diege and kay
have comment on other thread kay

OMG!!! My DPs SIL is pregnant and I am fecking jealous and broody!!! Someone slap me and talk to me about stretchmarks, labour, night feeding, sick everywhere please????

Kay - I can slap you if you want but what you are feeling is completely normal (well in my world!)
Re bath, I'm sure it will get easier at some point, but stick with it and try and make it as fun as you can. We had similar problems a couple of weeks ago and fortunately a bath book seems to keep him occupied now.

Star - hope DD's great sleeping has continued!

Giraffe - hope you're all having a great weekend for Dh's birthday :)

Hello tink, Diege, MMM, Cant and anyone else around - Sorky, Moosy, Rugby, Bumps and everyone else :)

My bumps and bruises are doing better. Still got a purple bum but my headache finally went this morning after taking some Syndol :) Thanks for all your get better vibes - I'm sure that helped too :)

Morning,

I'm not that broody this morning but DP did broach the subject of babies last night as he would like one in a few years but wasn't sure if I'd want anymore. So I told him I would love another one when DS2 is at school. So looks like I'm going to be on the wagon for a while.

My house needs a good clean while the boys are away so I am going to write a list on here so I can't get out of cleaning.

Here goes:

Wash bedding - In machine
Wash Uniform
Wash up
Tidy away toys
Hoover
Dust
Clean pen off TV(thanks DS1)
Clean windows if I have time.

I need to get it all done before going to Mums at 3. Oh and I need to try and fit in breakfast and lunch.

good luck kay
another one sounds good in a few years

have good days ladies

off to my mums

Wash bedding - Hanging in garden
Wash Uniform - In machine
Wash up - Done
Tidy away toys - Doing
Hoover
Dust
Clean pen off TV(thanks DS1)
Clean windows if I have time.

Why do my boys have so many toys??? I am going to get rid of loads of them as they have loads they haven't played with in years.