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November 2010 - From Flump to Bump!

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hmmSleep · 26/05/2010 09:18

This is the new discussion thread .
Stats thread here

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rollerbaby · 29/05/2010 09:43

llandb sounds like it went as well as can be expected and well done you for getting through it. Hope you've got lots of things to take your mind off it all this weekend.

Bunnygirl I think you're probably right - we'll need to concentrate hard not to laugh throughout... it sounds daft but anythings worth a try I reckon!

JFly your doula sounds fab... Ours is going to do the birth bit and then my mum can take over from there I hope. My mum's not a great cook though and I can see me taking over!!!

mumcha · 29/05/2010 09:47

morning all ,well i have been awake from 7 this morning with ds1 ,waiting on the postman as he finds out today which secondary school he will be starting in sepptember.Trust this saturday to be the first saturday he hasnt been here before 9 .

Kyuri · 29/05/2010 10:52

Just back from our first NCT nearly new sale, hadn't intended on buying anything just wanted to look for ideas. Came away with a maternity pillow for £4 though which I thought was pretty good!

In other news, I was lying in bed last night and baby kicked a couple of times so decided to watch my tummy .... and I saw it move with a couple of the kicks! Totally amazing !

Great to hear that the CVS went ok llandb keeping e'thing crossed for the results.

CardiCorgi thanks for the cheese advice! The closer I get to the holiday the more I'm talking myself into it being ok.

Sorry to hear about the rash gaga sounds like a real pain - literally. Hope it improves soon.

jfly I am v jealous of your doula. Slowly working up the courage to suggest to DH. I don't have family here and wouldn't want my MiL attending so feel some female input would be v helpful. I'm hoping for a home birth too (waves to honeymoo) so not sure how it would work having 2 midwives and a doula. MW home visit planned for July time so might wait and see how they react to the doula question before going further.

Hope you all enjoy the long weekend!

cluelessnchaos · 29/05/2010 11:13

oooh good luck mumcha, hope you have heard by now and its good news.

smokeybacon · 29/05/2010 19:22

jfly thanks for the doula post. I do love the sounds of being looked after post birth and am torn between this aspect and having someone specifically in to get the babies in some form of routine. How much stuff did the doula do baby wise?

mumcha hope you have had the news you want

landb keeping everything crossed for your results

mumcha · 29/05/2010 23:18

h i all well i have 1 very happy son who got into the school he wanted ,tho it feels a bit weird my oldest going 2 big school and me having another baby .Hope every1 is keeping well.Tonight my dp took me for a meal and 2 watch sex and the city2 ,and it was the most uncomfortable 2 hrs as my lo was kicking right under the ribs and the seats were really hard lol.

llandb · 30/05/2010 01:23

Ooh finally got around to catching up on thread. Taken me all afternoon on and off to do it! And it's turned into a novella because of trying to catch up on nine pages.

addicted belated congrats on your baby sis!

smokeyand JFly I knew someone had recently had CVS here but preggers brain hadn't filed the details - it was both of you! (and have I missed anyone else recently)? Blimey JFly, your 1/5 makes me feel like a drama queen getting a CVS with your 1/5, and smokey, I didn't spot what your odds or reason was - but glad it all turned out well for both of you!

bunnygirl the full results for all chromosomes (free on NHS) are in two weeks. Hope they tell us the flavour. If a trisomy came up and we did decide to terminate (DP and I are leaning in different directions over this ) then I don't think I'd want to know the gender, though. We also decided to pay the 89 quid for a private rapid result for trisomies 21, 18 and 13. Usually three working days at this hospital, but what with the weekend and the bank holiday, apparently we find out on Wednesday. Sooner would have been good (especially at that price) but at least it's before PIL arrive on Thursday. I took my credit card to the appointment but apparently they'll invoice us.

Smokey good luck getting the faintness investigated.

I guess I shouldn't bad-mouth my MIL as I can see from the life she's led and the justifications she's had to make to herself (so's not to feel bad with putting up with nonsense from FIL/missing out on opportunites in life) why she is so neurotic and such a den-mother (men can do no wrong; all non-blood-related hussies are Under Suspicion ) Bit stressful as my DP is now under no illusions that I was not happy at my treatment at the hands of his sainted mother when they visited two years ago. He has always stressed that she's easy-going and gets on with everyone; odd, then, that her SILs and nieces-in-law feel the need to boost my morale! But I am working on 'unfailingly polite though very assertive' and 'awfully concerned that she has a problem'

umf I had a look at the stats thread and my hospital with Mr Lush and Mr Spiv as obs cons (I am to see Mr Spiv if all goes well) is the same as yours! Are you taking part in the ultrasound training course in July (run by Mr Lush)? If all goes well my flump will be volunteering to be looked at by the med students on 13 July. A friend who slightly knows Mr Lush and Mr Spiv says they're very nice really

Hello grinningbee, congrats on the forthcoming additional November b'day in your home! Preggers brain is nowt to be ashamed of. I think my friends spotted my preggers brain and realised something was up 9 weeks ago but tactfully said nothing - imagine if they'd been wrong And hi potbellybear and Lizzzombie

Booboobedoo your probs with the Slingmeet forum ring a bell - I'm sure I saw something about this on another slings forum. And I had the same problem some months ago so I think they must be plagued with intermittent techie problems, might be fixed later (speculating wildly). And some non-MNey hugs for your poor DS - hope he's all better now

Gaga don't you love the hands on bump thing? When preggers with DD I had an astonishing revelation at 8 months when I read somewhere that I could actually reciprocate and casually rest a hand on the toucher's tum. The next opportunity to present itself was a tipsy 60-year-old male friend at a party. He was most indignant! None of that crowd touched again without explicit permission

Rinnyx for your poor DD and her bike

Ebb I hope it all goes well with Down screening test. Personally I think your MW has a nerve asking you those questions! It's one thing to ascertain that you have thought about what to do and are taking the test with an understanding of the consequences. But quite another to ask point-blank what your decisions would be - not an issue and until such time as it is (hopefully never), not her business! There, my rant over - hope she didn't upset you and that my fuming on your behalf is unfounded!

shoppingstar nowt wrong with ending up in tears, preggy hormones doing their job!

Another one stumped by the pillow question. I thought 'well my head points east so the pillow runs side to side i.e. north AND south'. Or maybe they mean the big flump-support pillow they reckon we must have? The pillow test tells me 60% chance boy but hmm's test tells me 73% chance girl! Guess I gave the wrong answer to the pillow question, then.

cardi those two old ladies sound awfully entertaining as a spectator sport

Pidgin I have to agree; not read the book but had friends who repeated the 'no fear = no pain' mantra to me and I think that while that is all very well and possibly empowering and helpful for some people, that sort of advice does sound very one-size-fits-all and can be very damaging to people who find their expectations are not realised. Or who are judged because they haven't met other people's expectations - but then we spend our lives not meeting other people's expectations

Ooh boo you said it better - and I guess stubbed toes which hurt without warning are also due to fear? Sounds as though clueless has summed it up pretty well with the dissociation explanation (achieved by some strong language in case of stubbed toes! )

mumcha great news with your DS getting into his school of choice

Another one thinking about a postnatal doula as very little family in the UK (and none who can both be trusted and whom it would be fair to ask), and similarly not fair to ask friends.

And hideously faint and morning sick all day. I found eating ginger to work quite well at first but now I associate it so strongly with feeling sick that I can't face it so am forced to wear seabands (I'm sure they're hocus-pocus but anything to encourage a placebo effect) and to constantly drink sweet green tea and sour fizzy drinks and suck sour boiled sweets - none of which can be very healthy!

Good luck to everyone with faintness / morning sickness / not feeling faint or sick and missing it / scans / heartbeats / bleeding / colds / sick DCs / in-laws / forbidden foods! And goodnight, flumps!

mumcha · 30/05/2010 05:12

hi all well ive had an hrs sleep as i have been up all nite with vomiting and diarreha sorry for tmi .hope every1 has a lovely sunday

delhibelly · 30/05/2010 05:40

Ladies, nice to read how everyone is getting one. Feeling for those of you still suffering from sickness. I seem to have turned the corner on that one now and can eat again though know what you mean about ginger llandb - ginger ale is now about the only thing I still can't stomach! Lost 5kgs in two months from feeling so lousy but it's creeping back on now...
I had saw my doc yesterday for 16 week appointment (no midwives here in India) and heard the heartbeat again and all was apparently well. She's now told me to go for a fetal echo at 19 weeks and then the anomoly scan at 20 weeks. Is it normal in the UK to be sent for a fetal echo? I didn't think so and although I'm pretty certain it's just a reason to sting me for several thousand more rupees there's a little bit of me that is worried the doc thinks something's wrong. She just said that the fetal echo can see things that the the 20 weeks scan can miss and I know they like to do all the tests under the sun particularly on foreigners whose employers are paying! Any info on fetal echos would be very welcome.

shoppingstar · 30/05/2010 09:40

sorry, short post as heading out to help friend preparing for her ds birthday party . . .

delhibelly I think that the difference is that the anomaly scan looks at structure and while the echo does this too it also looks at the actual blood flow (oxygenated and non-oxygenated) in the heart and big blood vessels. Sounds like you may be having it for thoroughness (and as you said so your employer can pay).

Rinnyx · 30/05/2010 10:52

Hello everyone how are we all doing today?

I am paying big time for yesterday shopping with my friend for about 7 hours, my poor back and legs were killing me by the end of the day, today...ouch and I have housework to do, joy

I did finally manage to get some maternity jeans that fit me now and think will till the end, in new look of all places and they were only £16.
Also got the test resutls back from the bloods taken to test for downs and we got a 1 in 637

llandb · 30/05/2010 15:38

Hello everyone!

Mumcha that is no fun! I hope you're feeling better now (apart from lack of sleep)

delhibelly glad the sickness is over (except ginger ale-aversion!) and hope your employers are happy to pay for the fetal echo

Rinnyx ouch! And yay for the test results

My DP has a horrible cold but has been a champ and taken DD out to get her to sleep :D

Hope everyone else is fine

JFly · 30/05/2010 18:16

llandb your risk is your own, so don't feel like I had "more" to worry about than you do - it is scary whatever the increased risk and I'm sure I would have been concerned no matter the odds. I just feel EXTREMELY lucky, given my risk. I hope you get results sooner than Weds. It might be worth calling Tues just to see.

I would say that a doula's role is primarily to take care of mother, rather than baby. Basically, she looks after you so you can look after the baby. Mine would take DS so I could eat/sleep/shower. I expect with no.2 she will also wrangle DS, too, to give me a break if DH can't.

So smokey I don't know if a doula would be the best for getting babies into a routine. Perhaps a maternity nurse or something similar would be better? Depends on what you want the focus of care/service to be. I'm sure there's someone out there for you!

Bras. The only maternity bra I like and will wear is the Anita underwire. It's not fancy or particularly pretty, but it is comfortable and UNDERWIRE. Very important at 34F and growing . Google it as I'm not sure Figleaves carries the maternity version any more.

Booboobedoo · 30/05/2010 20:50

llandb: thanks for the good wishes for DS. He's back to normal today (finally), and we're very relieved. Gave up on the slingmeet thing, and bought a Moby which is lovely.

(Sympathise with the MIL issue btw. Mine's mad as a stick).

Spent the day with them today, actually. It's always slightly nrevewracking going over, as we never know if they're going to behave themselves, but they were sweetness and light today.

Congratulations on your son's school, mumcha!

Hope you're all enjoying your weekends.

rollerbaby · 30/05/2010 22:18

Poor mumcha! hope you feel better v v soon.

Jfly am with you exactly on the Anita underwire bras!! Spent a fortune on getting an expensive monoboob with the wireless versions and then accidently came across these - one in nude and one in black and will live in them until after nursing finishes I suspect. 36G!!!! YIKES.

Delhi I never heard of fetal echoes but I guess you can never have too many checks if they're offered... I can't wait for my 20 week in 2 weeks time. And then we're half way!

This weekend has been lots of diy and sleeping mainly... hope you're all relaxing.

Vix7 · 31/05/2010 00:20

JFly, your doula experience sounds fantastic! am considering getting one but am rather tight on budget so may end up having to struggle on my own.

18weeks and still can't feel any movement. getting impatient already!

linea nigra finally popped out to say hi. though strangely enough it's off centre.

hmmSleep · 31/05/2010 09:21

Vix7 I Finally felt baby move for first time yesterday, nearly 19 weeks so about time too! Hopefully you'll feel yours soon. I've never had a linea nigra in any of my pregnancies, but I'm sickly pale skinned so probably why.

Hope you're feeling better Mumcha and glad your ds got the school he wanted.

I've got my sister and her 3 children staying for half term, so five of them running around. Amazingly it actually makes life easier as the cousins keep my 2 entertained! Just a shame about the weather.

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delhibelly · 31/05/2010 13:03

Thank you for your replies. I went to see the GP today and, having worked myself up into a panic after reading on the hospital website that fetal echos are only conducted where there is a high suspicion of life threatening heart disease had a bit of a tiz and burst into tears - very unlike me. The Dr was very nice, looked at my notes, said he couldn't see any reason to worry but that he'd ring the obstetrician to check. He spoke to her and called me back to say that she doesn't think there's anything wrong at all she just routinely refers people for it as an extra check. He did say that he'd given her a talking to about communicating better with patients - particularly foreigners not used to any added extras from the NHS! Mind at rest and actually quite excited to have a good look at baby's heart in a couple of weeks time.

BTW on maternity wear I got some nice jeans from jojo maman bebe for £29 I think. I ordered them online and they're really very nice and comfy.

cluelessnchaos · 31/05/2010 15:32

It's so scary dehlibelly, it's hard to know what's normal and for the doctors I suppose they do it everyday and forget how big a deal it is to us, thank god for mumsnet where we can get an idea of what is ok and what is not.

Wallace · 31/05/2010 18:51

Hello all. I have been lurking for ages but now I have had my dating scan I am officially joining

I am 14+6 and due 23rd Nov.

This is number four (others are 10, 8 and 3 - boy, girl, boy) and my bump has really started to appear in the last couple of days. Especially when I need a wee!

Sickness just starting to go thank goodness. This has been the worst of all my pregnancies - I guess it might be down to being so much more tired.

Dating scan was lovely and got some brilliant pics. We thought we saw a willy but hte sonographer (is that the right word?) was very quick to say that they can't tell yet because boys and girls look very similar at this gestation.

Pidgin · 31/05/2010 19:03

Hi all

hope all goes well with your results landb, and glad the scan went as well as could be expected.

I'm very jealous Kyuri that you can see the baby move, how exciting! Nice to hear a few people are getting movements. Nothing here yet - or at least nothing I can't put down to wind

Thanks for the info on the doula jfly. We had one lined up but she has now cancelled as she's taking a break from it - I think we'll try and find someone else but I'm also starting to think about the cost. I bought our pram yesterday! A Bugaboo Bee from ebay - feels like a bit of a pig in a poke but it was a bargain so obviously I could not resist ... made me realize that there are lots of baby expenses to come.

Hope everyone's had a good long weekend.

Pidgin · 31/05/2010 19:05

& welcome wallace!

4madboys · 31/05/2010 19:16

welcome wallace

just marking my place as i had lost the thread again!

after a day or two of feeling ok, today i feel pukey again! it seems to come and go, other than that all well.

ds2's hand foot and mouth has scabbed over and so is no longer contagious and it doesnt look as if any of the other boys have caught it fingers crossed with that tho....

i actually cant htink of much to say unusual for me, but i am feeling rough and dp is at work till tomorrow night so i need to go and get the madboys in bed!

good luck llandb, hope you get your result asap xxx

MUMCHA my eldest ds is also starting high school this sept, its very scary! how did he get THAT old! we also got the school of our choice

rollerbaby · 31/05/2010 20:10

Hi wallace good to have another v experience momma on here!

Kyuri I can't believe you saw your tummy move! I think we are roughly the same date and yet I have barely felt anything! can't wait til I do..

Can I ask if you guys think I'm mad to start buying stuff? I feel totally overwhelmed by the bits we need to get and really want to spread the cost/effort...

Does anyone have tips for listening monitors and think baby bouncing chairs a good idea or waste of money?

Hope everyone had a lovely BH.

hmmSleep · 31/05/2010 20:55

honeymoo in my experience it's worth spending a bit more on the baby monitor. Because my 2 dcs were quite close in age we wanted needed 2 monitors for a while, the first we bought was quite expensive, the second a cheap one. The cheap one really crackles and is so annoying we stopped using it pretty fast. The more expensive is still going strong nearly 5 yrs later. My 2 always refused to sit in a bouncy chair, I just lay them on a play mat, but I know other mums who found them invaluable.

Started thinking of names today, it's so hard. I'm finding boys names really difficult! Trying to think of something classic but not too common, but thought I'd done this with dd and ds, and both their names are everywhere now!

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