DUE IN DEC 05: COUNTDOWN THREAD 7!!!

[bonkerz]

OK so i know its a few months away but who cares!

So heres to US and our BABIES!!
May our bumps grow and our tiredness reduce.
May our beans Kick and our nurseries be sorted!
May our scans be amazing and our remaining months be filled with positivity and calmness and last but not least
May we all hold our babies in our arms and be filled with unconditional love for our much wanted and treasured little miracles!

Oh and when we asked what it was all about she said I was the higher end of normal and she doesn't have to even mention it but is covering herself.
She then said she doesn't want to go into it too much because it usually affects one sex more than the other and didn't want to go into it too much coz we didin't want to know the sex.

Wish we never went yesterday.

kangel - if you are this worried then I would seriously suggest phoning you mw and asking for an appointment. I'm sure she would have no problem going through your notes with you and clearing up any queries you have.

Oh the boy/girl front can I suggest you perhaps spend a few mins reading the ttc boards. There are lots of women who would give anything to be able to have a baby, there are lots of women on here who have fertility issues that mean they cannot have children of their own. Perhaps reading some of their posts would help you to relise it really doesn't matter what you have - you are lucky to have a baby at all.

Would you consider finding out at the next scan, so you have time to get used the idea of knowing what you're having? Doesn't sound like the sonograper handled things very well though........
She could have meant that as it affects one sex more than the other, that you will assume that's what you're having, when you aren't?

Not the clearest message I have ever posted, but I know what I mean, hope you do as well Kangel!
Although we are all very lucky to be pregnant and to have reached this stage, I think it's still normal to have a preference for what the sex is. I don't this time, only because dd was a girl last time! So I do understand how you feel, but I'm sure all the cliches are right, once you actually meet the baby, the sex won't matter. Doesn't necessarily help much now though.

Thanks Scully, never thought of it like that!

Am off now before I upset people more than I already have.

Good luck with everything girlies

Sorry, I've just relised that I sounded really harsh. I didn't mean it to come out quite like that

Ignore me I'm just extra emotional at the moment.

hello all! off for my scan this afternoon sh has given me some good tips to try and prise out some info about the gender (they are not supposed to say in this area) so I will be looking for burgers or hotdogs!

kangel, like you I'd like a girl
but most of all a healthy baby
boys are cute too, very loving - ds wants to teach him/her to play football, whatever the result!

happy burger/hotdog hunting ninah! already having dd, I wouldn't mind a ds this time, am getting curious I must say.
mind you, still no idea what to call it, either way

For anyone whos interested there is a program on tonight called In the womb its on national geographic channel +1 starting @ 10am (part 1) & part 2 @ 11am. then it's on again this afternoon on the normal nat geographic channel @ 3pm & 4pm. Repeated at 4pm & 5pm on the +1 channel.

well just been feeling sorry for myself after not being able to meet bonkerz so have just bought a marco sky pram from another mner..lol I am in shock and feeling a bit panicky now..is that normal???????? Dh has stripped ds new room to be so house is a tip with nappies[sent by my mum] and baby stuff all over the place...feel like crying with panic

hey guys.
well I have a new (old actually, but new to me)art desk am very excited as this is first part of moving my art things from the'art room' in preperation of turning into nursery. i have spent a happy afternoon rubbing desk down and restaining it. these things make me happy-I'm that kinda girl!!
today dh finally felt the baby kick (after weeks of putting his hand there and baby freezing still!) he was delighted.
kangel i think you should speak to someone about your 'boy' fears. theres a good chance its a boy and you must be okay with that. i guess if i could chose i would have a girl again, but also like the idea of a boy 'either end' of my children (my eldest is ds, 13) and having had 'lots' of children (feels like it!!) i do know i will absolutely love that baby the second it arrives into the world. you MUST start saying that to yourself too. trust your mothering instincts girl
nemo, I'm so sorry you didnt get it to see bonkerz but yes, i think getting panicky over a large purchase is quite normal!

sorry -good luck ninah! hope your little guys is very cute and wriggly!!

Nemo - the other weekend me and DP went out and bought:

A cot
Wardrobe
Chest of draws
Buggy
A new fish tank as it wont be in the nursery when baby arrives.
and a new cabin bed for DP's little girl.

We spent around £1000 in a day, I was awake all night fretting about it but was so excited when buying it. I'd say its normal!

And I still have the urge to spend to make myself feel better!! But have to wait till next pay day now

DQ - you must be sooo chuffed with your new art desk. Does this mean you'll finally be able to get back to your creative self? What sort of art are you into btw? Do you do people or landscapes or abstract....?

kangel - I've been thinking over your situation and I think it would really help you to find out what the sex of your baby is. You need to be able to bond with it.

I don't want to worry you but unlike DQ when my dd entered the world I wasn't filled with immediate unconditional love for her. I hated being a mother for the first 3 months, I found it really hard and wondered what the hell I'd done. Thankfully I had lots of help and support and managed to pull myself together but I'm worried if you feel like this when the baby arrives - and it is a boy - you may suffer from PND.

Hopefully this post will come out better than my last

actually thats what i was trying to say kangel, -s/h you just put it better! even tho i loved my babies, I suffered from horrible postnatal depression -and its bloody awful- and would hate you to sink with it should you indeed go on to have a boy. we all care very much about you here you know.

s/h, yes adore new old art desk, just love battered 'junky' bit of furniture to do up
I do alot of scrapbooking kind art work, in scrapbooks, oncavas, and on wooden items, and also lots of painted wooden stuff -whimsical kinda thing. I am 1000% happier and better when creating anything. have made first mobile for babys room and started a coat hook with space for a name. heaven!

on canvas I meant.......

Do you consider yourself to be good or is it just a hobby to you? I mean would you sell your items at craft fairs or something?

I used to make photo albums when I was younger - was quite into crafty stuff. I don't know where I'd find the time now though!!!

You guys are going to make me cry soon!

I went to lunch with DP today and asked him how we are going to cope if I end up with PND and his reply was that he will be a very busy man caring for all of us and that we will get through whatever is thrown at us together. He knows I am desperate for a girl and it hurts him to see me hurting but he did say to me today that if its a boy then we CAN try again, then if its another boy then thats how it was meant to be.
He says that I am reading into things too much and that my scan results are normal one part is just on the higher scale of normal but still normal! The baby doesn't even have this condition so as far as he is concerned its still 50/50. He also prefers a girl but is fine with a boy too.
I've been concentrating more on boy clothes and trying to goo over them and have been ignoring girls things all together. There is some real cute stuff about.

I'm trying to forget about every little detail of what she said and just concentrate on other things. We should have been celebrating yesterday as DP's divorce that we have been fighting for for the past 4 years came through - we went for dinner but I just couldn't smile. Am feeling a bit better at the moment then something she said pops into my head, DP is on hand to drag the thoughts back out of my head.

I'm really lucky to have him as he is an absolute rock and understands everything. If we have a boy I hope hes a spitting image of his Dad and would recomend a wonderful loving DP for your Dec DD's!

Ok I got carried away there

yey kangel thats the stuff, keep hanging in there. your dh sounds lovely. my dh is also very much like that esp since our not so perfect scan too. gotta love 'em!

s/h, I used to sell alot, in stores and thro craft fairs, but tbh the pressure of deadlines for certain craft stores doesnt appeal anymore! maybe a few craft fairs later on, when baby -and toddler!- have grown some. the pressure of having to make everyones christmas card is abit much for me right now.sounds silly but entire extended family and friends all count on me to come up with something wonderful, witty and new every year.....I used to have to start them in sept to get them all done! this year we may resort to family photo on the front!........

Crikey i have missed you girls !! (how sad am i!

DQ, will email you details! I want to jion in your stork swap!!

Nemo: Dont worry about it babe, we will meet!!

Went to IKEA on way home from Blackpool and bought a futon, changing table, bibs, night light, Drawer Unit and other stuff including pillows and throws and rugs for the babies room! Am off tomorrow to buy wall paper and am hoping to do the room over the weekend! Am i mad? Havent got my scan till 24th but am fed up of being worried so am throwing myself in to organising for baby!!

Think i have finally come through the worst of this pregnancy!! For the past 6 days i have felt great, not as tired and have been eating well, Dh and i have talked and talked and havent argued for ATLEAST 5 days, My bump has rounded and fred kicks alot. Can honestly say that i am finally happy!! AND IVE PUT ON 5LB IN A WEEK!!!!

Kangel,I too felt like you,not wanting to know the sex but also wanting another dd...But now I think i feel happy to be expecting a boy[although i dont know for sure]in my hearts of all hearts i think it is....
I had been trying for 18 months for this baba{dd ncknamed bump..]and elt so guilty for eeling let down that i mite be having a boy,but now i feel i will be blessed with one o each,and i cant wait[all but for the birth..lol
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Dont feel guilty for ur feelings,they may pass in time,and as sw says,although it might not seem it now,you will love ur little one,even IF it takes a little extra time.....

How is everyone else today/

ninah,

I hope everything went ok and that you just haven't had time to post. I'll talk to you tomorrow - will keep checking though