10/10 Babies - Rock and Rollin Pumpkins showing us their groovy moves.

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Right then (brushes off sparkly dress) I'm here!

(cue groovy disco lights and an appropriate selection of tunes)

I also have alcohol free wine, and I'm sure theres a stash of mini eggs behind the bar (along with other some other things) and I'm dancing, whose going to join me??

Stats list here!!

P.S - Thankyou so much guys. It's nice to know you'll listen. Feeling much more positive after snuggling with the urchins and watching Nemo. Here's hoping for a decent nights sleep!

1. If money were no object, describe your perfect house, and where would it be.

One of those Edwardian town houses and it would be on the Royal Crescent in Bath.

2. Which skill(s) do you wish you had?

I wish I could cut hair or be really really good at math.

3. What superhero skill/trick/power would you have if you were a superhero?

Teleportation and a deadly withering stare that people run away from.

4. What would be your dream job? Do you already do it, if not, might you achieve it?

I would love to be on one of those interceptor teams that the police use, I would LOVE to drive a scooby and chase badies and anything is possible. Chase your dreams and all that.

5. Have you got names lined up for this child, if so, share if willing.

Esme for a girl, Asher for a boy.

6. What has been your most hormonal moment of your pregnancy so far?

Crying over maternity trousers.

I've already answered the others earlier.

Regarding number 4, it most likely won't happen. I am a really really bad driver.

Ok I need to vent ladies

Ex patner told me the day I found out I was pg that he wanted nothing to do with either of us. It was hard to take but I accepted it in the end and have had no further contact with him, then out of the blue he text me last night telling me he wants to be involved. I was sooo happy we spent hours on the phone. Then he has just text me saying he was drunk and didn't mean any of it an never to contact him again! I'm devastated!!! I just want to scream! Hormones army helping I guess but I'm absolutely gutted Im just sitting here crying!

Had to tell someone but feel slightly embarrassed to tell real life friends

x

Arn't not army! Sorry damn iPhone!

Oh Katy, you poor thing. He sounds unstable, and you don't need that lack of security in your life. His loss. Really sorry you're going through this as well as Xavielli.

You've got NOTHING to be embarrassed about. Call a friend - that's what RL friends are for, so go lean on the best ones, and get the support you need. We're all here too, of course!
Have you got family close by to help? Really feel for you. Go give your gorgeous little DD a hug (oh, I guess she'll be in bed? Well, in the morning then), and know life will turn out ok, we just get things to test us sometimes.

Xavielli, glad you had a nice time with your little ones (and Nemo!). Really sorry both you and Katy are having such rubbish weekends.

xx

Katy I think I would react the same if my ex partner wanted to be involved with my babies life. I know you would like him to be involved, but he's obviously a bit of a looser to go back on what he said. Maybe the best thing to do would be to not contact him at all and leave it well alone. You may just end up getting more hurt over it, you have your LO to think of and thats so much more important at the moment. I know it hard going through these things on your own. But, you sound like you're a strong person. I know you're gutted, you have every right to be. But for your own peace of mind, it might be best to give yourself some breathing space from the entire issue. I hope things get better for you soon and I'm sorry this guy did this to you. Please know that although this is only a little thread on some random corner of the internet that we will listen to you and help you in whatever small way that we can.

MMooMar glad that so far it's going ok with amnio. Fingers crossed for you for Monday. I was thinking about you all week wonderinghow you were. Thanks for posting.

ILGH I second your rebecca dewinter slapping .

Xposted with Katy - at the moment you really are better off without him until he grows up and accepts responsibility for the things he does, like conceiving a baby with you, and not being a prat when pissed! I know it doesn't help the hurt right now but I agree with the others that you're stronger without him around. Big hugs to you too.

1. If money were no object, describe your perfect house, and where it would be.
   I a four bedroon house in the village I grew up in the Yorkshire Dales. I have a couple of collie dogs and a snug with a cottage garden

2. Which skill(s) do you wish you had?
   to be able to dance and sing

3. What superhero skill/trick/power would you have if you were a superhero?
   to freeze time and go back if things went wrong

4. What would be your dream job? Do you already do it, if not, might you achieve it?
   Opening my own gallery-I draw and paint as a hhobby but don't think I'm good enough to sell!

5. Have you got names lined up for this child, if so, share if willing.
   Elenor and Kieron are the current favourites

6. What has been your most hormonal moment of your pregnancy so far?
   I'm remarkably boring placid. mentioned this the other day-the untidy house episode

7. Dream TV show characters job and why?
   alex drake so I could work with gene hunt!

8. Favourite Colour?
   Green.

9. Item of makeup you could never live without?
   Blusher

10. Who is the one character out of a book or film that you would quite glady slap?
    good question! I can't think of anything at the moment.

Thinking of you katy and xavelli x x

Xavielli I only just read your post. I'm so sorry! Sending u hugs! I'm doing this single aswel and I'm here if u want to talk XXXXXXX

thanks ladies for your support. Feeling very low right now so I'm going to try and sleep.

Your support is so greatly appreciated thank you...xxxxx

Xavelli- really sorry to hear your news, but you sound strong, and this is definately not the end of relationships for you. Sounds like you have lots of support in RL and we are always here for you.

Katy, so sorry you are going through this too

I will do the Friday 10 as they are great qu but I can't get on the computer, and it's a faff on iPhone- will do as soon as dh takes a break!

For the record, I agree on slapping mrs dewinter. I was going to say Emma, but I have a feeling she would start a cat fight and I'd lose

katy what a bastard! At least if he is out of the way you know where you stand, much easier just a shame for baby. No Dad is better than one who let's their child down all the time though.

Totally changing the subject , my boobs are now leaking. Explainsthe heaviness of the last few days.

oh Xavielli and katy I'm so sorry you're going through such tough times. This would be hard to deal with in any event but with pregnancy hormones and all the normal worries about coping with a new baby it must make it so much harder and more confusing.

xavielli you are not a failure, relationships not working out doesn't make you a failure. and there is plenty of time for the right man to come along, but in the mean time you sound very strong and I think you will actually cope brilliantly, even if it is tough at times.

katy really honestly don't feel embarrassed to speak to your family/ friends. They would so want to be there to help you out and there is nothing to be embarrassed about someone treating you badly.
Things are confusing enough right now without someone messing with your head like that.

1. If money were no object, describe your perfect house, and where it would be.

oooh good question, I'm not sure on the details but it would definitely have a huge kitchen and massive garden and it would be in Yorkshire of course

2. Which skill(s) do you wish you had?
   driving. I can see how useful it would be to learn but can't quite bring myself to do it. To be fair I've had some lessons and driving instructor said I'm perfectly competent, its just I get scared and freak out (with good reason ). Wish I had the guts to fight my demons and book some more lessons.

3. What superhero skill/trick/power would you have if you were a superhero?
   definitely invisibility, would love to be able to indulge my nosy side!

4. What would be your dream job? Do you already do it, if not, might you achieve it?
   I thought I had it with my old job as a lawyer, I used to absolutely love it (because of the field I worked it) but then moved office and had to work with the boss from hell. So I need to find a new dream job now!

5. Have you got names lined up for this child, if so, share if willing.

No, and I really should start thinking about it I guess! DH bought me a baby names book for my birthday but so far we have only been sniggering at the really silly names and haven't had any sensible discussions

6. What has been your most hormonal moment of your pregnancy so far?
   probably sobbing at the cadbury's creme egg advert when it tries to get in the blender and fails

7. Dream TV show characters job and why?

I can't think of any - can I blame pregnancy brain?!

8. Favourite Colour?
   Red

9. Item of makeup you could never live without?
   blusher, definitely, I look deathly pale without it

10. Who is the one character out of a book or film that you would quite glady slap?
    jane eyre at the minute. I read the book again while I was ill with morning sickness and I think I would find her intensely irritating

Nymph - I am really hoping that happens to me this time as I had trouble with low milk supply last time. May have been because he was so early and I was so stressed though.

Thanks form your thoughts guys. means alot. He came home early last night and we had a really good talk. I think it is early days to say whether it is over and done with for good and I am reassured that he will do everything within his power to be a good father to this one, as he is to his girls. Knowing this makes the whole situation alot easier to deal with, atleast I have the illusion of not being on my own!

Katy - I can't imagine how hard that is for you. To tell you the day you found out?? Blimey. I know what it's like to not want to do it alone, but I honestly think (as others have said) if I thought the father would be likely to disappoint my child/ren on a regular basis then I would be inclined to exclude him until the children showed an interest, after which, there really is nothing you can do. For now, whilst expecting, I really would keep your distance from him, get head space and think of yourself. I have just felt how much worse emotional upheaval is when pregnant. Here's hoping we both end up happy, healthy and the same for our children.

Had a manic weekend! School Fairs and birthday parties!! Sorry to hear what you both have been going through Xavielli and Katy. Sending you loads of strength to get through these difficult times. Hope things work out the way you want them to!

1. If money were no object, describe your perfect house, and where would it be.

A 4 bedroom cottage in the forest with a largish garden that has a small stream running along the bottom.

2. Which skill(s) do you wish you had?

I wish I was more assertive.

3. What superhero skill/trick/power would you have if you were a superhero?

The ability to click my fingers and have a clean and tidy house!

4. What would be your dream job? Do you already do it, if not, might you achieve it?

I would like to have a career but not sure what yet. Kind of thinking I am leaving it a bit late now!

5. Have you got names lined up for this child, if so, share if willing.

I change my mind regularly but currently we like Grace and Alexia for a girl and George or Hugo for a boy but I guarantee this will change hundreds of times!

6. What has been your most hormonal moment of your pregnancy so far?

Crying when my husband had his hair cut because it didnt look like him!

7. Dream TV show characters job and why?

Dont know... um... nope cant even think of any TV shows (preghead strikes again)

8. Favourite Colour?

Purple

9. Item of makeup you could never live without?

Concealer - covers a multitude of sins

10. Who is the one character out of a book or film that you would quite glady slap?

I know it is not a book or film but I have a real hatred for Bella out of the Tweenies, does that count?

I am terrified of breastfeeding! when dc1 was born I breastfed for 3 weeks and he screamed constantly, he suckled for an hour with a half hour break all day every day and the pain!!! My health visitor eventually said that he wasn't gaining any weight and I obviously was not producing enough to sustain him. With dc2 I could not bring myself to even try, I hardly leaked at all and my milk supply had dried up within 2 days of bringing her home. I would love to breastfeed this one but I am really worried about it. Very jealous of your milk coming in Nymph and keeping my fingers crossed for us both floozie.

Good luck for tomorrow moomar hope the results come out positive

Just a quick one to say I've been discussing carseats on the carseat thread; previously, on here, I'd said I'd heard that the ISOFIX bases weren't necessarily safer than seatbelts. Most posters say the Isofix bases ARE safest, so I just wanted to share that with you lot!

Still struggling a little though with regards which one to get!

lilmiss, this is only my first, so I can't really advise from experience with breastfeeding, but I have heard good things about getting a breastfeeding counsellor to help you, so perhaps this is something you can look into.

lilmissmummy I think la leche league/ the nct and I think at least one other breastfeeding support group have helplines and / or people who will come out and visit you and give you support or there may be local groups where you can go to for support with breastfeeding. You could ask your midwife maybe? Alternatively do you have a supportive friend /relative who has managed to breastfeed? Maybe they could spend some time with you in the early days? Or you could try getting a book on breastfeeding from the library? (lots of time to order one in for you even if they don't have one on the shelves). There also seems to be lots of knowledgable people on mumsnet who I am sure would be happy to give you more advice

I know thats loads of suggestions but I'm really determined to breastfeed (mainly it just seems so much more convenient and cheaper) and so I've been looking into where to get support from, as I know my sister in law struggled and gave up and then regretted it. I'm hoping my mother and mother-in-law will give me advice on the phone / when they visit, but I'm definitely going to try books/ midwife/ groups as needed if possible

I'm having minor family issues at the minute. I adore my brother and his wife and their toddler and had really been looking forward to seeing them next weekend when I am visiting my parents, but have just found out (through my mum) that there is chicken pox going round his nursery. We're not sure I had it as a child and looking on the internet it sounds like something I really shouldn't risk being exposed to, so I have had to ring them and say I just cannot see them while I am up there. I'm gutted not to see them but worse than that my brother has really taken offence and has basically accused me of being neurotic he said 'well you'd better not catch any buses or trains for the rest of your pregnancy then'. Just wondered whether other people know anything more about chicken pox and pregnancy etc, and/ or whether people would take the same decision as me? ( don't mind if you tell me you think I am being neurotic, in fact I would be delighted in a way, I would love to go and see them if it would be ok to, but equally after 18months ttc then hyperemesis, I don't want to take any big risks with my pregnancy).

oh and AbFab I've just had a read of your carseat thread, it was really useful so thank you for pointing us in that direction I'm totally sold on the isofix base now . We're torn between maxi-cosi and britax at the minute but still researching. DH just wants to get the 'safest' regardless of the cost, it feels like the one thing that is so important to get right. Its a bit simpler for me though as I'm not worried about getting one that fits to the pram base, Dh is the only driver so it doesn't seem that big an issue, he could always carry baby short distances in it when needed. Sorry, will stop going on about it now! But I am starting to get excited about sorting out baby stuff now as it starts to feel more real!

right better go and do the work that I've been meant to be doing all day

I'd be very wary too, tiredfeet. Yes, you can't live in a bubble, but if you KNOW there are real dangers, it's best to avoid. I think I'd be the same as you, but perhaps check with your midwife to be sure.

Am also mega keen to breast-feed, and keen to know about all the support available.

Glad you found the carseat thread useful. I think I am still confused! They should have a website for carseats called confusedaboutcarseats.com! Hm, if I ever get my head around it, maybe I'll set one up!
I also want to go for the safest, regardless of cost. Would be nice if that same one fitted the pram I would like, but if not, so be it. It's so hard to know how much we'll use the car with the pram. I imagine us driving out to the country and going on nice walks with our pram (reality will probably mean we're too knackered to move off the sofa and go anywhere though!).
Has your DH determined which is the safest, then? I want to know more about the Stokke one, but otherwise, I am thinking the Strata by Jané, with the third-generation Isofix base!

I think if you don't know for certain then it is reasonable to consider chicken pox as too much of a risk- it's highly contagious. Neurotic, aren't we all?! Comes from being pregnant!!

Re breast feeding, I fed ds for 12 months, but the plan was originally 6 weeks, then 12, then to 6 months then it was a year before I really realised! It was agony to start, I used to cry before the feed from let down pain but got through to the lovely other side thanks to friends, nct and the wonderful tiktok on mn breastfeeding threads! Happy to give any advice when the time comes, but I'm best at empathetic sympathy, as there is this image of madonna and child, which whilst achievable is not the smooth road for every mum ( some like my mil had no pain what so ever)

It's great to hear all your advice about breast feeding. It's something I really really want to do. Bit nervous about it though.

We're getting a maxi cosi carseat, the only reason is that it's the one that will fit on the pram we like.

The number one thing with breast feeding is getting the latch right- and that needs to be shown to you and adjusted depending on what your baby does/your boobs etc. I went to nhs breast feeding groups where bfing counsellers were and we'd sit and chat/ go for coffee and in the early days they would watch and help you.

I can not recommend the mn threads enough for those middle of the night loss of confidence moments!

I breastfed dd1 for 13 m, she seemed to know what to do from day one and apart from mastitis no problems at all. She weaned herself at which turned out to be the point I became pg with dd2.

I bottlefed dd2 as she refused to feed at first then I had treatment which left me unable to feed for a week. I never tried again as I didnt realise til I saw my own HV on day 13 I could have. I wasnt in a good state to commit to that at that point which I regret. I was in the middle of a messy split (XH addiction spiraling) and I started having absences which they said was the stress. The first few months were the total opposite of what I wanted and I regret them. Though knowing dd2 now, and how hyper she is, this would explain why she refused to feed and screamed when she was swaddled etc!