Due SEPTEMBER thread 11 - nearly there!

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LadyLazarus..ME TOO!! DP actually stopped the car in the middle of the road once and informed that if I didn't get a grip I was going to kill us all. Cried all the way home - of course!

I try to just look out the window now as I can't see all the dangerous brake lights flashing in front of us and have no idea how close DP is to a horrible rear-end collision.

Plan whats one of those? I can't even decide what to cook for tea at the moment let alone do a weeks shopping. Any body got any ideas what i can do for tea tonight i think i have chicken, beef, burgers and sausage in the freezer?!?!?!?!?! DH has asked me not to drive too often as apparently i have lost all spacial awareness.

Sorry about my message in the middle of the night - I am not at my best when it si dark outside. Mouse was a shrew and was dead this morning.

I am also having iron tablets - got a prescription through from the hospital after they had my blood last week. Didn't say what my Hb levels were so don't know. Presumabely though better than my 7.4 or something like that after birth last time (although had lost 1500 ml of blood so not that surprising).

I seem incapable of keeping motivated - apart from doing washing. I am flitting between being excited about DS2/DD arriving and jsut thinking .

Going to go and have a bath and have an early night (and stay asleep all night long )

Thanks for your positive comment about my spd posting Redhelen. I've now added a shorter one about giving birth with spd.

When I got spd at 24 weeks, and no one could help me, I decided that I was not going to spend the rest of my pg in agony - so as you can see, did a LOT of research (and heaps of trial and error). Am relatively painfree now on most days (except when I overdo it).

Today is my last day doing part time lecturing. Can't wait to finish. Like many of you, just deciding what to have for breakfast is pretty overwhelming! LOL to DH whenever I think one thing and a completely different thing comes out of my mouth. Told DH that I am not sure if my lecturing is making any sense at this point!

Katts & LadyLaz - thought I was the only crazy passanger in the car! I close my eyes, and stamp down on an imaginery break pedal A LOT (not when I'm driving, of course)!

Good for you Kiwifruit on declining extra work. BTW, are you coming back to NZ permanently? Where about will you be when you are in NZ? (I'm in Wellington).

Ah LOL at THE PLAN
Seems nothing goes according to THE PLAN

Oh very tired and off to bed - hope to have more energy tomorrow!!

PiccadillyCircus - what happened to the mouse? Yes like you I'm scared then excited then scared again!! and then vague and tearful!!! Night night

Mummyhill, THE PLAN is the opposite of whatever actually happens in the day!

Good morning, well you won't believe the night I have had. Was getting ready for my bed just after midnight, went to the toilet and noticed I had a bit of browny/red discharge (sorry if tmi), while deciding what to do it got worse and decided I better phone the maternity hospital for advice as I've not had any bleeding during my pregnancy. To cut a long story short they wanted me to come in as I was also get crampy pains. Got through to the hospital the back of 1am, got hooked up to a monitor and had swabs taken and turns out I had an infection and a bit of thrush that had made me bleed a bit, nothing serious thank god. Finally left the hospital about 3.30am. Relieved and glad to be on our way home, while driving along a long stretch of road I looked up and noticed a car had crashed up an embankment and was lying on its side! My DH, who is a firefighter, stopped the car and ran out to help as we thought the driver must be trapped inside. I had to phone police and ambulance. Turns out, the person in the car had done a runner although there was blood on the windscreen. Anyway, had to wait on police, etc and finally got home just after 4am. What a night, am now wide awake having a cup of tea. Going to phone work and have a sick day tomorrow. Anyway, going to try and calm down and get some sleep. Good night/morning - whatever, I don't know if I'm coming or going! x

goodnight/morning ych, and wow at the night you had. you must of been so scared at the blood, am so glad you and bubba are ok. i really thought we were going to have the first september baby announcment for a minute there. i too feel a mixture of excitement and anxiety at the new arrival. thought i was just being silly, but now i realise it's normal. congratulations on finishing work kiwikate, it seems even more real now doesn't it! i am also very uncomfortable and breathless at the moment, and i am also anaemic, not sure of the levels though.

ych - SO glad you and bubs are fine. Glad you aren't going into work! Do you have medication for the thrush?

Yep Bubbles "a bit more real". Starting to get excited now.

MIL & FIL unexpectedly took DS out for the afternoon (he had a great time going to the airport). MIL offered to cook us dinner here at our place. WONDERFUL (I used to be independant, but stopped turning down offers of help when I got spd).

i don't blame you kate, it's so much easier when people are there to help you. i never realised how much harder this pg was going to be. with dd i sailed through except for morning sickness but this time i'm physically and mentally drained. can't get organised and the more i try the less organised i seem to be if that makes any sense?

Thanks Kiwikate & Bubbles - yes they gave me a Canestan pessary to use tonight. I felt a bit daft when they said it was thrush that had caused the bleeding - I thought I would of known if I had that. The hosp said I done the right thing in going in though as they have to check out any sort of bleeding. It was weird as I was in the obstetric unit and wasnt expecting to be going in for another 6 weeks. The house isnt ready for a baby yet! Just phoned work and feel guilty not going in, they were fine but I just hate phoning in sick. I'm ok it's just lack of sleep, I feel like a zombie. I suppose I better get used to that come September!
Going back to bed now. Hope everyone else is ok.

Take it easy ych - what a scary night! Hopefully you can now have a relaxing long weekend.

Me too - currently accepting offers of help left right and centre - most unlike me. And yes bubbles, what you say about trying to get organised makes absolute sense. I was sobbing my heart out in bed the other night, in utter despair at ever getting on top of things - just clearing enough space for the birthing pool would be a start! - and panicking about how I'll manage with a baby AND toddler.

A friend of ours recently took herself off for a couple of nights in a hotel in order to wean her toddler (and herself) off breastfeeding - DH asked me if I'd like a night in a hotel on my own and it does appeal to part of me - I could have it as my birthday present (my birthday's shortly after my EDD), but suspect a spa day or similar might work better. Especially as I'm missing the meet-up pedicure!!

Glad everything's turned out ok ych, I can understand the worry tho. You are up so early considering you didn't go to bed at 4am or something... go and have a nap!
Right! off to try to get in touch with ante-natal class people

Bubbles, I'm also finding this pg so much harder than no 1. I guess the increased exhaustion may have something to do with also trying to look after a toddler. I've also had a difficult pg, unlike with DS when everything was plain sailing. Serves me right for wondering why women couldn't just ENJOY being pg! Now I know!

Ooooh, making decisions at the moment is killing me!! Spent 20 minutes this morning, and 4 changes of clothes before finally deciding what to wear to work - it shouldn't be that hard to decide, as my wardrobe is fairly minimalist!!!

Very excited as just filled in my annual leave form and left it on my boss' desk - first day of maternity leave is 24th August - bring it on!!!

YCH - that sounds like a pretty traumatic evening, don't beat yourself up about calling in sick! They are going to have to cope without you when you're on mat leave, so today will be good practice for them !

KiwiKate - yes, we're moving back permanently, and I'm very excited! Will probably settle in Auckland initially, as that's where we were before we came back to UK, and DH likes it (he's English, so think it's only fair that he can choose the city, since I won on the country argument). Don't think we'll be there forever though. My family are in ChCh, and I grew up in Masterton, so know Wellington quite well, and wouldn't mind ending up there at some stage.

Speaking of moving to NZ, we haven't heard from KiwiCath for a while - hope they got out of Egypt and back to NZ OK...

"ENJOY being pregnant..." ?????

Sorry - I see the words, but they're just not resolving themselves into a concept that makes sense...

YCH - wow what a night go to bed or put your feet up with telly on and veg girl.

Felt really pleased with my self last night, baba now has clothes, somewhere to sleep, nappies, formula (just in case), bottles, steriliser, pram etc etc however the house is still not as tidy as i want it. This morning though i have been up since 6, i changed the beds, tidied the living room (not that you would know as soon as dd got up she trashed it), and cleaned my bathroom. Have two bedrooms to finish sorting out, must sort out all dd's clothes as she has far too many in the wardrobe and i am sure that half of them are too small by now then i have a mountain of washing to tackle and a kitchen from hell. I seem to have loads of energy at the moment (ooh god must be nesting stage) so am keeping my fingers crossed that i can get it all done by sunday. DD is with the in laws today and is going out with my parents for the day tomorrow so should have a clear run at all this house work. Don't ask me what i am going to cook for tea tonight though as that decision is beyond me.

A night to myself or a spa trip for my birthday would be lovely but sods law states that this one will arrive on it's due date and i will therefore be in labour on my birthday, can think of lots of things i would rather be doing on my thirthieth!!!!!!

Enjoyed my first pregnancy as it was a nice one thi time however must admit it has not all been plain sailing i think racing round after a small makes the world of difference. First time round you can rest when you want and take everything at your own pace, second time you have no chance.

Actually - here's a question. If it were possible to get a baby-in-bottle kit that you could leave to quietly gestate in, say, your back bedroom - how many people would actually CHOOSE to be pregnant...?

I don't want to whinge - and I appreciate that I've had an easier ride than a lot of people - but still: months of nausea and vomiting - and when that ended it was replaced by sinkingly low blood pressure and dizziness... No real spd (although I read your posting with interest, Kiwikate), but sacroiliac pain, some pelvic pain and a general feeling that walking isn't as comfortable as it could be.... TV ultrasounds, daily injections, mood swings... And all the time, almost from the moment of conception, a constant overbearing exhaustion that makes me want to weep with my feebleness.

I want to go back to bed just reading your email, Mummyhill.

Ych: I too thought you were going to say you had popped for a moment there. Don't think you should feel remotely guilty about not going to work. Veg, veg, veg...

Agh mummyhill I have NONE of those things sorted. The new baby has NO clothes (other than DD's, still festering in the loft) and NOWHERE to sleep, etc etc - and I'll be 36 weeks on Mon The flat is also a pigsty and like you I have to sort out DD's wardrobe and also buy her some new stuff for the winter while I still 'have time'. I'll be getting my home visit from the midwife very soon, and the delivery of the equipment ... Have had a touching number of offers of help tho so am just having to swallow my pride and coordinate them all now!

I'd like a pregnancy Chia Pet where you just sit it on the window sill add water and watch it grow.

Gotta admit there is nothing about pregnancy that would ever make me think, "Hey! I can't wait to do this again!"

Wow ych - what a night for you. Rest!! I also ended up on labour ward last night as had only 4 kicks up until 9pm. CTG all normal. On a kick chart now - still very quiet. I know they quieten down towards the end but it is worrying.

LadyL - our antenatal class with the HV never materialised either and none of us have been contacted to set up a new date or explain what happened. Dont have energy to chase it up though. Good luck.

Admire you ladies who are coping with a toddler/s too!!

RZ - dh and I were talking last night (whilst in hosp) about benefits of laying an egg which you could just incubate for 9 months or so!! Was thinking the other day how I dont really want to do this all again - 40 weeks is very long - but would like at least 2 kids...