Due SEPTEMBER thread 11 - nearly there!

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bublles, we posted at the same time but yes that seems really sad - i'd have probably cried all over her, and yep mean sister - sounds like you deserve some chocolate....

hi elasticated, it's nice to hear from you. i'm not sure about your question, i know my baby is head down but not sure how much, i wouldn't worry too much though as i think if it was that unusual the doctor would've mentioned it to you. so jealous though, i haven't seen a doctor all through this pregnancy. will be soon though hopefully

elasticated my baby is starting to engage - MW described it as 'on the brim' last week, and this is my third so they are usually later. I think it sounds quite usual at this stage - when is your next appointment with the MW / Dr?

RZ - I just have to say, how DARE your inlaw interfere with your homebirth plans, and from such an ignorant standpoint??? I've had some stupid comments about my homebirth (mostly of the 'Ooh, you're brave' variety, which are just about tolerable with closely gritted teeth), but people like your inlaw need to butt out and get their facts straight. Grr.

Been having a spot of midwife bother - my 'named' mw is now off sick for the forseeable future and has been replaced by a rather scary woman who left me in tears after my appointment last Friday. I emailed the consultant mw who came and visited me at home a few months ago to talk through my previous birth trauma, and she and the head of midwifery have been great - they're now making special arrangements for me to be cared for by the smallest group of mws possible in order to maximise my chances of getting someone familiar on the day, and both of them plus the lovely mw who did my booking appt will be on-call for me - 2 out of the 3 of them will be away on holiday around my EDD so it's a bit touch and go, but full marks to them for making the effort to allay my fears (which had been very much at bay since my very helpful session with the consultant mw). Fingers crossed.

Had another upset yesterday when my mum said she now can't come down till 25 Aug to be on standby to whisk DD away when labour starts. Eek - I'll be nearly 39 weeks then so it seems a bit late. DH reckons it'll be ok to have his sister on standby till then, but I did feel for a bit that my plans were beginning to disintegrate. So much is down to chance, I'd like to feel that one or two things were a bit more certain!

I'm frighteningly knackered as always and am off to get a quick power-kip. Hang on in there everyone

I read that baby usually starts to engage at roughly 36 weeks but that it can be latter in second and third pregnacies. On saying that mine was 3/5 on the 22nd of July when i had a hospital appointment which does indeed explain the frequent trips to the loo and pains in pelvic region espaecially the one where it feels like pelvic floor is being head butted every 5mins. I am hoping that this one is not back to back as i had a 23 hour back to back labour with dd and i deffinatly would not recomend it.

Thanks. I was fairly raging about it. I sent him an email in which the words 'rude', 'intrusive' and 'patronising' were all employed. He doesn't seem to think he's done anything wrong though - it's all under the banner of concern. Apparently he couldn't forgive himself if he didn't say something. Do people think that after nine months of a pregnancy (and in my case three consecutive miscarriages) you would make an irresponsible decision - because after all, if this one dies, you can easily make another?? Apart from all the ill-formed clap-trap, he draws in his wife's opinion, as if this gives it greater weight. Is she a midwife? No. Is she an obstetrician or haematologist?? No. She's a nurse in an old peoples' home.

The only thing more gob-smacking than the fact that he thought it appropriate to send it is the fact that my husband thought it was a good idea to pass it on to me...

RZ - sounds like you need a lot of patience, we had lots of people butting in with their opinions when we went through a mc and concieved again too quickly in their opinion. If i had of received one more lecture on my short commings and what exactly i had done wrong to cause the mc i think i would of started murdering people and to hell with the concequences.

I usually find it is better to ignore people who don't have a clue as to what they are talking about.

Can't possibly think how your hubby thought it would be a good idea to pass on these hurtful, ignorant comments though. Has he pleaded a temporary loss of sanity yet?

bubbles2904 - heartbreaking that womens poor baby- why on earth is she continuing (not that I'm big on abortion) - but the most important thing a baby/child needs is to feel wanted and loved! I am glad you have stopped the washing&ironing - I couldn't keep up!

franch - I'm sorry your carefully made plans are coming to pieces - my Mum has booked a series of 'day trips' all through my due week and beyond - I really think she's trying to tell me something! - thank god for mil!

RedZuleika - I'm sorry - some people just can't help but stick their noses in! What relation is he to you/dh?

Now going out for a spot of dinner with dh!!! Unheard of & even worse he thinks he's on a promise LOL LOL!!!

My greatest appologies for the 'a' word - it has no place in our current worlds.

DON'T WORRY HELEN, THEY WERE MY EXACT THOUGHTS ABOUT HER BUT I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME BEING SENSITIVE

OOPS, sorry caps lock

Redhelen/bubbles - I have to admit that i agree with you both at the end of the day there is no need in todays modern medical age for anyone to get pregnant if they don't want any/more children and it is unfair to continue an unwanted pregnancy.

Bubbles - is there something wrong with your sister which means you have to trawl round the shops for her? If she was that desperate for the lotion for her daughter surely she could of left for work earl;y and hit a chemist or gone out durring her lunch like the rest of us have to. Bit inconsiderate if you ask me expecting you to run round after her at this late stage in your pregnancy.

mummyhill, yes she has a illness, it's call being a selfish, self centred horrible witch. god that was polite of me!! and she STILL hasn't picked it up!!! FFS

LOL Why on earth did you agree to do it then sweetie? I am afraid in this instance i would of told her to get off her derrier and do it her self. Don't get me wrong I don't mind running round after my lot or dh's if they are ill or cannot get out of work to do something so long as it is important as i know they would do the same for me. (Just as well really when taking recent events into consideration).

i know, i feel so guilty moaning about trivial stuff when some of you are having such a rough time. i was already in town so i said i'd get it but then i ended up lugging 4 carrier bags of shopping around to 3 different chemists with dd in tow. i bought dd's school uniform today, got some weird looks and a few comments about how early it is and that i must be soooo organised but the truth is, i'm scared to death that i'll go into labour early, need a cs and won't be able to go shopping to get it. i had a dream she went to school in her old uniform and it was too small and tatty so that made me get my backside in gear. all i need now is shoes, coat and new lunchbox.

My word bubbles2904 - have to hand it to you, your very organized! You must have all the organized genes and your sister all the lazy ones!

I'm still sorry for my clumsy comments of earlier!

Think I've scared dh off - I've just set the ironing board up!!! Then I shall fall asleep snorring loudly (yummy!) Night night!

night helen, i'm also going to bed as i'm shattered. don't be sorry about what you said, you're only human and entitled to your opinion, we won't agree on all issues but i'm with you 100% on that one, it's just such a shame, don't know how i kept so calm. like i say i'm only organised as i'm due on the 3rd and dd is back at school on the 7th.

Hi everyone, loads of new posts. I'm a bit of a lurker too Elasticated, I have a sneaky look at work but can't post from there so have to wait til I get home. Only 7 full working days left though - yippeeee! Can't believe that I can say I'm having a baby next month, well hopefully, if I'm late and they leave me 2 weeks that will take me just into October. I wonder if anyone will go early?!? Might not be long til we hear the first tiny patter of feet on the Sep thread.....
Bubbles - can't believe what that girl said. I have friends who would give anything to be pregnant right now.
Think my baba has dropped too, I didn't realise til I was reading all your threads. I'm peeing constantly. I used to get up maybe twice during the night but last night had to get up 6 times and I go about every 10 mins at work! Also getting funny pains really low down & branston pickles are getting more uncomfortable.
Anyhoo, better go, take care everyone. x

given the time and the fact I'm not asleep.

Combination of this small one inside me and MICE .

May well elaborate on this in the morning (real morning that is) but just want to be asleep. Have eaten a banana so maybe this will help .

RZ - LOL at your description of your relative's email. What a cheek. Perhpas he would be qualified to comment once he has given birth!

Bubbles - no its not your hormones! I agree. Disgusting comment.

Franch - glad to see you are still with us. Sorry about your mw troubles and uncertainty due to mum being around rather late in the piece. Know what you mean about uncertainty - I'm feeling like I need the security of knowing when/how things around me are going to happen.

My baby has also dropped (about a week ago, at 33 weeks), but DS1 didn't drop at all, just went from normal to labour - so I guess everyone is different

Just thinking how great this thread is. Everyone is so supportive. Just what I need in my delicate emotional state. Thanks to all for being so lovely to everyone. It is a real boost!

I have got dd's uniform too as this one is due two days before she starts nursery.

Picadilly - sorry you have had such a bad night, hope you managed to get back to sleep.

Bubbles - you are a saint but now it is time to start taking it easy.

hey everyone, check this out, the one time i slept til half past 7 and someone else can't sleep, typical!!! we could of had a chat pc.
mummyhill, i can just see saint bubbles up in lights lol. god i'm so bored.
you really do need to be prepared for school starts as i think you're also due around about the same week as me??? glad i'm not the only one that's sorted that out.
dps parents are going on holiday on the 1st and my mum has agreed to wait with dd at the hospital so that once the placenta is here, she can be straight in the room, (the only thing written in my birth plan as i feel you should have a open mind about these things as they can be so unpredictable) only now my mum and dad are thjinking of booking a holiday around the 5th, she couldn't understand why i went mad. they have now decided to leave it until my 2 weeks overdue is up. phew!!!i hate relying on people, would rather sort things out myself but i'm not superwoman.

Bubbles i am due 3 days after you by my dates 5 by the hospitals but knowing my cycle etc mine are deff more accuurate!!!!!!My best mate was going to have dd but has had to move up to manchester so now my mum is on stand by and will come out of work if necessary, she has also said that if i need help after dh returns to work she will have the rest of her hoilday and be here for me. I love my mum!!!!!!!!!!

hi all

midwife was rubbish yesterday......told me i will be experiencing pain, as i'm so small and there's a lot of baby inside me. told me to keep my knees together and rest.

then when i get home and read my notes she has confirmed my other midwife's suspicions of SPD. she hasn't given me any real advice or support on how to deal with this, so i've come on here to plunder the encyclopaedic knowledge of mumsnet.

i just feel like crying, i can't even move about enough to clean the house or get to the corner shop (which is 7 doors away!)

if labour pains are worse than what i'm experiencing with this then my hopes of a drug free labour are gone..........no way i'll cope with hours of that!!!!

After feeling quite 'normal' for the past few weeks - the exhaustion has set in. No energy to do anything. Still have about 30 hours of work to do from home till I finish and havent packed hospital bag yet. Baby must be pressing against my lungs as am very short of breath too - want it to drop soon as would rather be going to loo more often than feeling like this.

Bubbles - shocking comment from that woman. Cant believe she said that!!