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PiccadillyCircus · 05/08/2005 12:05

mummyhill - I am also concerned about having a baby on my 30th birthday. Due date is 8 days later, but DS came 11 days early so I am telling this one not to appear on 8th September . Don't think I'd mind it coming on my birthday so much, but all the rest of my birthdays would have to be shared with someone else and I like my birthday to be special to me (worried that might sound a bit childish )

This baby now has the promise of somewhere to sleep (Moses basket to be picked up), all DS's old clothes have been washed (although they do need sorting), it has some nappies of its own size (rather than the thought of putting it into DS's size 4+ ones ), I have started packing my hospital bag, have started packing DS's bag (in case he needs to go off somewhere whilst baby producing is happening).

Need to finish packing bags, organise what will happen to DS, sort out all the small clothes, and do lots more things I am sure. This baby will probably be late now and not arrive for 8 weeks, whereas I am anticipating an earlier arrival like DS so am thinking more like 4 weeks.

At least I am getting excited about meeting my second baby now - it took me a long time but I am lookign forward to it now .

Actually feeling OK about being pregnant at the moment - I think as the third trimester was so bad last time (SPD, being in and out of hospital for 3 weeks before DS came and finding out I had pre-eclampsia) that at the moment things seem quite good . I am even contemplating a third at some time (although not for a while, although that is what I said after DS was born and look where I am now )

Redhelen · 05/08/2005 12:24

I want to buy a baby-in-bottle kit - or lay an egg and share sitting on with dh!! Pregnancy is hard second time round with another child and I should not have left such a gap!

Had a bit of a falling out with dh earlier in the week - he wants another child after this one - found that a little ungreatful after the strugle we have had (well mainly me!) and my age too! Made me feel he wasn't going to fully appreciate this miracle!

PiccadillyCircus - understand why you wouldn't want to share your birthday with baby - babys take so much of the limelight (particullary in the first 5 years) you should have just one day to be spoilt!

ych · 05/08/2005 12:38

Boompi - glad your little one is okay too. I think they just like to worry us, it will probably have a wee party in your tummy today. It's quite funny looking back now, as last night was one of the first occasions of 'leaving your dignity at the door'. I'd only been in the place 10 seconds when they asked me to take off my pants. Obviously, I knew I would have to, but the little prude inside me was cringing at first! LOL
I've stopped worrying about work, I had to set my alarm for 9am to phone in and couldnt get back to sleep. Will no doubt have a wee nap this afternoon. I'm off to read the papers now and take your advice and veg. x

Kiwifruit · 05/08/2005 13:42

Loving the baby in a bottle kit. I have a friend who has 4 kids and LOVES being pregnant - she would do surrogacy, but is unable to have any more children. Personally, I can't see the attraction... It's been an interesting experience, and I've been really lucky in terms of sickness and aches and pains, but if it weren't for the fact I would like 2 or 3 children, I wouldn't be racing to do it again. It's the inconvenience of the whole thing... have to make too many changes to your lifestyle. But then again, we should be thankful, as there are plenty of people out there who would kill to be in our position, but can't be...

Boompi - glad to hear everything is OK. These babies certainly cause a bit of stress! Try some sugar to wake it up - I had some Haribo sweets yesterday, which caused a full scale riot in my belly

elasticated · 05/08/2005 14:45

glad to hear everyone is ok after hospital visits - must be scarey. Its all seeming far too real now, went to dr this morning (no midwife appts available this week as usual) but they weren't very helpful re head engaging thing but all else looks good which is a relief as i've been feeling ropey this week - dodgy stomach and feeling sick - yuk. anyway - better get back to some work, only 8 days of work left spread over the next 3 weeks - woo-hoo!

mummyhill · 05/08/2005 14:50

I usually get pampered on mothers day and my my birthday so if i share my birthday with bump i will not be impressed with being eclipsed. DH has been warned that if i am in over my birthday people are not allowed on the ward unless they have suitabke gifts and cards for new baba, dd and me me me. Is that selfish of me?

franch · 05/08/2005 15:04

Selfishness definitely in order around childbirth methinks ...

diane77 · 05/08/2005 15:39

how often is everyone seeing there midwife? its been 4 weeks since i last saw mine, its a new thing but not entirely happy with it.

franch · 05/08/2005 15:44

For me it's now every 2 weeks (34 weeks onwards I think).

diane77 · 05/08/2005 15:48

im 36 weeks on sunday and due to see mw on wednesday if they tell me to come aback in 2 weeks i think ill go mad, ireally havent built up any kind of relationship with any of them maybe due to the fact im not going to there hospital to give birth, feel like im progressing through this pregnancy alone

mummyhill · 05/08/2005 16:08

Last saw hospital on 22nd july, saw community midwife 2 weeks prior to that. I am seeing my community midwife on monday and have a follow up appointment a week on friday at the hospital re my back. Have seen them all a lot less this pregnancy than with my first and am rather confused as i was told i would be very closley monitored durring this pregnancy dur to my mc last year if this is close monitoring i feel sorry for those who are receiving standard care levels.

Boompi · 05/08/2005 16:23

Diane77 - I saw hospital doctor(not my usual one) at 35 weeks and told 'she was worried baby may be too big' and to make next appt for 39 weeks! Didnt make much sense to me so I made antenatal appointment with gp for 36 weeks myself - just to check bp, urine etc. (I asked a friend who is GP what to do and this was her suggestion!)
There seems to be marked variation between staff as the mw and doctor I saw last night suggested I attend the maternity day unit this coming week(36 weeks) too. It seems they assume that people will be proactive about their follow-up. This all comes as a surprise to me - even though I am a doctor and work for the NHS myself.

RedZuleika · 05/08/2005 16:25

Re: close monitoring. I think the same thing. I'm supposed to be 'high risk' - and a letter from the consultant to my GP in February (which I've seen as a consequence of the recent altercation with said GP) said that I would continue to be monitored by scans. Presumably they were communicating the appointment dates on some telepathic frequency that I failed to pick up...

RedZuleika · 05/08/2005 16:31

I think being proactive is all very fine and good - but sometimes you're not going to find the information because you don't know the questions to ask.

When I had my booking appointment at the hospital they just entered it as a hospital delivery, shared care etc without discussing anything with me. It came as a surprise to me that this meant I would be having appointments with the midwife at the doctor's surgery, rather than going to the local hospital's ante-natal clinic. I know it's just a small thing, but they just assumed I'd know what was going on. But I have no other children, I don't have any friends with kids and you have to go quite a way to find some amongst my relations (only child with no cousins) - so how was I supposed to know these things??

I've come on in leaps and bounds since then...

Katts · 05/08/2005 16:33

I finally got a phone call from the physio who I was referred to 16 weeks ago for excrutiating sciatica. She asked if she could make an appointment for me the next day. I told her but then couldn't make it and had no way of phoning to cancel as her number was withheld and the phone number for the physio department only goes through to a recorded message.

Kiwifruit · 05/08/2005 16:50

RZ - I had the same sort of situation - think they assume that you're psychic (and to be fair, most mothers seem to be, but I'm not a mother yet!!).

I thought my shared care was with my GP, but haven't seen him yet - have seen 2 different community midwives. Are they the same as the Health Visitors?

I last saw the hospital midwife at 31+4 - this was my booking in appointment for my new hospital. Next appointment is in a couple of weeks (will be 34+5), again at the hospital. Think there's a GP appointment a couple of weeks after that, and am going to make sure I see the GP rather than the midwife, as both of the community midwives I've seen haven't been particularly helpful..

milward · 05/08/2005 16:53

I see my doc every 4 weeks until 34 wks & then every 2 wks until the big day! I now see my physio every weeks for leg & back massage - wonderful for leg cramps. She'll be with me whilst I'm in labour to help me be in the best position possible & to push on back if necessary - thats what helped last time.

RedZuleika · 05/08/2005 16:53

Midwives and health visitors are different, aren't they? But HVs are another thing I had no idea existed a wee while ago. Can imagine one turning up and my refusing to let her in because I don't believe she's employed by the health authority - as opposed to casing the joint... (although if they turn up unannounced, they deserve what they get, if you ask me...)

franch · 05/08/2005 17:07

KF - IME community midwives are just mws who offer antenatal care at local GP surgeries (or visit you at home) rather than at hospitals. They tend to deliver babies in midwife-led birth centres and attend home births. Health visitors generally have nothing do with childbirth but are the ones who take over afterwards - they do your routine visits, weigh your baby regularly and are supposed to help with things like breast/bottle-feeding problems, looking out for PND, anything other than urgent medical problems really. I know there are widely varying opinions and experiences of HVs on MN, but I found mine lovely and a really useful source of wisdom on everything from sleeping problems to colic to persuading DD to take a bottle.

franch · 05/08/2005 17:09

Oh, and at my local surgery the HVs visit you at home to start with, then they invite you in to the surgery for all your baby's regular checks etc, which tend to be combined with visits to the nurse for vaccinations.

mummyhill · 05/08/2005 18:04

Why do levels of care vary so much? My health visitor is great I bumped into her whilst shopping the other night and she stoped for a chat about how i am am i coping with nat etc etc and gave me some sound advice. She saw me through PND with nat and she came out and visited me at home after my mc.

bubbles2904 · 05/08/2005 18:45

hi everyone, i had a mw appt last wednesday and my next one is next week when i'll be 36+4. it was 6 weeks before that visit as apparently my doctors surgery has a new system. i haven't had a hospital appt since i had a scan at 14 weeks and had bloods taken that day. i have seen 4 different mws so far but now have a regular one who is lovely and very helpful and informative but is 40 tomorrow so will be on her jollys in turkey next week so no doubt it will be mw number 5. i feel as though i have been forgotten this time as i only got blood results back from 14 week bloods about 8 weeks ago which shown i was extremely anaemic. it then took 3 days to get me my iron tablets.
sorry, waffled again.
hope everyone is ok.

MNHQ

JJmumsnet · 05/08/2005 18:56

Hi all - am posting this for Mr Moschops:

Moschops delivered a little baby boy just gone lunchtime today. 4 weeks early, and a complete suprise. Her waters broke at 2:30am today, contractions started around 4am.... and it was all over by 12:15. Mother and baby are both doing fine, and I'm the happiest man alive!!! I guess you'd best tell the other ladies that they might want to make sure they're organised, cos it could happen anytime soon!!

franch · 05/08/2005 19:04

OMG OMG OMG!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS Mr & Mrs Moschops! I knew a baby would arrive on this thread, but not this soon!!!

Fabulous fabulous news, I'm so excited. Can't wait to hear more

Oh - and aaaaagh - I'll be 36w on Mon and I STILL haven't done a THING .....

bubbles2904 · 05/08/2005 19:08

wow i can't believe it
congratulations to all the family