July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

[stac14]

July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

stac I'm sorry about milo, best place for him to go though - being cuddled by your ds.

wonder I hope you have a lovely day today!

Is anyone else absolutely bone-tired? I had a full night's sleep last night and woke up exhausted. I don't have the energy to go out, climbing the stairs is an absolute mission, I can't concentrate on anything...it's only been since about Saturday but I'm wondering if there's something wrong, I'm even getting a nap in midday! So frustrating
mlic enjoy your day off!

Bit better this morning, still really really shattered. DD in front of telly, thank god for Ceebies. At home day today, so you never know I might get a nap later. Just want to hibernate until the birth.

Lol! Snap on the Cbeebies, DD's more interested in throwing DVDs all over the floor though. Can't take much more 'big cook/little cook' and 'squiggle sticks' crap though

Sorry about Milo Stac. xxx

lol at ladies having to endure cbeebies i suppose us newbies have this all to come!!
wonder try and relax as much as you can today!
i went to docs today to have my wounds from surgury check one is infected, i was up for 3 hours last night with tightening and pain, i presumed they were braxton hicks, according to doc they dont hust and as the surgery traumatised the womb i was contracting and she said its slow labour!?!? i could go on like this til due date or have him anytime soon, im not dialating at all so they dont seem bothered about it!!!! to make matters worse i look like death, which is my normal pregnancy look and my dh's friend wife was in there looking all glam
hope you all have a lovely day today!

Thanks everyone, you dont realise how much part of your life they become. Ds had to sleep with me last night, he said he had a pain and an empty space in him. Feel more for him. He's away to school, but i told him if he's struggling to tell the teacher

Glad your feeling a bit better wonder, i'm the same as you and chulita sleeping my way to the birth would be fab. Constantly tired.

i was watching something the other night and the woman was holding a newborn baby i suddenly thought how the hell will i manage when she's here its like being a new mum all over again. But then i realised how much we want her and how we all feel bout whats happening, think i'm just scared bout pnd. Better mention to the mw when i go.

mlic your so right about mental health problems, i never gave it a 2nd thought till it happened. Did you try and hide it from everyone?

Weather here is cloudy but sunny and cold.

Went to the gp today about my aching joints, heartburn and to get my maternity grant form. The achy joints are to do with the swelling as bp is normal. For heartburn i have been given the rantitadine sp? Thanks for the info memphis Hows everyone else today? X

Morning ladies,

Its vent time for me now, DP was next to me on sofa last night so couldnt say anything.

The night before last I wanted to have sex cos we hadnt done it in ages (ok ages to me atm is about 5-7 days) so I kind of suggested it in a non-verbal way and DP visibly sighed and said I thought we were going to read! Ok I love reading and would happily sit with a book for hours but I needed sex! So this all turned into me crying and him saying "its not you" bla bla the usual spiel. We did eventually have sex that night but it wasnt romantic or with any closeness.

I spent most of the next morning once he'd gone to work crying, not just about the sex, but about everything. The trouble is I dont know if its all in my head and my preg hormones are making me irrational or the fact he goes out to work every day and I stay here and do pretty much nothing.
It also doesnt help that this stupid girl from his office has gone on a 6 month round the world trip and they are flippin emailing each other on facebook, ok I know this isnt exactly an affair or anything but they have nicknames for each other. We dont even have nicknames for each other, I just think its a bit over friendly. Ive been wary of this girl the whole time hes known her, I just think she goes a bit out of her way to please him.
He text me at lunch yesterday to say he'd make more of an effort and be there for me more etc which Im grateful for, yet to see anything change though.
I just feel Im always giving and never getting anything back.

Sorry for the post I just had to get it out somewhere and have no RL friends to say it all to really.
No one needs to really even reply to it, Im not looking for advice or a solution, just a place to get it all off my chest.

DH I was a bit like that with my first pregnancy. It really sucks being stuck at home and waiting for your partner to come home. We are all paranoid, hormonal and over the top as it is with the pregnancy. As my DH used to describe me first time round - I was a ticking bomb.

The best thing to do is find things to do? A little hobby. A small thing like knitting something for the baby, sewing, drawing anything! Get something you can do ad get excited about! Apart from waiting for baby. x

dh sorry you had a rubbish night, just going to put dd in bed...

I think it's hard whichever way it goes. DH is always up for sex and I'm really not. This pgcy it's actually painful because my bits are so swollen, he can't actually get in, and if I get remotely aroused it's so sore. Last night I ended up in tears because I felt I was a crap wife because I couldn't fulfill one basic need.
I agree with jojo, try and find something to take your mind off things. Some men don't want to have sex while their partner's pregnant cos they don't want to feel the baby kick/hurt the baby or they feel very protective of you. I hope things go better for you today!

dh i agree with others about trying to find something to keep you busy, we are so close to the end now, the majority of us are tired and hormonal, i remember you talking about this woman a while ago, have you brought up your feelings to him about her? maybe if you told him how you feel about it all without getting angry or upset it will get it off your chest and make you feel better? our main argument in our house for 1st 20 weeks was sex, he doesnt want it as much as me even now! hope you feel better soon

memphis he knows I dont like her cos Ive always been suspicious of her motives. She is a few years older than DP, she has a boyfriend who is DP's age but seems so uninterested in him, never talks about him, didnt want him at her leaving do so dont think its a serious relationship.
I just keep thinking shes some young carefree lass with a good income and lives on her own and DP would rather be with her

Anyway I wont bore you all with my silly thoughts, they are completely ridiculous. Im going to see a friend later today who is having a baby in Oct, that'll take my mind off things at least.

dh before i was pg i was a suspicious person due to being overweight, dp works with some girls who are a fair bit younger than him. They always went out their way to be nice to him, flirting etc. But for some reason I have not been too bothered since i fell pregnant. Defo cant be bothered with sex but do it occaissionaly to ensure he wont go elsewhere. The bigger i get though the less we wants it, not because he doesnt want me just because he thinks he could hurt the baby that may be your dp's thing too. Try to stop worrying. X

stac yeah I think that is partly the reason too, he said its not as easy as it used to be and he is a little worried about LO.

I might try to sit down and have a chat with him tonight.

remind him theres other positions at this point from behind is meant to be best as bump is out the way x

I think also if you are a bit DH down and he can sense it, it can be difficult to feel sexy. He probably worries about you and feels sad when you do. About other girls - if they wanted to be with them, they would have! Life is too short for that. Although I absolutely understand being paranoid and worried. I am not a jealous kind of person but had quite a few dreams, including DH leaving me because he is gay! Pregnancy does it for you. ;) Try and relac and just tell him you are over emotional etc.. and need extra love and care at the moment. And just after the baby is born for a couple of months, that's when women usually really go psycho. Better he knows to expect it. Hope that makes sense...

Hello all

I was going to try and catch up with the thread, but have been out of it so long, it would have taken a week.

I've been off gallivanting around the world for work for the last few weeks, but am finally too pregnant to fly any more which means back in the office until my waters break.

Not that anyone will remember but weeks ago we were going for a 4D scan - it was truly amazing and there are some screen grabs from that on my profile page - crazy seeing and feeling the kicks at the same time! I completely recommend it - it made it all so real.

This week's irritation is that the curtains for the nursery haven't arrived. I was hoping they'd arrive whilst I was os but they're not here, so we can't chose paint to match which means the nursery remains undecorated for another few weeks at least. Fear I may be cutting it a bit fine...

Decision of the week: think it's going to be the Icandy Cherry! Hooray!

Chulita - completely agree about the sore bits this time round, and I was a total nympho the first time!!! Dh can't help but feel a little disappointed, but I don't blame him.

DH Hobby is definitely the way forward. This time with DS pregnancy I was just like you, I even convinced myself dh was having an affair with his head of dept (she's 35yrs our senior and actually a bit batty, not sure what I was thinking now) although it does sound like you've found a more realistic target for your fears.

This time around I'm so busy with planning house move and caring for DS I don't have time to do anything else and I just want to sleep, so if dh wants to go out with people from work I breath a sigh of relief and retire to the bath for the evening!!

The one thing DH always says is that no matter how much he loved me before DS, it is times a million since I had DS I think the impact DC can have on our dh's shouldn't be under-rated. Try not to worry. Paranoid wife is not as endearing as a trusting one.

I would get your fears out in the open though. When we were about 14 wks pg I lost it with dh and told him how much I resented being pg because I wanted to adopt and I'd done this for him and it was horrendous. He accepted it, apologised and said he'd try to support me more (which he has), but tbh, once I'd said it out loud, it felt a bit silly and I ended up apologising the next day.

I think speaking out our resentment/anger etc... helps us to evaluate in RL and decide whether it's just hormonal or a valid point. Hopefully your dh will be understanding if you do need to apologise for your hormonal rant later.

Sorry about the stupidly long post!

Thanks stac jojo and gracie it is nice to get things down on here and talk things over first so at least Im in a rational state of mind when it comes to talking to DP.

Better to formulate what you want to say clearly and get it out in the open, than to simmer and making snippy remarks. At least then he has a chance to defend himself/admit guilt/deal with it and you can both move on and enjoy your last few weeks before the LO comes!

Ha Ha!!! I once shouted at (what I thought was)my friend becky to 'come in!' but it was the postman, who found me in jammy-bums and DS semi-naked both of us covered in vomit (poor DS was very unwell.

aw stac so sorry to hear about milo . thinking of you xx
memphis so wil you have to keep gettong checked to see if your dilating or what way will that work? and im sure you dont look as bad as you say and even if you do,no one can bat an eyelid at it after all you've been through. your sounding upbeat regardless though which is a good thing.
dh really feel for you with regards to dp. they're not nice thoughts to be having and i know all about it! used to think like this alot and i always found that the longer i kept things in my own head and didnt talk to dp about them, the worse i used to be cos one thought leads onto another which does your head no favours at all. so make sure you speak to him and try and make him underdstand how your feeling. you dont have much longer left with just the two of you so make the most of it! and if your not happy with him messaging that other girl(fwiw i wouldn't be if it was me) then you have every right to address it as you should be number 1 on his priority list now and you shouldn't have to feel upset over something he does.
well haven't been on in a few days as i literally haven't had a minute to myself between looking after dp,working,keeping the house and hospital app's. feeling drained as i have no help whatsoever but it wont be for much longer as he has started to get a bit of weight onto his leg so he'l be able to do light housework soon. had my hospital check up yesterday and everything is good,measuring perfect and baby head down.my iron is low too so have to try and build it up myself with tablets or they're going to put me on iron injections which i dont fancy! that was the results from my bloods from the gtt so that explains my faint spells. bought most of my hospital bag stuff today just a couple of little things to get and then just get round to putting it all in a bag!
oh and in relation to the sex thing im a bit more up for it than i was before but stil not mad for it but doesn't matter now cos dp not much good to me with a crippled knee lol!

My daughter opened the doors once to my neighbour from upstairs. At the time my bedroom was directly opposite the front door and I was getting dressed sitting on my bed!!! Thank God my old neighbour has a sense of humour, plus it helps he is gay... It ended up as a bit of a joke. How embarassing though.