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Here we are - pull up a beanbag and help yourselves to mini eggs!

Hello all and big thoughts to norfolk it sounds like you have been through so much. As you say I have everything crossed for you in the future, and 38 is pretty young compared to some of my preggers mummy friends at 41 and 43 respectively! Take care...x

We had scan on Wed and finally pip is bigger than the cyst, although the bgr is still there so they are keeping an eye on it.. fingers crossed that the nuchal letter thingy has the low odds that 97% of us are supposed to get.

Garden update (for Nymph mostly, dunno if anyone else i green fingered out there!) dh was very supportive as I battled to put a greenhouse up today in spite of the rain and gales - think some brownie points there!

Merry Easter to all, try and have a relaxing weekend ladies!!

Okay, I haven't posted since Wed and I really need to unload so i'm sorry if this rambles and goes on to long...

Went for scan weds, I was almost 45 mins late so I was ready to pee all over the technician to begin with. She had a look for the baby and went quiet so i immediately start crying! It turns out there is a large amount of fluid on my little bean's brain and looking at the scan it seems to be everywhere. The technician did ask whether i actually wanted to see the scan but i had to- it didn't wave and wasn't looking round but it's legs were kicking like crazy and i saw it's heartbeat. I'm going to add the photo to my profile pretty soon, i apologise for the slight blurriness.

The woman doing the scan did not help to calm me down at all. She told me that it could all just go away but they can do test to eliminate things and there can still be something wrong with it. She also mentioned that it probably won't be until the 20 week scan when I get any serious idea of what's wrong.

And, of course, because it's the easter weekend all the consultants have gone off til tues so i'm gonna have to wait til then to have another scan and blood tests and probably a cvs test. So i'm angry that i've had to take a extra day off work for nothing and still no answers.

I was just so looking forward to telling my whole family this weekend and now I can't bring myself to think about it because i can't stop crying when i do.

Anyway...thanks for listening to the crazy lady.

Oh no tinywelsh, that is terrible news. What an awful technician to tell you like that. Were there no midwifes around to talk to about what the fluid means etc?

I am so sorry that everything was not perfect but if she said it can just go away that is something to cling on to for the weekend.

Was anyone with you for support?

Lots of hugs coming your way and hope that the consultant appointment goes well next week x

Tiny Oh I'm so sorry that it was announced to you that way, I hope the consultant appointment goes well. As don'tstop asked, was there a midwife who you were able to talk to about it? They shouldn't have left you with that news and not talked with you about it at the very least. The technician sounds awful as well. I am sorry you had to go through that.

tiny, I am so sorry to hear you had a bad time at the scan. Must be so worrying. I am going to keep my fingers crossed for you and pray that the fluid on baby's brain is one of those things that will go away, like the sonographer said it might.
I know most of us have reported positive scans, but I do still have in my mind that there's still a heck of a lot that could be not right, and the 12-week scan doesn't really mean to me that we are in the clear either, as it were.

Are you going to tell any of your family at all - could be really supportive rather than bottling it up.
I just looked at your scan picture - bean looks so cute and snug. I really hope things turn out ok.
Tuesday will be here soon, I hope you can get seen really quickly and get some answers.
Thinking of you.
x

Thanks for the concern everyone.

dontstop and hermya there wasn't a midwife at the hospital at the time (it's a tiny cottage hospital) I did speak to a midwife from Maelor Wrecsam, she was supposed to be telling me when to come in that day but there wasn't much she could say on the phone, she mentioned what scans and tests i'd probably have, and told me when to come in on tues.

I did have my OH with me, he's been pretty supportive. He's not been great during this whole thing (he's 'not ready' for a baby) but he's doing a good job of putting up with my even more random tearfullness at the moment.

abfabt My mum and dad know but i was going to be telling the whole extended bunch this weekend. my mum and dad have been great and the one thing we're holding onto is that it could just go away.

I'm really hoping to get some answers soon, I can't wait for the 20 week scan, I'll be climbing the walls by then. The technician put me back half a week but didn't give me a new due date so instead of being 12+3 as I thought, I'm 11+6 (as of today).

Norflk- I'm so sorry to hear your news. Stock up on strong painkillers and I can recommend deep breathing, in the bath with the shower on your tummy when the time comes- worked for me.

Tinywelsh- that sounds so distressing- can you afford to go to the Fetal Medicine Clinic in London, or other establishment for a private scan?

TinyWelsh I'm really sorry to hear you had such a bad scan - compounded by an unsympathetic technician. Unfortunately they aren't qualified to give you anymore advice so don't - very unhelpful and frustrating but someone guessing an answer to your questions could do even more harm to you. Thank goodness your parents can be supportive over what will feel like a very long time until tuesday. I hope that consultation goes much better. Thinking of you all x

Norfolk, so sorry about the baby but thank god your dh is recovering. I think you are taking the right attitude about having other chances to conceive, but him only having one. Two of my very close friends had miscarriages at 38, in fact one had two six months apart, and both went on to have babies shortly after. You deserve some rest now and good luck with ttc. Take care both.

Tiny, that's just awful the way she broke the news to you. Really hope everything will be ok with the baby and you get better help and info on tues. Keeping everything crossed for you.

this is going to sound really pathetic compared to what some people are going through, and I apologise in advance for whinging, but I'm really struggling to cope with feeling so rotten constantly. Yesterday we went out to B and Q and I felt really shaky and faint walking round with ds. I have wanted to be pregnant again for three years but I just have lost any sense of joyfulness about it because of the constant nausea, sicky head and tiredness. I feel like I'm failing ds too at the moment, not taking him out as much as I would normally (although bloody awful weather doesn't help) and I'm useless around the house. Dp is being really good but he suffers from fatigue because of health probs so can never be as much help with ds as some partners can. I'm also starting to dread the scan because I think it'll be bad news and I'll have suffered ms for nothing. I'll shut up now before you all throw me off the thread for moaning.

Hope you all have a lovely Easter. I'm going to be with all my family so I'm sure a change of scene (and distractions for ds, poor lamb) will help. Here are some smiley bunnies for everybody

I just previewed this message and you may get a row of boxes rather than Easter bunnies.... Here goes. The thought is there anyway!

Floozie-you are totally normal . The worry is normal, the feeling crap whilst in B&Q is normal even for those women not pregnant . You sound like you're having plenty of positive symptoms. One thing I had was so much worry, I was just hoping for a heartbeat, whereas my DH had progressed, to the will it have 2 legs, 2 arms etc stage.

I'm sure you'll do no lasting damage to your DS plonk him in front of the tv (and don't worry about it- I watched loads as a kid and am fine....., cuddle up with your DH and order a takeaway for tonight x x x x

floozie Seriously don't worry about it. As I've discovered pregnancy is such a worrying stressful time and it's ok to feel a bit crap. Take it easy on yourself and rest up and if it makes you feel any better I spent well over ten minutes in the loo at work this morning crying as I felt so horrid. don't worry you're not alone and we can all sympathise with you. I hope you feel better soon.

Thanks girls - Elsa pmsl at b&q comment! Have had a lot of rest this pm and do feel better than before. You're a great bunch to have at this precarious stage (although what part isn't?!). Looking forward to the blooming. I did feel loads better in second trim last time and I think not quite so bad in the first as no child to look after, so it's head down to week 13 (fx!!) - just three to go. Xxxx

Hi havent been on in a while, really need to catch up but just wanted to say so sorry to hear your news norfolk.

Tiny what an incredibly difficult scan for you, really hope it all clears up, I guess the consultant might scan you a bit earlier than 20 weeks? 2 months of not knowing would be agony?

Floozie know how you feel it is hard looking after a toddler in early pg. Feel awful because I have started snapping at my children. like everyone I cannot wait for the bloom of 2nd trimester I think I become all serene and calm during the second trimester. Fingers crossed my dc will get a nicer mummy soon!

Went to arctic monkeys gig at albert hall last weekend, was really good, but was worried after a while that all my jumping around would hurt baby!

tinywelsh I'm so sorry to hear your news, it must be really difficult to deal with the waiting. I really hope that you will have good news following the further tests, and I hope you are getting lots of support (and chocolate) to get you through the waiting.

I have to say that I admire everyone who is coping with morning sickness/ tiredness and has children to look after. I have found it such a battle just looking after myself!

tinywelsh thinking of you, i cant imagine how horrible what you are dealing with is.

Im feeling like crap. My head hurts.

I will add myself to scan list, I have gone for the complete scan
Lilmiss 6/4
KSal 7/4
Hermya 7/4
DD 8/4
ILGH 12/4
Floozie 12/4
Tyson86 12/4
Sam 13/4
pookey 13/4
Nymph 14/4

tiny, I am so glad you have your parents as well as OH for support. My fingers are still crossed for you that the fluid will disappear and all will be well. I hope Tuesday has better news for you.

pookey, DH and I are due to go to the Prodigy gig in July - booked last year so before we got pregnant - think we may be passing the tickets on to someone else now!

Just got back from seeing Stomp (ow, my ears!), and it wasn't a late night but I was so desperate to sleep half way through (fat chance - what a racket!). So can't imagine I'll be up for a late night when we're seven months along, and don't even have seats!

Oh, it's Easter Sunday now! Happy Easter, Ladies. And to those not feeling happy, my very best wishes.

Happy Easter everyone

We're off out to enjoy the sunny day, walking in the New Forest. I hope every one has a lovely day

tiny that's awful being told like that hope you get some answers soon.

hermya next town along from u I think. I work in k hence the knowing places

still middle of the night here but sleep has been all over anyway. Was sick for first time yesterday but dh thinks it was stress. Was up 6:30 yesterday and flight was late so arrived in NYC 7:00/2:00 hotel is nice & free wifi! Spent the afternoon wandering central park in the sun& then looked for somewhere for tea. I was practically sleepwalking by then so we came backup the hotel for a rest & I wokeup now kids ate all day yesterday anyway and had hotdogs & pretzels in the park so they won't have starved. Dh has 3 meals &2 sandwiches on the plane so think he can cope too.
Spent the last2 days struggling to drink so really need to push it today

Right drink then back to bed!

Happy Easter everyone!!! I hope everyone is well and enjoying their chocolatey treats. I'm good, I think my nausea is sailing off over the horizon (touch wood) and food is starting to appeal to me once more.

Nymph Ah right, I can only think of G and U or S (I thought S) for yourself, since most of the other places are kinda titchy. I hope you're having fun in New York, did you see Doc Who? Unfortunately I was at work and missed it .

Seashells Enjoy your walk.

Tyson I hope you feel better soon.

Pookey You never know, you could have given your baby an early appreciation for the artic monkeys. It'll be jumping around itself before you know it.

And Happy Easter to you to H321 and everyone! Feeling a bit sick as scoffed nearly an entire Wispa egg..but looking forward to a big walk to burn it off!

Just to let you know those of you who are thinking about NCT classes apparently I have the last place in my local one for August. !
Can't believe how organised everyone is, apparently they were getting queries from February! Mad! Thought I would try it as first baby - any experienced Mummies out there find them helpful?

Oh crumbs VMumtobe I'm very grateful I registered my interest last week then. I'm kind of hoping that people aren't that organized where I am.

I know it's mad isn't it! I was hoping not to pay until I'd got the test results from the nuchal to know that all was on track, but was told that would mean forfeiting the place...and am quite interested to go as know noone in the vicinity (we only moved to the area just before Christmas) and think that dh and I might learn something - our only experience with babies to date is 5 minute hugs with friends' ones!

They asked you to pay up front as well ! My word, I was hoping to pay in installments, DH is jobless and my job just barely covers rent and bills and there isn't much left after that. I shall have to look into that one. I sort of know what to do with a baby, but I wanted to do it more for DH and the social aspect of it all.

Been thinking about NCT classes too - I registered my interest a few weeks ago, got the letter through last week and have til the 7th to make a decision. Not cheap, hey! The midwife did say I could just do the NHS classes with her, though they weren't as thorough. Also there seems to be quite a social aspect for new parents after the births with NCT groups, NCT people tend to get together a fair bit afterwards. Oh, what to do!!!

I'm also interested in hypno-birthing and Pre-natal Yoga classes, just not sure if I'm doubling or tripling up on information.

Is anyone thinking of hiring a doula?

Re paying up front, it's worth asking if they'll let you pay in installments, I should think.