The PESH Deli - The drinks might be virginal, but that's about all...

[CurlyCasper]

Come in, come in to the new haven for diffed BESHies. I think a group effort is needed here (and I'm being a lazy preggo), so please add to the deli whatever you crave/love/can stomach.

Nominations are also open for sexy fathers we can hijack to serve our mouldy cheese and cured ham

And the best mocktail recipe wins...well, bugger all to be honest

We told my mum when I saw her face to face at about 6 weeks, then in-laws a couple of days later by sending them my early scan pic. All very satisfactory.

Told MIL face to face at christmas when was 6 wks. Was hoping to tell pops face to face just after christmas but cocked up visit and had a row instead, so sent a card with his presents that said "your final present will arrive some time around 20th August". Cheesy

Scan date finally arrived. yay. not till 8th Feb. boo. but at 9am so no waiting all day. yay.

May I offer up some Hendricks gin and some v stinky runny brie.

ps I had softly poached eggs for tea the other night. I do not yet have listeria.

pps I have also heard conflicting peanut advice. as I like peanuts I am going with the they're ok to eat advice and ignoring the do not eat advice.

ppps I am not going to have SF vaccine, gp thinks is pile of wank. however, if I were the lovely ghosty then I probs would have it.

yes we kept schtum for ages. didn't want me mar getting upset if it all went tits up and didn't really wanna have to untell people and deal with sympathy. i don't like fuss.

told all the family at 13 weeks. waited the extra week after the scan as we were seeing both families a week later and could tell them in person.

so worth it. tears and hullabaloo all round.

ski to be honest, i don't know how i got away with it i'm a good liar i guess. and people seemed to fall for the 'recently diagnosed with anaemia' line (true) when i was drinking soda water a beer festivals. i also lost half a stone v. noticeably at first so that threw people off the scent.

not many knew i was in hossy, and work didn't ask what the problem was so i didn't say. i was only about 5 minutes preggers then and even the doc said she'd say it was just some ovary problem if anyone asked.

i did tell a couple of me best mates that i was in hossy with an overdose of fertility drugs (true) but just failed the mention the diffment.

anyway. we have purchased our first baby product today baby monitor. now according to my mothercare checklist tis not even an essential item. (especially for us in our single floor square flat where all the rooms are metres from each other). it is however the type of product that my lover likes researching the most, and so that is what we have

my mar is on way here at the moment bearing gifts though. so no doubt there will be babygrows galore as well by this evening.

not sure i'm ready for that

must get back on the case of the pram purchase too i guess. thanks to everyone for all their advice. will have a wade through it again and get cracking!!

oh and hello and congrats to Aussieng if you poke your head back over here.

always wondered where you had got to

I will be going for the SF vaccine per pony's logic. As you ask.

pony I had mice, and put out humane traps, coz I'm soft like that. Maltesers are a mouse's food of choice so I put a couple in there. I then put it in a cupboard and forgot about it for 5 days. Then, when I noticed the smell, I found the dead mouse lying amongst the crumbs of the chocolate. I guess it died from thirst as it wasn't short of food. I console myself with the idea that it died happy with 2 maltesers the size of its own head to take its mind off the wife and babies that it couldn't get home to as it was trapped in a humane trap by some stupid, ignorant and forgetful human.

Telling people: we told our parents pretty quickly, but explained that it was V early, plus our siblings but with strict instructions not to tell the kids as we really don't want LC to know until we know it's all ok. I told a few friends - the ones who I would tell if it went tits - not many of them, but one or two - and it seemed wrong that if it DID go tits that the first they knew would be me telling them that. We told two of YOB's friends, one because we were there when I thought I was miscarrying and the other because I went AWOL at his birthday party for 1/2 hour and they sent out a search party - and I'd fallen asleep in the hotel lobby.

I can't believe carrots thinks there is "logic" in my actions.

Peanuts: this is how stupid pregnancy advice is. Last time I was pregnant (2008) the official advice was not to eat peanuts because you would give your baby a life threatening nut allergy, you stupid irresponsible cow. I thought it was a load of bollocks and merrily ate satay sauce, peanut butter etc. Now the advice appears to be that they were wrong and peanuts are actually ok. (Now I'm just waiting for the update on runny brie and soft poached eggs...)

cheggers We have that wonderful "rule" here too with respect to being ill and off work. My employer has no right to ask my what's "wrong".

Cossie I've eaten peanuts pfff. I'm not allergic, jailbait's not allergic. If the wee love is allergic to peanuts he's going to have a really bad time in household anyway with his daft allergies. Man up little person! I'm very glad to hear your scan date is through - great news! Btw, good luck with the listeria - I've phoned social services just in case.

Ponymum My 1 year of biology degree would suggest that exposure to such killers and genetic factors are the real indicators. But fuck it, I'm a pesh and I want a runny negg now.

I must admit there is one food stuff I've temporarily shunned, bagged salad. I love my baby leaf salad but I believe it is actually this bagged stuff which does cause food poisoning - although maybe I'm worrying about nothing.

ski I has not shunned bagged salad - I just check it looks fresh before I use it (some bags look bit ropey) - I has not got salmonella yet... but that is not the way to assess risk! so ignore me!

re: peanuts - that never made any sense to me... cos if you allergic to something - they desensitise you by giving you small amounts until you not longer react - so if anything avoiding peanuts seems more likely to cause allergies in my mind... anyway govt advice is to eat them - so I go with that

I have v. bad cold... think is owrse cos can't take stuff... am not dealing with it well - am like a bloke with a cold at the mo...

iggy you are me a week ago Lie on sofa, moan, get head/foot/wherever massages and lap up any care and sympathy you can get ALL WEEKEND.

Bagged salad - went off that a while back because too many bags looked ropey. Even the whole lettuces we've been buying recently have quickly developed brown/orange bits. It should not be so hard to eat healthily! (I want a French/Spanish-style hypermarket with masses of yummy fresh food instead of my local Tesco. It's always a highlight of my holidays )

iggy I was thinking this morning that your method is of course the right thing to do. I'd wager that the bad bagged salad looks dark green, slimy and limp and was served as part of a wedding buffet left in the sun for 8 hours. Also totally agree with your peanut allergy analysis, you put it so much better than I!

Right, I went to my shiny new doctor this morning, it's very "Harley St" - I haven't been in a surgery so posh since I accidently booked in to a private surgery in Leatherhead... full of antiques and pictures of dogs and hunting scenes. Anyway, he said they are v v reluctant to give anti-emetics in NL due to the fact that there's not been enough research to show conclusively that babbs will not be harmed - they are not convinced. If it gets really bad they'd rather have me on a drip than trying to stop me vomit. What he has done however is given me something which works like an anti-travel sickness drug which I can take on an adhoc basis and is safe for differs. This is a fair enough compromise in my eyes because it's the nausea rather than the actual vomiting which is getting me down. More vomiting this morning - get in!

I think I need to start buying my bagged salad again - I think I've used it the last couple of years as my primary source of Vit B - those lucious dark leaves. nom nom!

Curly I always remember british supermarkets as having awesome fruit & veg, but all my visitors tell me that they are seriously over my selection. Perhaps it's just been a gradual shift over the last 10 years.

ski I am 18 weeks and can now safely report that I have not puked for over a week. So there is hope. My GP here also disagrees with anti-emetics during pg. She prescribes time off work, lying down nibbling ginger biscuits, and moaning about the end of the world until it passes.

Cleaning mouse droppings out of cupboards now. Based on the evidence, the friggin' mouse was actually on the kitchen table last night. Not. Happy.

Ironically, although I have scoffed near enough everything on the MW's 'banned' list (apart from liver ), peanuts are the one thing I haven't been near. MW said to me they are fine for differs to eat, unless there is a family history of eczema, asthma or hayfever, when it would be wiser to avoid if possible. I have eczema and Hom's son has asthma and hayfever, so to be honest, given that nut allergies are randomly and very swiftly fatal, it is no inconvenience to me to not have any peanuts for 9 months. I can kind of understand the science behind it, and for me it isn't worth the risk.

Huzzah, my recently back at work colleague has just given me her 15% discount card at the diffo clothes shop AND is selling me her mechanical breastpump. Jailbait immediately asked if this meant there was to be lezzer action on the cards. Yeh sure sweetie, as soon as you start hamming it up with that Brazilian boy from BBC1 dance show.

I've just had an amazon delivery - one of my very dear friends has bought me 'Urban Babies wear Black' in hommage to my unorthodox views on child-rearing

Guess where I am right this minute??

yes that's right, still at frigging work. that's proper BESH innit?

When my BOC becomes an actual baybee, I'll be ok leaving it at home alone while I work won't I?

That's shit cos sorry

Sorry if I'm being thick and blank minded, but what's BOC stand for [easily confused face]

[JD face} realised as I clicked post and stop didn't work in time. Bundle of cells of course! Muppet me

Hey ho at least another hour probly.

Yeah bundle of cells. Daren't think of it as an actual anything yet.

How is everyone today?

I've found someone to ride the horse until I'm ready to go again, it's a 16 year old girl who's known at the stables and is trustworthy - she took her out this afternoon on their first group hack. I was a bit nervous because she's not been ridden since beginning of December I think... but I'm sure it'll all be OK. It's absolutely perfect though because I wanted a schoolgirl to be able to ride July/August when obviously going to the stables will be too much, never mind riding - and also, I was feeling quite nervous about riding again if she'd not been ridden for 8 months or so... perfect solution!

That's great Ski, she sounds perfect

I found Wellie curled up on our scan appointment letter the other day, I took it to mean he is bonding with the BOC

Wellie approves! You must both be delighted that he's cast his seal of approval on proceedings!

Well he is the head of the household, so it's essential he is on board with the whole thing.

Aussieng I saw your post on the July thread about wanting a bit of Brussels pate. Knock yourself out luv... the risks are supposedly food-poisoning - will you be having this pate at i) your cousin's wedding or ii) bought from Sainsburys? and the other risk is Vitamin A poisoning. How much pate are you planning to place upon said cracker? A slither will be fine, a block the size of your head perhaps less so... bear in mind of course that pate is made from fat, not meat anyway!

Cossie Well it must be quite the relief to have received his approval - at least you know that you will not be cast from the family home in disgrace!

Very dull day. Nothing much to report. It's MrP's birthday on Monday so I am pondering the fact that I will have to get up to make him breakfast in bed. (Seems only fair since he has been doing it for me most days simply because I am apparently carrying his future son and heir.) I have bought his favourite smelly smoked fish today in anticipation of the event.

I have [gulp] arranged for my mum to come and help when the sprog arrives. It's a big deal as she lives in NZ and I don't get on with her. Not happy about it, but I am going to need help and there's frankly not much choice. My sister tells me Mum is now bragging far and wide about this invitation. God, what have I let myself in for?

ski So based on your pate advice what are your food recommendations for the restaurant I'm going to with MrP for his birthday? I have browsed the menu and there seems to be an abundance of hollandaise, foie gras, wobbly eggs, rare meat, and home made icecream. All of the above, perhaps? And what about the complulsory glass of something that I'll have to have as well?