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WhiteRoses · 13/01/2010 20:46

...now the "Crazy Baby Ladies"!

Had the idea to start this thread because, after getting my BFP on Monday, it suddenly dawned on me that I was going to lose contact with a lot of lovely people. I feel sad every time anyone leaves (though obviously happy for you that you've got your BFP) and thought this might be a nice idea, so that we can continue to keep in touch. After all, we've been through a lot together, haven't we?!

Also, I felt a bit out of my depth on the other threads, where it seemed like most of the members had already had children. There didn't seem to be a "first-timers" thread on here. (Unless I missed it!)

So here goes!

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CurlyCasper · 17/02/2010 18:51

so much happening here and I'm being rubbish at keeping up. Doesn't help that I am now signed off work because my arthritis is hitting my hands/arms/shoulders pretty bad - which means not using a keyboard too much. I'm on steroids now though, so things should improve. And then of course there is the SPD. Such joys!

fulham sorry to hear your little (or rather big!) one might make things difficult. But, as long as you do what's best for you and bubs.
Still not sure about maternity leave. Original plan was the last day of June, but we'll see. I hope I don't go off too soon, I've only managed month one out of six for our maternity savings plan (something I worked out myself - how to save enough money in six months to make up for the wages shortfall for the next six!).

roses. My husband pretty much said it was up to me re the triple blood test. I am a prepared person by nature, so even though I'm not sure what I would have done, if anything, with a bad result, I still had to know.
Having a child with Downs, and not finding out until he was born, had a massive impact on one of my best friends. It's too much to take in there and then. I think knowing in advance gives you a chance to be psychologically prepared. And in all honesty, it completely changed my friend's life. She and her boy are happy and healthy now, but I'm sure there have been struggles along the way.

On the pram front - the bugaboo was just so expensive I didn't dare look at it. We have had a good play with, and decided on, the Quinny Buzz. Just holding off on buying it now. I think I already have too much stuff for someone 18 weeks gone.

I managed to record baby's HB via home doppler today and sent it to family by email. Think MIL was a bit emotional as a result And my cloth nappy kit haul from ebay arrived today - about £300 worth of kit for £100 - not bad!

Right, I must return to rest before doctors/bosses kill me. Hope you are all feeling good. sorry to those stuck with MS. And to anyone further gone developing the achies and pains I know only too well!.

sparklyrainbow · 17/02/2010 18:58

Please take me off the list- I've had a miscarriage at 8 weeks (it had stopped growing at 6). Had a horrible few days (half term too, not a good holiday but at least I haven't had to think about work), lots of pain and two trips to the Rosie EPU. Anyway, am over the worst physically now.

I hope you all go on to have healthy and happy pregnancies. x

CurlyCasper · 17/02/2010 19:04

so sorry sparkly. PLease take care of yourself. xxx

WhiteRoses · 17/02/2010 19:16

Hi Worrisome - NCT... It dawned on me last night, after I'd posted. I swear, I'm SO stupid lately that it isn't even funny!

That's really great to hear that your SIL is doing better, and getting help. As well as that your cold's clearing up. You must feel so much better.

That's also really good about your doctor being so on the ball over your BP. What exactly is the problem though - was it too high or too low?

Chance - I'm sorry to hear (especially for your DH's sake) that his parents weren't more excited... I'm guessing his brother was just joking? Anyway, I'm sure it was just the case that, as you said, it was all quite bittersweet for them. Can't be easy. But I'm sure that once they're over the shock, they'll be just as excited as your parents were/are. Meanwhile, it was nice that DH's aunt was exicted about it all.

Ozzie - maybe your parents are worried about imposing? I know when I was born (first grandchild on both sides) my dad's parents, brother and wife all landed over to visit within days of me getting home from hospital. On the other hand, my mum's brothers staged it so that one came over with his wife two months after I was born, and the other two came over when I was three months old. Mum and Dad agreed it was much better the way her side handled it, especially as all their guests had to stay with them in their house, having to be looked after and fed. Anyway. You might find that's what your parents are thinking, and that it'll work out well in the end that they have planned it that way?

Hi Hermya! No, I didn't see the Brits - what did Peter Kay say?

I watched the second episode of One Born Every Minute last night. Did anyone else?! God, the young girl... I hope I'm a bit nicer to my DH than she was to hers! Lol! The poor man though - looked like he didn't know where he was... Even when they brought the baby into the room, he just sat there till he was told to get up and meet her! Did anyone else think it was a bit weird that the mum (of the pregnant lady) went into the theeatre to see the baby born, and he (the dad of the baby) waited outside? I'd hate that. I know this baby's mine and DH's and I definitely want him there! Each to their own though, I suppose...

Lol at the six tests, Hermya! I thought I was bad - I did five! Mind you, the doctor tested too, so does that count as a sixth?!

I know what you mean about knicker-checking though. I'm the same, still. Actually, the night before last, I was up to the loo and I wiped and accidently dropped the paper down the toilet before looking at it... I had to wipe again, just to be certain. How ridiculous is that? I'm just SO paranoid! REALLY want my scan! Mind you, knowing me, that won't stop me still worrying. Maybe when I start to feel movement... Oooh, I can't wait for that!

Ugh, sorry to hear about your sickness, Hermya. It's rotten, isn't it? Does anyone else find that some days are much better or worse than others? I've had a really bad day today, hardly keeping anything down, and I can't work out why. Have done nothing different, as far as I can tell... Mind you, much as I hate bad days, I tend to panic on good days too, because I've read that sometimes the only symptom of miscarriage can be that you stop feeling pregnant (i.e. you don't get cramps or bleeding or anything, but you do stop feeling sick!) I know, I'm insane!

So what is it you do, Hermya, if you don't mind me asking? My job has H&S implications too, so I had to come clean asap as well. Mind you, only management know and they've been very good at helping me keep it all under wraps. At the moment, aside from the managers at work, only my mum, dad and sister know. We're not keeping it from MIL, but haven't really had the chance to tell her yet. Otherwise, after the scan on the 2nd of March, we're going to tell the rest of our families and friends. Then everyone else at work once they all know.

See with work though? I spoke to my doctor and my midwife, and they both told me seperately that at this stage, I shouldn't be too concerned about work, if I were to be hit in the belly or anything. They said that up until about 16wks, although they wouldn't recommend I try it, it'd be pretty hard to do any real damage - that that's what happens when you have a bump, rather than in the early days. So although I didn't tell them that at work, it makes me feel better!

Right, better dash now. Going to have a quick check on the Conception thread to see if there's any news, and then I'm off out. So here's hoping - am particularly interested in Fudgecat at the moment!

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WhiteRoses · 17/02/2010 19:29

Sorry, a couple of cross posts there... Sparkly, I'm SO sorry. I hope you'll still keep in touch with us, even via the Conception forum, if this one's a bit painful for you. We'll all be thinking of you anyway though, I'm sure. Take it easy. x

Curly - sorry to hear your arthritis has gotten so bad. Don't worry about typing to us. We're here and love to hear from you, but not if it's causing you a lot of pain. Just relax and try and feel better.

See, I agree completely about the test... DH and I have three brothers between us who have learning difficulties, and I know that both my mum and MIL say that when they were diagnosed, it was like a bereavement, because up till then, they'd thought they had perfectly healthy sons, and it was hard to think of all that now couldn't/wouldn't ever be. I'd much rather know what's what from the start, if possible.

How exciting about the heartbeat! No wonder MIL was emotional!

And cloth nappies... Brave! I've not thought about anything like that yet!

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NovemberAli · 17/02/2010 20:36

Sparkly - I'm so sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself.

Ozziegirly · 17/02/2010 21:57

Sparkly I am so sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself.

WhiteRoses I have no idea about my parents really - I certainly think there is an element of not wanting to impose, but to my mind the perfect compromise would be to change their holiday from mid November to end of September/beginning of October, which would mean the baby would be just under a month, but I would be out of hospital and have had a couple of weeks to get used to things.

I suggested this, but they said they liked to be away from the English winter!

To be honest, I don't really mind (although I do feel a bit about it) but it's more that I feel they will regret it when they know there is a grandchild here, who they have decided not to see because of the fucking weather.

Ah well, this is a bit typical of my parents - they are really great, lovely people, but I am an only child, and instead of me being a mollycoddled child, it's more like I have always been left to my own devices! In loads of ways this is great - I am very independent, have travelled widely - I travelled to Australia on my own at 16 and round the world at 19 for example.

But since my parents have been just the two of them since I left home 15 years ago, they have very much got used to doing things exactly how they want, and not really thinking about how it might affect other people.

Still - in loads of ways I would prefer this to overbearing, interfearing parents, so I can't really complain!

Curley I"m sorry to hear about your arthritis. I'm also going to look at cloth nappies and you have inspired me to look at e-bay. There are a few shops here that do them, but anything like slings/cloth nappies etc is seen as a bit alternative and middle class - and for that read expensive!

My semi plan is to use a mixture of cloth and disposables - I'll probably use disps at night so I can try to avoid a night nappy change (if possible!) but I like the thought of doing my bit for the environment, and also I know cloths are cheaper in the long run - plus they looks so cute! (when they're not full of poo). Plus I'll be coming into spring and summer when I have my baby so nappies will dry on the line quickly.

I can't wait to start doing the shopping!

I am doing an M&S order shortly and they have so many cute and reasonably priced things, I can't wait to get my parcel!

bunnygirl80 · 17/02/2010 22:56

Just delurking to say how sorry I am to hear your news sparkly I'll update the list on the other thread as well.

ozzie sorry your parents seem more excited about the weather than your baby. Is it maybe a way of protecting themselves from feeling slightly sad that you're so far away. My mum was the same when we were moving here - whenever I tried to arrange for me and DH to see her and my dad before we left she was always too busy with some really stupid thing like a coffee morning at church. I think she was very upset at us leaving (I'm the second of her 2 children to emigrate!!) but didn't want to let on so just acted like she didn't care at all

They'll probably be wishing for the English weather once Adelaide gets a few of it's 40 degree days in a row!

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pixiestix · 18/02/2010 11:29

Hi all, sorry I have been so crap at posting lately - work is absolutely insane and I usually do all my MN updates at work!!
I am keeping up with all your news though, and getting excited as everyone progresses!

Sparkly, I was so sad to read your news. Hope that you and DH are doing ok

chancewouldbeafinething · 18/02/2010 13:43

sparkly I am so sorry , I hope you are ok, keep you chin up. Its good to know you can get pregnant, and more often than not it will happen again quickly. I hope that you are back here soon xxxx

Hermya LOL I am banned from buying any more make up for a while... i am addicted esp Stila, was gutted when they stopped selling it in space NK. I know how you feel with the knickers checking...i still find my self doing it every time i go to the loo. Oh and i did watch the brits...and yeah i agree with PK. Can you believe what he did? if you didnt want the award why did you bother going?btw i love kasabian lol at tom falling on his ass

curly how exciting for you - that is so cool that you can do that at home....no wonder your MIL was emotional. Good on you for going for cloth, i think i will too.

ozie Sorry to hear about your parents. Its weird how other people react. Give them some time to let it sink in, they may change their minds. If not at least you will enjoy having all the time to yourselves before they get there. At least both of your parents are planning a trip, DH parents are thinking of comining out in dec 2011! oh and have you looked at Big W for cloth nappies? usually pretty good for all that stuff. And you have to get some bonds suits for the bub...it would be unaustralian not to! they are so cute when they sleep in them

Thanks for everyone's support re.DH parents. We havent heard anything since we got back, I told DH he has to let them know about the scan and try to keep them in the loop. (he doesnt like it when i call them, and you know how good guys are at that stuf)
I think BIL was actually just thinking about the fact that he is still single and now back living with his parents and nowhere near having a girlfriend let alone a family.
I think that at the moment they are only thinking about how it effects them, i am sure that after a while they will be different. If not then we will have to include them in everything and see what happens.
We have talked about it and of course we knew it would be hard to move but we still know that moving is the best thing for us.

feeling under the weather today...not really ms more like bad headache and dodgy tummy, hope i am not coming down with something. planning on spending the afternoon on the sofa under the duvet...hmmm
Hope everyone else is feeling good xxxx

Ladyemmalou83 · 18/02/2010 15:35

Sparky so sorry to hear your sad news. I really hope your ok

addie81 · 19/02/2010 11:54

So sorry to hear Sparkly's news. What a nightmare for you. Hopefully you will manage to conceive again as soon as you are ready. I have quite a few friends who have had one early MC and then gone on to have several kids, with no more MCs. This statistic was on the BBC news website yesterday -

One in five women will have a miscarriage, one in 25 will have two and one in 15,000 will have five.

As you can see - the chances of you having a second MC are five times lower than those of you having one MC. I am sure nothing makes you feel better at the moment though.

I hope everyone else is doing ok. I am feeling RUBBISH! I just feel sick all the time, its horrible. I managed to go to work every day last week but I had to go home early on Tuesday of this week and haven't been in since. I am so sick my husband had to drive me back to my parents house so that my Mum can look after me whilst he is at the office all day. Seven weeks today, so I am really hoping that in another week or to I will be over the worst and it will start to tail off until week 12.

chancewouldbeafinething · 19/02/2010 14:54

Hi All

Having a good day today. Had the scan today, the bean is in the right place! it was fantastic, i saw the heartbeat flickering on the screen.

DH came with me, he got a bit queasy watching the screen....what is he going to be like in the delivery room?

I got home and the letter for my booking apt had arrived (1/3).

Feeling better than yesterday too.

Hope everyone has a good start to the weekend xx

Hobnob76 · 19/02/2010 15:41

Sparkly I'm so sorry for your loss

Well, I had my 1st MW appt on Tuesday, and I don't like the woman already! As I've had an early scan, she told me that I'm not entitled to another! As far as she was concerned I've had a 'dating' scan even though it was at 6 weeks! Then she told us about the Down's syndrome screening that our NHS trust off, she explained that they do the triple blood test at about 16 weeks, and went on to tell us that sometimes its not very accurate! So I explained that we'd probably have a private Nuchal Fold scan. She then tried to kind of blackmail me into getting the triple blood test done by saying that I 'might' get an NHS scan at 12 wks 'if' I agree to have the triple blood test on the NHS and don't have the Nuchal Fold scan privately! We both came away feeling not at all reassured that she knew what she was talking about and worried!

So we've talked it over since, and we've decided to book the private Nuchal Fold scan, which I know isn't cheap but a friend has recommended me the place where she went and told me how good they were. We get to see our baby again on the 17th March! I'll be 12 wks and 3 days then.

Hermya321 · 19/02/2010 15:53

I have turned into a giant walking disaster area. It's not even funny (well actually it is, but I'm not laughing at myself yet) I've dropped and spilled more things than I care to remember these past few days. I have constant nausea, I'm so tired I can hardly think straight and my hips and pelvis really hurt and I'm so miserable. I was in Sainburies, went down the nappy aile and I saw the newborn nappies and well that was that. I started welling up, I made a hasty exit to my car and cursed the day I ever let my DH near me.

Oh the plus side I've now remembered how to drive. Happy day!!!

I now have a cup of tea in my hand and Pride and Prejudice on the tele. Suddenly all seems right with the world.

Hobnob What a looser!! I was going to suggest that you maybe go private and have a 12 week scan that way. From six weeks to twenty weeks is a heck of a long time to wait. But I see you've already done that and I for one can't blame you.

Chance Thats brilliant!! So happy for you guys!! Also, you're a fellow make up junkie. My DH lets me buy some things as he knows I'm not too bad and generally get it off ebay a bit cheaper. Plus I don't buy bags and shoes, so it all evens out in the end I say.

Addie I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. I hope you get better soon.

NovemberAli · 19/02/2010 16:27

Sorry to hear you're midwife is a pain Hobnob, she doesn't really sound like she knows what she's on about with the scans.

Hope the nausea gets better Hermya and Addie, mine seemed to tail off at 9 weeks ish although it's made a bit of a come back on the odd day or so.

Congratulations on the scan chance, and glad to hear you're feeling better.

I had my scan today! Was in and out in a bout 5 mins so all a bit rushed but have some amazing pictures which I'll put up when I get chance. He/she was wriggling all over the place and did a big jump when I laughed - it was brilliant! They've dated me to 12+5, but I think I'm still 12+1 relying on my Fertility Friend calculations!

WhiteRoses · 19/02/2010 16:46

Hi everyone,

Ozzie - I suppose each to their own and, as you say, there are up and down sides to having your parents being the way they are.

Hermya - I had wondered if you were in the police force. I work with adults with autism and many of them regularly become violent and lash out. A bit risky! Anyway, management have been very understanding and so far, so good.

Aww, I'm sorry to hear you feel rotten... Just need to keep focusing on the end, when you have your baby in your arms. That'll make it all worthwhile. (That's what I keep telling myself anyway! )

Pixie - nice to hear from you. Hope you're getting on okay. Have you told your mum yet?

Chance - firstly, what are "bonds suits"? I have so much to learn... Secondly, congratulations on your scan! How exciting! It really is real! I don't think I fully believed all the tests I'd taken until I saw that heartbeat! Gosh, poor DH though! Will it just be the two of you at the birth?

Addie - sorry to hear how rubbish you're feeling. I hate it. I don't know about you, but I feel so pathetic! Thinking of the likes of my great gran, who had seven little ones under her feet during her last pregnancy, no luxuries like a car, a washing machine, a fridge or even hot running water... Can you imagine running out the back garden to a hole in the ground when you needed to throw up?! Makes me think I should be coping so much better than I am... Ugh, but I can't help it! Pregnancy sucks! (So far, at least!)

Aww, Hobnob - I'm so sorry to hear about your midwife. Can't you ask to see another? My first one was SUCH a bitch, but the rest have all been just lovely.

Curly - hope you're feeling better. x

As for me, I've had another couple of bad days since my last post. Yesterday, I didn't hold anything down until about 8pm. Today, nothing yet. If I don't manage anything by later tonight, I'll have to go into hospital again. Luckily, the midwife reckons my baby is a parasite (!) and all I have managed to keep down over the past few days, the baby has taken, meaning it's had enough. But I haven't. So basically, baby will be fine (unless it goes on much longer), and it's just me feeling crap. Whereas I was coping fine yesterday, I'm now feeling very dizzy and lightheaded when I stand up, so I don't know... I'd like to stay at home, if possible (seeing as it's not harming baby) but may not be able to... Still. I'll give it a few more hours and see. Going to go for a little sleep now and then I'll try and sip some more water again, and see how I go...

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WhiteRoses · 19/02/2010 16:47

November - cross posted there - what wonderful news! Can't wait to see the picture! x

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Hermya321 · 19/02/2010 17:02

White It's good that management are being good with you, mine have been really good with me. Although work is now a lot more boring than usual. I can't have it all though can I. LOL! I keep telling myself that in x months time I'll have a DC to cuddle and fuss over. So far it's not working and I'm begining to wonder what the heck I was thinking. This too shall pass though.

WhiteRoses · 19/02/2010 17:09

Hermya - I feel exactly the same, and then I feel really guilty for feeling that way... When I post on the Conception forum, I just want to shout about how bad it is, and how they should enjoy not being pregnant - I didn't appreciate that time pre-BFP nearly enough! Ugh, how bad do I sound?! It doesn't mean I won't (/don't already) love my baby. It just means that I don't love feeling so rubbish!

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Hermya321 · 19/02/2010 17:19

Whiteroses I think there is a world of different between hating being pregnant and loving the outcome. Yeah we'll all love out LO's when they come into the world, but lets face it Pregnancy is no walk in the park. You get big, achey and crave weird things. You have hormones flying all over the place and your brain goes a bit squiffy (or is that just me??). At the end of the day, it's a means to an end. We didn't get in this state just to be in this state IFSWIM. Rather we got like this so we could have a squrimy cuddly baby thats all ours at the end of it.

Isn't it nice though that you can come here and have a good old rant about it though. So rant on guilt free my dear.

WhiteRoses · 19/02/2010 17:35

Lol! Thank you Hermya! [hug]

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DesperateHousewife21 · 19/02/2010 18:03

Hi everyone,
Have been away for a while so just dropping by to say everything is going fine, 10 days til my scan and finding out if its a boy/girl I really cant wait!

sparkly just wanted to say Im very sorry for your loss

Hope all is well with everyone.

Hobnob76 · 19/02/2010 21:43

Hermya and Whiteroses I could have written your posts myself!

I'm having a bad day, woke up the early hours feeling sick. I've been sick 3 times today and felt sick all day. I want to eat but can't, I get food in front of me then don't want it! I'm finding it really hard to think that I could be throwing up and feeling like this for at least the next 4 or more weeks, already been throwing up every morning now for the last 3 weeks.

I had a bit of cry on poor Hubby, feeling quite emotional at the mo and also a little worried about money and how we'll cope financially. I feel awful for feeling like this about our much longed for baby.