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Due May 2010: how much longer can we survive on crackers & crumpets?

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cupcakefairy · 25/10/2009 21:41

Welcome to our lovely new home

Gonna start the list again so it is more accurate, hope that's ok!

19 May - cupcakefairy, 25, #1

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Yorky · 03/11/2009 21:25

Viv - that is so harsh, but I'm glad you found out sooner rather than later. You and your DnearlyH need to do what is right for you, sending you strong thoughts. I hope this doesn't cast a shadow over your big day.

TomlinTowers · 03/11/2009 22:25

Viv, may God Bless your little angel, I am so sorry things didn't work out for you. I hope you can still enjoy your wedding day despite everything. I hope you and your DH can draw strength from each other to get through this together. You are all in my prayers.

MoggMum · 03/11/2009 23:03

Viv ..you're very brave and my thoughts are with you. Hope you're both able to enjoy your Wedding next week and I wish you all the very best for the future xx

VivClicquot · 04/11/2009 09:08

Thank you all so much. To be honest, I don't feel particularly brave - I think a braver woman than I would have carried on with the pregnancy and let fate decide. But selfishly, I just couldn't bear to get any bigger and feel the baby move etc, knowing it wasn't going to have a happy ending.

I'm too far on in the pregnancy for a D&C, so I have to go back into hospital tomorrow for medical management. Quite frankly, I'm terrified but am sure it will all be fine. I've asked that they test the baby afterwards to find out what was wrong, which will hopefully help to come to terms with everything.

Thank you all again. I'll be sure to pop back on and let you know how it goes, and also to show you some pictures of the wedding next week. xx

LittleOneMum · 04/11/2009 09:35

Oh viv I had a little cry at my desk this morning on your behalf. You sound amazing and by the way you are brave - brave is also about making tough decisions at tough moments.

It all seems horribly unfair - you've had such a tough time (we met on the MC thread, didn't we?) but I guess life doesn't choose these things really. We'll all be thinking of you tomorrow.

Good luck also for the wedding, try to enjoy it as much as possible. Lots of hugs xxx

LuckyC · 04/11/2009 09:56

Oh, Viv. It's so random and unfair and cruel. You and your nearly DH have made such a brave and strong and unselfish decision. Please tell him that we're thinking of him, too.

Get through the next steps and then I really hope that you can let yourself enjoy your wedding, let it be a special day, with all your friends and family around you telling you how wonderful you are.

We understand if you find it too hard to come back to this thread but I for one hope it's not goodbye and you'll drop in and tell us all about the wedding.

sweetkitty · 04/11/2009 09:59

Viv - so so sorry to hear your news, I for one think you are doing the right thing, I believe that sometimes the little bodies aren't strong enough for the little souls but that little soul will never leave you. There's a lovely thread on MN offering great support for women who have had to terminate for whatever reason, try and search it out and I hope there will be some good counselling for you and your DP. And please don't be a stranger, I know it may be difficult for you to come on this thread but we would like to know how you are doing don't feel you need to stay away

AnAngelWithin · 04/11/2009 10:37

oh viv. I really am, so very sorry. I wish I knew what to say really. Am thinking of you. stay strong and we are all here for you whenever you want x x

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cupcakefairy · 04/11/2009 10:56

Oh Viv I'm so so sorry. Feel just so sad for you as I know you have mc history, and you wanted to announce this pg at your wedding and everything...oh you poor girl
You are very brave...don't believe otherwise. Medical management is hard but I believe gives you some form of closure too. I suggest you get your DH to go out and buy LOTS of chocolate to take with you...I'm serious. I couldn't eat most of the day and then at the end, after I'd passed LO, they made me stay for hours and I just ate lots of mini eggs and dh read a funny book to me. Horrible day but that is a good memory I have of the two of us sticking together through it. Massive hugs to you and really hope the wedding is a gorgeous, healing day for you.
(and as I keep saying to everyone, please please do feel you can join the Emmsys girls http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1366/854753-Emmsy-39-s-weebles-continue-to-grow-Onwards-amp-upwards here who have all miscarried and are moving on from it...we're a lovely bunch and we always want newbies

memory so pleased you have a lovely mw who will reassure you as and when!

angel has the bleeding stopped now?

I've started telling people now which feels sooo strange! Have braved telling both my employers (I have 2 jobs) and they reacted quite well! DH has an interview tomorrow before his work finishes Friday so praying he gets it!

Hope everyone's feeling ok...I'm craving crumpets again!

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cupcakefairy · 04/11/2009 10:59

D'oh, knew I should have previewed to see if the link worked...try again!

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AnAngelWithin · 04/11/2009 11:00

yes cupcake bleeding all stopped now. The doctor didn't seem concerned, I have had MCs before and it doesn't feel like that. She just told me to rest

I have got awful sore throat as well, which the doc says is very red but not inflammed, so shes not given me anything for it which is fine cos I wouldn't really take it anyway!

She also gave me a low dose co-codamol for my headaches, which i am to use sparingly, which is fine by me. Just one might get rid of it properly anyway, cos taking paracetamol, it never seems to completely go away.

She also booked me in with the midwife on monday afternoon Sould be 11+2 then.

LolaAnn · 04/11/2009 12:54

Oh Viv I had a big cry for you. You will get through this and have a lovely beautiful wedding too. I'm so sorry, I truly wish there was something we could do to help.

DH is being a right ass to me, basically told me last night that I am ungreatful that he works (I'm trying to find work!).. which is completely untrue and he just said that to get out of apologising for something else. Sigh. Why must I be so emotional at the moment

glastochick · 04/11/2009 13:17

Oh Viv, I am so very very sorry. I really don't know what to say, so sending you a very un-mumsnetty (((hug)))

Sophie2008 · 04/11/2009 13:20

Hi Everyone, not posted for a while.

Viv so sorry to hear what you are going through.

I've got a nuchal scan tomorrow for the twins as can't do the normal blood test. Really nervous about it, going on my own as DH is at work. I've been told i'll get the results there and then, so fingers crossed.

Sickness has completely gone now which is great. got my 20 week scan a few days before christmas too.

I hope you are all keeping as well as can be.

Carikube · 04/11/2009 13:35

Viv - so sorry to hear your news. I've now caught up with some of the thread and this must be so hard for you. As others have said, please make sure that you enjoy your wedding day all the same as you'll treasure the memories of such a special day.

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 04/11/2009 13:37

Viv - best wishes for the medical management tomorrow. I don't know what to say but am thinking of you and sending you (((hugs))) I hope everything's OK for your wedding, and looking forward to hearing about it.

Hobnobfanatic · 04/11/2009 13:51

Is everyone continuing with folic acid after 12 weeks? THe Pregnacare PLus tablets (two of them) make me feel quite queasy, so I'm thinking of ditching them now. But then I worry that my crumpet-filled diet probably needs supplementing...

MoggMum · 04/11/2009 14:14

Hobnob..I'm taking a Pregnacare combined tablet which is supposed to see me right through to breast feeding so going to continue. Perhaps it's worth switching to another type to see if that helps?

Got my combined nuchal and blood test results yesterday and I am very low risk for my age which is a huge relief. Doesn't seem much point in putting myself through the amnio now.

Feel a bit more confident about telling people now too but for some reason still reluctant to spill the beans at work! Have told my boss though and he was genuinely delighted (especially when I said I would be returning to work in some capacity) .

Hobnobfanatic · 04/11/2009 14:22

Moggmum - that's great news about the nuchal. I couldn't stop sighing with relief afterwards - and slept soooo well that night. I've been so busy since, telling everyone I'd previously been hiding the pg from!

I'll give some other pregnancy vitamins a go, I think. I definitely need something to boost me...

Hollyoaks · 04/11/2009 16:54

Viv I am so sorry to hear your news, you've got me in tears. You and your dh are extremely brave and I wish you much peace and happiness for the future. Your in my thoughts.

And another (((((hug))))) from me too. xx

Hope your wedding goes well, you deserve to have a special day.

mollybob · 04/11/2009 17:41

hi Viv - thinking of you

had my scan today - v active baby, all well - feeling v lucky

memorylapse · 04/11/2009 19:45

Viv..I will be thinking of you tomorrow x

Im feeling very low..cant stop cry8ing, I feel as though Im just waiting to lose my baby again..ive read 2 posts from 2 different ladies who had haemotomas and both have lost their babies, one at 16 weeks, the other has just found out that at 17 weeks her baby has died..Im yet to read a positive story about SCH it seems that losing the baby is inevitable..yet Ive had such conflicting advice from the healthcare professionals

pamelat · 04/11/2009 20:31

Viv, am so sorry and I think you are very brave. Am having a little cry on your behalf now.

I had my scan today and feel incredibly lucky. Baby was moving around a lot. All seems ok. Due date stays the same. All good. Feels a bit wrong to be so happy about it when other people are going through such awful experiences

Viv, I hope you can enjoy your wedding day.

pamelat · 04/11/2009 20:33

ML, thinking of you too. It must be a very stressful time.

I wish you all the best x you've done so well so far (hope that does not sound patronising, not meant to be)

itshappenedagain · 04/11/2009 21:42

hello all!

viv- you are in my thoughts and i hope you can still enjoy your wedding. i hope to see you back on here soon.

ive been feeling much better recently and a little less exhausted. is anyone else suffering from really bad skin? im hoping this is just the remnants of 1st trimester and that it will disappear in a few weeks time! my Ds started at the school nursery today and it made me feel like crying, esp as he has to wear a uniform.

hope all are well and wishing all those waiting for scans good luck.

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