Due January 06 - Thread 2

[hotmama1]

Thanks girls, for letting me start this thread - bloody MACs (obviously could be user error!)

Went to the docs yesterday and he thinks may be a Feb 1st baby - but 2nd babies are often early - hope they are as dd was 9 days late - hence I am in the Oct rather than Sept post-natal thread!

Hope to hear from the midwife soon as I will want to book a CVS as I am now 38 - had one with dd last year.

Has anyone got a closer age difference that I will hopefully have - there will only be nearly 16 months between dd and dd2/ds - eeeek!

Welcome to all the other newies

Hi all,

thanks for the best wishes everyone.

I had my scan this morning and have a very helthy heart beating away inside of me. So humbling. I must admit to having very mixed feeling though. The ward they send you to is the same where I had my procedure with the missed m/c. As I was sitting there waiting to go in, there were women being wheeled down to the theatre and I just thought please god, dont let that be me next week. Once I knew everything was Ok I was happy but just couldn't stop thinking about the women I had seen.

Spub, Oh dear, theres nothing i can think of to console you. I'll be keeping an eye out for you hun!

Eshay, sounds like you have been right round the mill but glad to hear your DH and DS are recovering, hopefully it will be your turn to grab a five minute rest. Like you, I get funny aches that only a good rest seems to sort out.

horseshoe
Thats brill news, Its great to see the heat beat and the chances are better once you have seen the heart beat.. OOOOO i am all excited now and i have my scan on tues, i'll be a wrech on the day but cant wait for the reasurance..
minnie

This is your 12th week one???

Oh there the best. Good luck.

Have you brought a doppler?? I'm thinking of getting one as I'm such a worrier.

horseshoe,
Ya 11+4 cant wait really, all going well and hope bean is ok. I was going to rent a doppler but i cant in ireland.. If i wanted to rent on from UK i would have to buy it. Will have to do more reserch on locating one, i would love to have one though.. You should get one for peace of mind. How mant wks are you now??

Spub, I'm so for you - you've been so brave, hun. Please be kind to yourself {{{hugs}}}

Rachey, more {{{hugs}}} for you - am thinking of you.

Horseshoe - fantastic! Glad to hear the scan went well - it's SO exciting!

Minnie1 - hope your scan goes well - 11+4, eh? Must be due on New Year's Day or thereabouts?

As for me, I'm feeling nauseous, then worried when I stop feeling sick. I'd had two scans by now with DS, so I don't really feel pregnant yet. Am so desperate to see that he or she is all right. Just v tired - working a lot and not having much time to rest. Ah, well - should be less manic in a couple of weeks!

hunkermunker,
I have been giving 3 date so far!! 29th dec 31st dec 2nd jan, Im sitting on the fence for a little longer untill scan is over.. oo i cant wait..
Understand how your feeling in regards to worring, tiredness, sickness.. I really think we will never stop worring until they have grown up and moved out even then we'll worrie!!! ok i am ranting now.
How far are you?

Minnie1, Im 7+4 now.

My breast have had massive changes. Strange cause nothing happened with them last time. DP was laughing at my nipples this morning as they seem to have grown absolutely huge. I wake up and prod them to make sure they still hurt and I am really pregnant. Probably all the prodding thats made them change

You can buy dopplers off of ebay aswell and they are quite cheap on there.

horseshoe
was looking at them on ebay, will go that route i think..
Boobs are different this time too, bigger and not as sore. my belly is expanding yahooooo, and i am hoping i get the energy to clean and do general things, really cant be bothered at the mo all i want to do is sleep..
Going back to ebay to see dopplers, i think i will purchase..

I had my scan yesterday and it was very exciting and reassuring. Heartbeat like a clock mechanism whirring away and hand on head, waving to Mama! Still very small though, I was shocked that after 10 + 4 its only 3.5 cms long, just a butter bean really.

I have the nasty big needle scary test (CVS) booked for Monday, so any spare prayers, positive thoughts etc. would be very welcome. Please God this baby's ok, as the children know now (my 9 year old dd guessed - Mum, you've gone off coffee, wine and you keep lying down, I just put 2 and 2 together! So of course I couldn't tell an outright lie, and then we had to tell ds (12) too. Both thrilled and excited, which all helps.

Dh just about getting over the shock by now, I think.

Ms (but usually in the evening) seems to be diminishing, thank goodness, as long as I don't overdo it, then nothing helps but an early night.

Glad to hear others' ms is settling down too, although of course we've not heard from Rachey as she's at her mum and dad's - hope hers is better too.

Eshay, wow, what a time you've had, hope you get some peace and proper rest for all of you now.

Need to go and tidy up my messy kitchen now and get something on for tea.

P.S. My due date's Jan 2nd.

Hi all,

So sorry to hear your sad news spub y thoughts are with you and please do pop back and say hello on here and let us know how your doing.

Rachey - really sorry to hear about your dad i hope he is ok sending my love your way.

Congratulations to all the newbies here, really nice to have more and more people joining us

Goodluck all with scans etc and lots of baby glue to everyone.

I went for my first antenatal on wednesday with the doctor, she was really nice and i have my first midwife appointment on 29th June.
She said i will either be due on 19th jan or 15th jan but wont be able to tell till my scan which should be first week of july (i can't wait)

I have been feeling a bit better from what i was but i do not have much appetite but i am trying to eat just little bits of bland food which is helping.

I will be back on soon in the mean time take care all and look after your little bumps

Hi Lyra

I think youre the same age as me so can really feel for you - hope the tests go the best possible. Im going to have nuchal fold first and see what that says - we have it as standard in our area - very lucky. My scan is 4th July so will be so relieved also if its over with a good result.

MF

Hi everybody - hoping for the best for you today spub. Rachey hope all is OK and you aren't too stressed at the mo.
Eshay glad things have started to improve-hope they continue to you've had your share of bad news.
I went off to the dr this morning as I haven't heard from the hospital and they said to come in 4wks if I didn't have an appt at the hospital. All OK and they did a scan and i saw the bub. I couldn't really see a heartbeat but the dr said all was OK but he couldn't do a date scan or anything as my bladder wasn't full enough apparently but he said it looked fine for 10wks which I don't actually think I am.
I'm going to call the hospital today at lunch time to make sure they have the letter etc and are going to book me in. Doesn't look like I'll get a nuchal because of my age which I'm a bit disappointed about.
The scan at the dr's is a bit of a relief in a way as my nausea has diminished a lot and even though one part of me knows it is due to my brilliant accupuncturist, another part worries.
Hugs to everybody - bring on the second trimester!!!

Hi everyone,

Can I have some constructive advice please as my hormones are everywhere and finding it hard to think straight.

I had my scan yesterday and saw babies heart beating strong. I had been so scared the two weeks prior and suffered various nightmares about babies and their hearts and at times I could barely breathe. I didn't share this information with anyone but yesterday was very tearful with relief.

Last night I went round my sisters as she looks after my DD while I'm at work. She said to me that she had been talking to her neighbour that morning and the neighbour had said that I should see the bigger picture as some people like her friend have been trying for kids for years and still cant have them and at least I already have DD. I was upset by this and asked whether I was selfish for wanting my baby to be alive so badly. My sister then got defensive saying she didn't mean it like that and she was just saying nature will take it's course and I should be grateful I can have kids. I was still annoyed thinking this wasn't something you say to someone whos already pregnant and at risk of losing their baby. Anyway, I started to cry, partly hormones, partly relief and partly anger. My niece asked my sister what was wrong with me and my sister replied that I was being stupid and carried on reading her mag.

This morning I spoke to my sister and my niece normally until my niece mentioned that my DD who is only 2 goes next door to play with her neighbours DD. I said to my sister that I wasn't happy with this and she wasn't allowed to do it anymore saying I didn't have a problem with their DD and my DD playing together but was unhappy that DD went next door. My sister went mad shouting at me and so I just said that I payed her for looking after DD not her neighbour. With that sister DH comes down stairs shouting the odds asking what my problem was. I said I had no problem but DD was only 2 and I didn't want her going next door when I was paying my sister to look after her. I wouldn't allow her to play next door with my neighbours kids where i couldn't see her. As he was shouting, I started shouting and with that he told me that I had a problem.

So tell me, am I a complete hormonal bi*ch or do I have the right to be upset.

I think you are entitled to be upset. I would be gutted if I lost this one. Just coz you have one doesn't necessarily make it easier to have another and to be honest I was beginning to think that maybe I wouldn't be able to have another and was thinking well at least I have a gorgeous dd and my best friends have said that too when I questioned my ability to become pregnant again. It isn't something you say to a pregnant woman though. You know in yourself that sometimes nature takes it's course but it doesn't make it any easier to bear.
I would be more peeved at your sister being defensive of your dd playing with the neighbours dd and her dismissive attitude about it.
Your DH needs to realise you might react more strongly and be grumpier than normal (my dh has had to find this out the hard way too).

horseshoe,
Your pregnant they really shouldnt have upset you like this.. I would be mad if my kid was in with next doors kids. Would it be possible to get another babysitter? I know its handy to have you sister, and you can trust her but if it save the agro.

Yes I have emailed someone to ask about childcare. It's only until xmas anyway and then I dont intend to return to work. i said to my sister before I left that if she felt she could not cope with it to let me know and I will be straight home. I'm annoyed that she and her Dh shouted at me like that in front of DD when I had a perfectly good reason for saying no to DD going next door. I am not annoyed at the neighbour for the comments. She doesn't even know me but i wish my sister could see that in the first instance she shouldn't have repeated it to me because of how I would feel and then when I did react to it then to call me stupid for getting upset is so hurtful. I have discussed it all with Dp and he says he will back me all the way whatever I decide to do.

horseshoe,
she should'nt have shouted at you and her DH should never have gotten involved. I would back you too as you are right.. You are pregnant after all and you unborn child is more important to you. Its only 6 months till xmas and your DD will have you all to herself..

and I cant wait.....

Dont know if it's because I'm hormonal AGAIN!!! but finding it really hard to stop cuddling her at moment. I just want lots of cuddles and Sometimes she's like MUM cause she wants to play. She's growing up so fast and I feel like I have missed out on so much being at work. Christmas will be extra special this year as it will be the last one of just me and her, I'm sure we have enough love to go around though!!

So you looking forward to your Scan Tuesday MINNIE1???? Counting down the days!

horseshoe,
I cant wait and i am as nervous as hell, I know i will be up the bricks.. Just hope all is well, i will tell my fanily then. I know they will be over the moon, oo i cant wait to know all is ok..

You little girl will soon be a big sister, but she'll always be your baby,

horseshoe exactly the same here, we've been having tons of group hugs too. It is scary to think this is the last Christmas with just the 1 as we were going to have a really really small one too.

Santa is bringing me a baby for christmas....
Girl or boy?????

Are you thinking about finding out girls?

I probably wont. i did with DD but looking forward to the surprise this time

we won't find out

DP doesnt want to find out, i am sitting on the fence but i know i wont find out in the end though..