laugs what terrible news for your poor friend. Hope nobody here is worrying too much by all of this. Although these things can and do happen they ARE very rare, esp for nothing unusual to have been noticed at around 12weeks.
Anyway re support etc. I had nothing from the hospital. They just basically treated me like a child who knew nothing and didn't warrant being looked after properly. Still very over the way I was treated there tbh!!
But saying that, now days things have changed a lot and I'm sure the hos she goes to will almost certainly have a berevement counsellor when she is ready.
I would reccommend ARC to her also, website here I found it amazing. There will most definately be somebody there who has been through the same thing as your friend and they also have a number you can call to speak to someone when you are ready. It can really help to know you aren't the only one going through it and when it's all "over" as such and other friends and family seem back to normal this is a place where you can talk about it as much as you like without having to worry about what others are thinking/feeling IYKWIM??
The boards here are great too. I didn't know about them at the time but visit them now and the ladies there are fab.
Do you know what is wrong with her poor bubba? Feel free not to answer just wondered if it was anything like my dd's diagnosis.
Sending all the best wishes in the world to you, your friend and her family x x x x x x