Due in May 2005 part 7 - the one where we drop (hopefully)

[fisil]

Here it is ladies. Shall we start with a roll call like the efficient ladies over on April 2005?

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myermay, I'm soooo embarassed to have to admit this - but ds1 went back to nursery today! And of course dp is still at home too. We did a lot of talking about where baby will get his food from before he was born - I wanted ds to be prepared for it as I thought he might find it quite unnerving. I also got him to watch friends breastfeeding so he knows what's going on. He has seen me breastfeeding quite a bit yesterday and today (e.g. today I was only with him for breakfast and a couple of hours in the evening, but I was feeding almost constantly during that time). I make sure I am in a position where he can come and climb up to watch without getting in our way. This morning he just toddled around playing, this afternoon he was very compliant with fetching stuff and helping. But as I say, I am very lucky that he's at nursery and that dp is here. Another thing, breastfeeding ds1 was a nightmare and I gave up after 11 days. This time I am much more relaxed cos I don't want to get all worked up like before - and I'll just give up if it's painful or difficult for me or ds1!

The stories of families made me laugh especially logic's nan and fisil's dad !!!

Had a waste of time hospital appt today, the main man was on annual leave so didn't get to see him and only one registrar on duty so everything was running late. Anyway I was only in with her for about 5 mins and she said there was no need for an early induction because the scans have all said the baby's size is fine! We all knew that last week so why did I need another appt???

I feel so ready to have this baby now, gonna have a mad nesting day tomorrow, been washing all his lovely little clothes today!! Can anyone tell me how many newborn vests, sleepsuits, cardies and hats it is advisable to have?!? I haven't washed all we've got as I'm not sure whether to change them for the next size or not.

Also, where exactly do you get RL tea/tablets from?!?

Hope all the newborns are settling into the world okay, and you mums are okay too

Good evening all

Well, I thought things were starting to get a move on last night as I was getting some twinges (the first of this pregnancy - am 39+4) so took that as a good sign but alas they stopped! I think baby has got way too comfy in there!!

I have the same worries as others about BF, mainly because of the effect it will have on DS who's 4, I worry I will not have enough time with him, so plan to read lots of stories while BFing, which reminds me, I should really stock up on dinosaur sticky books (if we haven't done them all already!)

I'm also sorry that many of you have the 'unhelpful trying to be helpful mums/MIL's. Luckily both my mother and MIL are the type who will give advice but not interfere IYKWIM.

Myermay this probably won't be helpful but I gave up on the breastfeeding after three days of toots being on all night and for hours on end during the day, expressing, jitters (ie not enough milk) and still having to top up with formula. The final straw was when dd1 got sick and my back went out - still is. I had plenty of milk but like dd1 dd2 seemed to see my watermelons as a comforter rather than a source of food. We both loved it, but with the rest of the world to deal with too I've opted for just formula (after a lot of heartrenching and tears). Same happened with dd1 - except she never really latched on at all - this one could hang on for Britain but just wasn't getting it despite lots of help from midwives etc. If it hadn't been for the back I might still have given up because there just weren't enough hours in the day to breastfeed, express and sterilize everything.
Have to say no one's put me on a guilt trip this time which has made life easier - all of the midwives and my gps have been incredibly supportive. Dd1 4.5 yrs was pretty interested mind you - told dd2 to 'just get on that boob' one day when she was upset.
The formula's working out fine except at night when once she's had a feed she nuzzles away making me feel like a criminal. The fact that I've been downing high strength ibuprofen, cocodamol and the odd glass of champagne has stopped me giving in thus far!
I'm off to bed now complete with half a cabbage stuffed down my very expensive nursing bra which I'm willing to pass on soon to anyone who wants it.

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I'm worried about the practicalities of bfing with a toddler around too. I will just see how it goes and if it doesn't work then out comes the formula!

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Morning all.

Been feeling really guilty about the whole breast feeding thing. Ive never actually succsessfully breastfed any of mine, Ive never seemed to have enough milk so by 4 weeks they have all been on formula,combined with the sore and cracked bleeding nipples, so Id be in tears while feeding, and then feeling guilty when giving them a bottle. You cant win,
I had decided not to even attempt to breast feed this one but have been on such a guilt trip, Ill probably try again.

Did any one see the thing about breast feeding on "This morning" I take my hat off to all of those mums who succsessfully breast feed all their kids, but for 4 years!!!! Not for me.

Been having a little chuckle to my self about the mum/mil thing. My mum would help me out whenever I needed it even looked after them while I worked and was also present at the births of my 1st 3. Sadly she died 71/2 years ago.
My mil on the otherhand goes out of her way to be as detached as possible with any of her grandchildren, especially the boys. She hates them infact.
She wont do anything thing for us, couldnt even offer me a lift to the hospital on Friday after DH told her that im no longer able to drive and having to rely on taxis.
In fact I think its safe to say that she has an immense disslike for me, because as far as shes concerned Ive ruined her little boys life, because I already had 3 kids when we met and I just wanted a father for my kids and I wanted him for his money too.Plus the fact that im 9 years older,far to old for him. Well, we have been together 6 years this month and married for 5,So where the h*ll is this money shes on about??

Well thats my daily rant over for another day. I promise I wont do it tomorow.

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I don't think that anyone should feel guilty about not breastfeeding. Nobody mentions the pain and inconvenience. 4 years old though! Just my personal opinion but if the child is old enough to unbutton your shirt themselves, I think it's time to stop

Myermay, I knew in my heart that this baby would be very late. I've been trying to keep positive but it's starting to really upset me now. I'm getting weepy about it. I feel that I must have a defective labour starting procedure...

mayermum,

If its any consilation all of mine have been a week late,(sorry not sure if that will cheer you up or depress you)
Every one kept saying to me that because I am so big this time I wont go full term. Even my consultant and midwife. Well Ive got 4 days left. I feel like Im going to give birth to a toddler.

logic i'm defective too!! i can't help but burst into tears every time someone rings me and says "haven't you had that baby yet?". i've now stopped answering the phone. so far this morning i've had 6 phonecalls and two texts from wellwishers (all of which i've ignored!). it sounds cruel, but i wish they'd leave me alone!!

KWYM Holly, I've got a week and a half to go, but already my Mum is leaving messages like, "i've just tried you at home, and your not on your mobile... are things happening".. when I've just been to hang out washing!! Making me laugh at the moment, but if I go over it could begin to get very weary!!

With regards to Breastfeeding, people should do what comes naturally - I do find all the mixed advice from MW and HV confusing and intrusive.

Personally, I BF DS for 5 months. He was a quick feeder (10 mins all done). It was on demand, but worked out about every 2 1/2 hours. No burping. No sterilising. No Making feeds and measuring. I actually found it more stressful once I stopped as you have to be so organised with bottle feeding.

I'm hoping it's going to easier to breastfeed rather than have to do all that steralising, fingers crossed she also is a 10 minute guzzler... Also, If you bottlefeed, don't you still have to sit still for the feed, even if there's an excited toddler around?

{hugs} hollya. My last baby was 10 days late. Thinking rationally, it could just be that I/we have a longer cycle than average or something but it gets you down doesn't it, the waiting. I spoke to the hospital this morning and they want me to go in on Monday to be examined and decide on an induction date. So there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Hello everyone. I'm joining the "late" club now -1 day so far.... Last one was 8 days late so assuming similar this time although do keep waking up feeling crampy but think I just need a wee. Fortunately, have never had that needing to go to the toilet in the night thing ever really.

Daughter has found her present from the baby present. Nosey little girl . So, do I buy her something else or just teach her it is one of life's harsh lessons? She's keen for the baby to be born but suspect that might be so she get teh present.

Quick question. Did any of you second time mums go early on your first baby?

My midwife is already talking about sweeps and inductions and booking me appointments for when I'm 41+ weeks. Is there no chance this baby will come on time?

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welcome to the late club tinker! let's hope we're not members for too much longer!

Brighteyes, I was 4 days early with my DS.

Oh, although I was early, I was induced, as the membranes ruptured. I did a LOT of walking, and think this may have helped this happen!

Am feeling period type cramps today. Hope this is a sign of things to come....

Thinking of all you that have reached dates and passed them. I'm impatient now, let alone by 22 (my D day).

Come on babies. Mums are waiting.

For all of depressed about going past your due date, my DD was 16 days late. Oh, I hated it so I know how you feel. I have radically different views on childbirth now and am quite looking forward to my peaceful planned caesarean at 38 + 4. Oh joy! Recovery won't be so much fun as I won't be able to sit up without agony for a couple of weeks (maybe more). But then the day of the op should be nice. Can't wait to meet my little man... AND GET HIM OUT OF MY RIB CAGE!!

sorry to hear about all you late waiters, it must be frustrating. ive still got 2 wks to go and ive already had enough, and im just dreading being late. well i hope its not too long before you've all got your little bundles to hold. good luck and take care everyone, ill be thinking of u. xxx

Think my waters broke earlier! Didn't realise at the time, just thought that I hadn't made it to the loo in time although I was already in the bathroom. Sorry in advance for the TMI but it was a real gush so we think it probably was the waters breaking. My bump feels more squashy too. Nothing since though apart from the usual contractions. Thinking of phoning the hospital in the morning to ask their advice. I will feel pretty stupid though if it was just bad bladder control but it hasn't happened to me before in this pregnancy...

Logic hope you're on your way and wee don't see any more posts until you have that baby in your arms.