Due in May 2005 part 7 - the one where we drop (hopefully)

[fisil]

Here it is ladies. Shall we start with a roll call like the efficient ladies over on April 2005?

Poor you, Holly! I can't think of any solution to it either, apart from having a quiet word with her regarding your privacy while in labour. Sympathies. My mother is very similar to yours. I really stupidly phoned her to tell her that I was in labour in the hospital with ds. She drove down, barged into the supposedly secure maternity unit and made a fuss until they let her into the delivery room!! I got DH to ask her to leave which she has never forgiven him for. Needless to say, I will keep my mouth shut until after the baby is born this time. Let's just vow never to do it to our children!

hi! one handed feeding typing!

Well, Murray beat induction by 12 hours! He was coming very slowly, but the delivery suite was very quiet, so they decided to take advantage of our presence and broke my waters. After 2 hours that hadn't sped things up so they put me on sintocyn drip. After 2 hours I was only 4 cm, but it was beginning to hurt, so I asked for an epidural, but while I was still asking everything changed, the pain went through the roof, and I'd gone to 9 cm in 10 mins! 25 mins later there he was. Don't ask me what happened, I was having an unexpected epidural-free birth (just TENs and gas and air). Then they broke off the unbilical cord and lost the placenta, but it turned up 90 minutes later! Bit of a worry, in case I ended up in surgery after all, but with a lot more pain they got it out! Feeling great but tired!

oh yes, and the midwife was called Fanny. good, eh!

Wow fisil that all sounds very dramatic. Glad everything turned out well though. Think we're all going to need to master the one handed typing while feeding [smile}

Glad you are ok, fisil. Lol at them "losing" the placenta. How far could it have gone?

Wow Fisil, epidural free birth ! Hats off to you and congrats once again.

I am so in two minds about pain relief. I've always said about keeping my mind open, and had an epidural last time. I just hope its all so quick and that the little love just pops out!

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Congratulations Fisil and Claudi!!
Cannot believe some of the stories about the grannies on here - nightmare.
Hope everyone else is doing ok.

p.s. Holly - thanks for the stats. If you're updating at some point, Suzannah was due 5/5. I would love to know when Claudi's Clara was born - think it was probably before my wee one or around the same time.

Congratulations northstar, fisil & claudi2!!!

I'll find out tomorrow if I have to be induced or not!! In a way hope he's early but also don't want too much intervention if poss.

I really sympathise with the grandma stories. Without going into too much detail my mum was cr*p with me and my brother and really neglected us and is just on another planet, hasn't been very attentive during my pregnancy either (considering 1st grandchild), thought she might be different as a grannie! She's always competed with me for some reason and been jealous and announced over her birthday meal yesterday that she's thinking of having another baby!! Even though she's 48 and her boyf is 50 odd and has had a vasectomy! Really put him on the spot as I don't think he had any idea! She's taken a back seat through the whole of this pregnancy and phoned me last week to ask how I was and to tell me about B day meal, 1st call in 3 months! Now the 9 mths is almost up she's staring to pay attention and wants to start getting involved So frustrating

Oh, fashil, yes my mum is the rather detached grandma as well. But she has spurts of joyous fun loving Grandmother. So I take those when they come because I think they are good for DD. She was the same way as a mother. She's coming over to meet the baby, but not until he's two months old because it wouldn't be as much "fun" if she had to do some work. Family?! You just take what you get don't you? She has her good points too. I am looking forward to her visit. It will be fun.

Morning all.

Havent posted for a while, seems like ive missed loads. every one startng to pop. Congratulations to those that have.

Ive got 6 days left and having a thouroughly miserable time what with my back,psd and sciatica, although that hasnt played up for the last couple of days. But if its any consolation my IBS has been going into overdrive. Getting absolutely no sleep because of the weight of the baby on my pelvis.

Also starting to panic about giving birth, although this is no. 5 the docs reckon he is going to be over 10 pound, have been large for dates all the way through my largest so far was 8lb 2oz so this one is a lot bigger,Im only 5ft 2, was refused an induction 2 weeks ago on the grounds of it not being im my best interest and baby is perfectly happy where he is. So rather peed off about that.

And on top of that, been having hastle with mothercare. We ordered a pushchair, it was out of stock but was told it would be here withing 2 weeks, well the 2 weeks was up last Friday. So we went in to my local mothercare and asked them to find out what what happening, the woman rang customer services who said it was going to be at least another 2 weeks. So she rang peterborough to see if they had any left and they had just one, and if I wanted it i could order it from them instead so I did that, wait it gets better, they mucked up my card details, so my card was declined, she tried 5 times, in the end dh paid on his card. That was the end of it or so we thought, We did a big iceland shop on saterday went to pay on my card and it was declined, it turns out that mothercare had taken the money out of my account twice aswell as dh account so Id paid 3 time for one bloody pushchair. So as you can imagine we have had a stressfull week end. But the good news is they put the money back in today, and the pushchair should arrive today at some point.

So thats how Ive been, how has every one else been lololol.

I know I sound like a right raving loony but I just had to get it off my chest.. any way I think thats all (thank god you all sigh)

Rant away, Missblossom, that's what this forum is for! I asked my Doctor about being induced yesterday and he said 'What for?' What for? Do I look like I am happy and comfortable? Had very painful contractions every 5 minutes for hours last night so I got up and had another bath and they stopped so I'm absolutely sore and shattered this morning. Luckily my dad is going to visit and stay for a few days so he can babysit ds for me!

congrats fisil!

i'm fed up!! have had contractions about every 5 mins for the past 3 days, but they are feeble and just annoying!

decided last night it would be a good idea to see if sex would work to speed things up, but just ended up bleeding a lot and being in pain. phoned labour ward as was a bit worried and they said this happens a lot, perhaps i won't try that again for a little while!

Oh well done fisil. Fanny!! - she had to be a midwife didnt she?! brilliant. Doesnt sound too good about the lost placenta but at least Murray decided to get a move on! Well done for the one handed typing/feeding - that sounds like a big achievement too.

Mothers, families - mmm - very stressful. My mum comes up to work in London Thursdays and Fridays and normally stays Thursday nights with us. My dad (my mum and dad are divorced) is due to arrive at some point with his partner and also my Mother and Father in law are due over from Ireland in mid may for a visit. Aaargh. As much as I know they all care for me, I just want them all to come for a cup of tea, maybe take ds out for the day and leave us alone. I cannot stand the thought that any of them are there during labour. It should be a private time in my mind and I do really feel for you Holly. I think if it was me, I would get it off my chest - either get dp to put the record straight or get him to join you in making clear exactly what you want/dont want. For goodness sake these mums, mil's they#ve been through it themselves. Howcome they've forgotten so much. WEll I could go on forever about that - stories from my mum that all 3 of us were potty trained at 9months and other such rubbish!!
miss blossom - rant away. I know exactly what you feel like. Ive been in similar situations and you just wonder what planet some shop staff come from. I hate mothercare actually. The staff always seem oblivious to the fact that they might be dealing with a tired mum/mum to be and that queuing for half an hour or searching for a member of staff is really not very consumer friendly.
Also they never have anything in the right size or what you really want in stock and they dont care!! Sorry - somebody else's turn now!!

You must have been really worried about the bleeding Hollya. You are very brave to try sex though!

i don't know if it was bravery, maybe just desperation!! the bleeding was very distressing and it was quite embarrasing phoning labour ward and announcing to the midwife that i was 40 weeks pregnant and had just had sex!

At least you know that everything is ok. {hugs} I'm sure that they've heard it all before!

I am really cross. I need to buy some new nursing bras but I deeply resent paying £20 each for them. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy to pay that for a pretty, sexy bra that I will get some wear and enjoyment out of but I do not want to pay it for a frumpy, ugly bra that I will wear for less than 6 months. I suppose it is a captive market. To add insult to injury, the online places seem to be charging £4 for delivery too! Does this annoy anyone else?

m&s do a twin pack of nursing bras for £25, one black and one white and they are actually quite pretty and very comfortable. was very surprised when i bought them though as have gone from a b to a dd!!

That is expensive isn't it Logic. I'm going to stick to the two I had for last time. Once all the feeding is done with I deserve some gorgeous undies, as I've been living in crap ones for an eternity.

Sorry to hear about the unhelpful Mothers and MILs. Feel very lucky have such a nice one, she's not like that at all. I've had to make sure she's going to stay for a week this time. She's always worried about giving us our own space. My DS absolutely adores his Nana. We've only got her though as my DH lost his Mum to cancer only two years ago now. Very sad that she won't meet this one. Additionally, my parents are divorced, and their's never been a Dad about for DH, and although I've always kept in contact with my Dad, he had a massive heart attack, followed by a stroke just before DH lost his Mum - so is pretty handicapped. Thank goodness we had our first born around then, kids can really keep you sane (although can drive you mad too ).

Thanks hollya, hadn't considered m&s. I will have a look. I am going to buy myself some really nice undies once I am back in shape too

I love MN - all empathy here ...

Yes, I resented paying £24 each for 2 bras, but they fit beautifully - and my breasts are busy entertaining themselves today in a "who can get to water melon first" race - and we're saving money on formula! Be careful of M&S - their sizing is different to everywhere else and their advice to me has always been crap (fitted me an underwired bra during pregnancy - and it didn't fit either)

Grandmothers! My Mum is doing her best to be subdued and supportive, but ... I know what you mean. She arrived here yesterday just as ds1 (oooh, first time I've written that) had gone to bed. She wanted to run in on him and give him hugs - after he'd gone through his bedtime routine, and settled down, on the day he met his baby brother for the first time FFS! We had to explain to her 3 times that although we know she loves him, he really didn't need waking up for any further excitement after such a day! My Dad had been here for 2 days looking after ds1, but was so needy. You know, I ask him to make me a cup of tea, he asks me if we usually use tea spoons to stir it. I ask him to put some warm water in the top and tail bowl, he asks me where to get water from (uh, bathroom next room ...) and then whether the water he's got is warm!

Thanks for the empathy everyone - nice to know I'm not the only one with parents/ILs with strange ideas of how vital they are to proceedings!

Tab - I did have a go with dp of trying to tell my mum we needed space and privacy but unfortunately as we are in their house she has nowhere to go. ONce she got on that plane from Oz we were kind of stuck with the situation. Also getting it off my chest just wound up in her stropping off to my sister's in London for a week and coming back with nothing changed! I just have to hope I go into labour (Very quietly) during the night and pop bubs out before daylight.... Oh and then that she gets called away for a few days....Anyone want to put odds on??

Anyway updated stats here and hoping there's some more babies to go on the list soon

Cab Due 5/5 arrived 4/5 - Suzannah 8lb
fisil Due 26/4 arrived 8/5 - Murray 7lb 10.5oz
Weezle Due 6/5 arrived 27/4 - Matilda 7lb 2oz
logic Due 9/5
Claudi2 Due 9/5 arrived ?? - Clara ??
Hollya Due 9/5
Tinker Due 10/5
northstar Due 12/5 arrived 4/5 - Shannon Rose 7lb 14oz
Maddison Due 13/5
Brighteyes Due 15/5
Shhhh Due 15/5
Missblossom Due 16/5
LittleB Due 17/5
Preggars Due 22/5
Flyingdog Due 22/5
maymum Due 23/5
tab Due 24/5
18mumtobe Due 25/5
fashill Due 27/5
uwila Due 29/5
SamCattie Due 29/5
Holly290505 Due 29/5
myermay Due 30/5

lol at the watermelons fisil! Ooh I remember that so well. That reminds me, I really must dig out the breastpump. Totally empathise with the not-really-very-helpful helpfulness. Last time my nan visited she washed the dishes 3 times with the catbowl sponge no matter how many times I had shown her the difference. Aaaaarrrggh. But they mean well. Even if you have to redo the dishes 3 times in a day.

Sorry holly 290505, my suggestion was probably a bit obvious. Ive just been on the phone to my mum asking me exactly what I want her to do when the time comes and when do I want her to take ds1 away. Difficult question to answer seeing as I dont know what time or day it will be!!! She said she didnt think it would be end of world if ds saw his mother giving birth which I didnt feel was a very helpful comment seeing as that is exactly what I'd like to try to avoid !!

Fisil, your comments about your dad made me laugh. My mum can be a bit like that, asking "is it ok if I make a cup of tea?" and "shall I put this t towel over here?". My Mil is actually a lot better at just getting on with things and being helpful but not intrusive. My dad is not at all helpful and rarely sees ds because he spends most of the year abroad. I find it very sad that ds doesnst really know him at all.

Sexy underwear - will my body ever see any of that again? I dug out my old nursing bras. Ihave a collection of about six (varying types of melon) that are huge ugly things even though some of them started out iwth a bit of lace, theyve gone all bobbly and horrid. But Im determined not to buy any more - like you say they're an absolute swizz money wise and by this stage you feel you've spent quite enough thankyou.