Anybody else due in NOVEMBER 2009 :-) PART 2

[Koumak]

Ladies, it seems that we do not know when to stop!
Here is another thread. Let?s hope it?s just not the tread that moves that fast - let the weeks fly!
I jsut have to work out how to link the old one now!

Belgianbun I've got the same thing! Not sure if it's hyper sense of smell or if it actually smells different. I suspect the latter, if my recent killer farts are anything to go by. Who said pregnancy was glamourous

Well, just come back from having my head down the toilet - apparently with twins the sickness gets worse around 12-13 weeks and then tails off around 16, so hopefully only another 4 weeks tops - I can't take more than that, and I'm supposed to be flying to London for the day with work on Tuesday, so v. nervous. I had to cancel the last trip cos I felt so bad, so I really can't cancel again...

Thanks so much to everyone for their congrats - it has really made me smile. Think the news is gradually sinking in, but I keep looking at my piccies!

Laugs we only found out at the scan that it was twins. I was watching the screen and figured it out before the midwife said - all a bit of a shock, but a lovely one )

Doris no, I'm having twins and according to my dates I'm 12 weeks (hosp think I'm now 13) - I haven't felt any movement at all, and at the scan one of them was bouncing around really fast.

Helips our families are over the moon it's twins. Quite a few of my friends cried with excitement which was so sweet. Good news is they still want to babysit even though there will be two to look after ;o)

Pavlov I know I shouldn't criticise your DH, but he is being really selfish. When we're feeling really rubbish it's hard enough to get out of bed in the morning let alone do anything constructive - I feel like I've had a major achievement if I've done a couple of loads of washing! To accuse you of what he did was really mean - you take lots of care and know that you can moan as much as you want to us because we're going through the same thing and understand, it might also take the pressure off with your DH.

Sorry for such a long post - there were so many messages to catch up on! XX

Hello everyone!

Munchies poor you with the sickness, and I can understand why you are nervous about travelling. It is sooo exciting though having two babies!!!!

I'm having a real wallow-in-self-pity day today and I don't know why. Does anyone just find themselves being in floods of tears for no reason at all sometimes? I've just driven DH to go in a strop with me because I couldn't make a decision about who to invite over for Sunday lunch tomorrow and then what to cook. I just burst into tears at him and haven't stopped crying since. Then I rang my mum up to invite her and the flood gates opened again. What is wrong with me? Please tell me this is normal pregnancy stuff!! My scan is 9 days away so perhaps it is the stress of waiting that is getting to me.

belgianbun I have mastered the art of going to the loo really quickly and flushing before I've even finished to avoid having to smell anything. Strangely the smell of the DSs' poos aren't as offensive to me!

Choco congrats on your scan! The heartbeat thing is supposed to be true and when I was pregnant with DS1 the midwife said she'd bet all her money on the baby being one particular sex (she didn't tell me which until afterwards) based on his heartbeat and she was right.

Hello everyone!

Been away for a while as I have been feeling SO nauseous and hormones all over the place can barely stand to think about being pregnant let alone chat about it...Suppose I should be glad not actually being sick but the nausea with nothing to show for it or way to relieve (except eating BARROWloads of carbs) is nearly as annoying!

Feeling a little better now though so thought I'd pop along to see how you all are . Thing is, you are mostly all a few weeks ahead of me, as I'm the very end of the month (acc to my calcs) so I v jealous indeed of your talk of scans! On that note - how long between your doc referring you and receiving your scan/booking in date (if that's the way it works where you are)? I saw my doctor 2 weeks ago past Thursday and still heard nothing from hosp - normal?

raggie

ps about the expanding waistline - my teaching assistant yesterday said 'you've put on weight, haven't you?' (Charming!) and I said 'oh, have I?' whilst blushing furiously and she said 'oh, yeah, you definitely have!' - wonder if she's trying to tempt a confession or just really unaware of appropriate comments...!

Hi raggie

It took just over 3 weeks for me between seeing gp and getting my letter from the hospital. I'm due at the end of the month as well, the 25th, and got my letter this Wednesday confirming scan on the 20th may, by which point I'll be 13 weeks, so I can sympathise with you!! Seems a lifetime away.

Munchie - you must so excited about having 2! I am sorry you feel awful too. DH and I have had the mother of all barnies. Things are not really good between us right now, largely me being pg, and partly he is not working (lost his job in Jan) and is not doing enough to get another job afaiak, and the house is always a mess and I just got fed up, this was the start of our argument the other day and it has festered, and yesterday was bad, and today was bad. He finished the conversation by being quite insulting and the conversation ended for me. I went out. Came back and he had tidied up and was talking to me as if all was ok, I chucked up.

We had said, before we argued again that I would try really hard to pull myself out of this dark place I find myself due to the constant sickness, and get up some evenings, stop moaning so much, that kind of thing, and he has to work harder to get a job. But then the atmosphere is still there and today i was just sick of it. I told him I cannot help being moody some of the time, and it has not been all bad in the last 2 months, he said I have been a right shit to live with and it has been that bad.

Anyway, he has taken DD to a pirate party, she looks gorgeous, she is a pink pirate with bling! Sooooo cool, my little baby girl! I am meant to be going shopping as seen a dress In primark that looks nice and only £12! Will look good now and will probably do throughout pg. But I just want to crawl back into bed. Keep thinking 'make an effort, make an effort'.

Sorry moaning again.

I shall make a rule for myself. I shall now allow no more than one line of moaning about DH. I might feel the need to moan on another thread but not here, everyone has problems and we need to support each other not complain all the time!

Hello all. I'm afraid I haven't been following the thread much because of the bad news - selfish, I know. I am truly sorry to read each post and send best wishes to you.

This is my first and it still does not feel very real to me. My first scan is not until the 18 May and apart from feeling a bit tight around the waist nothing shows yet.

The boobs hurt like hell though, and MS has a strange way of appearing at 2 p.m. on the dot each day.

I wonder if anybody here is from the Banbury area and has any experience with the Horton Hospital?

Hi Skorpion I used to live in Oxfordshire and once went to A&E at the Horton with my DS1 as it was slightly closer than the A&E in Oxford but that doesn't help you much...my boss lives in Avon Dassett near Banbury and she had all her children in the Horton and loved it.

Pavlov please don't worry about moaning. It sounds like you are really going through it MS wise and I'd be the same as you I know it. If only you could 'swap' with your DH for a week so that he gets to feel like you do.

I've just been to town with DS1 as there is an International Cartoon Festival going on this week: it was a lot of fun.

My symptoms have definitely eased lately. I'm trying not to worry about it but I can't help it.

Thanks claired21. I guess I will wait another week and then maybe give them a call - don't want to have got lost in the system... especially as I am trying to wait until after scan reassurance to tell work - however as seen by last post my bulging belly is starting to become a bit of a giveaway!

Woohoo! Fab news!

1. My best friends husband and wife) have just left with DD, who is staying over theirs for a sleepover tonight! They have a 6 year old and DD was very excited. You know what they said? 'thats what family is for' (they are family, that close). It took all my willpower not to cry. Again. , so DD went off with her overnight bag, bouncing with glee to Dartmoor for the night!

1. DH has clearly told female bf how awful I have been feeling, and I think she might have told him he needs to sort himself out, or at least remind him in some ways how terrible I might be feeling. She is a nurse, and also suffered horrendously with MS herself. She said I looked very very tired. But she also checked for dehydration and said I was ok, bit dehydrated but not too bad. Told me to get to gp first thing monday. Anyway, the fact that she was a bit at how I looked, I think re-enforced it with DH.

So he has how gone to shops, telling me to go back to bed, if I can't sleep have a bath, and that I can have whatever I want for tea, he will cook it, even if it is hardly anything at all. He gave me a big hug and went off with an ecclectic list that will make the checkout person look !

Hello everyone. Hope you're all having a good weekend.

I'm not sure if it's my ligaments stretching but I've been having lots of pulling sensations this week, more than ever so far, and the gross taste in my mouth is back. I've got a little bump now that can be seen through my clothes. Nobody's said anything yet but I noticed one of my students staring at my belly yesterday!

Baby very alive on the scan today, kicking vigorously with knobbly knees and prehensile toes, and there is STILL no apparent cause for bleeding. Consultant told me briskly not to worry unless I got sharp stabbing pains to go with it, so I'm off to buy black maternity knickers so nothing shows. The consultant spent twenty minutes hunting for the right shot while the kid flashed us every angle bar the crucial back-of-the-neck-in-profile - he finally sent me off to down half a litre of icy water and walk up and down a bit. After twenty minutes of this, he then spent another twenty minutes doggedly kneading my full bladder while saying 'I must've done this test ten thousand times and I'm not going to give up on the ten thousand and first.' Baby turns vigorous cartwheels, and appears to flip the consultant a few fingers. Couldn't help but remember ds's nuchal - where a gently slumbering foetus immediately presented the delighted consultant with a perfect nuchal profile - and got a tad thoughtful.

Anyway, he finally got the shot he was after and gave us a combined risk of 1:24,187 of Down's, Trisomy 1: 77,897. Foetus was generally measuring on the titchy side compared to ds's nuchal which suits me just fine. (I just can't work out what's making up the rest of this bump, then. Cheese, I fear.)

Tamlin LOL at your little bean giving the consultant the finger!!! Glad all is well, must be a great feeling.

FFS he is still out! He had to pop a dvd round to a friends on route to the shops. If he takes much longer I won't be able to eat as it will be too late! He is taking the piss.

Pavlov glad your DH is being lovely to you now. Perhaps that is what he needed - a female point of view other than yours to see the reality of what being pg feels like and how it does go on day after day after day not just the odd day.

Tamlin good news at your scan!

My sister and family have just dropped in and I'm glad the pregnancy magazines and my notes were hidden under DH's laptop!

Becky - do they not know?! How could they not know? You have great willpower!

I'm trying really hard to keep it a secret until after the scan. I do want to tell my sister but I don't want her children to know yet as I told them all last time and when it went wrong it was really hard as they didn't quite understand. I've told my mum, DH's parents, and two close friends and that is all! Last time I told EVERYONE even the man in the local Londis shop!!!

Becky - totally understandable you want to keep it low key until your scan.

Choco and Tamlin congrats on your scans!

Welcome Munchies (how cool twins) and Doris. Take Care of yourselves!

Oh Pavlov - hope DH comes back, gets you food and gives you the care and attention you need, glad to hear you have a lovely MW. PS have a moan on this thread whenever you need to. It has got to be tough not having your DH in paid employment. Hang in there!

As it happens my DH has gone walk about this evening as he has had enough.

In my usual early morning MS chucking session I blocked the toilet. Anyhow I had a spa day booked today which was lovely and came home chilled to find DH had spent the entire day unblocking the toilet. (He had told me at 3am this morning to keep flushing it as he was worried I would block it). Anyhow he is exasperated by my total lack of contribution to the running of the house. MS and sleep deprivation and food addiction are one mean combo and I do nothing around the house apart from mess it up and I seldom get out of it except for work.

I do really appreciate my DH and hope that he has gone off to a movie or something, but because of the spa and managing to sleep today I think I can cope with any fall out.

Some pregnancy trivia - apparently the cold snap of snow in Feb will lead to a baby boom in Nov for London, as there has been an increase in teenage pregnancy due to the couple of days where schools were closed!

And for those of you still trying to hide your pregnancy - I've just had an idea of leaving weight loss pamphlets around, with titles such as "Trying to Lose Weight for Good" and so on, as surely people will be just too embarrassed to dare mention weight gain, expanding tummy size and so on... Take Care ALL

I can't believe how many of you have had scans when I don't even have my booking in til Wednesday! My scan isn't for 3 weeks! I'm still in the worst of the MS at 9+4.
Hope everybody is having a lovely weekend.

Hi can I join? EDD for #3 is the 23rd Nov. Been feeling really sick, but medication seems to have sorted that now.

Scorpion - I had DD (1st baby) at the Horton (we're near Witney and had choice of JR2 also but find it too big - personal choice!). The Horton were absolutely great, recommended them to a friend who ended up with quite a traumatic birth (tranferred from Chipping Norton) and swears by them (she's also had a birth at JR - from what i understand the delivery at JR is fine, but really let down on aftercare - just cause they're so busy). When I has DD we were the only ones in on delivery, though obviously ward busier. Had DS (#2) at Chipping Norton who were also brillient, but due to his size (over 10lb) and another issue I have to have hospital birth again, i should go to JR but have transferred all my maternity care (including scans to Horton). I'm sure they wouldn't mind you having a look round or having a chat with a MW, they have always been so friendly.

We haven't found out the sex with either of previous babies, and won't this time, but the heartbeat thing has been right both time - only old wives tale that has!!

Sorry bit of a long one! Hope all those with MS etc are feeling better soon, it really is miserable (had it with DS til 20wks but luckily not too severe). If it gets really bad the docs can give you tablets to ease it (and they actually work - or did for me!).

Welcome, beepbeep! What is the theory with heart rates and gender? I heard if it is over 140bpm it is meant to be a girl - is that what you're talking about?

Turtle after the farce of the midwives, my booking in appt isn't until after my 12 week scan!!

Well, apart from a first-thing chuck-up am so far not feeling too bad today so am hoping to enjoy the day.

PAv did your DH come home and make you a lovely dinner last night?

I too am hopeless at housework at the min, it's stressing me out how messy everywhere is. DH has been good at vacuuming and washing up/ doing the washing but there are a million little things I know need doing that haven't been done! Think it will have to wait 'til half term now.

Also am getting seriously worried about the size of my belly. My trousers all feel tight and it really is a pronounced bump - but I am only 10 weeks with my first so it must be fat, right? In which case I am really angry at myself for being such a pig. All I can do is eat... Really going to try and cut down this week or I will feel so sh*t by the end....