Due April 2009: Episode 17 - We're off of work and ready to push, time for DH's to attend to that bush!!

[BabyBolat]

Inspired by our Smutty x

Haven't done much work this morning...

Juw -I want to see the photos too!!!!

Kalikaroo - i would quite like dh to touch n cuddle me a bit more tbh hes a bit wary though bless him.

BB - yup that was precisely 40 days ago it has gone pretty fast!!

I've been working since 6.30 - but am hoping to slope off this afternoon and spend some time with DH who is not working today - yay!!!

B52s MN is work

BB - that will be nice, working since 6.30 has gotta be tough!!

MN is work - especially if you don't check it for a day or two!

awwwwwwwww just found box of milk tray in the cupboard with a post it from dh i love that man

ooohh BB is the new MAC range out yet? it was march wasnt it?

Work does allow me time off for antenatal and related things, so I suppose I shouldn't feel so guilty...

yep nutty here

oooh I want Milk Tray

Have put a couple of Kaz's picture's on my profile.

thanks BB noooooo the wild is nearly all sold out and and and the accessories too

loving the lilac lippy though

awwwww thanks Juw

KazKiss - your lil babies are beautiful, all sweet and snuggly

help yourself

Just got back from town and doing all my jobs. Did something sensible and bought some breast pads. I can only find one pair of my washable ones from last time.
Since then I've been upstairs and bawled my eyes out for no apparent reason... well maybe a little because DH is still being an arse about if I have a section.
Kaz your baby pics are gorgeous. Made me well up again seeing them with their tubes and boards. Hope they're home with you very soon.

Ju I use vinegar (again) as softener on nappies (and everything else)

Thanks Smutty xx yum yum...

oooh Kaz the babies are beautiful - they look so peaceful and content!!! And they look a good size too! Ju have you hear how Kaz is? has she had lots of snuggle times with them yet?

Oh bronze ((hugs)) did I miss why DH is being an arse - what about CS?

Just saying if I have a section... they won't induce me so its go on time or section... then he won't come with me. He says its too stressful after last time. which I will admit was horrendous and probably was horrible for him. Just think he's selfish to expect me to do it on my own this time if needs be.
Especially as this time it wouldn't be crash and I would be awake and he could come in and talk to me and know I'm ok and everything. Think it made me miss my mum too hormonal day

oh ok - so they wont let you wait til after the baby?? Sorry have been a bit rubbish keeping up ont his thread! I understand his point but these are different situations. I am really sure that when it comes down to it, there is no way he will leave you on your own...

IS there anyone else that could come with you if you needed for support?

Bronze, that sounds horrible. Do you have someone who could kind of mediate and explain what you are saying about how it would be calmer and you would be conscious? (and maybe point out that you do actually need his support more than he needs yours in this?)

sometimes if you get really upset they just close down.

I am doing DP's head in and I am torn between understanding why and wishing he would just deal with it and be nicer to me. (He is being nice to me but I want him to be EVEN NICER. I have no way of telling how reasonable / unreasonable I am being.) I have had a few days this week where I have found it so hard to stop crying with pain and boredom and worry and when he gets home in the evening I am not great at coming up with bubbly chit-chat. He actually had a go at me the other day for asking if he had slept well as it was crap conversation! (I was thinking he looked tired, I admit it was not the wittiest bon mot ever.)

I am worried about how we will cope - I won't have SPD for ever I hope but things are never going to go back to how they were. he is basically bored of me and a. I am not surprised, so am I fucking bored of me; but b, so fucking what, I am not here to entertain you.

I have been wondering if someone else could help us see this from different angles. We are kind of locked in our own little world at the moment.

Right I'm back and caught up

Kaz babies are darling. (hugs)

Nutty I'm glad you're much more upbeat then lately You must be either dosing yourself well or feeling better

Boffin thanks for the thoughts on Zurich.

Things seem rather positive with this possible offer... no money has been discussed yet, but we're searching for information about living conditions because we're both intrigued... And the contact we have is asking how serious we are... So I think I'll be trawling the web trying to find out about Swiss healthcare and culture, etc. today...

Hope the LOs that are sick get better fast. Schulte, yours seems to have been sick a while... you must be exhausted with it; try to rest when you can.

Have just seen Kaz's babies and they are gorgeous!

I've not long woken up after going for a nap straight after my bath. I'm still not dressed and need to pick DD up soon. But, the strawberries that I'm eating are sooooooooooo tempting to just sit here and pick at.

Hmmm Dh and I have had a few nights of the standoffishness because of the 'boredom of things' too...
I figure it's just a lull because of the pregnancy hormones and the stress of the work situation. I feel an intense desire not to be rubbish and boring about everyday things, but my life currently is about everyday things...so it cannot much be helped. After a few tearful nights we decided to just lay close to eachother and relax in the fact that we love each other dearly and want the baby to come and when the baby does we'll sort things out nicely for us all and the things we thought important won't be as much so...

Oh, and Bronze, whilst I understand that it won't be nice for your DH, I am really at his lack of support for you. This is a time when he needs to realise that you need the support more than he does. However, if he really can cope with missing out on the birth of your LO, maybe someone who feels more able to support you would do a better job of it?

Bronze - i can see where you are both coming from with this, it must be very hard for you ((hugs)) of course you want your dh with you xxxx i hope you both manage to work things out

i hope you dont hate me for saying this though but i had a similar conversation with my dh re c/section and from his point of view.

1. he cant stand to see me in pain
2. the fact that somebody has to cut me would do him in mentally due to a. he would want to kill them and b. he's really quite squeamish
3. he would be majorly worried about the baby and me evn though he knows they do it every day and chances of either of us being hurt by it are slim, he cant deal with the thoughts of "what if". he knows its irrational but he also said that he has been so helpless throughout pregnancy that to be helpless again whilst i was going through what is effectively major surgery would mess with his head and possibly put him in a depressive/ bad mental state.

there was lots more he said, but i agreed it would be best for both if i did have a section for him to do something nice with dd.

fortunately for him they are letting me go full term or so it seems.

Gingersarah - ((hugs)) again i know where you are coming from. xx and you have my sympathies xx