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PuzzleRocks · 21/02/2009 17:16

And so it continues...

Mar
29 Mar : WhatFreshHell, DS 2.4 born on Easter Sunday
30 Mar : BabyBolat: 1st timer

Apr
01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 3 years, and DS 2 years in March
01 Apr : Chickenbalti: DS 4 years DD 17 months
02 Apr : BoffinMum: BOY! dd(21) ds(10) ds(7)
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: GIRL! DD 3 years
03 Apr : skiingone: DC1
03 Apr : purlease: 1 m/c, 1 DD 3 years
03 Apr : Kalikaroo: SURPRISE! (28), 1st timer, lives in Scandinavia (but too shy to say where!)
04 Apr : Bleuravin
04 Apr : Bumpalump
04 Apr : babypringle: 1 DS 2yrs 1 month
06 Apr : ToastnHoney: first timer
06 Apr : Mummyontherun: DD 22 months
07 Apr : Picklelala
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
09 Apr : Oddeyes (30): GIRL! DS 17 mths, 1 mc. London
09 Apr : Barbarella: 1st timer, TRIPLETS
10 Apr : hopeful1
11 Apr : mrsfossil: 1 DS 6.5
11 Apr : Bubbaluv: 1 DS 1yo
11 Apr : SpringySunshine: BOY! 1st timer.
12 Apr : Brettgirl, 1st timer
12 Apr : Mumblemumhome4lunch (37, Swindon): DS will be 4 on 11th April, DD 2yrs and 1month
13 Apr : Dungungirl(30): BOY! 1 m/c, DS 4 years
14 Apr : AuldAlliance: DS3.8 BOY!
15 Apr : claireykitten: GIRL! DS 12 months
15 Apr : electra
15 Apr : Sarahmum: DS 10yrs
16 Apr : tristaleejac(25): 1 ds, 3 years
17 Apr : Surprisenumber3(32): DS1 9 DSS 9 DS2 5 GIRL!
18 Apr : gingersarah: 1st baby
18 Apr : salbysea: (28) 1st timer
19 Apr : Kittycatisgettingfat (29) 1st timer
21 Apr : B52s: DS will be 2 and a quarter
21 Apr : Staryeyed
21 Apr : Schulte
22 Apr : PuzzleRocks: DD 21mths GIRL!
22 Apr : soon2befamilyof4 DD 13 months.
24 Apr : conkertree (27): DS 17 months
24 Apr : Bronze (Gawain) - 4th DC
24 Apr : Frekkles
25 Apr : Swaliswan: DD 17 months
27 Apr : Bicnod
27 Apr : Carameli
27 Apr : ilovesummer 3rd dc
27 Apr : purplemonkeydishwasher DS 3yo
30 Apr : Nutty Taff (27) DD nearly 5 GIRL!

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BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 10:08

Morning all will me post in a sec just replying to people first.

Conker - Double Decker cake is plain sponge base, chocolate icing layer, vanilla icing layer, then chocolate sponge top, swirly chocolate and vanilla icing top and then DH does like a bit of Double Decker broken up on top for added crunch!

Amelia Charlotte is lovely - we are still no-where near on a boys name and DH is now refusing to talk about it like a petulant child (we will move on to that later!!)

WhatFreshHell - feel better soon!

Springy is def a boff-in-the-making - although how will be cope with two of them running a mock in the UK!

Brettgirl LOL at BJ

Re movement BabyBolat is being very slow and sleepy these past few days, think the BHs are wearing the poor LO out!

Welcome f&fup - never to late to join and your name is inspired!!

Boffin and smutty re pain - can't say anything really other than just carry on taking it easy and hopefully it will get a bit better!

Re baths, I find they are hurting me more with the BH, the heat makes my body relax and then the BHs feel even more intense (which seems bizarre) so add me to the dirty list

Ok me post bit - had a really crap night last night - went to pick up my computer from apple all lovely and new and then went to buy DH some more sleeping trousers in town, and then decided to pop by work and pick him up and then go out for dinner (returning home for pancakes as desert) - what a lovely wife I am!. Got outside his work, turned the car off and then 20 minutes later when he came out the damn thing wouldn't start (knew the battery couldn't be flat because I had just done a 2 hour round trip), out come the AA and the battery is not flat but completely dead, so had to wait for a replacement, get it all fixed, pay for that - all the while me and DH are at each others throats for no reason whatsoever just being really nasty to each other - DIDN'T go for dinner, got home at 9 (left the house at 4!, DH dared to ask what we were going to have for dinner like I was going to make something (you would think he would realise not to open his mouth) to which I stomped up the stairs and went to bed and he had beans on toast and then came to bed and snored the entire night (hence am very tired today and woke up still angry with him) am ok now tho! To top it all off, tried to bring up the naming issue on Monday and he just ignored me and when I asked if he was even going to talk about it, he said NO! Tempted to name it something he hates just to annoy him!I then woke up late and now feel really sick having not eaten anything for a fair few hours. BH have calmed down a lot but baby is very very quiet! DH is being lovely this morning

Anyway will post now before too much else happens!

BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 10:10

Boffin you are soooooo going to have your baby first!!!

Bet it's on it's way out as we speak!!

yay for mw appointments for you both today!

Schulte · 25/02/2009 10:11

Morning all

Punch in the nose for all the useless physiotherapists out there, I say! that you're all suffering so much again.

Yay for DD sleeping until 7am LuLu, mind you keeping her up late every night is probably not an option is it?

Schulte · 25/02/2009 10:15

Oh BB, what a horrible evening you must have had... poor you, hope you can make up x

SpringySunshine · 25/02/2009 10:20

BB, you're not having much luck with anything electrical at the moment, are you? How frustrating! & at DH asking what was for dinner - is he crazy?! You should've offered him a knuckle sandwich

As for the naming issue, he'll have to discuss it at some point. You should just concentrate on which names you like & give him a bit of time to grow up. Or, tonight, when he's trying to make up with you, get all tearful & list a load of things that've upset you (pregnancy stuff and his silliness) & add on that he won't discuss names with you & you're really scared that after all these horrible months of pregnancy you're going to end up with a baby with a horrible name just because he likes it & wouldn't talk about it - really go for the guilt

It's good that the BH are giving you a bit of a rest, at least. Make sure you don't tell DH that, though - you have to be in maximum suffering mode

BoffinMum · 25/02/2009 10:23

Sorry to hear about your evening BB. This happens to us sometimes even though we mainly get on really well. It's usually me that does the first impatient unwarranted snipe, and it degenerates from there. My DH usually brings things back round to an entente cordiale. I normally say sorry a couple of times as well.

It is a very good thing I am not married to your DH tbh. I am sure it would be very fraught.

Anyway, hope you feel better today. xx

Schulte · 25/02/2009 10:29

I have thrown shampoo bottles at DH... I find that usually helps

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 25/02/2009 10:31

yeah, feel free to ignore me, am in a funny place right now.

Had a major go at dh last night, was a major biaaatch, for not doing enough (he has done quite a bit to be fair and on the whole been pretty good, but he didn't do dd's homework with her and i went off on one). He didnt really deserve it tbh. I'm just in a lot of pain, feel very depressed and frustrated so took it out on him. Now feel worse. I apologised but i still did it and feel really guilty.

I just want to sleep all the time to hide from reality and to try and get away from it all.

I'm frustrated that i contribute nothing to the house. I'm fed up with myself and my four walls. i'm tired cos i'm in pain. I feel like a junkie cos i spend my days now waiting (gagging) for 8 o clock to roll round so i can dose myself up on morphine and slip into oblivion (i hate that). I want to be a mum to my daughter not just some figure that resides on the sofa. I want to be the happy bonkers wife that i was. I want my mobility back. I'm sick of being a snappy useless cow. i'm sick of the pain.

i seem to go through these patches but come out the other side when i have kicked myself up the bum enough to be positive. it will pass.

sorry, i will get back to being mildly happy. just a bad day. not long now.

gosh i sound like a mental case

BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 10:34

Ha ha - we do usually get on really really well and while we do niggle at each other we very rarely argue argue IYKWIM! We are both just too stubborn! We have made up but I still haven't ACTUALLY forgiven him yet!

He is feeling very bad and is a bit worried about LO not moving so much so tonight will be a real, 'we are going to talk about this' moment especially as we have to decide very quickly what the name is post-birth!

Ooh shampoo bottles are good, the only thing close to me last night was my laptop and after getting it all back virtually new I refused to break it throwing it at him!

SpringySunshine · 25/02/2009 10:37

Nutty, you don't sound mental at all - you sound like someone who's in a lot of pain (& has been for months) & who is therefore being very restricted & having to live without anything like a normal level of independence. It's especially difficult for someone like you, who's normally the sort to be running around being silly with your little girl, to have to spend so much time just trying to get as close to comfortable as possible.

It is natural that you feel this way & would be a bit 'mental' if you didn't!

Please try to remember that it's not long now. I know that every day is a complete nightmare, but you're so close to the end having gone through the vast majority of it already. Make sure you make it clear to your MW today how desperate you are & push for an early CS.

& for God's sake, don't worry about not being happy here - we all have a good moan to each other, usually over far more trivial things! & bear in mind that it's usually you on the front line dragging people back up with your jokes & smuttiness! You're entitled to have bad days & we're here to listen xx

BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 10:42

Oh Nutty, I feel really silly for ranting about my fight when you are dealing with all this stuff.

You don't always need to be the happy one - trust me! (We do love you for it tho!!)

I am sure DH understands, he knows how hard it is for you and he knows you and knows you don't really mean the things you say it's just a result of the pain you are in! Just take it easy and be lovely to him tonight when he comes home

It doesn't help but it will be over soon and am hoping that things will 'snap back into place' for you

You are a wonderful mum, just look at all the effort you are going in to to make DDs birthday present so absolutely amazing (and not just going to the shop and buying a toy!), the amount of times you have talked about carrying DD home even tho you are in so much pain shows what you are willing to do for her!

You are doing a fantastic job coping with this whole situation. I would be going stir crazy!! Please please speak to your midwife today and make her take this seriously as it is not fair on you!

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

SmuttyNuttyTaff · 25/02/2009 10:59

BB dont feel bad about ranting ((hugs)) xx would have done my head in too. asking what was for diner schoolboy error!!! (keep a stash of shampoo next to you in future for such occasions lol )

i blame the new moon for the arguments lol

Thanks Springy and BB xx

BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 11:21

This is when I realise I am RUBBISH at jokes, have been wracking my brain trying to think of one to cheer you up but I know NONE! all the ones I remember come from you in the first place!!!

See on that - you might be house-bound and in pain but look at all the services-to-mumsnetters around the UK you have done! You have been like our virtual mummy keeping us going and cheery throughout it all xx

DungunGirl · 25/02/2009 11:24

Hey ladies

Smutty I love the buddy idea, but in order to keep you sane and also so that I have the pleasure of logging onto mumsnet with the exciting news once baby has arrived, I will keep myself off the list.

Anyone else had problems getting hold of that blasted 'Health in pregnancy grant' form? My surgery STILL has not had any through and it has been a month since I asked, and I am worrying as it says on the government website that the form has to be submitted BEFORE we have our babies.

At this rate, that won't happen! I'll be REALLY peeved if I miss out on the £190 because my surgery didn't get forms in time!

Schulte · 25/02/2009 11:30

Oh Nutty lots of hugs from me too, you have every right to be down and yet you're so cheerful, strong and positive most of the time, I really admire you for it! I can't imagine what SPD would do to me - I would have major depression and shout at DH so much that he would have filed for divorce already. Hopefully the MW will be able to cheer you up a bit, can you not ask for a CS at 37 weeks or so? And you are SUCH an amazing mum and wife, I am still in awe over the whole dressing up box idea and the lovely things you are putting in there. Just think in a few weeks time you may be running around again with TWO little girls and having fun and hopefully all the pain will be forgotten! xxx

LuLuBai · 25/02/2009 13:27

Oh Smutty - hang in there. Not long now and you will all be mended PLUS you will have a lovely shiny new baby to add to your family. The end is in sight. Really. Not much longer. I'm sure your DH understands. All those of you with SPD have gone through such a lot, but it will be over soon.

BB - Your DH was a tw*t but glad you've made up. If it helps, I'm not discussing boys names with DH at the moment either. It's just not getting us anywhere - obviously I won't have a son called Valeri, Evelyn, Cecil or Sword but there is no sense arguing about it at the moment. It will just prolong the argument and leave us bickering all the way to the birth. I think I might wait until I am actually in labour and then tackle him with a shortlist of names which I am prepared to compromise on. I am resigned to the fact that we are not going to find a boys name that either of us truly loves, but at least I won't be hanging my head in shame when I introduce my son to people.

Or maybe it will be a girl !

PuzzleRocks · 25/02/2009 13:40

BB - Shame about your ruined evening. It's horrible how these things snowball. DH and I had an evening like that last week although it was more six of one and half a dozen of the other. You are both having a tough time at the moment, make sure you have a massive snog and put it behind you when you see one another later.

Nutty - Bloody hell, I think you are incredible for not flipping out more often. The way you are coping is seriously admirable. I've known plenty of women who have had the easiest of pregnancies yet behave like monsters for the whole nine months. Don't be too hard on yourself, i'm sure DH understands.
I understand the frustration of feeeliing you are not contributing but that is bollocks. You have the toughest job going at the moment and you are doing it bloody well. Everything else is unimportant in the grand scheme of things.
And this is such a short window in DD's life (although i know it is endless for you, before you wring my neck) so don't worry about her. She won't remember it and certainly won't hold it against you. She's probably too excited thinking about her birthday coming up and look what a fantastic effort you have gone to for that!
Oh and call youself useless again and I will come down there and give you something to cry about!

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PuzzleRocks · 25/02/2009 13:46

I too am crap at jokes so here are a couple of pics...

ooh Mr Leto

something to get your teeth into

and to wash it down with

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PuzzleRocks · 25/02/2009 13:55

Dungun - This is the number they need to call to get the forms. I would pass it to them at your next appoinment. 0845 366 7885.

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LuLuBai · 25/02/2009 13:58

Nutty booze! Brilliant Puzzle. Not long now Nutty and you can raise a bottle of Nutty to yourself.

BoffinMum · 25/02/2009 14:11

Hello Nutty, from the Boffin gildey chair.

yeah, feel free to ignore me, am in a funny place right now.

It's very hard being this incapacitated for this long, especially for women that have been as active as we have in the past. But I am hanging onto the fact that at least our legs haven't dropped off (yet), so there is scope for recovery.

Had a major go at dh last night, was a major biaaatch, for not doing enough (he has done quite a bit to be fair and on the whole been pretty good, but he didn't do dd's homework with her and i went off on one). He didnt really deserve it tbh. I'm just in a lot of pain, feel very depressed and frustrated so took it out on him. Now feel worse. I apologised but i still did it and feel really guilty.

I think it is compuslory to do this, so they are grateful we are bearing them children and they buy us better presents afterwards. From the sound of it you have a lovely DH who can more than take it from you.

Can I point out that tantrums might be useful - my oven is probably cleaner than it was when it was new now.

I just want to sleep all the time to hide from reality and to try and get away from it all.

I know what you mean but there is daytime TV, MN and chocolate to fit in around that, and your new sofa will be coming soon. At least stay awake long enough to admire the sofa!!

I'm frustrated that i contribute nothing to the house.

I feel like that too, which is why I have painfully unpacked all the baby stuff from the delivery boxes, made up the cot with the new mattress and then collapsed back on the glidey chair in agony.

I'm fed up with myself and my four walls.

DH and I found that if we went out for an hour together every day we could, especially at the weekend, it helped a lot. He is getting better with the wheelchair and I don't get propelled into the gutter so often now.

i'm tired cos i'm in pain. I feel like a junkie cos i spend my days now waiting (gagging) for 8 o clock to roll round so i can dose myself up on morphine and slip into oblivion (i hate that).

This is indeed a problem and I know what you mean about the morphine because I hate it. I also skipped two doses of codeine and paracetemol yesterday to see what it would be like and it wasn't good, so I am not looking forward to after week 38, but I will
have to cross that bridge when I come to it. But like the leg thing, I am hanging onto the fact that the odds are in our favour that by September we won't need this stuff ever again.

I want to be a mum to my daughter not just some figure that resides on the sofa.

I am missing my kids too but I have been really surprised how resilient they have been over all this. I am looking forward to catching up a bit after I get better. I am sure you will be able to more than compensate in a few weeks' time.

I want to be the happy bonkers wife that i was.

I think we are all agreed you are still sufficiently bonkers to amuse us all! I am sure your DH understands.

I want my mobility back. I'm sick of being a snappy useless cow. i'm sick of the pain.

We are nearly there, and we never have to be pg again after this!!! Yippeee!!!!

i seem to go through these patches but come out the other side when i have kicked myself up the bum enough to be positive. it will pass.

My consultant said this was an absolutely normal reaction to SPD/PGP and they see it all the time. She also said the cloud lifts after delivery. There is hope.

sorry, i will get back to being mildly happy. just a bad day. not long now. gosh i sound like a mental case

But the mental case award is MINE! With my headnoise posts!! It's OK to feel a little mental sometimes, tbh. It's life, especially when pg and struggling.

We are all here for you Nutty xx

BarbarellaNz · 25/02/2009 14:24

Hello Lovely April Ladies!

I am so sorry to have been away for so long but you'll be pleased to know the babies are still in my big fat tummy!
We were given our caesarean date a week and a half ago (it's the 3rd of March - next
Tuesday!!!!!!!) and it threw us into a bit of a frenzy. Although we knew it was coming we got a bit of a fright and realised we hadn't got everything organized yet. I know that sounds weird but we thought we had a wee bit more time!

Anyway, the last week or so has been spent building cotbed, changing table, sorting and washing clothes, blankets etc. for the babies and spring cleaning the flat like loons. We managed to get everything finished on Monday so feel a bit better about everything now. I am feeling very excited but SO nervous and scared - not about the operation but just about managing the babies - especially when they come home. The reality has well and truly hit!

The good news is that at my last scan on Thursday the babies estimated weights were all around 4lbs 4ozs which is really good for triplets.

I will post new photos of my freakish bump on my profile if anyone is interested in throwing up their lunch

Anyway, enough me, me, me!

Spring you looked GORGEOUS on your wedding day! I loved the photos and you both looked so happy - CONGRATULATIONS!!
Boffin I'm so sorry that you are still in so much pain and that your au pair is being such a pain in the arse - you don't deserve this! Big hugs and if I could bend at the waist at all, I would gladly clean your oven
Nutty sory you are still in pain also - how are you feeling today? I'm so sorry you've been having such a hard time and am sending lots of
BabyBolat you MUST insist dh cooks you delicious meals every night this week to make up for it. I hope everything is OK now and that he has apologised

I'm going to continue trying to catch up with the last thread as totally missed it.

I've missed reading about your shenanigans!

XX

BabyBolat · 25/02/2009 14:24

Gosh Boff I had almost forgotten that time - just look what a difference a few months have made - even tho things are still tough you really are in such a different place now!

LuLu he was a tw*t, to be fair I was being a bit of a tyrant too but I think he deserved it! Anyway he has been lovely today and I will try and have a really good chat with him about it tonight and see what he says... wish me luck

Boff / Smutts how did the midwife go?

See Nutts, look at everything you HAVE achieved while being crippled on the sofa!! And who exactly would have organised the buddy system if you weren't here (the answer to that may be puzzle!!)

BoffinMum · 25/02/2009 14:25

Hey Nutty, it could be worse. I am watching Diagnosis Murder which is set in a cafe, and people have been shot, someone is having a heart attack, and the obligatory pg lady has just had her waters break and announced she is supposed to be having a CS.

AND THERE IS ONLY DICK VAN DYKE THERE TO SORT THEM ALL OUT!!

However bad it gets for us we will not have Dick Van Dyke doing impromptu cs on us with a bread knife.

BoffinMum · 25/02/2009 14:27

OMG! Pg lady is going into shock!! Great drama!! Still shooting outside!!!

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