Jingle Bells, Mysterious Smells, Fab Feb 2009 babies will soon be on their way - Oh what fun it is to waddle around like an overstuffed turkey all day.

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Hello lovely ladies, the new thread is open for business

The hospital just this minute called me back and said do not take the tablets, not even 1. So now have to go all the way back to the bloody doctors. Fing quack.
Mw told me to make it absolutely clear that I am pregnant and therefore cannot take any old medicine.
I thought that my big fat pregnant gut, my maternity notes and the discussion about my being pregnant and how far along would have been enough?
Can't believe I've got to go all the way back down there again. Am doing my nut

Morning,

Had another Growth Scan yesterday - She is still on the small side She weighs 3lbs 12oz approx @ 32weeks. They said she is below average - just hitting the 15th centile line (whatever that is???)
Then I asked what they thought her approx birth weight would be...Which is what really worried me...They said she would be only about 5.5lbs. Thats tiny!!

I had a huge crying session last night - Maybe im just overreacting as its the first baby & I dont know what normal & average is....But I googled it & 5.5lbs is classed as low bith weight.

im being scanned again at 36weeks - this is where they will decide if she is better out than in (as the sonographer put it) I just want her to come out healthy

Oh KT you poor thing. I don't know too much about birth weights etc but my friends ds was born weighing just under 2lb and is a perfectly healthy 3 year old now. The same friend has just had a daughter, born at 37 weeks weighing 5lbs 14oz, so still quite small.
i was 5lb 8oz at birth.

A few people I have spoken too seem to say that babies are getting bigger as the years go on...So she is just going to be a little 'en
I keep speaking with mums whos baby's were 7lbs +.

LBB - When you talk about your friend having her baby at 2lb...I guess 5.5lbs is quite a nice weight.

KT - try not to get too stressed. I know lots of mums who've had perfectly healthy babes under 5lbs.....and if they know she is a wee bit small they'll be extra cautious about everything. The 15 centile just means that 15 out of 100 of babies will be that weight so not that unusual. My sister's baby girl was just over 4lb at term and was absolutely fine and home quicker than my 7lb baby was - so it's all relative. Have a chat with your midwife is you need more info - the worst thing is not knowing what's ok and what's not.

Thanks Calicois.
Im even more stressed I think, as Im moving Jan 2nd...So everthing is in Limbo....
Ive not been booked in at my new hospital, as I cant until ive seen my new midwife on the 5th Jan. So im worried that they might not be able to get me in for a scan the following week.
I dont really have a dedicated midwife at the moment.

Morning all.

KT - please dont stress yourself out about this; some people grow little babies (who rapidly pile on the pounds when they're out or who stay petite and then suddenly spring up when puberty hit) and other people grow big babies. We're all so different. I've had lots of friends give birth to 5lb, 6lb babies and also had lots of friends at the other end of the spectrum with 9lb,10lb, 11lb and above babies. 5.5lbs is a perfectly respectable birth weight (and she'll fit beautifully into the newborn clothes that the shops sell) and who knows, she may even have a growth spurt before she arrives (as babies generally do pile on the weight more towards the end). As long as she's healthy, it really doesnt matter what percentile she is on. And you may find that when you stop work and take things abit easier, you'll be less stressed about all this too. Here's what you should do today - book yourself in for a nice haircut or manicure or massage (whatever takes your fancy) for your next day off to give you something to look forward to and to give yourself a big pat on the back for coping so well with your worries.

LBB - your GP is an idiot! Call up and explain what happened to the receptionist and politely request an emergency appointment or call back at the very least as the UTI needs to be dealt with as a matter of urgency in a matter that is compatible with you're being heavily pregnant. Oh - and re exercise/birth ball - unless you're v tall you'll need the 65cm diameter one from Argos (you can get electric pumps from Argos for about £5 too which makes blowing up the thing much easier).

Markstretch - so sorry to hear about your situation with DD. I kind of get how she's feeling as you've had a few scares this pregnancy and she's probably worried about that happening too if she goes away - and it must be horrible to think that her grandma and step granddad are going away in January so she wont get to spend next xmas with them. I agree that you shouldnt make her go if she doesnt want to, but you need to sit her down and explain to her that you're fine and she doesnt need to be worrying about you and the baby if she does go, that her grandparents will still be around and a big part of her life even if they are in a different country for part/most of the year, would she like to go visit him for a long weekend in January instead and does she think she'll feel better about spending next christmas with her dad when she's more settled or do you need to come up with a different sort of arrangement which you, your ex and her will all have to have input into? Then you'll need to get in touch with your ex and be the grown up (again) to explain how DD is feeling and how she'll resent you and him if you both force her to go which none of you want to happen. Maybe she could visit for a long weekend in January or he could come over to see her. Best of luck.

Swampster - you are obsessed lady! Get out and get some fresh air today (have visions of Swampster huddled up in a nest of cloth nappies feverishly ordering more on t'internet).

Snoweejaykay - great that you have a really supportive midwife - makes a world of difference! I think having little people means you have to get more organised in life generally (only way to cope) so enjoy having a disorganised xmas - probably the last one in a while you'll get to enjoy in a disorganised kind of way.

Hi Dinky, just called surgery, and they can only get me in to see the same doctor i saw yesterday that prescribed these and that appointment is at 10am, which I can't make as we are not dressed yet and I'm having trouble walking.
They have told me that I cannot dictate to them which doctors I will and will not see and if I want to see a doctor at all, I will have to see which ever one is free at the time. There is nothing else today so have to wait until tomorroew. I might call back now and demand to see the practise manager.
Is it me or is this just not good enough?

Oh - you really don't need any more stress then! Can you not contact the midwife that has seen you so far - even for a telephone chat? By the way my DS is currently on the 2nd centile line for his weight but it still perfectly healthy.....just a bit skinny!

Thankyou So much Dinky - That was a really lovely message
I have a hair cut booked for tomorrow & maybe a spot of tiny baby clothes shopping is in order too.

You seem to be acting like Agony Aunt today.

LBB - I'd just go down to your GP when you are ready and see what they can do for you there and then - you really don't want to wait till tomorrow...

It is not good enough LBB. I think you should explain to the receptionist that you cant make an appointment at 10am due to your SPD and having to get a toddler out of the office and you would please like to speak to the practice manager - you dont want to dictate which doctors you do and dont see, you simply want to ensure that you get correct care as you have been categorically told by the hospital registrar not to take the antibiotics prescribed to you by the doctor yesterday (after taking your history including your pregnancy in the appointment) and you want reassurance that this will not happen again.

Sorry - meant house, not office!

Also LBB if GP surgery is still being sh*te, call up the antenatal ward at the hospital and ask if they can help at all as your GP surgery is being particularly unhelpful in getting you in to see a doctor to prescribe antibiotics which you can take in pregnancy - they will most probably tell you to insist on a GP appointment but might possibly ask you to come in to see a registrar/get a prescription there.

I know Cali but it's a hassle to get there and I'll end up shouting and swearing and I don't like my temper coming out in public.. I might just go straight to the hospital and get them to sort me out once and for all.
Part of me thinks, I've had this infection for long enough now a few more days won't hurt, but what if it does? I can't remember the last time I was this angry.
I just want to sleep. I am so tired........

But I also feel quite guiklty and pathetic, this is only pregnancy, millions of women manage it, why does it have to be so hard for me? But then this is only a little problem compared to what some people have to go through...

LBB - yes, but there is no reason for you to suffer unnecessarily.... and lack of sleep really makes everything so much worse. Fingers crossed you get it sorted today.

I've made an appointment at the hospital for this afternoon so hopefully it'll be sorted then. Was hoping on napping with ds but will take me just under an hour to get to hospital which is a pain. Nevermind, at least it should get sorted

Well done LBB - I hope they sort it out properly for you. And Calico is right - lack of sleep makes everything feel so much worse.

I know. Dp is coming home from work to drive me to hospital so at least journey will be easy too. I feel alot better now. I have also decided to write a letter of complaint to the manager at my doctors surgery, -purely for the fact that what if I was a person with learning difficulties and couldn't read etc and relied on correct info from the doctor. I'm gonna Google serch anyway to find out what if any harm could have been done and make sure I state that it is unacceptable if this could happen to someone more vunrable than myself. Human error in the medical profession costs lives and I don't think it's good enough.

Right no more of this from me because I'm annoying myself now

KT My friends babe that weighed 5lb 14oz was home within 24 hours. It must be so worrying for you, but at least they are aware of the growth and will act on it if need be. They will be fully prepared to give your baby the care she needs straight away, but as long as she sn't pre-term there shouldn't be any major worries.
Another friend of mine delivered at 32 weeks, a baby boy weighing 5lb 4oz. Obviously had to stay in but that was due to early delivery rather than weight but there's not a thing wrong with him either.

Thank you all for your help with dd- I am going to ring her Dad and tell him she's not coming.

LBB- good for you for kicking arse.

KT- my niece was only just over 5lbs when she was born but she's absolutely fine. She's just small, and after all we're all different shapes and sizes. I'm sure your lo will be fine, cute and delicate.

Just a quick one- just found out DSD's mum has the Norovirus, I'm guessing we shouldn't have DSD this weekend incase we get it? I don't particularly want to take any risks.

Markstretch - best of luck on that call with your expartner. You could speak to your GP about the norovirus concern - if you do have DSD over, I think you might all have to be pretty careful about washing hands religiously to avoid bug getting passed on.

Yes, goodluck talking to ex MS
Would speak to gp (not mine ) or call NHS line for advice re norovirus

Copy of letter I plan to send to surgery. It's long, but if you have time, your thoughts are welcomed.
here

lbb..... uti's are hell on earth, please don't feel like you're fussing over nothing, i can't imagine how miserable you must be feeling with a long standing uti on top of all the usual pregnancy crap.

your gp surgery should be ashamed of themselves behaving like they do... they're there to provide a service to their patients and make their lives a little better and easier, not the other way round. hope it goes well this afternoon and you finally get some ab's that work {{{hug}}}

KT, honestly we hear so much about 9/10 lb babies these days that anything less seems small but 5lbs + really is a decent weight.... dinky but perfectly fine! keep in mind as well that the scans aren't accurate, pleanty of people i know have been told they were having a small/large baby and worried themselves sick only to find when they gave birth the scan was lbs off the babies actual weight! it'll be fine, like dinky said... enjoy the fact that she'll fit all the cute newborn clothes... ds never fit them at all and dd grew out of them within a month and i was heartbroken!

good luck with the ex MS, don't let him lay the typical irish male guilt trip on you. he is in the wrong here and it's his own fault your dd doesn't want to go... it's time you stop facilitating his lacklustre parenting and he took some responsibility as a parent... if he wants to see her he'll think of a way it can be done that suits her... she is the only one who's feeling count right now after all.

hope everyone else is ok.... off to do my xmas sweets now

LOL!! Swampster - you are so funny! You are a woman obsessed with nappies! But I will take your advice and check out the other sites which will deliver over here! Thank you - thank you!!!

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