Due June 2009 - Fattening Up For Christmas!

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Here's the new thread... hope you find it!

Bumpsadaisie 28th May
CoteDAzur 28 May by dates, 1 June by scan (37, dd 3)
swottybetty 30th May (31. DD 07/03/08)
llynnnn 1st June
Myneaux 1st June
Bigcar 1st June (37, dd 18, dd 9, ds 8, dd3 2)
joyfuleyes 2nd June
marmotti 2nd June
gems27 4th June
Mrs McJnr DC2 4 June 2009 (34, ds 8mths)
Ineedmorechocolatenow 5th June 2009 (31,ds 2)
summerbird 6th June (35, 1st one)
daisy5 6th June (41, dd 2)
LittleSarah 6th June (26, dd 4yrs)
thisisyesterday 6th June (ds1 3.5, ds2 1)
DreamyDorrie 7th June (30, dd 19/11/07)
Yoshimi 7th June (ds 18nths)
Aligard 8th June (one dd)
Leaky 10th June (39, ds1 5, ds2 2.5)
DawnoftheDead DC1 11th June 2009
Champagneforlunch 11th June (27, DD 4yrs)
NickelSodium 12th June
travellinglight 13th June
Sparkle73 13th June
Froggy16 13th June (27 ds 6 yrs dd 4yrs)
Nemoandthefishes 14th June [30 DS 5[+2days],DD1 2.9yrs,dd2 21mths]
Irishmama3 17th of June (36) [dd 9 ds6 and dd2
chocciedooby 18th June (37m ds1 4, ds2 3)
onehitwonder 18th June (41 DD1 3)
snowwombat 21st June (31)
TTCnumber3maybe (36) DC3 22 June 2009 (DS 4.5 and DS almost 3)
StrawberrySam 22nd June
Diege, 22nd June (38, dd1 7, dd2 5.8, dd3 2.8)
Heebeejeebee - 22nd June (36)
BobsWendy DC3 26 June 2009
TheLittleMermaid DC2 26 June 2009
Tee2072 DC1 26 June 2009 (39)
Sweetie34 - 29th June (37)
Wilsonmummy 28 2dd edd 30th june NotSoRampantRabbit
tessofthedurbervilles
boundoriginals
helpivegottogivebirth
Lionstar
Li lacpink
mel1981
flynn1984

Morning everyone

I've been awake since 5.20am went I had to get up for the loo & can never get back to sleep after that.My turn to get up to kids today so that was it when they woke at 6.15 too.DH's lie in today & I could only manage to sleep til 8am yesterday.Will I never have a lie in again?

52hrs til scan now
Good to hear from lots of you.

My scan is tomorrow, too. At 15:30. So that makes it... 18.5 hours to go

I have a question. Does anyone have any experience of taking a 3 yr old to an ultrasound scan? DH is coming so we have nobody to leave DD with. He thinks DD will enjoy it, but I am a bit worried that she will be freaked out by the skull/skeleton view and think I have a weird creature in my tummy. There will also be 3D views, but still...

my letter says that small children are not allowed in , Cote. That's the Royal Surrey in Guildford, but it might be a different rule for other hospitals. It says it would distract the sonographer and that they'd ask the partner to stay outside if you couldn't find a babysitter... not sure what they'd do if it was just you and DC....?

Feeling like shit as I have a stinky cold and you can't bloody take anything. Had a horrendous night Friday and caved in last night. Phone SIL, who is a pharmacist, and she said it was okay to take Vicks up the nose, thank God!! But then woke up with one of those sore throats that make you cry. Was squinting over the box of strepsils in the bathroom at 3.30am and nothing said NOT to take them. I had about 3 over night, then I look at the god-awful internet in the morn and loads of sites say NOT to take them..... AAAAAAGH!

I'll have to re-ring SIL when it's a decent hour and ask her. What a bloody nightmare..... feeling sorry for myself

CoteDAzur we took our 1st DS to 20wk scan of our 2nd child & it was hard work.He was only 2& a half thou so your DD may be be easier to manage & more interested.It just meant my DH couldn't pay as much attention as my DS wasn't really interested at all.Do you not have anyone at all who could help?

INMCN - I'm sure it will be fine, don't worry too much. Those warnings are for continued exposure, not for a couple of tablets.

I don't think we are not allowed to bring children to scans in our hospital. I'm just worried about DD's perception of "the baby" following the scan.

leaky - I think DD will pay attention, at least for a little while. Our ultrasound specialist is not a soft & cuddly guy, though, so I don't think we will get much tolerance if she acts up.

leaky sorry you didn't get much sleep Can you get your next lie-in when it's dh's turn to get up?

12w today, does this mean I'm over the "dodgy" bit or is that next sunday? I've read both in various magazines and books.
10 days to the scan...

Ineedmorechococolatenow. Sorry to hear you are feeling so bad.I had a horrible cold in the first few weeks and I found that hot water with a slice of lemon and a bit of honey really helped. Hope you feel better soon.
leaky it was my husbands turn to have a lie in this morning too. I am getting yet another cold, we were out last night to a dinner and got home way past my bedtime and then I couldn't sleep.Then dc1 woke at 4.30am having wet the bed and it took me a while to fall back to sleep again. So dh was out later than me enjoying a few drinks, came into a warm bed and is having a much better nights sleep than I had!I suppose thats just the way it works out some times but I feel the need to sneak back up once dh comes down
I did however manage to sneak in an afternoon nap on the sofa of yesterday.

Mrsmcjnr Do you mean those sherbert lemon drop things???I love those too.
Interesting that you are expecting a girl and are craving citrus things. I still have a feeling that I am having another boy though. Also eating hot buttered toast like it's going out of fashion.

I may have mentioned that I was craving savoury/sour/citrus things when pregnant with DD. It's not much different this time, so thinking I have another girl in the oven

Morning everybody,

I'm sorry to be a bore, but I've woken up in floods of tears this morning and don't feel like I can burden my friends with a phone call.
Last night was my first night out in 7 weeks, due to the constant nausea. I felt brilliant: got all dressed up and chatted to old friends. But most of them were with their partners, in a happy relationships, either enjoying dcs together or planning them.
I just can't believe my life has ended up like this. I've been single for 4 years - he was the love of my life but I left him because he didn't want children. Now I'm 32 and pregnant by somebody who hasn't even texted me in 3 weeks. Every relationship since then has lasted no more than 3 months and caused me utter devastation and pain. I'm not unattractive, i'm outgoing and have a meaningful job with lots of int travel. But once I have this baby (whom I'm already love and want to meet desperately), I'll have to pay £30 for a babysitter every time I go out & do the housework, childcare and sort out finances ON MY OWN. I don't know how I'm going to manage work trips. My parents live 200 miles away. My brothers are here in London, but have their own lives and partners. So I'll never meet anyone and will probably stay single until way after my menopause.
It's not that I don't want to be pregnant - I just want to have found that special someone to share it with like everybody else seems to have done.
Sorry sorry sorry for droning on. thanks for listening

Help ? that?s wonderful, congrats! My Bean seems ?calm? like her brother was in there, there?ll be no mad kicking here I suspect

When do you think I?ll feel kicking 2nd time round sometime between 16 and 18 weeks? Placenta is to the front though so that might hinder me feeling it I guess?

Hey llynnnn

June ? hon, it is hard being pregnant, the hormones and tiredness just creep up on you and you just turn into someone you don?t recognise, go with it though it does get better and I hope DH appreciated his cake I?m telling myself I?ll feel better at 16 weeks (13+3 now so 12 weeks has been and gone and my friend Barf is still here! )

Tee ? Tesco, too many smells I guess, poor you!

Strawberrysam ? glad to hear no more bleeds, go on share your name! Its really funny when I read back on DS?s An thread and see what we all called our babies, there were some lovely names! I loved Aaliyah for a girl but 2 other ladies on the AN thread called their babies that so I?m sort of swithering now, hence my name thread fir inspiration (thanks to all you ladies who?ve made suggestions!) DH always liked the name Xavier so that was a no brain-er for us with DS, even though we had Isaac as a back up in case it didn?t suit him. The minute we saw him though we knew he was Xavier and we sang happy birthday, the midwife thought we were mad! quite a few of my friends have found out the sex of their babies through the NHS, we were adamant we didn?t want to know last time and I am so glad I didn?t know what I was looking for as we had a scan every 4 weeks throughout last time. I just knew he was a boy though!

Bobswendy ? hope the scan comes through before Christmas for you!

Leaky ? I was so tired this morning that instead of going to church I asked DH to give DS his breakfast and let me have a lie in (cue Kevin the teenager) DS screamed for an hour because he was bored where he?d been put and I felt compelled to get up! Grrr! all the best for the scan.

Cote ? all the best hon. I think your DD should be fine, I guess it depends on personality but is she not more likely to be amazed than scared? It makes her part of it anyway doesn?t it? We?ll see if your theory is right hon. With DS I did crave vinegar though.

Ineedmore ? poor you! I hope you feel much much better soon. Have you tried inhaling vicks in boiling water? Has worked for me before.

Choccie ? what a night for you! DS is getting a cold poor mite but I guess I?m next in line?

Oh Looouise ? sending huge hugs, I don?t want to be patronising, I?ve never been in your position so cannot empathise but I know there are lots of ladies on here who have and they have said that although the circumstances weren?t ideal, the love they have and get from their babies makes their lives so much richer. You sound lovely, I am sure you will meet someone special who?ll fall hook line and sinker for you both, that has happened to so many of my friends as for your life, yes it is going to change dramatically but you?ll find a way hon. Dry those eyes, think how much your baby is going to love you

Morning all.

Still feeling down and headachy, but determined to go the movies and out to dinner with OH today!

looouise I would bet you will meet lots of other mums in antenatal classes and might be able to arrange mutual baby sitting! I know that is what my sister in law and brother did. Don't give up! (((loooouise)))

loooouise
I am so sorry that you felt this way this morning, I hope you're feeling better now.

Please don't think that your friends all have perfectly happy lives, it'll only bring you down and it's most likely not true. People are very good at hiding their problems. One of my closest friends went through 5 IVF and 1 ectopic pregnancy and never told anyone.

Another one of my closest friends and her husband separated while she was pregnant (he cheated and left for someone else, the bastard!).
She was miles away from her friends, her family are in another country but she still found a really good balance for her and her son, 2 years on she's happy as ever. She has dated as well but says she's not looking for anyone significant quite yet.

Why has the dad not texted you by the way?
Sometime they "come round" after the birth when they realise they want to be part of their son's lfe.

What Tee said is very true, there'll be other mums in your position who'll be able to help you. (maybe even start a thread in here?)

You can't see it now because of the pregnancy but your life is not over.

Let me give you another example which is close to my heart. My older brother died at 33yo, leaving a gf and a young ds behind, 2 or 3 years later she met someone else and went on to have another baby. There were times when she didn't know what was going to happen but she took charge of her situation and little by little made their lives happy again. This is not someone who was particularly strong, she was not superhuman, just a regular mum.

What is it they say, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" ;)

Take care of yourself and try and stay positive, everything will be fine.

You're not in North London by the way?

Men!

My wonderful, loving husband looked at me from the side today and said 'yup, definitely pregnant!'

I'm only 9+4! But my clothes are tight. I think I'm gonna be HUGE!

Tee2072
I think my clothes got tight the minute I found out I was pregnant, I'm still expecting them to tell me at the scan that I must have mixed up my date and that I'm actually 2 months more pregnant than I think ;)

June - sorry to hear about your bro

Sorry havent logged on for a bit - sheer exhaustion and the teething one year old to contend with... hope everyone is doing well.

quick question - whether to find out gender yes or no? last time we did - thank goodness as I rather oddly thought (how I have no idea) I was definitely having a boy - and we have a girl which is great. this time I dont really mind.......... but I am not good at suprises at all... what do you think?

Louise big hug am sure it will all work out....

xxx

Morning all. I have had raging toothache (gum ache, above a heavily root-filled crown, ouch) all weekend and am waiting for my emergency dental slot at 12.30, trying not to take too many paracetamol but in agony. Couldn't sleep at all last night. Also still throwing up twice a day. Sorry for whingeing but this pain on top of m/s is the pits.

amsterdambaby, there are lots of conversations on various threads about knowing the gender or not, and it seems to be a really completely personal thing, depending on all sorts of factors. No right or wrong way, just one to work out with dh or dp, I reckon. Hope you agree!

Hope you are feeling a little bit better today looooise.Can agree with what the other ladies have said to you and that although right now it feels like you have a mountain to climb you will get there. I know this may not help but I am a great believer in fate and this helps me get through tough times in my life. Someone special and perfect for you will be out there but in the meantime you were meant to have this baby and you will look back in years to come and smile. Your life is not over. In fact a new life is beginning right now. Sorry if I seem patronising, I really don't mean to be. Just want to help.
CoteDAzur and MrsMcJnr I am not craving sour as much anymore so am getting very curious as to what my little bud will be. I still don't want to find out at my scan though.
June2009 so sorry to hear about DB.
Tee my wonderful dh has told me that I "need to watch my weight this time"! AAARRRRHHHHH if only they could experience pg, even just once.
I am extremely hormonal right now, irritable, cross with dh and quite emotional as well. What a rollercoaster.

amsterdamnbaby - If you're not good with surprises it's probably best to find out sooner!

loooouise - I know how you feel, I certainly had moments like that! I think it helped that I was younger (22) and so none of my friends were settled. I.e. No happy families! Of course on the other hand they were all out getting drunk and being carefree so that wasn't always nice to know when I was in with baby. BUT, when you have a baby, your baby, you just don't mind. You make your own little life together. I mean of course it bothers you sometimes. My worst times: Getting a last minute text on a Fri/Sat night saying people were going out, and of course I had no chance of getting a babysitter! Or a Sunday morning up at 7am with baby and feeling like not ONE person in the world I knew was awake. At times like that I felt quite alone. BUT most of the times I was very happy as I was, getting out when I could, pottering around with dd, quiet evenings, having friends round for dinner. You just adapt, I'm know you will. You'll find a way for right for you.
Like you, I didn't know what would happen with dd's father, but I think it's best to think about the two of you just now, and either way you'll work it out.

MrsMcJnr - I used the doppler again on Saturday (12 weeks exactly) and found nothing again. I'm not too bothered, the one I have only works from 12 weeks and I know it could be positioning or timing or something, but still, I wish I'd heard it. No scan til the 4th and would like to hear something before then! (If anyone has any advice on using these then let me know!)

Still pretty fat around the tummy, sick at times, and stuff so symptom wise no worries!

Cote - Hope you have a good scan. Hopefully your dd will be okay!

StrawberrySam - Glad to hear your bleeding has stopped!

Hello all

Just a quickie as I have to wash the car - well overdue job and now I am starting to feel better I can start to get through all those 'jobs' around the house that need doing immediately.

cote - I took my 2.5 year old to my scan and took the usual bag of tricks: Charlie & Lola sticker book, colouring pencils and paper, a jigsaw, a book etc - so she sat on the floor putting her stickers in the book - never made a sound, totally oblivious to what was going on. She almost got stood on by a staff member because she was so silent. Another time I bought her favorite nuts and she sat in the seat next to me while I fed her the nuts one by one. Just two days ago, we showed her the 12 week scan pictures and said it was a baby and pointed to my tummy and said 'in there'. She thought about it then said 'baby in there'. And that was the end of it. Obviously I will raise it again and again, but if anything she seemed quite interested.
It's really hard to know how they will respond isn't it. Good luck with the scan today. I'm so envious of your 4D manipulatible (?) scan.

looouise - someone once said to me 'God makes little shoes for little feet', meaning that solutions are always provided when it comes to children...it is uncanny sometimes the way neighbours children suddenly want nominal pocket money for babysitting, how other people in local NCT are in the same situation as you and you alternate helping each other, how people empathise and offer help when you suddenly need it most. Your life at the moment is set up around being a single, successful career woman so it's probably hard to imagine how it will be in a year or twos time, but things will change so that it all comes together and works for you.
If your 'friend' (the dad) continues to be 'disinterested' there really are some positives (although I am a big fan of dad's being involved), - it does makes it easier for you to make all the decisions about you and your baby's life in the future. You can move city or country and plan weekends as you wish. There will be men in his/her life (brothers, grandad's, friends etc) until you fall in love again and it's more likely that new loves will be ones who are mature and stable as the 'fly by night' ones tend to be less interested in partners with children I suspect. And you may start to see the world (and prospective partners) in a slightly different way after having your baby.
As for not having a supportive partner, partners are not always supportive in the ways we would like them to be even if our 'Oscar' appearance to the outside world makes it look that way. At least you only have 'one' baby to look after

daisy5 ooh I so need to wash my car too!
and then I'm going to try and nap...We're going out for dh's bday and restaurant reservation isn't until 9:30pm, I don't know how I will keep awake!

Hey guys

I feel like I need some reassurance now if anyone can help, not pregnancy related.

Feeling really teary and pathetic today, mainly because I feel I can't manage all that I have to do, but I feel like I should.

I am in 4th yr at uni, and have not done that much work this term, feeling so sick and tired has contributed to this, but also I think because I've been working two days a week. Now, I like my job, and it is great experience (for my future career), but I don't get anything else out of it. Basically with childcare and very high commuting costs I'm lucky if I'm breaking even!

I've been thinking today that I can just about manage job and uni (and dd and pregnancy) but I don't feel that I'm doing great in either, I wish I could just have one. I was thinking I would finish up my job at the end of the year, they haven't asked me to stay longer yet, but they are getting me a new computer (just told me) so it seems likely they will. I could leave anyway, I would feel a bit bad but I'm sure they would have gotten new computer eventually anyway. (The reason I would feel a bit bad is they have never had anyone do my job before so it's not definite they would replace me ergo computer could be a total waste, but are huge multinational and can afford it!)

The point of all this is I feel bad about not feeling up to both. Surely I should be able to do my degree and two days a week work? How pathetic not to keep on with both. I just feel really disappointed in myself. I don't need to do both, but it's that I don't feel up to it that I hate.

I've just realised this, just realised that's why I've been feeling funny re uni and job.

The worst thing would be to give up job and still fall behind at uni! At least now I have an excuse...

Sorry for long moan!

littlesarah it might be pregnancy related, actually. I personally am suffering from antenatal depression at the moment and can't seem to accomplish anything.

If you feel you need to give up the job, give up the job!

hi all,

I have good news.... my CVS results came back for CF and although LO is a carrier it will not have the condition, I can't tell you how happy dh and I are, I have been lost in my own little world all morning, I've been able to ring my sisters and tell them I'm properly pregnant, and my Gran, unfortunately with all the excitement I didn't manage to keep my lunch down but hey ho.....

Little sarah, is there any posibility of having some time off before you make a decision just to make sure as everyone is aware this stage of pregnancy is really drsining, it may be that you'll feel better after a few weeks. Alternatively you could propose an unpaid leave of abscence, til after you've had the baby, If you explain to your manager that you feel that you're not you're ususl efficient self atm, and the struggle you're having... they may go for it and it does show willing!