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[nelix2000]

hey all, hope you all find the thread! we can niggles and worries!

Fairly certain this is another MC now

jools there is not much a person can say, but my thoughts are with you.

jools honey, lots of love and support to you. I wish i could say more but i am praying for you.

xxx

Jools i really hope you're wrong. Thinking of you honey and sending as many positive vibes your way as i possibly can.

Jools - so many hugs .

Thanks for thinking of me. I feel strangely OK about it - think I am just thankful it is happening early and won't be the mental and physical nightmare of last time. am also relieved it has happened before rather than during our holiday that starts on Monday.

I've had what seems to be light-medium AF all day, with added bloating and achy abdomen and backache - worse than normal AF pain. I don't think there will be anything there, but have a scan appt tomorrow at 10.10, just to confirm. Lovely GP amended my LMP dates to make me 6 weeks tomorrow, otherwise they wouldn't have seen me. She has also added in details of my CP in July 08 so if the scan confirms another MC tomorrow, I will qualify for immediate referral to the recurrent mc clinic for tests.

I was so hoping to be PG and have seen a heartbeat by my old EDD of May 29th, but it is obviously not to be - that will be a sad day

jools Honey, i really feel for you. At least you will now be monitored and looked after by the specialists which i guess gives some comfort for next time. And hopefully your holiday will take some of the pain away. Try and book something lovely - a theatre trip or dinner with the girls - for the 29th May, maybe something else to think of?

I have just been to yoga and feel lovely and relaxed, really nice to have some 'me' time

xx

Heyjools......hope your scan goes ok today, whatever the outcome. In a sense I see why you are feeling more OK about it this time with it being earlier. And getting reffered is a good thing too, getting answers or reasons maybe helps

I had forgotten your other EDD was so close to mine. let us know how you got on.

My little on is starting to scare me! Pakced hospital back last night, then had severe back pain and some green "show" (tmi sorry) but turns out to be nothing thankfully. Although if she was born now she would be fine but I dont want her to stay in hospital. So she better stay in!!!!

Jools how was your scan? Thinking of you. You have the right attitude though, whatever the outcome. Much stronger than me

Nelix that's scarey! Very odd that soon you will have your little one on the outside! Hope she stays in a little longer for you though

This is my first so I'm going into it all naive thankfully! Although the thought of the actual labour scares me sometimes, other times i feel like it's just one of those things that has to happen. Depends what mood i'm in!

Heeby i'm doing yoga too, it's lovely to be relaxed but i'm noticing more and nmore that my stomach muscles just don't want to do as i tell them! I'm in a mixed class but the instructor knows i'm pg, he's fab and tells me which movements i need to avoid.

Only 2 weeks today until my 20 week scan, may know what flavour we are having then, depending on what i decide on the day. Although i have a feeling i'm too nosey to not ask if the situation presents itself. Never really been a patient person, lol

Hope everyone else is well xxxx

Complete MC confirmed as expected. Very brusque sonographer - no bedside manner at all - no EPU nurse available so I had to open up the sealed notes she gave me to give to the GP to get ANY information whatsoever - grrr

Don't feel too bad yet - very bad back pain last night and I'm just relieved it has gone. I am sure there is still time for it all to really hit me, but hopefully it won't be anything like as bad as the last one. Am relieved it has happened so early.

We are off on hols on Monday - hopefully that myth about being fertile post mc will hold true this time and I'll be back soon

Hope all is well with the bigger bumps

Jools big hugs honey - I sincerely hope you are back very soon. xxx

Sorry Jools enjoy your holiday though and fingers crossed you'll be back before we even realise you've gone. Take care honey xxxx

Jules sending you lots of love xxx

oh jools i am so sorry for you wishing you a lovely holiday and hoping that you are back on this link really soon. Hopefully attending a clinic for recurrent mc may help you get some answers?

Sorry Jools, hope that you have a good holiday and get some rest.

at the sonographer. You get some who just seem so blase about the whole thing. I KNOW that they deal with this every day but each mc is as devastating as the next, no matter when it happens.

oh jools so sorry honey. Look after yourself and try to get plenty of rest on your holdiday. God EPU staff can be so insensitive given where they work.....

jools am so sorry honey for the confirmation and for the horrid staff, i'm sure it' just 'another day' for them but for us it is life changing .... grrr

Have a lovely holiday and yes get to bed early each night!

xx

Hey everyone,

Quiet thread over the weekend? Everyone ok?
We are having a dilema about the 20 week scan. Not sure whether to find out the sex or not and MIL is sticking her ore in too. She practically told me i couldn't find out and when i said "well that's not your decision" she said "fine, but don't tell me, I'm quite happy with it being a surprise". Cheeky mare, it's not up to her and if she thinks i'm going to tip toe around the sex for her benefit then she's wrong.
What's worse is that I haven't even said that i want to know yet! Just that i was thinking about it.

I had horrid dreams all last night about it, how dare she make me feel guilty about this? It's my baby not hers!

Sorry for the rant ladies, just need to get it off my chest or me and DH will be having another row and that's not on.

Hope all is well with everyone else xxxx

Hi Wanabe

I can completely relate to how you feel ? ever since people have found out I?m pregnant they have been ?telling? me how I should be behaving, what I should and shouldn?t be doing, etc. Not offering advice but telling me. Even my really good friends! And I?ve had to bite my tongue so many times I?m surprised I?ve got much tongue left to bite.

I?ve ranted at my DH about it and although he sympathises I don?t think he really understands how it feels.

I?ve got my 20 week scan on Wednesday and was really looking forward to it. We have decided not to find out the sex but that was our decision to make and like you I mentioned (foolishly) that I will be keeping an eye out for any tell-tale signs when we go for the scan to which my MIL told me off and said I would spoil things if I did.

I was so angry and like you started to feel a bit guilty about it. But we have nothing to feel guilty about ? as you so rightly say ? it is our baby.

So I guess I shall have to keep smiling sweetly and biting my tongue but will keep reminding myself that they can ?tell? me what to do all they like ? it is my baby and when the time comes the final say about how things are done will be mine and my DH?s.

Phew ? good rant ? feel so much better now

MIL's are such hard work. Mine didn't want me to find out but we insisted that we were going to and if she didn't want to know then we wouldn't tell her, she then said well if you know then I better know as well....
anyway she has now changed her tune & loves knowing that we are having a girl & has gone out & bought some pinky stuff already

My FIL said the same, just keep it as a suprise & I said well its not much of a suprise its going to be a baby & we have a 50/50 chance of it being one or the other, we just want a heads up on what it is so that we can buy the right coloured items & if we are offered some from friends we can except, plus we can give her a name that we can all get used to before she arrives

but its a personal choice, we didn't want to find out with dc1 & did keep that as a suprise, but very happy to know what this one is

Hello ladies - mat leave has finally started - which I guess means this baby is coming in the next few weeks! eeeek!

We're lucky and neither mine nor DP parents were bothered that we've found out the sex with both babies (or if they are, they haven't said anything!) We wanted to know and for me it makes things more real planning for a little girl/boy, but it's completely your own choice....and unfortunately, it's just the start of people offering advice about how to do things....wait until the LOs actually arrive...

Relatives People seem to think that because you're PG/a new mum they're entitled to comment on your weight/size/parenting abilities......am getting cross for you now!

hello all!!!! oh yes MILs!!! actually mine is fine....she didn't want to know the sex but as soon as we found out she "had" to know She was here for a visit recently and I think I scared her with my hormones...I did not hold back at all, now feel like she doesn't like me lol!!!!In all fairness I was a bit crazy that weekend.

36 weeks at last, but feeling like a blimp daily! DP is off for most of May which means I get to stay in bed and be spoiled before labourbut I get bored and like to be doing things, just wish I could relax.

I see the midwife in 2 weeks and was determined to not get a sweep done at 39 weeks but feeling I may do it! I had one with DS with the strangest midwife. She only spoke to my mother and not me??!!! the 2nd one I had with him I went into labour 9 hours after as the midwife was much more, well lets say I "felt" the sweep as opposed to the first one. So not sure if it works or it was just the day he would have come on anyway!!!

Oh yes advice!!! When pregnant with DS it was so free flowing from everyone and it was nice but annoying!! you find you use what you want when your child is here and throw the rest away. Now I am on my second people just expect me to get on with it! lol

jools hope you are ok

Hi ladies,

So glad to hear you are all doing ok, sparky nice to be on maternity leave now i bet, try and get some rest time before bub comes!

MIL's !! i have to agree with nelix on this one, mine is lovely too, she is quite keen to know and it was DH and myself that decided not to, however we have had a change of heart and i am going for a scan in 3 weeks and will ask to know then (if they can still see?) nelix what is the latest time to find out? if there is a latest time.

We want to find out now for a special reason really, i am still deciding on the VBAC and ELCS choice, my SIL has had such an awful time it has put me off so much. If i knew we were having a boy we would stop there and having a ELCS wouldn't be such a huge hurdle for me (am worried about the implications for any more babies etc) but if we have a girl we will probably try for number 3 at some point, in which case i really want to have a VBAC this time if so .... ARGH!!!! hate having to chose!

And of course everyone wants to give you their own advice on what to do when, it is nice but like you say as soon as poeple know it's your second it does get less, thank goodness. I remember being told off by an Italian friend for refusing to drink wine with my dinner because it was chosen specifically for that meal .... so it can come from all angles!

Hello heeby not sure there is a latest time...I think things like 3d scans stop at 34 weeks as baby gets to big?...don't quote me on that but I think any time to see the gender really as its only one partgoodluck!!!

hey ladies,

Thanks for the words of wisdom everyone, and Pezz glad it's not only me! My DH spoke to his mum yesterday and told her off for making me feel guilty. Not exactly what i wanted but not a lot i can do about it now! She appologised and said she would still like it to be a surprise but obviously wouldn't put any more pressure on us as it is our decision (damn right it is!). I'm still not completely calm, but feeling a lot better about it. The annoying bit is that we hadn't even decided either way, it was just a comment in conversation. Never mind, what will be will be.

Nelix I've heard that the advice keeps coming. Have already warned my mum about advice. Basically I will acknowledge but not necessarily take it on board and she's fine with it but i don't feel it's my place to tell my MIL the same thing, may have to though at some point!

Wow sparky maternity leave already! Scarey stuff. Must be nice to know you will have your little one soon though? Take care of yourself and rest while you can.