Due March 2009 - 3rd thread - Aches, cravings and... is that a bump I see?!

[auntyspan]

Brand new thread ladies!

Hi everyone,

I tend to find the baby has bursts of movement in the morning and then late afternoon and evening...and especially when I'm on the train home!

emma2617, I think the advice is that if you don't feel anything for a day, then get it checked out, but a few hours shouldn't be cause for panic - though I know it's difficult not to worry, especially when you know of such sad stories.

Is anyone else feeling a bit sore in the pelvic area? I'm really aching. Not sure whether I've somehow strained myself (god knows how as I have been doing nothing but sitting and eating for the past week or so) or whether it's the baby's head pushing down.

Had a mw appointment yesterday. sadly, we really haven't hit it off. She's unbelievably disorganised, spent 10 minutes looking for various forms before concluding she had no idea where they were (this was in her own office)...and kept asking why she was seeing me at 22 weeks - because she'd made the booking! Am very glad I won't be relying on her for the birth, the midwives at the hospital seem so much more on top of things, and much more friendly.

Emma If your worried, go and get yourself checked out..........simple!! and so what if the think your a useless first timer.

However try not to worry!! you will end up making yourself ill.

I know my MW said to keep a track of movements (atleast 10 in a 24 hours)from around 23 weeks.

Emma Its always good to get your mind set at ease. They are perfectly used to worried first timers so you wont be the first or the last. Sorry your friend had such a bad time of it.

Luckily I am incapable of worrying too much or I think I would be a nervous wreck!

DP felt baby for the first time last night, HORRAY! He thought I had hiccuped until I asked him whether he'd felt that or not cos the baby had kicked his arm. After weeks of telling the baby to wake up and kick him he started telling it to go to sleep!

Happy Halloween to all. (I am working tonight so escape all the trick or treaters! )

Wheres everyone gone???

Popping in to say hello - Have been away at my parents for half term so had a bit of a rest which was nice.

Not much to report this end - finally have next scan on friday (at 22 weeks) but am now beginning to get nervous. I've probably said before it was at 22 weeks that they first picked up dd had growth issues so am worried about that (and worried about how embarrassing its going to be if this baby has growth issues because my bump is enormous) and then I worry about all the other problems they could find... I am such a worrier...

I don't think we're going to find out the sex although am v. tempted. There are sooo many girls on this thread already. Congrats to everyone on good scans !

DH has felt the baby kick a couple of times which is lovely. It seems to be flipping quite a lot now - I'm not actually feeling it flip as such but sometimes kicks are down the bottom and sometimes up the top.

Exciting pram news Emma ! Understandable you are worried when faced with knowing someone who has had a terrible thing happen. I constantly worry too and this is second time for me (well third in a way which partly adds to the worry).

Sorry work is being crap Meep...

OOh can I ask - a bit of a planning question. Those with older dcs already (especially those with girls and especially if they are about 4 ) and if you are getting them a present from the baby - what are you thinking of getting ?

DD has Christmas, her birthday at end of Jan and then,all being well, the baby in March (or possibly feb) so have got to think of lots of things ! When we started planning this DC I thought I'd get her a baby doll but that was 2 years ago and she's since got loads of the blasted things. She doesn't have one that does everything (wee poo etc) but am loathed to buy yet another.... but seems appropriate (and the entertainer have a great offer at the moment !!).

Had my 20 week scan on Friday - its a boy, already have a DD who is about to turn 2 next week so I'm quite pleased, although would have been happy with another girl.

It was a private scan and got told that head size 99th percentile and already big for dates so another c-section beckons for me.

Ow Ow Ow Ow having awfull sciatica type pains in my hip, when i walk/move/do anything! been getting worse to point im scared to go out if i dont absolutely have to, anyone any ideas? Its not constant but catches me and even the dog looks at me funny when i yelp with pain!

Wheelybug I've been pondering the same thing re a pressie, my DD will be 4 8 days b4 due date (but she was 3 weeks early so who knows!) really don't know what to get her! she too has loads of dolls, she has a very long xmas list but nothing seems special enough.

Please can someone take me off the list?

I went for my 20 week scan on Thursday, very excited to find out the sex of my baby and there was no heartbeat. After a horrendous afternoon, we were told that labour would be induced on Saturday (this) morning. Instead, I went into spontaneous labour and, despite my husband's best efforts to get us to the hospital, I gave birth to a stillborn baby son in the hospital carpark last night.

The staff at St Richard's, Chichester were fantastic - kind, caring and very respectful to my little boy. They made an intolarable situation a little more bearable.

My adult children have come home and are rallying round their little brother who is five. They have surrounded him with love and made sure that he is feeling secure in a situation that he can't really comprehend. My husband is as usual being the family superstar and taking care of all of us.

I am still in shock - my body says I have given birth and there is no baby to hold. We got to see him and he looks just like his siblings, which is so hard to bear. I know I will come to terms with it in time, but right now I am broken into tiny pieces. I am surrounded by pregnancy magazines, maternity clothes and baby things and I just don't know what to do with myself at the moment. I just want to lock myself away and howl the place down, but with a family looking to me for support it is impossible. After all, this baby meant something to all of us - a son, a brother, a grandchild, a nephew. He was the family's baby, too.

I am sorry to bring such a downer to your lovely group. I know this kind of thing is extremely rare I haven't posted much but have lurked regularly and feel like I know you all, and I wouldn't want any of you to worry unnecessarily. I would like to wish you all the best - healthy pregnancies, easy labours and wonderful children. Take care

PS xxxxx

pumpkinseeds my thoughts are with you and your family, it sounds like you have wonderfull support at hospital and a very loving family which is good, take care honey xxxxx

So sorry Pumpkinseeds. What a terrible thing to have happened. Take care of yourself and your family.

Oh my gosh pumpkinseed I am so sorry for your loss. 3 am glad your family are there for you and the hospital did such a good job. This is everyones worst nightmare and although I have no idea how you're feeling, I can only imagine. I wish you all the strength for the next few weeks and months, and all the happiness in the world. My thoughts are with you xx

pumpkinseeds

I am so sorry for the loss of your son, i cant even start to think how you must be feeling . I wish all the very best to yourself and your family xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm so sorry pumpkinseed take care of yourself and family.

I've removed from the list.

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9th Elsy DD1 18months
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11th Ellora DC1 [Age: 30]
11th AmyO [Age: 28]
12th HopingCat - SURPRISE DD1 20months [Age: 29]
12th Thefearlessfreak DS1 20mths [Age: 38]
13th Wheelybug DD1 3.7 [Age: 33]
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16th Sara333 DS 6; DD 4 [Age: 35]
17th FlannelCat 1DD 5.5yrs
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17th Gyo DC1 [Surrey]
18th SHABOOBLY DD1 2.5
18th EllieorOllie DD almost 2
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19th laweaselmys [Suffolk. Age: 21]
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20th ally90 DD 2.3
20th Squiffy Hock DS 4yrs DD 2yrs [Kent, Age: 33]
20th Yarnie DC1
21st Livismum - GIRL DD 3
21stAnna22
21sttitchy77 DS 10yrs; DD 18 months
22ndMandy73 DC1 [Oxfordshire. Age: 35 soon]
22ndCaptainKarvol DS 2.4yrs
22ndMavisGrind DS 2.1 yrs
22nd Lilymolly DD 2.7months [Durham. Age: 32]
22nd Fruity DS 3yrs [SW London]
23rd Hermione 2DS (7 and 3).
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23rd SpookyMadMummy 2DDs 6&4 [S.Yorks]
23rd Mrs EJO
24th Becko [Age: 33]
24th Pipsy76 DS 2.5 years
24th corgikelly DC1 [Brussels. Age: 38]
25th TheHedgeWitch DS 2yrs [Aged 27. Shropshire]
25th summerbaby07 1DC
25th CS7 1st DC [Age: 25]
26th Chiplet
26th SlightlyDoolally
28th rubyring 2DDs 3 yrs & 12mths
28th lollipopz DD6, DD4 and DS 19mnth
28th meep 1dd 13mo
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29th broodymom 2DD aged 7 & 8
29th xJulesx DC1 [East London. Age: 36]
30th Grinningbee DC1 (MMC Oct 07) [Age: 37]

Pumpkinseeds--I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you are going through. Please allow your family to take care of you.

I'm so sorry Pumpkin. I can't even begin to imagine and you sound so strong...

xx

pumpkinseeds I am so very sorry for you and your family. I just don't know what to say. Lots of love. xx

I just have to ask: Has anyone else has had BHs yet? Was woken up twice last night, they were long (2 mins) and surprisingly painful. All v scary. Spoke to 24-h hotline MW this morning who said it's within the normal time frame but they shouldn't be particularly painful this early and I must take it easy. It's calmed down now but I'm sore. If they come back regularly (4 in an hour) I need to contact the labour ward. . Also need to get GP to check me for cystitis after anomaly scan tomorrow. Anyone else had this?
xx

pumpkinseeds What an awful thing to happen I was crying as I read your post. Can't begin to imagine how you must feel but at least you have a supportive family around you. Doesn't make it better but hopefully a bit easier IYSWIM. x

Mandy Sorry haven't had any experience of BH. Never had them last time either so can't help. Must be worrying but try to take it easy as MW says, I'm sure you'll be fine. x

So sorry for your loss pumpkinseeds - I'm glad that you have had the support of the hospital staff and your family and that this continues.

Okay, thought I would try and start the week with some positivity so I have updated the list again! Added gender for Tapster, FlannelCat and LaWeasel and a surprise for *meep!!
The totals so far:
4 Boys
8 Girls
5 Surprises!!

Is anybody else noticing the baby boom at the moment?! Although I don't directly know many who pregnant, friend back home had a baby girl last week, my best friends cousins are both pregnant, my dads ex-colleague who I was quite close with has just had a baby boy, and a teacher at my dads school has just had a little girl(7 weeks early but doing well at 4lb12oz!) and a guy I work with is expecting number 2! Everyone seems to be pregnant!

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1st Nomorenappies DD1 3.2 years [York Age: 29]
2nd Ceedub
2nd winemakesmummyclever DS 2
2nd Spottycat DC1
2nd Lolianja DC1 SURPRISE [Essex. Age: 20]
3rd Sorchamc DD1 4.5 years
3rd MissModular DD1 21 months
4th pinktree
4th goldmother2B - GIRL no DCs [Lancashire. Age:32]
4th Fififlores - GIRL DS1 25 months [Spain Age: 39]
4th sadiemcgradie DD1 [Age: 44]
6th Playingthe9monthwait DC1 [Hampshire, UK. Age: 26]
7th Emma2617 ? BOY DC1 [Manchester. Age: 22]
7th babyinbelly - SURPRISE DS1 age 2 [oxfordshire. Age 22]
7th dinny DD 6yrs, DS 3yrs [Age:35]
7th auntyspan - GIRL DD1 2.5 [Cheshire, Age 34]
8th laurenypops DD1 23 mths [Age: almost 30!]
8th dorothywhipple DD 3 [UK. Age: 33]
8th MKG ? GIRL 2DS [USA. Age:29]
8th Jollyjoanne - GIRL [Cheshire, Age: 29]
9th Beetle73 DD1 almost 4 [London. Age: 35]
9th SunshineSmith 1DC
9th babyalfie 2 DC [Age: 38]
9th Elsy DD1 18months
9th Lizziemun SURPRISE DD1 4.6yrs and DD2 11mths [Age: 38]
11th firstduemarch09 DC1 [Age:29]
11th Ellora DC1 [Age: 30]
11th AmyO [Age: 28]
12th HopingCat - SURPRISE DD1 20months [Age: 29]
12th Thefearlessfreak DS1 20mths [Age: 38]
13th Wheelybug DD1 3.7 [Age: 33]
16th Millie26 - GIRL [Age: 27, York]
16th Sara333 DS 6; DD 4 [Age: 35]
17th FlannelCat - GIRL 1DD 5.5yrs
17th Kat80 DD1 9; DS1 7; DD2 6
17th Gyo DC1 [Surrey]
18th SHABOOBLY DD1 2.5
18th EllieorOllie DD almost 2
19th Boobz DC1 [Streatham, London. Age: 29]
19th Anathemadevice DC1 [Surrey. Age:27]
19th laweaselmys - GIRL [Suffolk. Age: 21]
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23rd Mrs EJO
24th Becko [Age: 33]
24th Pipsy76 DS 2.5 years
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25th TheHedgeWitch DS 2yrs [Aged 27. Shropshire]
25th summerbaby07 1DC
25th CS7 1st DC [Age: 25]
26th Chiplet
26th SlightlyDoolally
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28th lollipopz DD6, DD4 and DS 19mnth
28th meep - SURPRISE 1dd 13mo
29th tantiK DS1 31mths [Rome]
29th broodymom 2DD aged 7 & 8
29th xJulesx DC1 [East London. Age: 36]
30th Grinningbee DC1 (MMC Oct 07) [Age: 37]

Oh Pumpkinseeds, what a terrible thing to happen.
As a few of the other girls have said, it sounds like you have a fantastic family and are surrounded by lots of love and great support, so important in times like this.
Take good care of yourself.
Will be thinking of and praying for you.
Amy x

Mandy - I get a lot of BH and they can be painful and long. Don't think they've ever woken me up though. Got them throughout pg with dd but when I went into labour with her the contractions felt nothing like the BH had! At the moment when I get them my bump goes tight and I feel like my bladder is being squeezed, but last pg it always felt like dd was sticking her bottom out at funny angles, in fact I thought that's what it was until MW saw it happen at an appointment and told me it was BH.

Hope yours turn out to be just normal BH and nothing else.

HC

Pumpkin seeds thinking of you at this terrible time glad you have support x

Sorry not posted for ages had a horrible UTI and cystitis for a week ir was horrible, then my lovely dds passed me the sickness bug that was going round school and that was me bed ridden for another 2 days! Feeling much better now thank goodness!

Mandy-Did they check you for an infection cos i had a lot of pain with mine?

Forgot if I posted before but ds recovered brilliantly from op, got home the same evening and is now back to my noisy messy little boy!

We are definitely decided on a surprise now so if any one is up dating feel free to add this!
L xx