Due April 2009 - Time to dance the light scantastic.....

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New thread as the old one was full!

mathsmummy Sorry, crossed posts earlier, didn't mean to ignore you! I don't watch Doctor Who, but from what I gather from his ramblings it was fat, yes. I told him it didn't sound very cute, but was then shown about 5000 pictures & DVD clips until I decided it was best to just champion them as well. "Yay, adipose, aren't they adorable?" & so on

WhatFreshHell Your DS rant made me smile. I'm full of sympathy, but somehow the idea that this is exactly what we're all letting ourselves in for is so terrifying I can't help but laugh. Why does anyone ever think this is a good idea?

BabyBolat I have the back pain too! I posted here to ask for any kind of help about it, assuming there'd be more people around than here, but obviously not. I've been ignoring it, but DP is beginning to get really annoyed that I'm virtually a cripple by the end of the day & can see that it's likely that it's only going to get worse... So any suggestions apart from the walking stick would be great

I'm currently watching Miss Naked Beauty on Ch4+1 (I love Gok) & today's pretty much about girls getting their boobs out. All of a sudden DP's developed an interest in this 'girly crap'. Just a coincidence though, of course

The most interesting thing about it, though, is that I've realised that I don't really have any body insecurities at the moment - because of the pregnancy. My bum's huge, my tummy sticks right out & my boobs are barely recognisable. Not to mention the hideous, spotty skin that we seem to be sharing, too. & yet I'm just so proud to be growing a baby that it's all positive. That's the first time it's ever happened & I love it. Yay for our beautiful bumps!

OddEyes You'd be better off keeping stuff outside! Here's hoping it was just a curious DS rather than yet more expense!

Of course, I had to follow up that really positive post with some nasty vomiting

Hi everyone, sorry it's been weeks and weeks since I was on here. I moved into new area to live with partner but sadly it wasn't to be and we are now no longer together. I am back living with my mum. I haven't had a single scan yet but thankfully have one booked for this thursday, so fingers crossed (I reckon I'm 15+2 just now).
Mum will be with me at scan so I am happy to have her support.
So far I have a little bump and I think I have felt tiny movements, but as I've not seen baby yet I don't think I'm letting myself believe it's real movements until I see a healthy baby, if you see what I mean.
I also haven't made it public yet that I am pregnant. Close family and friends know but I haven't made it official. I just need to see the baby myself first before I celebrate and tell the world.
I hope it doesn't take long to get back into this thread properly as I've missed you guys!
Hope you're all well xxxxx

Hi Tristaleec - sorry you are having a rough time. Enjoy the scan. It does make it seem so real!

Oddeyes - you could have just put all your food in my house. It is currently 12.2 degrees in my living room. We have no heating. Just got a log fire going and hoping it warms up a bit. Also hope we manage to find some builders to come and do all the work we need to do. The clock is ticking, I really want this sorted by April but all the builders are saying they are busy until after Christmas. Gonna be a chilly one!

Welcome back Tristraleejac, sorry to hear you have had some upheaval. Let us know how the scan goes.

Springy, you have some stamina being up that late. I'm yawning at 8pm. I suppose that's another of the many benefits of being pregnant at 20. I read about that horrible cow, you were very dignified.

Are many of you planning to find out the sex? My 21wk scan is 6 weeks today and i'm dying to know.

puzzlerocks

I AM DYING TO KNOW THE SEX TOO! My scan is in 3 weeks and I can't wait.

This is baby no.2 and I found out with DS and was so glad I knew early as I felt that I got in the 'mode' of looking forward to greeting a little baby boy.

This time round it is even more exciting as I am of course now hoping for a girl this time.

This sounds horrible, but I want to know early as well, as if it is another boy, I will be a tiny bit disappointed but I want to get over that early on so that I can work myself up to being excited about meeting the little bundle! I would be so upset with myself if I didn't know and at the birth felt any disappointment -I really don't want that! I want to be overjoyed the first time I meet bubs!

And on a more practical note - as I am a practical type of gal.... ....I want to know whether I get to recycle all of DS's old baby clothes or whether I get to go and buy some new ones in pink!

On that note... to mum's expecting no.2 or 3...or even no.1

Is anyone else feeling like me ?

Anyone else really harbouring a quiet hope for the opposite sex this time round?

My DH keeps telling me off saying that I shouldn't feel that way and that if I get another boy, so be it, as long as it is healthy.

I agree with him of course, but my first DC is a boy, so DH has his 'son' , and he isn't a man who badly wants a 'daddy's little princess' either. He himself is one of 3 boys and loves the idea that we had all boys.

However, he fails to understand that I would love a daughter, and I on the other hand am from a family of majority daughters! Plus, I have a really close relationship with my mum and I would love to have that with a daughter of my own one day....

Am I being silly? DH thinks I am and that i should get over it!!!!!

I can;t help it....DH has more or less laid the law that this will be our last as we can't afford more than 2 children. So this is my last chance ..... I think without this I wouldn't be so anxious as I would just think 'never mind, maybe next time! '.

What do you ladies think?

I don't think you are silly. I was desperate for a girl. If DD had been a boy I know I would be desperate for a girl this time round. As it is, I now really don't mind because I have my daughter. Having said that, a mini DH would be nice.
DH is one of three boys and he said that his parents were banking on his youngest brother being a girl. They were disappointed they didn't get a girl but it didn't mean they loved their boys any less.

my goodness you lot were chatty yesterday. Hope some of you are around today as have just had my post in at work, and looks like i will have work to do until about, oh 10.30.

how is your ds today freshhell?

i do totally understand what you mean dungungirl - i really wanted a girl the first time round for many of the same reasons as you - particularly cause i am close to my mum and I'd love to have that with my own daughter (not that you cant be close to your sons but it is in a different way I think).

I was pretty sure while pg that ds was a ds though, and it wasnt at all a disappointment when i found out at his birth cause we had picked a name we loved and that seemed to make everything ok. Since then, I have absolutely loved having a boy, so much so that this time I really dont mind which I have - I'd still love to have a girl, but I can totally see our little family being three boys (if we go on and have another) and I can picture us all going on holiday etc so although I will always have a little tiny part that would be disappointed never to have a girl, I'm not going to let it bother me too much cause my mil is so hung up (still) on not having a girl it seems to sometimes spoil her relationship with her sons.

sorry long post as per usual - i will try to become more succinct in the future.

hello we are going to find out the sex. i wanted to but dh didn't, but currently our names choices are so rubbish we both feel we need a bit of focus! i agree with you duncangirl - i want to mentally prepare myself for the baby, so want a little girl, but want to feel bonded and close and prepared whoever we're having.
on another note - i sympathise with and share the spots angst, but it felt much worse when i'd come off the pill and was spotty 'for no reason'. at least now there's a big fat reason and it just doesn't seem to matter as much anymore.

dungungirl - dont mean at all of course that you will spoil your relationship with your sons if you have another boy - not sure what i wrote before came out that way. I am trying to convince myself as much as anyone that lots of boys would be great, and also i try and stick to the philosophy that you can worry about things that you have control over, but if you dont, there is no point spending time worrying cause there is nothing you can do to change things anyway - so i just keep telling myself that the sex of the baby was decided back in August, and so its just a case of waiting to find out - but I can totally empathise with the being nervous about that finding out day.

Our hospital wont tell us which sex it is even if we ask, so I'd have to get a private scan if I wanted to know - but I think I will look forward to a boy and if its a girl, great.

I was just wondering this morning whether many of you were going to find out the sex. And lo & behold everyone is chatting about it!

I didn't find out with DD so I feel I should treat this pregnancy in the same way and not find out. Is that daft? Probably.

DH was quite shocked and unprepared for a girl. He was utterly convinced we would have a boy first time. But now he adores DD so much that he would like another daughter. I don't really mind although for some reason I have always pictured us having 3 children - 2 girls and then a little boy.

btw -did anyone see the stuff in the news this morning about couples travelling abroad (Turkey mostly) to have treatment to guarantee the gender. The docs called it 'family balancing' or something. They interviewed a mother who had 6 sons and REALLY wanted a little girl.

Struth I can't imagine a house full of 6 boys. I would call it a day myself. Get the beating stick out to fend DH off!

Puzzlerocks - you just reminded me of a comment a friend made: "It doesn't matter what you have next - you've got a girl in the bag!" (That was said the day after DD was born)

I found out with DS what I was having, and I was really excited. I'd had a feeling he was a boy and it was a scan at 18 weeks that confirmed it.
This time I'm convinced I'm having a girl, but I'm not going to ask at any scans. I have a lovely image in my head of a lovely water birth where I lift the baby to my chest then I have a look myself and tell everyone whether I have a new son or daughter. Of course it'll probably not happen like that but it's a lovely thought to hang on to!

I had a lovely water birth and lifted the baby to my chest and just gawped at it in shock for ages. "Doh - it's a baby" (what exactly had I expected???) Was a good 5 minutes before the midwife said "hang on, have we checked what we've got here?" He took the baby from me and had a look and announced it was a girl.

Yeah I'll probably do that too! It's such a build up that in the first few seconds after giving birth you just don't know what to say it's so overwhelming.
Will you be having another waterbirth? I really want one.

LuLuBai - how funny, DH and I have had this vision of girl, girl, boy too. Although increasingly I am starting to think of this little one as a he.

ooh i'd love a water birth - although was in the bath last night thinking about how people say it can really help cut down the pain, and I couldnt quite see how - although i can see it would be relaxing.

For some reason, I'd prefer somebody else to tell me the sex- no idea at all why.

We found out first time, confirming a boy which I was sure of from the start. thought miscarriage was a girl. not so sure with this one... both thinking another boy, particularly now as tummy growing, but...will definatly find out.

tristaleejac - I had a similarly late scan, too. It's quite good in a way, because then it's not so long to wait until the next one. & the picture's a lot more clearly a baby than very early scans. I'm sorry that life's been difficult for you recently. Hopefully it'll pick up now!

As for the gender, I can't wait to find out! DP & I are both really impatient to know, as we don't like saying 'it' & we want to be able to really get down to picking out names & things. For weeks I was absolutely convinced we're having a girl, but I'm nowhere near as certain now. I don't mind at all what we have, but I do have silly paranoia that if we do have daughter, she'll be a complete daddy's girl (as I was) & I'll get sidelined.

Morning all

I am so glad there are lots of people on here today as I am in a real work-avoidance mood - event tho I have lots to do!!!

Tristaleejac - sorry it didn't work out but at least you have your mum around to spoil you!!

Re sex: I have always wanted a boy first (am one of three girls) but am absolutely convinced I am having a girl (for no reason whatsoever) so much so I can only imagine the baby as a girl. We have a beautiful girls name picked out and a few fairly nice-ish boys names (and when I say nice - I mean I have agreed to them because I had to but there is no way I am calling my son them!!!) but I find myself only looking at girls things - so much so I am not sure what I am going to do if the doctor actually says, congratulations, you are have a son!! And I think I will kind of be a little bit disappointed only because I am so sure.

We are not finding out only because the whole pregnancy was a bit of a surprise (the doctor thought I had appendicitis and in fact it was a baby!) so I just think we are going to keep it that way - DH and his family really want to know but I am going to be strong!

LuLubai, my husband is Turkish and is from a family of 10 kids (no joke!) - hence his slight disappointment when the scan revealed we were only having one and not a full litter!!! But unless there is a lottery win on the horizon that is not going to be repeated in our house!

Oh I can vouch for a waterbirth helping with the pain. It doesn't make any sense I know. But I had been having contractions for 22 hours by the time I got in the water and the relief was extraordinary! I cannot tell you the difference it made. It supported my weight and the warmth made me feel much more secure and relaxed and somehow it all hurt less. Within less than an hour she was out. I'm sure that is what helped give me the strength for those last few pushes as I was really knackered by then.

Would definitely like to do the same thing this time, but there are only two birthing pools at Kingston I think, so I might be racing some of the others on this forum to get in one of them.

Puzzlerocks - we seem to be on a v. similar reproductive cycle. Will be interesting to see what happens! Wonder if we will end up with the girl, girl, boy combo. I honestly don't mind although I think if we have a boy everyone will tell us to call it a day. You are supposed to be happy to stop once you have one of each, although DH and I have always liked the idea of 3. The MIL has firm ideas on 2 being the optimum number (not that I care what she thinks).

Springy Sunshine - I have back trouble too, getting worse as the day goes on. Yesterday I had to lie on the floor for 5 minutes at work at about 4.30 as I couldn't carry on with the pain any longer while there was a perfectly good hard floor down there sending "come to me" messages. I have a crap chair at work which has no lumbar support. Do you have a proper chair to work in? Might you need a lumbar support back rest thingy?

Anyone else have any bright ideas?

Any suggestions as to what I could ask for at work to help? they are supposed to do a risk assessment at some stage, no? When they get around to it, what should I ask for? (other than a private room to lie on the floor in now and then - I wish)

(this is the work that is about to go bankrupt so asking might not be getting!)