Due April 2009 - Time to dance the light scantastic.....

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New thread as the old one was full!

BabyBolat I just don't think I could ever handle 10 children, no matter how much money I had! I'm planning to stop at 2 & can't even imagine more than 4. I also find the opposite difficulty with names - I can think of lots of lovely boys' names, but very few for girls.

gingersarah - the very least they can get you is a footrest. That can help with backache and I believe every employee who works predominantly at a desk is entitled to one if they ask for one, regardless of whether they are pregnant or not.

Your HR team should be able to give you some diagrams showing how you ought to be sitting (arms bent at right angles to the keyboard etc). Positioning your chair correctly can make a big difference too. If your HR team don't have them then have a look online.

gingersarah It's stupid, but I'd not really thought about that - I suppose because I've never had the problem before I didn't think about the chairs I sit in. I do have a good desk chair, but I usually work on my laptop, so rarely sit in the cold study. I also find that most of my lectures do not have chairs suitable for pregnancy - I'm sure that by the time I'm nearing the end I'll be sitting on the stairs because I won't even fit into the rows, let alone be comfortable. I'll look into a back support, definitely. Thanks!

Springy if we have a girl, there is absolutely no chance I will get a look in as she will be a complete daddy's girl - I never was but DH will spoil her rotten!!!

Oooh BabyBolat - 10 kids. Woweee. Loads of cousins for your kids then, which will be lovely as they grow up.

My DH has always been a little disappointed when the scan shows up just one baby. Think he would quite like a litter too. Although when he was fantasising pre-scan this time he did acknowledge that "we might struggle a bit with triplets". "We???". He works away from home most of the time it would be me cooking and cleaning for the masses.

(BabarellaNz no offence meant - I'm sure 3 babies is just wonderful - but with a v. energetic toddler to contend with as well it might just tip me over the edge)

DD is definitely a daddy's girl, but it is lovely. It brings out the soft nurturing side in DH (he can be quite stern and serious and I think he would be v. strict with a son).

its funny though about daddys girls, cause with ds, although he's a mummys boy in one way, cause only his mummy will do for example over night when he's upset (not sure how dh managed to get that one agreed with ds), or if he falls over etc, his daddy is totally his hero.

If he's coming down stairs in the morning, and he keeps going back up to the top and playing about, I just have to say that Daddy is in the kitchen, and he shoots down like lightning to see him - same if he is on the phone - shoots across the room to hear his voice. Its very cute.

lol at your dh lulubai - men have a strange idea sometimes of how much work is actually involved i think.

re - names - we had loads of girl ones that we loved and only one boy one for ds. This time round, we have loads of boys names on our list, and have gone off a lot of the girls ones.

Ha ha ha - same here - I have to lure DD downstairs in the morning by promising that she will get a cuddle from Papa or the cat if Papa isn't there(poor cat!).

I have a Daddy's girl too. She's got him completely wrapped round her finger. It's so lovely to watch them together.

Ah that is very cute! Makes me really look forward to it all!

LuLuBai, there is absolutely no way I could ever have ten kids (mainly because I refuse to have 10 pregnancies!!!) The oldest brother is 38 and the youngest is 18 - I cannot imagine 20 years of pregnancy (needless to say i think MIL finds me as a bit of a disappointment as I am not glowing with pregnancy delight!!!)

ginger and springy - I had terrible lower back pain with DS, so I bought an Emma Jane maternity support belt. It was brilliant. Really did help cos it used to get to the point where I just couldn't walk properly. This time the back pain has hit already and if I'm walking for any length of time, even just a slow wander to shops, it gets very bad. I'll be wearing the support belt again soon. Well as soon as I can find the damn thing. My pregnancy head, I keep finding it and setting it down where I know I'll remember it, then forgetting where it is! AAAAAHHHH!!

Oh - a friend of mine recommended support belts. She is quite slender and her last baby was 11lb when he was born. She said it made all the difference. (Oh - he was also a water birth by the way, in labour for only 6 hours and she didn't need any stitches or anything)

Wow, everyone's so chatty today! It's great! I feel a lot better about being a bit addicted to MN when you're all here

I was a terrible daddy's girl, though. I'm not so bad now because I can talk to my mum about a lot of things that my dad would pass out if he had to listen to, but I think I really upset my mum when I was little. Like the time when I was about 3 & was walking back from the shops with my mum whilst my dad was at work, touching everything I walked past, as kids do. & I got a splinter in my finger & refused to let her even look at it, despite my urgent screams. In the end my dad had to come home from work (he's a fireman) in a fire-engine staffed with an entire fire-crew in order to remove it. My poor mother

conkertree, your DS sounds adorable! How lovely. I think I'll just melt if my DC is ever that cute.

tristalee I'm also going to be looking into support belts today! Oh, the glamour of pregnancy. (I've been sick again this morning - the 4th time since Saturday morning after a couple of weeks off & I'm terrified that I'm going to be doing this for the entire time. I feel so sexy right now.)

LuLu You're really turning me onto the idea of water births here! I'd not even considered it & all of a sudden it seems a really good plan!

I should probably shut up or there won't be a birthing pool available when I go into labour.

One friend of mine hired one and had a home birth to make sure she got the birth she wanted but I don't think I could cope with all the mess at home.

Me too Springy - I had never even thought about it and now I am considering it - might have a chat to the midwife about it next week!

I really wasn't a daddy's girl - my sisters were both tomboys so spent a lot of boy time playing football with dad and I was really not! But since I have left home and things, I have got much closer to him!

LuLu I could never do it at home as I am a bit of a clean freak and I just can't imagine having to clean up after giving birth!!!

Although am sure it is a lovely experience for all those that can cope with it!

Exactly - I was v. pleased to leave all the gubbins behind and get into a bed with sheets that someone else had to wash and iron.

I'm definately wanting a water birth. There are 2 little units nearby which are midwife led units, they both average about 150 births per year and 70% of the woman who go there have water births. So hopefully if I go to one of them it'll be quiet enough so I can use the birthing pool. Knowing my luck they'll have a really busy April now I've tempted fate!!

I might talk to my midwife about it, too. I was pretty much planning on a very ordinary hospital bed & epidural birth to begin with, but the more I read, the more my opinions change. I don't know what DP would say about it, though - I think he'd feel a lot safer in the familiar situation that he's seen on tv, etc.

I was watching a Baby Story on Discovery the other day and a very irritating american woman was having a water birth and DH freaked out (firstly at the woman giving birth - he is useless, and then at the fact she was in water!)

This is all a bit new to him as traditionally in Turkish men are not even in the same room as women when you give birth, they wait outside - This will not be happening with us - If I have to go through it, then so does he!!!

Oh, before I got pregnant I was quite into the idea that DP would pace the corridors outside the delivery room & come in only once I'd been cleaned up & looking a bit dignified again. Now there's no way he's not suffering with me! Someone's hand needs to be broken as I squeeze it & it may as well be his

I'm definately wanting a water birth. There are 2 little units nearby which are midwife led units, they both average about 150 births per year and 70% of the woman who go there have water births. So hopefully if I go to one of them it'll be quiet enough so I can use the birthing pool. Knowing my luck they'll have a really busy April now I've tempted fate!!

Remember it's you that's pushing this baby out, not DP. The most comfortable and relaxed environment for you is what's most important. If you're relaxed he will be too and you'll both enjoy the experience more.
Sorry didn't want to seem anti men there!