Due April 2009 - Time to dance the light scantastic.....

[LittleMyDancing]

New thread as the old one was full!

Oh, you didn't. It's absolutely fair that it is down to us, not them. I am aware, however, that it is also going to be the scariest thing that's ever happened in his life - I wouldn't want to see him in as much pain as he'll have to see me in, let alone all the other concerns about the baby, etc. I will make decisions based on what I want, but I will discuss it all with him & not go completely against his wishes.

Hi all - I am new to this thread and i am 14 weeks pregnant and due 28th April! Am going into Epsom Hospital.. Can I be added to your list?!
Thanks x

Sounds like a good plan springy. Make sure he's armed with as much knowledge beforehand as to what is going to happen, what could happen in an emergency etc. Not that there would be any emergency but I think the more you both know about what to expect the less scary it is as you wont be panicking saying WTF is going on here and WTF is that etc. My best friend is going to be my birth partner so we'll be doing our homework! God help her!

congratulations laulau27, welcome to the mad house!
How are you feeling?

thankyou tristaleejac, i am feeling fine thanks, had a lot of sickness to begin with, but over that stage now and just slowly growing week by week!

BabyBolat - I'm a clean freak too, which is one of the reasons i'm considering a homebirth this time. I recommend you take some multipurpose spray with you to the hospital. I did and was very grateful to my poor Mum who cleaned a very grotty hospital shower before I would get in.

good it's great to be past sicky yucky feeling and be able to enjoy growing tummy. Is this your 1st baby?

yes glad its past that stage now.. Yes this is my first baby so all quite exciting!!

Oh yeah - the showers were horrific. Aaaaaargh!

There were bloody footprints leading into the bathroom. I showered quickly without touching the sides. Was v. swift to discharge myself the following morning and get into my own lovely clean shower.

(Puzzlerocks we were at the same hospital weren't we - I'm sure they are better at other places).

Welcome laulau27 - Glad you are feeling better! Is this your first DC or are you a pro like the others on here? Have you had a scan yet? (sorry am a bit nosey!!!)

On the subject of birthing partners - what are you all doing? - while I absolutely love DH with my whole heart, he is rubbish at coping with me in pain - I can see it absolutely breaks his heart when I am hurting and he just wants to make me better and comfort me (which while is lovely when I want to give up and stop I need someone to tell me to buck my ideas up and just get on with it which is something he would never do!!!) Having said that, not sure I could cope with my mum there and she would be really upset if I took my BF and not her!

Oh and hello LauLau27. Welcome and glad you are in the 'good stage'.

Now I really must get myself out in the sunshine, feed the ducks and go to the library. DH's book is overdue and accruing fines as I type [gulp emoticon]

Updated for Laulau27. Welcome.

Mar
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01 Apr : Rachelinscotland: DD 2 years 10 months, and DS 18 months
02 Apr : MathsMummy27: DD 2years 10 months
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07 Apr : Bethdivine: DS 18mo
07 Apr : TT3: 1 DS 2(?) years
08 Apr : LuLuBai: 1 DD born 02 Apr 07
08 Apr : Pinkdolly: (age 27) dd 6, dd 5, dd 2, 1 m/c January 08
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Welcome laulau27! Prepare to waste a lot of time here

& I almost wish I could take a girlfriend in with me instead - asides from anything else, DP still thinks that childbirth is the equivalent of getting kicked in the testicles.

Sorry LauLau missed that post!!!

Oh dear - the shower thing sounds horrific - I can't even use public toilets so I would point blank refuse to get in a shower with blood on it! That will be more horrific than the labour bit!!!

Hi all thanks for the warm welcome, This is my first baby so cannot wait! Had my first can on 13th october and my 20 week scan is middle of december.. cant wait for that!!

well you might all think I'm crazy, but in this local tiny midwife led unit they welcome whoever you want at birth. I was thinking that I'd love to have best friend, mum and DS there. He'd love it and it would mean I could have my 2 favourite girls there without worrying about who's looking after my son!
Well, form an orderly queue. Who all thinks I've lost it?!

BabyBolat - didn't mean to scare you! LuLuBai is right, I think our hospital was a pretty but case but it's good to be prepared.

Go for it Trista, if it means you are not worrying about DS then that's great. Again this is another reason I want a homebirth as I want my Mum and DH present which doesn't leave too many options for arranging care for DD. Having said that, this labour will be over in 20 minutes I am quite sure.

no I think that is great - My family have all said they want to be at the hospital throughout the labour (I am not sure what the midwife will think) but maybe I will just take it in turns!

I also imagine that is will be a fairly long process so don't want to get DH really tired out!!!

I think you're perfectly sane, tristalee. I'd love to have my mum there, or even my aunt - we're very close & she's a trained midwife, which would be useful! But somehow I don't see DP wanting to share the moment with my extended family

I'd probably go for it if I could, though. Having said that, I don't think I'll want lots of people fussing around me afterwards - I quite like the idea of it just being me, DP & our baby.

Me too Springy but think my family are tactful enough to knw to leave us alone!!!

well before me and X split I mentioned I would like to have BF there and he went nuts saying why dont I invite my friends to watch too! Some guys just don't understand how calming it is to be around females in this type of situation. I can't wait now. I'll be surrounded in females and the only man will be my little man.

my dh spent a fair amount of time chatting up the midwives - not properly chatting up but making lots of conversation - i think he felt he should since we were all getting so intimately acquainted.

I was quite happy though for him to get on with it so I could just concentrate on bouncing on my ball and enjoying the gas and air.

I love my mum to bits, but tact isn't her strong point.

& yes, exactly. Especially women who have given birth themselves - nobody else can understand. I mean I can try to imagine, but I've never done it... It must be even more remote for men.

i have to stick up for the men here - i cant imagine having had my mum in their with me - much as i get on with her brilliantly, i was much happier that it was just dh and a bunch of strangers seeing me in that sort of state/positions etc - but dh was brilliant and i can see that not all men would be.

really he was there to hold my hand and just be there more than anything else - the midwives and me did the work obviously, but i was definitely calmer because of his presence. he was a huge support.

each person is different though.