Scan you see it yet? Due in Jan 09

[fourlittlefeet]

Am keeping us in antinatal rather than in preganancy so newbies can find us! Have posted for tink on her thread.

x

morning

Morning! Its nice to know I'm not the only one peeing and eating for Britain, and also very tired and emotional (not helped by DS waking three times in the night and then deciding he was ready to get up at 6am ).

Went to visit in-laws at weekend and have come back feeling very mixed up. BIL and his wife have been through several failed cycles of IVF and BIL wasn't happy when he heard that we were expecting our second child. He didn't congratulate us, just told me to be grateful. Which I am of course, and I feel awful for them, but I had no idea how to respond to him. Being tired and emotional doesn't help I suppose, but I've been worrying ever since that we don't deserve another child and it should have been them not us. Didn't help that MIL told the entire extended family, even though I only wanted close family to know until we'd had 12 week scan - so everyone was fussing around me and I was just feeling awful as I could see how annoyed BIL was.

Morning!
Gosh you poor thing. That is so insensitive. The whole IVF thing is so difficult, as is pregnancy envy. Emotions are so charged over babies; I never believed it until I saw it with #1. People I had got on with for years eg MIL suddenly became inexplicably awful.

Of course you deserve this baby. I think pregnant women should be allowed to live in a cocoon, what we are going through is bad enough without having to interact with other (non mumsnet) people! Hope you can distance yourself from their behaviour and enjoy creating your new little bean.

Thanks. I've been really worrying that I shouldn't have told them, or should have told them in a different way, or something - but I feel a bit better now. I know what you mean about pregnant women should be allowed to live in a cocoon - thats just what I feel like doing at the minute. I can't be bothered with work either - just want to curl up and concentrate on growing the baby! (preferably with people bringing me food, being sympathetic about how tired I am and rubbing my feet occasionally! )

Can't wait till the 'blooming' stage - at the minute I look and feel like death warmed up - I've come out in loads of spots, my skin looks grey, and my leg hair is growing at twice its normal rate!

Apart from that all is fine! I've got my 12 week scan appt through for the 2nd July so I'm counting down the days. Also we have a builder starting work on our extension in the next month (so we actually have a room to put the baby in!) so feel as though things are moving in the right direction.

iwould-feel for you!.families eh?
i just don't want to stress me or the baby out,hence avoiding ILS yesterday.I was peeved too as MIL told some people,and i only wanted them knowing.
Sorry about all the sickness everyone.I'm struggling with gas bad just now...food just won't go through my system properly and tummy feels either gripy or about to explode.
When i try and walk i get an achy/mild pain in my lower abdomen(like it's being dragged down) and top of my thighs/hips get weak like i've pulled muscles there.Still very breathless,even just with one set of stairs and generally weak-legged.Any of you with any of these symptoms?.
mrsmontano-hope you get your appointments soon.Keep pestering them!.
YAY FOR 10 WEEKS.I am too today.Feels good doesn't it.
happy & Snugs xx

best way for no-one to know is... don't tell anyone . not even your bestest old mumsnet pals.

Oh, Iwould, I really feel for you, sounds like a rough situation.
But your BIL and his wife have their own path to go down. It is a shame that he couldn't stop himself taking out his upset on you, but he was wrong to - you certainly can't be held responsible for their problems. It's not like there is a finite number of pregnancies in the world, and you nicked theirs!
If you feel bad about the fact that your MIL spread the word, you could always call and say you wish it hadn't happened like that, and appreciate that it must be hard for them. But you don't need to apologise for being pregnant, and wanting to enjoy it.

On another note - am so with you - argh I too look like the living dead. I dug some bronzer out today in an attempt to look less zombie-like, but am just working the clown look instead! And my bump has popped (it's out all the time instead of just emerging in the eve) so I'm at the chubby looking stage. Bring on the BLOOM!!!

ooh, and I'm 11 weeks today and due to see midwife for proper booking in - woohoo! oh, which reminds me, my due date has been moved to the 12th Jan not the 10th - I'll change it later on the list when I've got time
xx

I mean, I'm due to see her later today, not just generally due to see her..

Ooh hope all goes well with the midwife. My date has also been moved from the 17th (my guess!) to the 15th (midwife's guess!). DS was born a week early so I'm wondering whether this one will be too.

Hello all

how are you all today - I have had the most awful virusy thing, temperature, very snotty now turning into a cough. DS was sick all night with it on Saturday night and again last night then DH joined him at 1am

My scan isn't until 21st June when I'll be 13 weeks (9 now) and it seems ages away - I'm glad I had the scan at 7 weeks!

Told MIL and put the fear of god into her not to tell anyone else (although this'll be a third for her and she already has a DGS (my DS) and a DGD (my niece) so is likely to keep it quiet). Mum worked it out straight away so is just impatient but happily kept quiet last time so will be ok.

I wouldn't tell anyone if you can help it - my friend told everyone (and I mean everyone) she was pg then found out it was downs with heart and other major problems at 12 weeks and had to have a termination. It was hell for her telling everyone....

congrats on 11 weeks spink.BTW Spinklet is so cute.Saw on your profile!.Hope booking goes ok.

hope mw goes well. I was really looking forward to mine as its an event, isn't it. then it takes forever and they do bloods and all that stuff and tell you what you can and can't eat and then its suddenly over. and now I can't wait for the scan. Pregnancy is just date hopping really, isn't it?

Sorry, feeling a bit knackered and stuffed up today, not sure if its preganancy stuffed up-ness or hayfever. extremely annoying though. still in a grump with no-one to take it out on!!!

AND I'm hungry. AND I've put on a kilo
grump.grump.grump

hi

iw sorry for situation
spink ye for 11 weeks i am 10 and a half 11 on sat

I'm sorry, Iwouldgoout, that's really rough. Perhaps your MIL has been giving your BIL and his wife a hard time (is he her son or am I guessing wrong?) about things.

I see the midwife on Wednesday then scan is Friday, all quite scary. dp, mum, sister (on my mum's side, she was there when I told my mum) and my aunts know. Am trying to hold out until after scan at 11 + 2 and preferably test results to tell more people, even relatives, just hope I don't suddenly have to throw up in front of my dad (he lives near us so we see quite a bit of him now.

pregnancy brain hadnt finished message doh lol
scan said due 19th of jan i reckon 17th of jan as i ovulated april 26th. lmp was mar 22nd 50 day cycle. i am sure that 2 days arent too much difference .
f&b sorry to hear that you have been ill

I'm also having problems with family. We told our respective parents over the course of the week and now i wish i hadn't. MIL wants to tell the whole of their family at a big family do on sunday but i want to keep it quiet until after the scan on the 2nd. I just need the reassurance that all is ok before telling the world.

Any privacy we had before is now gone. Dad rings daily or 'pops in' on his way home from work. I'm usually so tired i can barely speak but he's there going on about we should do this or what our next job should be. I know it comes from love but it's so annoying and i feel terribly ungrateful

it's so hard, the telling/not telling thing.
last time we told a fair few people, and then had a miscarriage at 10 weeks. The 'untelling' was hard, but then the whole bloody thing was hard, and actually we didn't have to do a lot of the explaining as friends and family told eachother. At the time it helped, because I needed people to understand that I wasn't going to be 'normal' for a bit, and needed some tlc..
This time, though, we just told close family, mainly because I didn't really (want to) believe in it too much until after we'd passed what felt like the risky time. dh and I hardly spoke about me being pg, even, for the same reasons I think.
Now we've had the scan and seen a good hb, the mw reassured us that we're as 'safe' now as at reaching the 12 week milestone.
Not telling work yet though, for different reasons - don't want to be treated differently there.
It is a bit of a minefield... I guess it comes down to personal reasons doesn't it?

I'm not telling work yet either - it is quite funny because I've got a definite belly (even though I'm only 10.5 weeks!) and I think they suspect something but nobody can ask me outright in case I'm not and they'd be mortified!

I've told more people this time, but only wanted to tell close friends and family, people who I see all the time so I'd want them to know if anything bad happened anyway. Obviously this was before MIL told the whole world! Its annoying because she waited until loads of people were in the room and then said 'is it alright if I tell them your big news?'. So I could hardly say no, and if I did they'd probably guess anyway!

Grr! Sometimes its hard to tell if people are being unreasonable or if its my hormones making me more sensitive than usual! Its weird, this happened last time I was pregnant - I became really calm and happy around certain people, but other people are really winding me up! Maybe pregnancy makes your true feelings come out!

Anyway, sorry for that essay! Will leave you be now!

can you count me in ? potentially due january 19 or so. Will get back once I ave me scan!
congrats to all.

Nice to catch up with all your news -- lots of great scan updates, but terribly sad to hear about your loss Nonickname.

I stupidly managed to fall off a horse yesterday jumping a log which was really unnecessary as I flew through the air I was thinking "I have really f**ked it now". Somehow managed to twist my lower back as I landed (I think I was trying not to land on my tummy) and was in instant searing agony but it looks like it is just major muscle trauma and nothing more serious so lucky. Baby seems to be hanging in there with no spotting or cramping, so docs were happy to wait for my scan which is a week today don't know why but it feels somehow important to be confident there's nothing wrong. Nothing can be done about it now anyway. I am now laid up in bed barely able to walk to the bathroom, and feeling v sorry for myself. And am slightly blaming my bf who had the bright idea to jump the log in the first place. But of course my fault really.

And to continue to whinge (sorry!).. had migraine for the first time ever on Friday after 4 days of 14 hour crazy work days and am generally feeling bloated and fat and knackered. At least my bad back gives me a chance to stay in bed for a couple of days.

Oh bring on the blooming glow and serenity that we're sold in the magazines!

Sorry, sorry, sorry... had to get that off my chest.

On a brighter note, has anyone else been craving strawberries? I can't get enough of the strawberry whipped frappe milkshake things they sell in costa/ nero/ starbucks -- at some ridiculous price. No wonder I am getting fat!

Quite a few of us are going to be venturing into the second trimester soon - hopefully that means the end of the extreme tiredness, somehow I think I am going to continue eating like a horse!!! Got my Mom to post me a few of my favourite foods from South Africa today - she think I have lost the plot......

Finally got a midwife appointment - my first one on Wednesday, had to call the hospital as was getting a little worried that at 12 weeks I still had not seen a midwife. Last time I called the hospital they said they had no apointments available for me so this time I nicely insisted on an appointment.

Any of you using any special creams to prevent the dreaded stretchmarks?

Evening all,

missjackson, sorry to hear of your injury. I hope you feel better soon.

It's great to hear everyones scans are going well

I am just coming into the 2nd trimester now! Am around 12 and half weeks. Been feeling stressed the last few days as i am doing my friends wedding cake and i have to do flowers and arrange them together somehow. Shitting it now.

Evening everyone

missjackson hope you are feeling OK, I'm sure these little ones aren't nearly as fragile as we seem to think they are... Mine has plenty of padding anyway!

at some people being unable to keep their mouths shut! I guess it's exciting for grandparents but they really should consider your feelings first.

happyathome - Just to let you know I get strange pains like that all the time especially when walking, sometimes like a stitch, other times like a pulled muscle (in fact should have guessed I was pregnant when they came back practically straight away - good as a test stick!). I had them all the way through last time as well, although worried all the time, as you do. I guess we have to live with it I'm afraid. Worst time for me is sneezing in bed - very painful oddly - I have to get up to try and avoid it!