Scan you see it yet? Due in Jan 09

[fourlittlefeet]

Am keeping us in antinatal rather than in preganancy so newbies can find us! Have posted for tink on her thread.

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Hi everyone,

Good luck with the flower arranging! I love doing things for weddings, but know what you mean about it being stressful.

happyathome and LooseyC I also have a lot of pains in my legs and hips. With me it's partly sciatica - which I have anyway, along with arthritis - I am 28 honest! I think I also may have had SPD in my last pregnancy as the pain was pretty unbearable towards the end. I don't think it was a normal amount of discomfort. The same pain is back now, although not as bad. I am going to mention it to the midwife on Thursday. Only 6 days left to my scan - yay!!

i have to make this quick because i leave for my mw appointment soon. last night, after a fab day, DH announces frankly that he does not want a home birth and claims to have been telling me ever since i said i wanted one. telling me he doesn't want the 'mess' is not a good reason. however, last night he said that it i need stop being selfish and that the birth has nothing to do with me but only the baby's safety. i was sooooo pissed off i couldn't sleep and cried most of the night. if i am not happy where i am going to give birth than the birthing is going to be stressful and that will project onto the newborn. it's nothing against those who want babies in hospitals, i just don't. mw's are trained to know when something is up in time to get to the hospital. fuck... i am so pissed and i just know we are going to have a domestic at the mw's office today. it's everything for me not to cry right now.

ps. thanks for questions for midwives ladies.

chefswife - I discussed a hb with my DH the first time round he said (completely seriously)

...well I think its a great idea, you'll have to use the garage as it's the only place we could contain the mess....

chefswife, grrr at your dh. Not justifying his behaviour but he's probably quite scared and not knowing what to expect.

Before 1st baby, I would never have thought I'd want a homebirth, but I saw some lovely programmes about them last year, and I'd love one. My cousin has one planned for her first baby next month. I fear I'll end up with an induction and a long labour in hospital again though.

AAArrrrggghhhh - chefswife I am angry for you. I have some very limited experience of this with my DH in my last pregnancy. DH obsesessed over DD having something go wrong during the pregnancy or birth. He was convinced she wouldn't be ok and it ate him up. He never told me, but did get very stressed with me a lot. At least your DH has expressed his concerns and you can work through them. You've got lots of time. I would be upfront with the midwife and say you want a homebirth but your DH has concerns about the baby's safety - that would see off a domestic hopefully. She might well talk him round. And if she doesn't then hire a different midwife! There are lots of good sources of information on homebirths which you could look over with your DH and make your own minds up together.

I had a hospital birth with DD. I hate hospitals, have a fear of any kind of medical people and am so terrified of blood and needles that both make me sick. I had an epidural and a drip in my hand during the labour and although it wasn't the natural birth I had planned it was fine and I would do it all again tomorrow. I want to use the midwife unit this time, but will prepare myself for another hospital birth just in case. They are what you make of them really. If you bring home comforts and dig your heels in with the monitoring they aren't that bad. Although I would love a homebirth this time, it isn't going to happen in January where I live. There will be ice at best, snow at worst and there are no streetlights or roadsigns if we need an ambulance. The midwife said in no uncertain terms she wasn't going to be landing the air ambulance on my driveway in January, so I should plan a June baby if I want a homebirth! (All said on friendly terms btw - in case you think she's an ogre!)

(I had a hospital birth BTW - but just G&A and Tens so could have done it at home...)

morning

ms jackson hope you get better soon
ms chef grrr @ home birth

Morning! Haven't been on here for a while partly because my nausea returned with a vengeance (which I was half relieved about). 10 weeks and 2 days. Can't wait to get to 12 weeks.

Chefswife- so sorry about row with DH. Could you get him to talk to the midwife? If she is supportive of your decision for a homebirth and thinks you are low risk, maybe she could talk him round? I was too scared/squeamish to have a home birth with either of my two dc (weirdly felt more relaxed in hospital), but seriously considered it with the second one and the midwife gave me and dh a really good talk about how if there is the slightest risk of any complications, they move you to hospital straight away anyway. And it's got to be true that both you and the baby will be better off if you are feeling comfortable in your surroundings. Good luck and hang in there. .

Is anyone else feeling tearful at the slightest thing? Keep finding myself bursting into tears for no reason. Then feel even blotchier and paler than normal.
Agree with all the people who've said roll on the lovely blooming stage...

morning everybody,
fymandbean hope you and family are recovering after the nasty virus.
missjackson hope you are recovering well too.sorry to hear about the fall.
jamescagney welcome!
looseyc and lennied thanks for the reassurance about the twinges.Hope both yours do not trouble you too much this time!

hayfever has got me really bad today.Had to shut windows!.never this bad.Anyone else have exaggerated allergies with pregnancy?
mind you,my hand ezcema has been better than it ever has(well until yesterday)and didn't even react to swimming last week

chefswife-hope you get it sorted with DH and get what you want.I daren't have a homebirth as had bleed and ventouse last time,but if you feel confident and the midwife,sure it will rub off on your husband.I have heard a lot of stories of happy homebirths.

happy and Snugs xx

yes I cry for no apparent reason too, I can see someone crying on telly and just burst in to tears aswell, having no idea what theyre crying about or anything.

And I get the dragging/aching in lower tummy and down my legs too, so I feel a bit better now knowing that I'm not the only one.

Misssparkle - we are athe same stage - i am also 12 and a half weeks along and feeling a little more energised than I have been feeling, I was worried the exhausion was never going to pass (touch wood)

Missjackson - I bet the fall was frightening, hope you aches and pains go away very soon.

Chefswife - men can be really unsensitive, you still have a bit of time to talk him round to the idea of home birth!

My husband has come up with some howlers - he said that after the birth of the baby I should pop back into shape in no time his words "If Liz Hurley can get back into shape two months after birth - sure you can too" (I nearly killed him)... another one "You know you are not eating for five people the baby is only a few centimetres big"

Fymandbean - god that is hysterical about your husband suggesting the garage - how very kind and generous of him!!!!!

hi all

columbowife i am 10 and a half wks very near you. i have started getting teary too.
my sonographer has put my due date as 19th of jan
i have put it at 17th of jan am i ok to go with my due date as only a few days difference

Periwink, ugh at Liz Hurley, you only nearly killed him?

Tink, it depends on what you expect and plan I think. If there's a difference between estimated dates for me, I will go with the later one, because I expect to go overdue - 1st time round I was induced and told very clearly that the consultant wouldn't let me wait longer because of my age. The dating scan had apparently matched LMP due date, but given that my cycle is usually more than 28 days, I'd sooner at least be induced when the baby is ready to come if that has to happen. I've learned that they're not meant to induce before 10 days which they did for me, and that even being old (37 last time, 39 this time) isn't a reason, on its own, that's really backed up by medical evidence.

So, I can see the attraction of the earlier due date when the weeks stretch ahead so, but I'd sooner be prepared for the slightly longer wait.

as there are only 2 days difference between mine i will stick with my date of 17th.
two days shouldnt make a difference

well i had my scan today, i am 11+2, i had some light bleeding last week and had prepared my self for bad news BUT we have

TWINS!!!!!!

OMG!!!!!

mel2005 - wow, you must be in shock, i think you are the first of our Jan deliveries to have found out they are having twins! Hope you have a wonderful pregnany.

i think i am in shock, i keep thinking silly things like we need to get a bigger car. i dont know how i will manage to breastfeed two!!! how am i going to cope on my own at the dinosaur park with my two big ones running around and two babies to feed????? i will need to make a bottle holder so they can feed whilst i walk with the buggy.

this is why i have felt so bad the last few months when i was fine with my other pregnancies. and this is why i am huge!!!!

i am releaved they are both ok and are the same size with a lovely heartbeat. it is why i can feel movement (i thought it was wind )
i now get a free nuchal fold as the triple blood test doesnt work with twins.

Periwink- yay, i feel so far a head of everyone so it's nice to have someone else at this stage too

Mel- Wow! Congratulations! Before i knew i was pregnant, i told my friends i was having twins as an April fools joke. Then a few weeks later i found out i really was pregnant and they all joked that i am probably having twins so my joke would have backfired! I am not having twins though

Mel, good to know that all's fine but eek at twins. Perhaps LG&T can offer you advice, or introduce you to other twin mums who can.

How old are your first two children?

they will be 4.5y and almost 3y when these are due. they might be early though.
i have to go to see a consultant at the hospital every 4 weeks and i cant have the homebirth i wanted. chances are i might end up with a c-section from what i have read so far. i am ordering some twins books so i can get my head around it all. i wanted to know what the risks were of loosing one but the consultant was busy so i dont get to see him/her until next week when i have my nuchal fold scan.
i just keep thinking OMG!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!
I am sure i will wake up soon and it will all be a dream - SOMEONE PLEASE PINCH ME!!!!

i am going to be MASSIVE by christmas (if i make it that far) i already feel 20 weeks.

it was cute though they were both having a good kick and they are the safer type of twins (whatever that means) from seperate eggs. they are the same size so i am hoping thats a good sign.

congrats mel2005 I guess it'll be hard but WOW!

oh wow mel
pop on the trying wagoners thread has just found out she is having twins 2

thread is under conception mel called wagners have not one but two

Wow mel! Twins! There is a multiples section on the talk board where there are long running threads for parents of multiples - you should have a look on there when you can. Someone on my post-natal thread is expecting twins right now, and has 2 already. Like you, she is madly planning cars and things. Very exciting. I am worrying now though, as am sure I can feel movement...

wow wow wow mel! how exciting (and scary!). there are lots of pics on the web for how to breastfeed two at once! piece o' piss! . I think that would just about finish me off! (am STILL in a grump)